{"id":5381,"date":"2020-06-20T10:01:55","date_gmt":"2020-06-20T10:01:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=5381"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:58:31","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:58:31","slug":"ogni-ragazza-che-lotta-contro-la-paura-di-essere-tradita","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ogni-ragazza-che-lotta-contro-la-paura-di-essere-tradita\/","title":{"rendered":"A tutte le ragazze che lottano con la paura di essere tradite"},"content":{"rendered":"

Non volete essere cos\u00ec appiccicosi e bisognosi e non volete essere gelosi. Non vuoi controllare il suo telefono.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to lie awake at night wondering with whom he is and what he\u2019s doing.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to be scared he might choose somebody else, that he might kiss another girl, and that potrebbe lasciarti<\/a> per qualcun altro.<\/p>\n

But you are. It didn\u2019t come out of the blue. Yes, there are people who are totally jealous from the beginning, but you weren\u2019t born such a person. However, you did become one, with time.<\/p>\n

But your jealousy doesn\u2019t come from your own insecurities. You don’t think you’re ugly or boring or anything like that. Your fear comes from the lack of trust you have in men.<\/p>\n

You want a normal relationship in which you\u2019ll be able to love without having anything holding you back.<\/p>\n

Vuoi fidarti del tuo uomo, ma c'\u00e8 sempre questa voce che continua a sussurrarti nelle orecchie ogni genere di cose.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re afraid history might repeat itself, aren\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

C'\u00e8 questa stupida voce nella vostra testa che continua a ricordarvi le volte in cui la vostra fiducia \u00e8 stata tradita.<\/p>\n

There is this voice that reminds you of all those times you cried yourself to sleep because somebody decided it\u2019s fine to cheat on somebody who loves them.<\/p>\n

This time it\u2019s a bit different. This time your fear is a bit more intense, isn\u2019t it? You\u2019re scared because you finally decided to let somebody in.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re scared because you decided to love again.<\/a> And now there is the voice whispering all those \u2018what if\u2019 kinds of questions into your ears.<\/p>\n

E se diventasse come quello o quelli precedenti?<\/em><\/p>\n

What if you\u2019re the one to blame for all those cheaters because you trusted them?<\/em><\/p>\n

E se si potesse fare qualcosa per impedire loro di imbrogliare?<\/em><\/p>\n

Beyonce.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Eva Longoria.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Principessa Diana.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

Yes, I am listing famous people that got cheated on. I\u2019m doing this to explain to you that it doesn\u2019t matter if you\u2019re one of the most powerful women out there\u2014if you\u2019re the most sensual, the most beautiful, or the kindest person that anyone could have in life\u2014it still doesn\u2019t change a thing.<\/p>\n

Se un uomo vuole tradire, nulla gli impedisce di farlo.<\/a><\/p>\n

\"Il<\/p>\n

If cheating is in his nature, there is nothing you can do about it. Controlling him\u2014 constantly calling, texting and stalking\u2014will only raise his game. If a cheater wants to cheat, he\u2019ll always find a way.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t go through life looking over your shoulder. You can\u2019t go through life sick of wondering if the guy you chose will choose you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll lose yourself, you\u2019ll lose your happiness, and you\u2019ll put your life on hold while you\u2019re directing your whole attention to one thing.<\/p>\n

So, I suggest that you\u2026<\/p>\n

Give your man the benefit of the doubt. It sounds impossible, but trust me, it\u2019s only impossible if you think it is.<\/p>\n

This \u2018impossible\u2019 may be observed as an option as well. And you can disregard that option if you please to do so.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Remind yourself that\u2026<\/p>\n

He chose you. He\u2019s with you. He\u2019s giving you all of him, and he loves you. He decided to spend his time with you.<\/p>\n

Ha deciso di darvi un posto nella sua vita. Ha fatto tutto bene. Perch\u00e9 dubitate ancora di lui?<\/p>\n

Your man doesn\u2019t deserve to get a hard time because of those who were there before him. He doesn\u2019t deserve to live the consequences of others. He isn\u2019t to blame for any of what happened to you.<\/p>\n

Learn to\u2026<\/p>\n

Trust your man. Trust he\u2019s the one. Trust his words if they are followed by his actions. If you don\u2019t want to do it for him, do it for yourself.<\/p>\n

Cut yourself some slack. You deserve to be happy. Don\u2019t make the path to your happiness harder than it has to be.<\/p>\n

Lasciate spazio al vostro uomo<\/a>\u2014if he\u2019s worth it, he\u2019ll show you where you stand with him.<\/p>\n

Shut down that voice in your head that’s telling you things will go bad. Things will end up great if you just give them a chance.<\/p>\n

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You don\u2019t really want to be so clingy and needy, and you don\u2019t want to be jealous. You don\u2019t want to check his phone. You don\u2019t want to lie awake at night wondering with whom he is and what he\u2019s doing. You don\u2019t want to be scared he might choose somebody else, that he might…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":91324,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29626],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5381","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-affair"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29626,"label":"affair"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/To-Every-Girl-Who\u2019s-Struggling-With-The-Fear-Of-Being-Cheated-On.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29626,"name":"affair","slug":"affair","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29626,"taxonomy":"category","description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","parent":29620,"count":132,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29626,"category_count":132,"category_description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","cat_name":"affair","category_nicename":"affair","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5381","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5381"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5381\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/91324"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5381"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5381"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5381"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}