Bomba d'amore vs. infatuazione Infatuazione: 14 differenze cruciali<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\nImmediatamente o con un processo<\/h2>\n
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According to most dating experts, there is no such thing as love at first sight. In fact, this concept of love at first sight is actually infatuation because this is how infatuation takes place\u2014in the blink of an eye.<\/p>\n
It happens instantly and before you know it, you\u2019re head over heels for this special someone.<\/p>\n
When something like this happens to you and when you lose the ground under your feet just by looking at a person of the opposite sex, you\u2019re convinced that this is fate.<\/p>\n
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Everything is like in the movies; you two look at each other and you think they\u2019re the one you\u2019ve been waiting your entire life, that you\u2019ve finally met your soulmate and the one person you should spend the rest of your life with.<\/p>\n
Well, I hate to be the one to burst your bubble but the truth is actually quite different. In fact, in most cases, this instant sexual attraction most people mistake with love at first sight is nothing but that\u2014physical attraction and infatuation.<\/p>\n
On the other hand, true love is something different and it is a longer and more complex process. I don\u2019t know what fairy tales taught you but in real life, love needs to grow, it takes time and effort.<\/p>\n
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Prima di poter dire di amarla, bisogna conoscere la persona reale. Bisogna arrivare al cuore della sua personalit\u00e0, incontrarla in diverse situazioni di vita e scoprire molte cose su di lei prima di poter dire di amarla veramente.<\/p>\n
So, how can you actually love someone you had this instant chemistry with? Well, you can\u2019t\u2014you can only be infatuated by them and there is a huge difference between these two concepts.<\/p>\n
Intimit\u00e0 fisica contro un legame pi\u00f9 profondo<\/h2>\n
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I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014sex is a crucial part of every loving relationship and whoever tries to convince you otherwise is not telling the truth.<\/p>\n
Questo vale soprattutto se voi e il vostro partner non andate d'accordo in camera da letto, perch\u00e9 questi problemi possono facilmente trasferirsi anche ad altri aspetti della vostra relazione.<\/p>\n
So, the difference in infatuation vs love doesn\u2019t lie in the quality of your sex life; in both cases, it is an important aspect and something that should be constantly worked on.<\/p>\n
Tuttavia, la differenza principale sta nel livello di intimit\u00e0 e nel fatto che l'intimit\u00e0 sia solo sesso o meno.<\/p>\n
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Quando qualcuno \u00e8 l'oggetto della vostra infatuazione, l'unico modo in cui voi due vi sentite veramente in sintonia \u00e8 sotto le lenzuola. Avete una vita sessuale straordinaria, provate cose nuove, sperimentate in camera da letto e siete ovviamente compatibili in questo ambito della vostra relazione.<\/p>\n
Tuttavia, quando si tratta di vero amore, ci si rende conto che in una relazione sana l'intimit\u00e0 va ben oltre il puro sesso. Voi e il vostro partner vi legate a livelli molto pi\u00f9 profondi di quello fisico.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t resolve your arguments with sex, you don\u2019t use every opportunity to get laid and your relationship simply doesn\u2019t revolve around only that.<\/p>\n
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In fact, you two can spend an entire night, for example, holding hands and staring into each other\u2019s eyes, without laying hands on one another and still have an amazing time.<\/p>\n
When it comes to bedroom activities, you\u2019re not only having sex\u2014you\u2019re making love every time you sleep together.<\/p>\n
You\u2019re both concerned about the other person\u2019s needs as well and for the two of you, this act represents much more than pure physical pleasure\u2014it is also a deeper connection which brings you two even closer and takes your relationship to a whole new level.<\/p>\n
Farfalle contro calma<\/h2>\n
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Infatuation is addictive love. It’s a new love that hits you and takes over you completely before you even get a chance to realize what happened.<\/p>\n
It is all about butterflies in your stomach you can\u2019t get rid of, as much as you try. It is about excitement and the feeling as if you\u2019re going to fly directly into space when your crush looks at you.<\/p>\n
It is about fireworks and storms. It is the feeling that you can\u2019t get yourself to go to sleep just because you know you\u2019ll see the object of your affection the next day.<\/p>\n
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When you\u2019re infatuated, you don’t see typical signs of love and you feel like you\u2019re on drugs, like you couldn\u2019t breathe without this person by your side and like they\u2019re the only one you need to properly function in this world.<\/p>\n
These strong emotions get the best of you; your palms are sweaty, you get tongue-tied and can\u2019t even talk properly, your pupils get bigger, your voice shakes and this person is the only one you can ever think of.<\/p>\n
The worst part is that this happens at all possible stages of your relationship. When they\u2019re not around, you constantly miss them or when something is off, you\u2019re worried about what will happen next.<\/p>\n
On the other hand, when the two of you are together, you feel like you\u2019re in seventh heaven for having them next to you and you can\u2019t think straight because you\u2019re consumed by the pleasure this person\u2019s presence causes in you.<\/p>\n
Sounds romantic, right? Well, it\u2019s not\u2014it is unhealthy and scary.<\/p>\n
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You two have obviously been dragged into a circle of codependency and this entire roller coaster of emotions makes you think that this is the real deal. Let me tell you that it\u2019s not.<\/p>\n
When you\u2019re young, the last thing you want is a peaceful relationship without any ups and downs. You think of these couples as boring and you assume that their loving relationships have gotten into a rut, since they lost all the excitement.<\/p>\n
However, as you get older and more mature, you understand that is what real love is all about\u2014about the calmness. Yes, being in love makes you feel butterflies in your stomach but loving someone makes you feel at complete peace.<\/p>\n
This person\u2019s presence calms you down, makes you feel like you\u2019re at home and like nothing and nobody could get to you. They become your harbor and your anchor, which keeps you safe against all the storms.<\/p>\n
A breve termine e a lungo termine<\/h2>\n
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Un'altra differenza fondamentale tra infatuazione e amore \u00e8 la durata. Quanto dura la vostra relazione o quanto vi aspettate che duri?<\/p>\n
Sebbene l'infatuazione sia un sentimento intenso, in realt\u00e0 dura molto meno del vero amore. Si consuma e semplicemente svanisce, come se non ci fosse mai stato, senza lasciare una traccia permanente nella vostra vita.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not claiming that every true love interest lasts a lifetime. Sadly, some of them end and are not meant to be, despite all of your efforts to make things work.<\/p>\n
However, the fact is that love doesn\u2019t have an expiration date and even when it ends, it still remains important. It shapes you as a person and forever stays an unerasable part of who you are.<\/p>\n
True love lasts for years and it doesn\u2019t depend on your financial status, looks, friends, family, education or anything else; it just exists, despite everything.<\/p>\n
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It accepts all of your and your partner\u2019s changes and it grows together with you in all of its selflessness.<\/p>\n
Sfida il tempo e tutti gli altri ostacoli che la vita pu\u00f2 opporre. \u00c8 pi\u00f9 forte di tutto ci\u00f2 che la ostacola e non pu\u00f2 essere distrutta da niente e nessuno.<\/p>\n
Sembra troppo romantico, lo so. Tuttavia, lo si pensa solo finch\u00e9 non lo si sperimenta e finch\u00e9 non si vede che \u00e8 davvero la verit\u00e0.<\/p>\n
On the other hand, infatuation ends at the first glance of trouble. It replaces you with someone better and more convenient and it doesn\u2019t put up a decent fight before dying off for good.<\/p>\n
Gelosia e fiducia<\/h2>\n
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When you\u2019re in love, it is natural for you to be scared of losing the person next to you so jealousy and possessiveness appear.<\/p>\n
You\u2019re ready to do whatever it takes to keep them around and you\u2019re convinced you couldn\u2019t live without them.<\/p>\n
Diventate eccessivamente controllanti e pensate che, comportandovi come se foste i padroni dell'oggetto del vostro profondo affetto, gli impedirete di allontanarsi da voi.<\/p>\n
Tuttavia, di solito accade il contrario. Spesso si ottiene un effetto del tutto controproducente e si finisce per allontanarli.<\/p>\n
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On the other hand, when you truly love your partner, there is no place for jealousy or possessive behavior. Of course, you wouldn\u2019t be indifferent if you, for example, see them kissing someone else but your fear of losing them doesn\u2019t control you and is not at the center of your feelings for them.<\/p>\n
You know that you can live without this person\u2014you just don\u2019t want to (contrary to addictive love, where you’re convinced you wouldn’t make it without the object of your infatuation).<\/p>\n
You know you would eventually survive their absence\u2014you just choose to fight for their presence every day.<\/p>\n
In una relazione sana come questa, la fiducia reciproca \u00e8 una delle cose pi\u00f9 importanti su cui si basa il vostro amore.<\/p>\n
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You don\u2019t have the need to stalk your partner, to follow them around, to control their every move or to check up on them all the time simply because you trust that they wouldn\u2019t do anything behind you back, even if they had a chance to.<\/p>\n
Dopo tutto, se vogliono davvero stare con un'altra persona, chi siete voi per fermarli? L'ultima cosa che vorreste \u00e8 che rimanesse accanto a voi mentre pensa a qualcun altro o vi tradisce emotivamente.<\/p>\n
You see, one of the signs of love is its selflessness. You have such strong emotions for someone that you want them to be happy, even if that happiness doesn’t include you.<\/p>\n
The same goes the other way around\u2014it is not that you\u2019re faithful because you\u2019re scared of getting caught; you don\u2019t cheat on them because you couldn\u2019t imagine yourself next to someone else and because you would rather be alone than with anyone else.<\/p>\n
Risentimento vs. perdono<\/h2>\n
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Ego is a huge part of relationships that are built upon infatuation. Whenever the other person does something you don\u2019t like or hurts you in any way, you think about ways to pay them back and give them a taste of their own medicine.<\/p>\n
You hold grudges forever and the resentment often eats you alive. You simply have to get even and you feel angered if you don\u2019t get your revenge.<\/p>\n
Tuttavia, quando si tratta di amore, siete entrambi consapevoli che il perdono \u00e8 la chiave per una relazione sana.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m not saying that in this case scenario, you should allow the other person to walk over you all the time while you do nothing about it but you won\u2019t plot your vengeance about every little thing just to fix your broken ego either.<\/p>\n
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In fact, when they apologize, you accept it and you two move on. You know they mean it when they tell you how sorry they are and you know that there is no point in constantly going back over the past if you\u2019ve both agreed on leaving something behind you.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t lie to them that you\u2019ve managed to forgive them for their misdeeds just so you could get them on thin ice or pay them back.<\/p>\n
Instead, you take your time and decide whether you\u2019re really capable of forgetting about the episode which hurt you and move on, as if nothing happened.<\/p>\n
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Quando si tratta di amore, si fa del proprio meglio per capire il partner, anche quando non si \u00e8 d'accordo con lui.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t judge them and try walking a mile in their shoes in order to understand their reasons and in order to eventually forgive them.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t let your emotional baggage ruin your relationship and you keep an open heart to all possible solutions which will bring progress to your romance.<\/p>\n
Passione e amicizia<\/h2>\n
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When you\u2019re infatuated by someone, you see them as nothing but your lover and romantic partner. At first sight, you assume that this is more than enough and that a healthy relationship shouldn\u2019t bring you anything more than that.<\/p>\n
However, only once you experience true love do you understand the importance of other things. You realize that your loved one shouldn\u2019t be your lover only\u2014they should be your best friend as well.<\/p>\n
You understand the real meaning of partnership. This is your person, your partner in crime and your other half\u2014the first person you go to when you\u2019re in trouble or when you need advice or guidance.<\/p>\n
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Il vostro partner diventa il vostro confidente e la persona con cui vi piace di pi\u00f9 passare il tempo. \u00c8 qualcuno a cui potete raccontare i vostri segreti pi\u00f9 oscuri, senza paura di essere giudicati, qualcuno che vi ascolta e che condivide i vostri interessi.<\/p>\n
Without losing your individuality, the two of you become an item and function together. You\u2019re not just a romantic couple\u2014you\u2019re a team and you go against the world.<\/p>\n
Idealizzazione e accettazione<\/h2>\n
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Un'altra differenza cruciale tra amore e infatuazione sta nella percezione che voi e il vostro partner avete dell'altro. \u00c8 la differenza tra le aspettative realistiche e quelle irrealistiche sulla vostra relazione.<\/p>\n
When you\u2019re infatuated by another person, you only love the best version of them and you don\u2019t dig under the multiple layers of their personalit\u00e0 complessa<\/a>.<\/p>\nYou\u2019re not concerned by their flaws and you don\u2019t even put any effort into trying to get to know their dark side, which we all have, simply because you don\u2019t care enough.<\/p>\n
The same goes the other way; you always try to look your best in front of your partner, to have a smile on your face and to be in the best of moods, even when you\u2019re actually at your lowest.<\/p>\n
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You don\u2019t bother this person with your financial problems or family emergencies, you don\u2019t share your troubles with them and you don\u2019t let them in all the way.<\/p>\n
Di conseguenza, entrambi finite per idealizzare l'altro, per romanzare l'intera relazione e per pensare che tutto sia migliore di quanto sia in realt\u00e0.<\/p>\n
However, when it comes to love, you accept the person next to you completely. You are not wearing rose-tinted glasses and you don\u2019t think of them as some superhuman who is never cranky, nervous or in a bad mood.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t try to change them and you\u2019re completely aware of their imperfections. Not only that\u2014you love them for those imperfections because you\u2019re aware that they also shaped them into the person they are today.<\/p>\n
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You don\u2019t expect this person to be flawless and you are completely fine with everything their personality and appearance consist of.<\/p>\n
Instead, you love them for who they really are and you wouldn’t change any part of their character, even if you had a chance to.<\/p>\n
When real love is in question, you and your partner care for each other the same at your best and at your worst. You don\u2019t try to put each other in a box and you have realistic expectations of your relationship.<\/p>\n
Dramma vs. compromesso<\/h2>\n
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If you\u2019re infatuated with another person, you experience strong feelings regarding everything about them. You enjoy the constant tension in your relationship and you even find it cute.<\/p>\n
You see the fact that you and your loved one can\u2019t get along as signs of strong chemistry and steaming passion.<\/p>\n
Litigate e vi agitate per ogni piccola cosa. Dopotutto, il sesso riparatore \u00e8 sempre pi\u00f9 selvaggio dopo che la discussione \u00e8 finita.<\/p>\n
What you clearly fail to see is that the two of you might share some intense feelings but that we\u2019re not talking about love but of deep affection and sexual attraction, since you are obviously not compatible enough to have a healthy, mature romantic relationship.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not saying that couples who don’t fight don’t share intense emotions or that those who love each other don\u2019t fight. They most certainly do but their arguments are never without a point and they don\u2019t create drama over nothing.<\/p>\n
In fact, their fights are always as productive as possible and they use them as learning points to make their relationship better. They are aware that they\u2019re on the same team and it is always them against the problem, never them against each other.<\/p>\n
When you love your partner, you are aware of the importance of compromise. You see your relationship as a two-way street and you\u2019re both ready to put in your maximum effort to make things work.<\/p>\n
In questo scenario non c'\u00e8 posto per l'ego o l'autostima e non importa chi ha ragione o torto.<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t compete in who won more arguments and the only important thing is to find a solution that will suit both of you and will be best for the future of your relationship.<\/p>\n
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