{"id":52446,"date":"2020-02-06T20:05:23","date_gmt":"2020-02-06T20:05:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=52446"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:31:04","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:31:04","slug":"romanticismo-alluniversita","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/romanticismo-alluniversita\/","title":{"rendered":"Amore all'universit\u00e0: 17 consigli per far funzionare le cose"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Cosa dicono gli esperti di relazioni durante l'universit\u00e0? Possono funzionare o sono destinate a fallire?<\/p>\n<p>Dovresti impegnarti in qualcosa di serio durante i tuoi studi o \u00e8 meglio mantenere tutto casuale?<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re a college freshman, you already asked yourself these and many other questions regarding a love life at college. Well, you came to the right place because you\u2019re about to get all the answers you need.<\/p>\n<h2>1. Don\u2019t be <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/rimanere-single-finche-non-si-ha-paura-di-esserlo\/\"><b>paura di essere single<\/b><\/a><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52447\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/beautiful-lonely-woman.jpg\" alt=\"bella donna sola in riva al mare\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/beautiful-lonely-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/beautiful-lonely-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/beautiful-lonely-woman-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quindi, ovviamente, questo sar\u00e0 un testo su come gestire le storie d'amore nel modo migliore se siete studenti universitari.<\/p>\n<p>However, before we start with the actual tips regarding this topic, I want to give you the most important piece of advice: don\u2019t be afraid to be single.<\/p>\n<p>Ovviamente questo vale per ogni periodo della vita, ma \u00e8 fondamentale per l'universit\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>If you feel like you\u2019re better off on your own, if you don\u2019t find anyone you like well enough to date or have a relationship with or if you simply want to focus on other things besides your love life, that is perfectly okay.<\/p>\n<p>Please, don\u2019t fall under the pressure of your surroundings and think of yourself as a weirdo or an outcast just because you don&#8217;t have a college relationship and are not a part of any love story.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t compare yourself to others and date just about anyone because you see couples all around you.<\/p>\n<p>No, you won\u2019t miss much if you remain single during your college years.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, romances in college can become one of your most cherished memories in your adult life, but if it\u2019s not meant to be, please don\u2019t beat yourself up about it.<\/p>\n<p>Concentratevi invece su voi stessi, sui vostri migliori amici e sulla vostra famiglia, e godetevi la vostra vita dentro e fuori dal campus nel miglior modo possibile.<\/p>\n<h2>2. You don\u2019t have to find \u201cthe one\u201d<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52448\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/young-woman-by-the-water.jpg\" alt=\"giovane donna solitaria sul bordo dell&#039;acqua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/young-woman-by-the-water.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/young-woman-by-the-water-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/young-woman-by-the-water-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;ve ever read college romance novels (such as &#8220;Game On&#8221; by Kristen Callihan or college romance books by other Amazon or Goodreads authors such as Colleen Hoover or Abbi Glines), in which the good girl falls in love with a rock star bad boy she met during her studies and eventually, the two of them end up together, despite all the obstacles, you probably romanticized the idea of finding everlasting love on campus.<\/p>\n<p>The same goes with all other books about romance in college: they give you hope that this is the place where you&#8217;ll find your <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/true-love\/finding-the-one\/la-persona-che-ti-accompagnera-per-sempre-fara-queste-12-cose-che-il-tuo-ex-non-ha-mai-saputo-fare\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">persona per sempre<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Well, let me tell you that romance books that take place in college and real life scenarios are not the same. In fact, during college, you don\u2019t have to find \u201cthe one\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>You don&#8217;t have to be with the same person from your first until your last year in college.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, you can have one college relationship throughout your entire studies, but this person doesn\u2019t have to be someone you\u2019ll spend the rest of your life with.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, it is important for you to find a compatible partner, but don\u2019t beat yourself up with thinking too far ahead in the future.<\/p>\n<p>Liberatevi dalla pressione che ogni relazione in cui vi impegnate debba funzionare e finire con il matrimonio.<\/p>\n<p>On the contrary, the bitter truth is that most romances in college don\u2019t last long after you both finish your studies.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not saying that yours will fail as well, but this fact is definitely something you should have in mind before even starting anything.<\/p>\n<p>Besides, be aware of the differences between men&#8217;s and women&#8217;s ideas of a college romance.<\/p>\n<p>While most guys are looking forward to one night stands, women&#8217;s desires are usually centered around finding a long-term partner.<\/p>\n<h2>3. Utilizzare questo tempo per imparare<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52449\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/black-woman-on-the-fence.jpg\" alt=\"donna nera appoggiata alla staccionata vicino all&#039;acqua\" width=\"800\" height=\"531\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/black-woman-on-the-fence.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/black-woman-on-the-fence-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/black-woman-on-the-fence-768x510.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Obviously, you came to college to study and learn new things. You\u2019re here to educate yourself academically and to make something out of yourself in the future.<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, c'\u00e8 anche un altro tipo di apprendimento che dovreste intraprendere.<\/p>\n<p>Invece di concentrarvi sul tentativo di trovare l'anima gemella, dovreste considerare questo periodo come un'opportunit\u00e0 per conoscere meglio voi stessi e i vostri potenziali partner.<\/p>\n<p>Quali sono i tipi di ragazze o ragazzi con cui le piace di pi\u00f9 uscire? Sei sicuro al cento per cento della tua sessualit\u00e0 o sei aperto alle sperimentazioni?<\/p>\n<p>Riesci a vederti in una relazione a lungo termine o in un matrimonio in futuro? Sei in grado di essere coinvolto in incontri casuali e avventure occasionali o non \u00e8 la tua tazza di t\u00e8?<\/p>\n<p>This is the period in which you\u2019ll find out more about your <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-problemi-di-appuntamenti-per-gli-uomini\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rompiscatole<\/span><\/a>, standards, sexual preferences, and the period in which you\u2019ll get to know yourself in a completely new light\u2014a period in which you\u2019ll learn some tough lessons which will prove to be the most valuable ones in the future.<\/p>\n<h2>4. Conoscere la differenza tra amore e lussuria<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52450\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-hugging-in-bed.jpg\" alt=\"bella coppia che si abbraccia e sorride a letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-hugging-in-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-hugging-in-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-hugging-in-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Another important tip for college romances is to understand that there is a huge difference between the real deal and one night stands\u2014a difference between sleeping with someone, dating them, being in a relationship and finally, being fully committed to them.<\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re young and your hormones are going wild, it is incredibly easy to mistake the two things.<\/p>\n<p>You hook up with a friend of a friend at a party or you meet with someone from your dating app, and the next thing you know, you\u2019re convinced that you\u2019re desperately in love with them, that you will love them for the rest of your life, and that you would die if they left.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is that this is nothing but your body deceiving you. You\u2019re actually falling into a common trap many young people find themselves in: you\u2019re confusing lust and love.<\/p>\n<p>Ebbene, questo \u00e8 il momento in cui imparerete che queste due cose non sono affatto uguali, anche se hanno molto in comune.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll learn that sharing strong chemistry and passion with someone doesn\u2019t automatically mean that they\u2019re your other half or someone you should waste all your college years on.<\/p>\n<h2>5. Attenzione al sesso<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52451\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-in-bed.jpg\" alt=\"coppia appassionata carina a letto che si bacia\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-in-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-in-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-in-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s be honest: this is the period of your life in which you\u2019ll probably have the most interesting sex life; the period of trying out new things and learning about your own sexuality.<\/p>\n<p>Even though I\u2019m not judging any of these, I\u2019m here to ask you to be careful.<\/p>\n<p>Ricordate sempre di usare le protezioni, perch\u00e9 l'ultima cosa di cui avete bisogno ora \u00e8 una gravidanza indesiderata o una malattia venerea presa da qualcuno con cui siete andati a letto per la prima volta, che potrebbe cambiare il corso della vostra vita per sempre.<\/p>\n<p>Also, I\u2019m begging you not do anything you\u2019re not ready for. Respect your body, and demand the same treatment from your partner(s).<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re not old-fashioned or a prude if you see that you\u2019re not emotionally capable for having one night stands, for not wanting to sleep with someone you texted on the dating app or if you need more time to sleep with someone for the first time than the rest of the people of your generation.<\/p>\n<p>Also, if you&#8217;re a guy, you don&#8217;t have to try so hard to maintain a bad boy reputation if that is not something you want.<\/p>\n<p>Besides, even if you choose to remain a virgin, that is also your choice. You shouldn\u2019t be ashamed of it, and nobody is allowed to judge you for it.<\/p>\n<p>Remember, this is your own body we\u2019re talking about here.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52452\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sensual-couple-kissing-in-dark.jpg\" alt=\"immagine in bianco e nero di una coppia appassionata che si bacia \" width=\"800\" height=\"536\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sensual-couple-kissing-in-dark.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sensual-couple-kissing-in-dark-300x201.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sensual-couple-kissing-in-dark-768x515.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sensual-couple-kissing-in-dark-760x510.jpg 760w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Therefore, you\u2019re the only one who is allowed to set boundaries, and nobody has the right to invade your personal space more than you let them.<\/p>\n<p>Un'altra cosa importante \u00e8 non permettere a nessuno di usarvi solo per entrare nei vostri pantaloni.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014 there is nothing wrong with sleeping with someone without any strings attached if that is what you both want.<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/12-modi-per-evitare-le-telefonate-di-piacere\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">evitare di essere un'esca<\/span><\/a> a qualcuno a cui tieni solo per integrarti in questa cultura del rimorchio.<\/p>\n<p>Invece, siate abbastanza coraggiosi da dire all'oggetto del vostro affetto che volete di pi\u00f9 e che pu\u00f2 avere l'intero pacchetto, che include il vostro cuore, il vostro corpo e la vostra mente, oppure niente.<\/p>\n<p>Have in mind that in most cases, sex is more than sex, so be careful to whom you\u2019re giving your body.<\/p>\n<p>Even though you shouldn\u2019t give a damn about what other people are saying, be careful about your reputation, and pay special attention to emotional consequences casual intercourse might leave on you.<\/p>\n<h2>6. Don\u2019t fall under the pressure of the hook up culture<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52453\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-in-yellow-dress.jpg\" alt=\"Donna sola in abito giallo su un balcone vicino all&#039;acqua\" width=\"800\" height=\"490\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-in-yellow-dress.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-in-yellow-dress-300x184.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-in-yellow-dress-768x470.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The same goes with all other concepts of modern dating: whatever you do, don\u2019t fall under the pressures of your surroundings.<\/p>\n<p>I know that everywhere you look, people are sleeping around, having \u2018no strings attached\u2019 relationships and not wanting to commit, but if that is not something you feel comfortable doing, don\u2019t even think of forcing yourself into anything just so you don\u2019t stand out.<\/p>\n<p>Ricordate che l'amore e l'onest\u00e0 non passeranno mai di moda, a prescindere da ci\u00f2 che qualcuno potrebbe dirvi.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re not weak or pathetic if you refuse to be a part of these practices and if you choose to be single until the right person comes along.<\/p>\n<p>However, if you do enter a relationship, please don\u2019t make it an on and off thing, based on mind games and mixed signals.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t have to play hard to get or pretend that you don\u2019t want to label things with your partner just because of these imaginary rules imposed by the <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/se-fa-queste-6-cose-non-sei-altro-che-una-prostituta\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">agganciare<\/span><\/a> culture we&#8217;re all surrounded by.<\/p>\n<h2>7. It won\u2019t be easy<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52454\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-woman-leaning-on-wall.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste e sola appoggiata a un muro bianco\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-woman-leaning-on-wall.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-woman-leaning-on-wall-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-woman-leaning-on-wall-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014maintaining a healthy relationship is difficult when you\u2019re a fully grown adult, let alone when you\u2019re in college.<\/p>\n<p>Bisogna trovare un equilibrio tra le lezioni, il tempo per lo studio, il tempo per la famiglia e il tempo per il lavoro. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/qualita-di-un-migliore-amico-10-caratteristiche-essenziali-da-ricercare-in-un-amico-del-cuore\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">migliori amici<\/span><\/a> a casa e, soprattutto, il tempo per se stessi.<\/p>\n<p>Consequently, all of this might feel overwhelming at first, and there is a possibility that your relationship won&#8217;t be going as smoothly as you expected it would.<\/p>\n<p>However, accept this as something completely normal, and don\u2019t beat yourself up for every little failure.<\/p>\n<p>Riflettete bene e decidete se vale la pena lottare per questo. Siete davvero innamorati e siete pronti a far funzionare le cose?<\/p>\n<p>If the answer is positive, go for it. On the other hand, if you don\u2019t see this romance going anywhere, maybe it\u2019s better to call it quits in time.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t worry, you\u2019re not a chicken for giving up. Instead, see this as a sign of your maturity and your ability to list your priorities the right way.<\/p>\n<h2>8. Don\u2019t rush things<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52455\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/lovely-couple-holding-hands.jpg\" alt=\"bella coppia che si tiene per mano e sorride mentre si gode una passeggiata nella natura\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/lovely-couple-holding-hands.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/lovely-couple-holding-hands-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/lovely-couple-holding-hands-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>La maggior parte degli esperti di incontri concorda su una cosa quando si tratta di una relazione sentimentale all'universit\u00e0: prendere le cose con calma.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t jump into a new relationship the moment you arrive on campus, and give yourself time to adapt.<\/p>\n<p>Molte persone commettono lo stesso errore: durante il primo anno di universit\u00e0 si trovano in un ambiente sconosciuto e cercano qualcuno che li conforti, che diventi la loro persona e la loro zona sicura.<\/p>\n<p>So, they start dating the first person they run into, in hopes of regaining the sense of familiarity they\u2019ve lost since they left home.<\/p>\n<p>Well, let me tell you that this is a mistake. Before even taking romance into consideration, first and foremost, you have to find your own path and figure out how to get by without anyone\u2019s help.<\/p>\n<p>Abituatevi a nuove materie, materiali e insegnanti. Guardatevi intorno, trovate i vostri interessi. Incontrare nuovi migliori amici, riprendersi dalla nostalgia di casa e, solo allora, verificare se intorno a voi ci sono persone con cui uscire.<\/p>\n<h2>9. Mettere la propria istruzione al primo posto<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52456\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/cute-girl-studying.jpg\" alt=\"Ragazza carina che studia alla scrivania con il computer portatile\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/cute-girl-studying.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/cute-girl-studying-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/cute-girl-studying-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t care if you think you\u2019ve found the love of your life and how crazy you are about your boyfriend\/ girlfriend.<\/p>\n<p>Non c'\u00e8 assolutamente nessuna giustificazione che vi permetta di dimenticare il motivo per cui siete venuti all'universit\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>And that is to learn new things, to make new opportunities, and to become the person you\u2019re destined to be.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00ec, avete sentito bene. Per quanto andare all'universit\u00e0 sia un'esperienza sociale preziosa, l'istruzione viene sempre prima di tutto.<\/p>\n<p>Pertanto, se avete degli esami o una tesina da consegnare, la vostra relazione sentimentale ne risentir\u00e0. Non potete assolutamente permettere che queste farfalle nello stomaco interferiscano con il vostro obiettivo finale.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00ec, dormire accanto alla persona amata e non andare a qualche lezione \u00e8 fantastico, ma quel momento di gioia \u00e8 temporaneo e passer\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, questo tipo di comportamento irresponsabile potrebbe avere gravi conseguenze sugli studi, e dovreste interromperlo nel momento in cui ve ne accorgete.<\/p>\n<h2>10. Don\u2019t expect too much from your high school romance<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52457\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/young-couple-on-a-bridge.jpg\" alt=\"giovane coppia in conflitto su un ponte \" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/young-couple-on-a-bridge.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/young-couple-on-a-bridge-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/young-couple-on-a-bridge-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Molte matricole universitarie <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/le-aspettative-non-soddisfatte-sono-una-causa-comune-di-rottura-delle-relazioni\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">aspettarsi<\/span><\/a> di continuare la loro relazione con la fidanzata del liceo anche quando vanno all'universit\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>While I\u2019m not claiming that each one of these romances is doomed to fail, it is better not to get your hopes up when it comes to long-distance college romances.<\/p>\n<p>Innanzitutto, la maggior parte delle persone si reinventa quando lascia la scuola superiore.<\/p>\n<p>In un attimo si diventa una persona completamente diversa e, prima di rendersene conto, non si ha pi\u00f9 nulla in comune con una persona che significava il mondo per noi.<\/p>\n<p>I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014accepting this is quite difficult and painful.<\/p>\n<p>However, sometimes it\u2019s better to face the harsh truth and end things when they stop working instead of wasting more years on something that clearly has no future.<\/p>\n<h2>11. Avoid dating someone you can\u2019t go no contact with after the breakup<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52458\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/beatiful-blonde-in-the-woods.jpg\" alt=\"ritratto in bianco e nero di una donna bionda nel bosco\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/beatiful-blonde-in-the-woods.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/beatiful-blonde-in-the-woods-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/beatiful-blonde-in-the-woods-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Un'altra delle regole d'oro per una storia d'amore all'universit\u00e0 \u00e8 quella di non uscire con qualcuno con cui si hanno pi\u00f9 lezioni o con cui si vive nello stesso edificio del campus.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, spending this much time together sounds like a dream come true in the beginning when it\u2019s all roses and rainbows.<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, in seguito, questo tipo di accordo potrebbe causare problemi nella vostra relazione.<\/p>\n<p>Prima di tutto, \u00e8 un terreno fertile per uno dei due che diventa possessivo. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/11-segni-di-un-partner-maniaco-del-controllo\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">maniaci del controllo<\/span><\/a> because you\u2019re in a position to literally follow your partner\u2019s every move.<\/p>\n<p>Besides, you two are accidentally dragged into a situation you didn\u2019t sign up for. You have practically lived together since day one, and you are definitely not ready for such a serious relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Un altro svantaggio di uscire con qualcuno che \u00e8 troppo vicino a voi \u00e8 la maggiore possibilit\u00e0 che i due si stanchino l'uno dell'altro.<\/p>\n<p>Si passa troppo tempo insieme, si trascurano gli altri e, prima di rendersene conto, ci si stufa l'uno dell'altro.<\/p>\n<p>Inoltre, questo rende le cose molto pi\u00f9 imbarazzanti se vi lasciate.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll have a hard time getting over this person if you\u2019re sentenced to keep on seeing them every day, and you can\u2019t go full <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/6-modi-per-sopravvivere-al-periodo-di-non-contatto-quando-lui-se-ne-va\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nessun contatto<\/span><\/a>, anche se lo si desidera.<\/p>\n<p>Pertanto, sarebbe meglio trovare qualcuno fuori dal campus.<\/p>\n<p>A person who is near enough so you could see each other when you want but with whom you don&#8217;t share a dorm.<\/p>\n<h2>12. Don\u2019t forget about other people<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52459\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/friends-laughing-in-the-sun.jpg\" alt=\"amici che ridono e si divertono al sole\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/friends-laughing-in-the-sun.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/friends-laughing-in-the-sun-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/friends-laughing-in-the-sun-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>L'universit\u00e0 non serve solo a trovare l'amore. Si tratta anche di formare una famiglia per tutta la vita, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/true-love\/bff\/ecco-cosa-significa-essere-un-amico-fedele\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">amicizie leali<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Si tratta di incontrare nuove persone provenienti da culture, visioni del mondo e contesti diversi che possono insegnarvi molto e costruirvi come persone.<\/p>\n<p>So, please, don\u2019t miss out on these valuable experiences just because you\u2019re in love.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t put all of your time and energy on this one person and forget about the others.<\/p>\n<p>This goes for your family and friends back home, as well. Don\u2019t disregard your previous life completely because of your special someone.<\/p>\n<p>Besides, what will you do if you two break up? I\u2019ll tell you what will happen: you\u2019ll end up all alone, without anyone to talk to, and you\u2019ll regret spending your entire college time only with them.<\/p>\n<h2>13. Find someone who won\u2019t hold you back<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52460\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-kissing-on-the-bed.jpg\" alt=\"bella coppia seduta sul letto e abbracciata\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-kissing-on-the-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-kissing-on-the-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-kissing-on-the-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The worst thing you can do to yourself is having a partner who doesn\u2019t support your dreams, goals, and ambitions.<\/p>\n<p>It is spending years next to someone who holds you back and convinces you that you won\u2019t succeed at anything you set your mind to.<\/p>\n<p>Trovate invece qualcuno che vi ispiri a diventare il <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/quando-una-donna-e-amata-nel-modo-giusto-diventa-la-migliore-versione-di-se-stessa\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">la migliore versione possibile di te stesso<\/span><\/a> e che sar\u00e0 il vento alle ali in tutte le situazioni.<\/p>\n<p>Someone who will push you forward, who won\u2019t be intimidated by your successes, and who will be there to help you get back up whenever you fall.<\/p>\n<p>Trovatevi un fidanzato o una fidanzata ambiziosi, che abbiano obiettivi futuri precisi e che sappiano cosa vogliono dalla vita.<\/p>\n<p>Someone who will be both your study and romantic partner, and someone who won\u2019t take your energy off your dreams.<\/p>\n<h2>14. Don\u2019t waste time on a relationship which doesn\u2019t make you happy<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52461\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-woman-by-the-window.jpg\" alt=\"donna nera triste che piange alla finestra\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-woman-by-the-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-woman-by-the-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-woman-by-the-window-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A romantic relationship shouldn\u2019t be the only source of your happiness\u2014there is no doubt about that. However, it shouldn\u2019t make you miserable either.<\/p>\n<p>You see, life is difficult enough on its own. Therefore, you shouldn\u2019t spend the best years of your life sad, crying over someone who doesn\u2019t deserve you.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00ec, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/ecco-perche-vale-la-pena-lottare-per-il-vero-amore\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Il vero amore ha bisogno di lottare<\/span><\/a> for, and healthy relationships aren\u2019t built overnight.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should strain every nerve just to preserve a romance which obviously isn\u2019t meant to be.<\/p>\n<p>La vita vi tirer\u00e0 addosso mattoni e pietre in futuro, e questo \u00e8 probabilmente l'ultimo periodo in cui potete essere spensierati.<\/p>\n<p>Questo \u00e8 il periodo in cui dovreste godervi ogni momento, senza tutti i problemi degli adulti che ogni giorno porta con s\u00e9.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, avete davvero bisogno di qualcuno che vi rovini l'intera esperienza? Penso di no.<\/p>\n<h2>15. Determinare il proprio livello di impegno<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52462\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/beautiful-woman-in-the-sun.jpg\" alt=\"bella donna al sole che guarda in lontananza \" width=\"800\" height=\"532\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/beautiful-woman-in-the-sun.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/beautiful-woman-in-the-sun-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/beautiful-woman-in-the-sun-768x511.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re involved in any type of college relationship, you\u2019re allowed to set your own rules and agree with your partner regarding your levels of commitment.<\/p>\n<p>You two are the ones who need to determine whether it\u2019s okay to see other people or you\u2019re exclusive, whether you\u2019ll try and plan a future together, and so on.<\/p>\n<p>Qualsiasi cosa facciate, assicuratevi che nessuno limiti la vostra libert\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>This might be challenging to achieve because it is natural that you can\u2019t behave the same when you\u2019re taken and single, but on the other hand, you don\u2019t want to spend all your Saturday nights in front of the TV with your partner during your entire college experience.<\/p>\n<p>Also, please be careful about the promises you\u2019re making.<\/p>\n<p>Anche se ora siete certi che la persona accanto a voi sia il vostro <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/romantic-love\/anima-gemella-2\/lettera-lanima-gemella-mostrera-amore\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">anima gemella<\/span><\/a> e che voi due finirete insieme, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che molte cose cambieranno durante e soprattutto dopo l'universit\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>In realt\u00e0, la persona che siete da matricola e quella che diventerete all'ultimo anno di universit\u00e0 saranno probabilmente due persone completamente diverse.<\/p>\n<p>So, don\u2019t give any false hopes, and don\u2019t promise them marriage or a long-term relationship if that is something you can\u2019t give.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t commit above your possibilities, and be honest about your intentions.<\/p>\n<h2>16. Essere pronti al fallimento<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52463\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-girl-sitting-on-bench.jpg\" alt=\"ragazza triste seduta su una panchina nel parco durante il giorno\" width=\"800\" height=\"440\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-girl-sitting-on-bench.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-girl-sitting-on-bench-300x165.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-girl-sitting-on-bench-768x422.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>In sostanza, nessuno di noi intraprenderebbe mai una relazione se avesse la possibilit\u00e0 di sapere quando e come finir\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>Invece, quando ci si innamora, ci si aspetta che la storia d'amore duri per sempre e la fine \u00e8 l'ultimo dei pensieri.<\/p>\n<p>Even though I don\u2019t want you to sentence your relationship to failure, you also have to be fully aware that something like that is highly likely.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re in a sensitive life period, your emotions change at the speed of light, and you\u2019re in the process of becoming the person you should be.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi forse sia voi che il vostro partner non siete ancora pronti per una relazione matura. E dovete essere consapevoli di questo fatto.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, even if your relationship fails, don\u2019t see it as the end of the world. Instead, observe it as a chance for a fresh start.<\/p>\n<h2>17. Trascorrere il tempo godendosi la vita universitaria<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-52464\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/happy-woman-with-laptop.jpg\" alt=\"ritratto di una donna felice con computer portatile seduta sulle scale \" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/happy-woman-with-laptop.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/happy-woman-with-laptop-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/happy-woman-with-laptop-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Most importantly\u2014please, have fun. Your college experience should be one of the most interesting periods of your life, and whatever you do, please enjoy every day of your college life to the fullest.<\/p>\n<p>Okay, I\u2019m not saying you should engage in risky sexual behavior or drink too much, but don\u2019t be scared of trying new things.<\/p>\n<p>Step out of your comfort zone, and don\u2019t miss out on this precious experience just because you were too focused on one person only because if you do, I assure you that you\u2019ll regret that decision forever.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-52466\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Romance-In-College-17-Tips-To-Make-It-Work-pinterest-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Il romanticismo all&#039;universit\u00e0: 17 consigli per farlo funzionare\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Romance-In-College-17-Tips-To-Make-It-Work-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Romance-In-College-17-Tips-To-Make-It-Work-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Romance-In-College-17-Tips-To-Make-It-Work-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Romance-In-College-17-Tips-To-Make-It-Work-pinterest.jpg 1000w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What do dating experts say about relationships during college? Can they work or are they doomed to fail? Should you engage yourself in something serious during your studies or is it better to keep everything casual? If you\u2019re a college freshman, you already asked yourself these and many other questions regarding a love life at&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":52465,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29621],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-52446","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-healthy-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29621,"label":"healthy relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/Romance-In-College-17-Tips-To-Make-It-Work.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29621,"name":"healthy relationship","slug":"healthy-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29621,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","parent":29620,"count":254,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29621,"category_count":254,"category_description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","cat_name":"healthy relationship","category_nicename":"healthy-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52446","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=52446"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52446\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/52465"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=52446"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=52446"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=52446"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}