{"id":53658,"date":"2020-02-26T00:19:31","date_gmt":"2020-02-26T00:19:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=53658"},"modified":"2022-03-10T18:27:30","modified_gmt":"2022-03-10T18:27:30","slug":"errori-che-le-ragazze-commettono-durante-lassenza-di-contatto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/errori-che-le-ragazze-commettono-durante-lassenza-di-contatto\/","title":{"rendered":"8 stupidi errori che la maggior parte delle ragazze fa durante e dopo il periodo di non contatto"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sicuramente avrete gi\u00e0 sentito parlare del periodo di non contatto.<\/p>\n

In pratica, si tagliano i ponti con l'ex per 30 giorni (o, in casi pi\u00f9 radicali, per 3 mesi) dopo la rottura, per fargli sentire la tua assenza e fargli capire che gli manchi e che ti rivuole.<\/p>\n

Sembra perfetto, vero? Ma ci sono alcune cose che la maggior parte delle ragazze sbagliano durante e dopo questo periodo, ed eccone 8.<\/p>\n

Remember: It\u2019s up to you to learn from other people\u2019s mistakes and not repeat them.<\/p>\n

1. Far parlare di s\u00e9 con il proprio ex<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Say this out loud as many times as you need: This no contact period is not about my ex, it\u2019s about me.<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, uno dei suoi scopi potrebbe essere il tentativo di riprenderlo<\/span><\/a>Ma l'obiettivo principale \u00e8 quello di fare del mio meglio per guarire me stesso e sistemare il mio cuore spezzato.<\/p>\n

Purtroppo, non molte ragazze lo sanno. Cos\u00ec, invece di usare questi 30 giorni come un'occasione per rimettersi in piedi e cercare almeno di andare avanti con la loro vita, li fanno diventare tutti incentrati sui loro ex.<\/p>\n

Queste ragazze hanno letteralmente messo in pausa la loro vita e hanno trascorso l'intero periodo in attesa del suo ritorno.<\/p>\n

They focus so much on proving him a point and showing him that they can make it perfectly fine without him that they don\u2019t actually move an inch from the exact place he left them.<\/p>\n

So, what is the point of it all? If you do the no contact period this way, you haven\u2019t accomplished anything.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like you just spent another month unhappily dating this guy.<\/p>\n

2. Tagliare solo la comunicazione<\/h2>\n

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One of the most common mistakes almost every girl makes during the no contact period is understanding the words \u201cno contact\u201d too literally.<\/p>\n

You see, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should only stop texting, calling, or talking to this guy in person.<\/p>\n

In realt\u00e0, il no contact \u00e8 molto pi\u00f9 che tagliare le linee di comunicazione con il vostro ex.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not going to the places you know you might encounter him (not even just to look at him from a safe distance), not talking to your friends about him, not asking questions about his life.<\/p>\n

Soprattutto, non si tratta di un cyber-stalking o di chiedersi costantemente Gli manco durante l'assenza di contatto<\/a>?<\/em><\/p>\n

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S\u00ec, avete sentito bene. Se volete farlo nel modo giusto, non potete digitare il suo nome cento volte al giorno nella barra di ricerca.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t scroll through his stories, friends lists, photos, or status updates using a fake profile, and you can\u2019t spend nights rereading your old conversations.<\/p>\n

Because if you do so, you\u2019re just pretending that you\u2019re going no contact when in fact you\u2019re still obsessed with him.<\/p>\n

All of your effort is in vain if you kick this guy out of your life physically but don\u2019t try to do the same when it comes to your inner self.<\/p>\n

Se lui \u00e8 fuori dalla vostra vita, fate del vostro meglio per buttarlo fuori dalla vostra testa e dal vostro cuore anche in questo periodo e vedete cosa succede.<\/p>\n

3. Farlo ingelosire<\/h2>\n

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Il periodo di assenza di contatti non \u00e8 un'occasione per buttarsi in una nuova relazione.<\/p>\n

Of course, I\u2019m not saying that you\u2019re not allowed to start dating someone new, but you have to actually like this guy to start something with him.<\/p>\n

He shouldn\u2019t serve as a tool to Fai ingelosire il tuo ex<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Trust me when I tell you this: Rebound relationships never brought any good to anyone and they certainly won\u2019t help you repair your broken heart.<\/p>\n

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In fact, a situationship like this will only make you even more miserable. And that\u2019s the last thing you need at this point.<\/p>\n

Besides, you don\u2019t want to be the bad guy here and throw an innocent man directly into your personal drama.<\/p>\n

Nobody deserves to be a puppet you\u2019ll only take advantage of until you get what you want from your true love. That is not cool and it certainly isn\u2019t fair.<\/p>\n

Dopo tutto, se sperate di riconquistare il vostro ex dopo la fine di questo mese, sar\u00e0 molto pi\u00f9 difficile se lui si accorger\u00e0 che nel frattempo siete usciti con un'altra persona.<\/p>\n

Come pu\u00f2 fidarsi del vostro amore se siete riusciti a dimenticarlo e a innamorarvi di nuovo in questo breve periodo di tempo?<\/p>\n

4. Regredire alla persona che si era in passato<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Come ho gi\u00e0 detto, il periodo di non contatto \u00e8 (o almeno dovrebbe essere) tutto incentrato su di voi.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about turning yourself into the best possible woman you can become, working on yourself, and taking the time to reconsider your relationship and your overall dating and relationship behavior patterns.<\/p>\n

Pertanto, una delle cose peggiori che si possano fare \u00e8 tornare a essere se stessi nel momento in cui l'orologio segna la mezzanotte e il sole sorge il 31\u00b0 giorno.<\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not telling you to change yourself completely and become someone else during this month.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m just begging you not to repeat the same mistakes regarding your ex.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you. There is a possibility of this man non tornare<\/span><\/a> a voi.<\/p>\n

However, just because you managed to stay out of his life for an entire month, it doesn\u2019t mean you should stalk him after that period is over.<\/p>\n

5. Aspettarsi risultati immediati<\/h2>\n

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Another mistake most girls sadly fail to avoid lies in their lack of patience. You can\u2019t expect results right away, as much as you want them.<\/p>\n

No, you won\u2019t wake up the day after the no contact period is over and magically forget that your ex ever existed.<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t turn up uninvited, knocking on your door on the 31st day.<\/p>\n

Things simply don\u2019t work like that. However, just because miracles you hope for don\u2019t happen right away, it doesn\u2019t mean that results will never come.<\/p>\n

So, if you still feel like you can\u2019t live with this guy after this period is over, you can then try to reach out to him.<\/p>\n

Potete sforzarvi di instaurare un qualche tipo di comunicazione con lui o anche dirgli direttamente che volete un'altra possibilit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, tutto questo dovrebbe avvenire nel modo pi\u00f9 spontaneo possibile. Inoltre, \u00e8 un processo che richiede tempo.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t just call him out of the blue, asking to tornare insieme<\/span><\/a>A meno che non vogliate che vi veda come una completa pazza.<\/p>\n

RELATIVO: Il potere di allontanarsi da un uomo: Lasciategli vedere cosa ha perso<\/a><\/p>\n

6. Cadere nella disperazione<\/h2>\n

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Anche questa \u00e8 una cosa che fanno quasi tutte le ragazze dopo il periodo di assenza di contatto: cadere nella disperazione perch\u00e9 non \u00e8 successo nulla.<\/p>\n

Even if your ex doesn\u2019t contact you, even if he doesn\u2019t accept your attempts to get back into his life, it is non \u00e8 la fine del mondo<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

It is not a green light for you to get all depressed and convince yourself that you\u2019ll never find someone to love and who\u2019ll love you back.<\/p>\n

Non \u00e8 un segnale che vi faccia prendere il sopravvento sul dolore o che vi faccia rinunciare del tutto al vostro futuro sentimentale.<\/p>\n

Yes, the fact that he obviously doesn\u2019t want to get back together sucks. And it hurts like hell.<\/p>\n

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Therefore, you\u2019re allowed to grieve for some time. However, stop looking at it as the biggest disaster that could strike you.<\/p>\n

Instead, see it as a valuable lesson. There are times when you do everything right and play by the book yet still don\u2019t get the result you wanted.<\/p>\n

And that is all part of life. It\u2019s not fair, I know, but you\u2019ll just have to find a way to deal with it.<\/p>\n

Just remember that you made it without this guy for an entire month, so you\u2019ll without doubt succeed and keep on living without him from this day on.<\/p>\n

7. Ritorno alle questioni passate<\/h2>\n

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Tuttavia, se il periodo di non contatto funziona<\/a> out for the best and you manage to get your ex boyfriend back, don\u2019t ruin this second chance you two got by going back to your old problems.<\/p>\n

Of course, you shouldn\u2019t ignore them and expect them to solve themselves, but please, don\u2019t make it the centre of your relationship.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t see this reconciliation as a chance to nag this guy about every little thing he\u2019s ever done to you.<\/p>\n

La cosa migliore sarebbe che voi due poteste risolvere tutto all'inizio.<\/p>\n

Una volta che entrambi siete d'accordo sul fatto che potete e volete ricostruire il vostro rapporto, non ci saranno pi\u00f9 risentimenti e rancori.<\/p>\n

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Leave the past in the past, where it belongs, and don\u2019t let it ruin your present and future.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t change what happened, so why burden both you and your boyfriend with it?<\/p>\n

Otherwise, don\u2019t expect a different outcome than the last time.<\/p>\n

If you keep on bringing up the past instead of focusing on how to make things better this time round, you\u2019ll be just dragging both of you back into this endless circle of drama, and it\u2019ll be just a matter of time before you split ways once more.<\/p>\n

Ma questa volta sar\u00e0 per sempre.<\/p>\n

8. Rimanere amici<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

You still have strong romantic feelings about this guy, there\u2019s no doubt about that.<\/p>\n

Anche se Rimanere amici del proprio ex<\/span><\/a> is a great thing, it\u2019s simply not possible in this scenario.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t use friendship as an excuse to stay close to him.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t lead yourself on and waste more of your precious time, waiting for something that will never come.<\/p>\n

Besides, you shouldn\u2019t settle for crumbs of this man\u2019s love and attention when you very well know it that he can\u2019t give you his heart and the type of love you want from him.<\/p>\n

Why would you even think of torturing yourself and going through this charade, when it\u2019s painfully obvious that you\u2019ll just end up more heartbroken than before?<\/p>\n

Even if he asks you to be friends, don\u2019t pretend to be indifferent and accept his proposal.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry, there is absolutely nothing desperate in coming clean about your emotions and honestly telling this guy that you two can\u2019t be friends.<\/p>\n

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