{"id":53022,"date":"2020-02-17T22:00:03","date_gmt":"2020-02-17T22:00:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=53022"},"modified":"2022-02-23T00:35:41","modified_gmt":"2022-02-23T00:35:41","slug":"dio-mi-dia-cio-di-cui-ho-bisogno","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/dio-mi-dia-cio-di-cui-ho-bisogno\/","title":{"rendered":"Caro Dio, non darmi quello che voglio - dammi quello di cui ho bisogno"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em><strong>Caro Dio,<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>I wanted a simple man. I was done with cheaters, the ones who think \u2018they can have every girl on this planet\u2019, with <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/23-signs-a-shy-guy-likes-you\/\">i ragazzi timidi<\/a> who don\u2019t know how to speak to me and the ones who play off and on.<\/p>\n<p>Volevo qualcuno a cui poter raccontare come \u00e8 andata la mia giornata e cosa \u00e8 successo nel mio lavoro.<\/p>\n<p>Volevo che qualcuno mi tenesse la mano quando succedeva qualcosa di inimmaginabile e mi dicesse che sarebbe andato tutto bene.<\/p>\n<p><em>In cambio, volevo dargli tutto l'amore che portavo dentro e che ancora oggi faccio con delicatezza con me stessa.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53025\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-in-bed-hugging.jpg\" alt=\"coppia a letto che si abbraccia\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-in-bed-hugging.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-in-bed-hugging-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/couple-in-bed-hugging-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Lo volevo nella mia vita per avvicinarmi e creare un legame, ma poi avrei avuto paura che mi lasciasse da sola. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>I was so afraid that I didn\u2019t realize how easy it would be for him to actually leave.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I thought I had found the one but I didn\u2019t realize that an uncomplicated man doesn\u2019t exist. Or I just didn\u2019t want to see the real him.<\/p>\n<p>We both know that understanding and support are sometimes hard to find in people. But what drove me crazy was to think that people like him didn\u2019t even want to try.<\/p>\n<p>Aveva scelto l'opzione pi\u00f9 semplice, cio\u00e8 andarsene, e lui se n'\u00e8 andato riducendo la mia anima in briciole.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53026\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-standing-near-window-.jpg\" alt=\"donna in piedi vicino alla finestra\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-standing-near-window-.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-standing-near-window--300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-standing-near-window--768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>You see, my past hasn\u2019t been so easy on me. I created all these walls around me because what I wanted the most was actually what could hurt me the most.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Decisi di mettere da parte i miei dubbi, lo accolsi nella mia vita e aprii il mio cuore e la mia mente per innamorarmi ma, in qualche modo, la mia paura mi avrebbe fermato.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Caro Dio, la paura che provavo era quasi un segno da parte tua che mi diceva di stare attento.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 stato Lei a ricordarmi come proteggermi.<\/p>\n<p>Mi dispiace di averti pregato per qualcosa di impossibile, ma volevo che fosse quello giusto per me. Lo volevo cos\u00ec tanto che ho fatto l'impossibile per farci funzionare.<\/p>\n<p>Mi dispiace di averlo fatto. Ora lo so bene.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53027\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-standing-near-tree-in-nice-coat-.jpg\" alt=\"donna in piedi vicino ad un albero con un bel cappotto\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-standing-near-tree-in-nice-coat-.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-standing-near-tree-in-nice-coat--300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-standing-near-tree-in-nice-coat--768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>If he was not the right man for me, I shouldn\u2019t have wasted my prayers on him. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Non cambier\u00e0 mai. Non sar\u00e0 mai l'uomo di cui ho bisogno.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>So che i tuoi progetti sono pi\u00f9 grandi dei miei desideri. So che hai qualcosa di meglio in serbo per me.<\/p>\n<p>Qualcosa di molto, molto meglio di quanto avessi mai immaginato.<\/p>\n<p><em>Caro Dio,<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>I admit that in my past, he and other people from it broke me multiple times but I know that I don\u2019t have to stay broken.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>So che mi rimetter\u00f2 in sesto finch\u00e9 avr\u00f2 Te al mio fianco.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53028\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-sitting-on-the-wall-.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta sul muro\" width=\"800\" height=\"531\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-sitting-on-the-wall-.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-sitting-on-the-wall--300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-sitting-on-the-wall--768x510.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Camminer\u00f2 con coraggio in avanti. Torner\u00f2 ad amare, perch\u00e9 avere paura dell'amore non \u00e8 qualcosa che Tu vuoi da me.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Pain and fear are only temporary feelings; they don\u2019t last as long as love does.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It was hard saying, \u201cGoodbye,\u201d to the one I cared for but it would be even harder to pass on the feeling of going home and knowing that someone\u2019s waiting for me\u2026 that special someone who cares for me.<\/p>\n<p>I know he\u2019ll be waiting for me one day when You decide the timing is right, when I am with the one who is meant for me.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>He wasn\u2019t the one and You knew that long before I did. Thank you for saving me from my wishes. Thank you for saving me for someone better.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53029\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-window-.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste seduta alla finestra\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-window-.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-window--300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-window--768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I know that there is a lot to learn in this life, so I\u2019m going to start by loving myself.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s funny but when I think about myself, the amount of love that I owe myself is big enough to make the pain go away.<\/p>\n<p>It makes everything and everyone that I\u2019ve wanted so small. They\u2019re so small that they make loving myself turn into healing and forgiving.<\/p>\n<p><em>And I hope I\u2019m going to learn how to give forgiveness to myself so easily and jauntily as I gave to men in my past.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Non vedo l'ora di trovare la felicit\u00e0 dentro di me. Finalmente pu\u00f2 uscire fuori, viva e gridando tutte le risate che ho nascosto.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53030\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/cheerful-woman-with-sunglasses-outdoors.jpg\" alt=\"donna allegra con occhiali da sole all&#039;aperto\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/cheerful-woman-with-sunglasses-outdoors.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/cheerful-woman-with-sunglasses-outdoors-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/cheerful-woman-with-sunglasses-outdoors-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>It makes me smile that loneliness used to scare me and now I shut the door so loud, so everyone can know that I\u2019m having ME time.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Dietro a una porta chiusa e in questa solitudine, trovo comprensione e mi accetto come <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/una-lettera-aperta-alluomo-che-non-e-daccordo-con-la-donna-che-sono-diventata\/\">the woman I\u2019ve become<\/a> dopo tutti i miei desideri infranti, le relazioni naufragate e gli uomini che vedevano in me l'opzione migliore per lasciarmi.<\/p>\n<p>Mi rende pi\u00f9 grande di qualsiasi bugia che mi abbia mai detto.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Accepting that I\u2019m enough and that I don\u2019t have to want \u2018an uncomplicated guy\u2019 makes me need the best version of myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Mi ricorda che tutto ci\u00f2 che voglio pu\u00f2 facilmente cambiare o andarsene, ma tutto ci\u00f2 di cui ho bisogno rimane con me.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53031\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/happy-woman-in-the-field.jpg\" alt=\"donna felice nel campo\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/happy-woman-in-the-field.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/happy-woman-in-the-field-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/happy-woman-in-the-field-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Caro Dio,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>No matter how many times I question my faith and no matter how many \u2018what ifs\u2019 or mistakes I make, I know everything comes down to this\u2014needing all the beautiful feelings that You taught me to feel\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Love, forgiveness, happiness, understanding and accepting myself is what it\u2019s all about.<\/p>\n<p>Tu, Dio, conosci il mio passato e la ragione di ogni battaglia che perdo e che vinco.<\/p>\n<p>E questa volta vincer\u00f2.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-53023\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/dear-god-dont-give-me-what-i-want-give-me-what-i-need-pinterest-724x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Caro Dio, non darmi quello che voglio - dammi quello di cui ho bisogno\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/dear-god-dont-give-me-what-i-want-give-me-what-i-need-pinterest-724x1024.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/dear-god-dont-give-me-what-i-want-give-me-what-i-need-pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/dear-god-dont-give-me-what-i-want-give-me-what-i-need-pinterest-768x1086.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/dear-god-dont-give-me-what-i-want-give-me-what-i-need-pinterest-1086x1536.jpg 1086w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/dear-god-dont-give-me-what-i-want-give-me-what-i-need-pinterest.jpg 1414w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dear God, I wanted a simple man. I was done with cheaters, the ones who think \u2018they can have every girl on this planet\u2019, with the shy guys who don\u2019t know how to speak to me and the ones who play off and on. I wanted someone who I could tell how my day went&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":53024,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29616],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-53022","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spirituality"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29616,"label":"spirituality"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/dear-god-dont-give-me-what-i-want-give-me-what-i-need.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29616,"name":"spirituality","slug":"spirituality","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29616,"taxonomy":"category","description":"If you feel like you need help staying in touch with your spirituality and higher self, this is where you'll find all the inspiration and strength you lack.","parent":38,"count":147,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29616,"category_count":147,"category_description":"If you feel like you need help staying in touch with your spirituality and higher self, this is where you'll find all the inspiration and strength you lack.","cat_name":"spirituality","category_nicename":"spirituality","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/53022","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=53022"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/53022\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/53024"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=53022"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=53022"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=53022"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}