{"id":53404,"date":"2020-02-22T11:43:02","date_gmt":"2020-02-22T11:43:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=53404"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:59:39","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:59:39","slug":"la-donna-tradita-deve-andare-avanti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/la-donna-tradita-deve-andare-avanti\/","title":{"rendered":"Quando una donna viene tradita, non ha altra scelta che andare avanti"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Ieri sera ho ricevuto un messaggio dal mio ex. Naturalmente era passata la mezzanotte e io stavo gi\u00e0 dormendo quando \u00e8 arrivato il messaggio.<\/p>\n<p>Probabilmente \u00e8 uscito, si \u00e8 ubriacato e le sue emozioni hanno preso il sopravvento. Ha pensato a ci\u00f2 che aveva un tempo e che ora ha perso. Ha pensato a noi.<\/p>\n<p>Pensava che avrei risposto subito e che avrei colto al volo l'occasione di parlargli e di dargli il calore di cui aveva avuto bisogno tante volte in passato.<\/p>\n<p>Drunk as he was, he imagined me running to his door and reassuring him with kind words, while I\u2019d watch him reach for my hand <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/se-ci-tenesse-davvero-a-te-si-comporterebbe-come-tale\/\">mentre fingeva di preoccuparsi<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Si aspettava da me onest\u00e0, attenzione e impegno dopo avermi umiliato. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>He was so confident that I\u2019d leave my pride in my bed that I woke up in this morning \u2013 just to give him all my understanding.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53407\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-support-her-husband-about-job.jpg\" alt=\"la donna sostiene il marito sul lavoro\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-support-her-husband-about-job.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-support-her-husband-about-job-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/woman-support-her-husband-about-job-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He actually thought I\u2019d beg him to tell me what\u2019s wrong?! I bet it was hilarious for him, picturing me believing every lie he told me as a reason and story behind every drink he took.<\/p>\n<p>Mi chiedo se abbia mai parlato di me a qualche ragazza con cui \u00e8 uscito, mentre sapeva che lo aspettavo fedelmente a casa.<\/p>\n<p><strong>If he only knew how many times I closed my eyes to the truth \u2013 how many times his phone rang with an unknown number where I wished I could answer it.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>Gli \u00e8 mai passato per la testa di confessare? <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Did he know that he\u2019d regret losing me as much as I regretted those nights that I turned a blind eye and made excuses for him? <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Sapeva che perdermi lo avrebbe ferito pi\u00f9 di ogni altra cosa?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s such a shame that he wasn\u2019t careful with my feelings. It\u2019s a shame he didn\u2019t keep me from harm.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 stata la sua sbadataggine a tradirlo. Nemmeno il mio amore \u00e8 riuscito a vedere oltre.<\/p>\n<p>I knew something wasn\u2019t right. I knew his words were pure lies.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53408\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/depressive-woman-sitting-on-bed.jpg\" alt=\"donna depressa seduta sul letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/depressive-woman-sitting-on-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/depressive-woman-sitting-on-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/depressive-woman-sitting-on-bed-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I could almost smell every one of his secrets. I could literally smell the perfume on his jacket that wasn\u2019t mine.<\/p>\n<p>I wish I can show him how worthless his message and his \u201cI miss you\u201d looks now.<\/p>\n<p>He is not a part of me anymore and neither is that black lace dress that he loved so much on me. I\u2019m wearing the yellow one now \u2013 the one I love on me.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t matter what he likes anymore. It\u2019s all about me now.<\/p>\n<p>Once upon a time, he mattered the most, he was my number one, but he tossed it away. There\u2019s no going back.<\/p>\n<p>Now, as I\u2019m looking at my phone and his late-night message, I\u2019m wondering what he is \u2013 strong or desperate?<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m eager to ask if he knows that his mens rea is late, just like his message.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-53409\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sleepless-woman-holding-phone-in-bed.jpg\" alt=\"donna insonne con il telefono in mano a letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sleepless-woman-holding-phone-in-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sleepless-woman-holding-phone-in-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/sleepless-woman-holding-phone-in-bed-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m certain that, whatever the future holds, it will show him how powerful feeling guilt is. It makes you crawl, beg, and cry for the one whose love you didn\u2019t know how to appreciate.<\/p>\n<p>But, I\u2019m a woman. I can get through anything \u2013 even when I\u2019m in pain, even when I have <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/self-love\/girl-power\/alla-ragazza-con-lanima-stanca-e-arrivato-il-momento-di-salvarti\/\">un'anima stanca<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>I know well what I\u2019m made of. I know I can do better than him. I know I <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/ti-meriti-di-piu-di-un-messaggio-di-merda\/\">meritare di pi\u00f9<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>I deserve more than his lies, selfish acts, mysterious phone calls he got, confessions he never made, another woman\u2019s perfume on his jacket, every secret he kept, the black lace dress, and late-night messages sent with a guilt-laced glass of wine. He can\u2019t get the best of me.<\/p>\n<p>So, I am strong enough to get up from my bed, type \u201cIt\u2019s too late,\u201d and move on with my life.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-53405\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on-pinterest-724x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Quando una donna viene tradita, non ha altra scelta che andare avanti\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on-pinterest-724x1024.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on-pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on-pinterest-768x1086.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on-pinterest-1086x1536.jpg 1086w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on-pinterest.jpg 1414w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Last night, I got a message from my ex. Of course, it was after midnight and I was already asleep when the message arrived. He probably went out and got drunk, and his emotions got the best of him. He thought about what he once had and now lost. He thought about us. He thought&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":53406,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-53404","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/once-a-woman-is-betrayed-she-has-no-other-choice-but-to-move-on.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/53404","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=53404"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/53404\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/53406"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=53404"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=53404"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=53404"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}