{"id":54121,"date":"2020-07-04T14:46:02","date_gmt":"2020-07-04T14:46:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=54121"},"modified":"2021-08-11T09:19:53","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T09:19:53","slug":"10-modi-per-superare-la-cotta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/10-modi-per-superare-la-cotta\/","title":{"rendered":"Quanto dura una cotta? E 10 modi per superarla con successo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Infatuazione e vero amore sono due termini molto diversi.<\/p>\n

Infatuation (also known as a crush) usually lasts for around four months and it’s nothing but acts of projection and idealization.<\/p>\n

When someone develops intense feelings for someone they don’t really know, those feelings differ from romantic love as they’re based on romanticizing someone you don’t know.<\/p>\n

You’ve probably read on social media and various websites that a romantic crush generally lasts up to four months.<\/p>\n

Se dopo questo periodo di tempo la cotta si trasforma in una relazione a lungo termine, allora possiamo parlare di qualcosa di diverso dal puro fantasticare che assomigli a una relazione sana.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

A committed relationship isn’t based on a racing heart, sweaty palms and spending a ridiculous amount of time on a never-ending daydream about your best friend since high-school. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

That’s what experts would label a romantic crush.<\/p>\n

If you have a crush that so far hasn’t turned into a real-life love story and you’re desperate for it to go away since it clearly isn’t going to become anything real, you’re in the right place.<\/p>\n

In everyday life, it’s a perfectly normal occurrence to develop a crush on a person who has caught your eye.<\/p>\n

L'anno scorso ho avuto un'esperienza turbolenta con una cotta folle che mi ha richiesto molti mesi per riprendermi.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I kept waiting for him to realize that I was the right person and to tell me, ”I love you,” but all I got was a cold shoulder and having to Google ways to get over a crush that is ruining your life.<\/p>\n

I’m here to help you feel better about your unfortunate situation.<\/p>\n

Le cotte fanno parte di una sana esperienza umana e tutti le hanno!<\/p>\n

L'infatuazione a volte pu\u00f2 essere un vero e proprio b****.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

It turns your life upside down, makes you develop intense feelings about someone who doesn’t even notice you and ultimately breaks your heart.<\/p>\n

Fantasticare su persone irraggiungibili \u00e8 un fatto comune, non importa quanto si sia adulti.<\/p>\n

No one is immune to feelings and emotions but don\u2019t let it ruin your mental health though.<\/p>\n

Just because your infatuation doesn’t seem to be going anywhere, it doesn’t mean you need to go down the drain with it.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

La vita continua. <\/strong><\/em>Le cotte appassiscono e il vero amore finisce sempre per tornare da voi!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Here’s a step-by-step guide on getting over an intense crush and keeping your head sane!<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Come sapere se piaci di sicuro a un ragazzo: 12 segni che gli piaci davvero!<\/a><\/p>\n

Come superare una cotta intensa?<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Here, I’ll provide you with some personal experience that helped me get over a really intense crush that turned my life upside down last year.<\/p>\n

Credendo che potesse trasformarsi in amore romantico, ho reso la mia vita un inferno fantasticando su un ragazzo che a malapena riconosceva la mia esistenza.<\/p>\n

A long-term relationship is what everyone aspires to attain but on our journey through life, we’ll encounter crushes and feelings of deep infatuation that will take us for a spin and leave us forever changed.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 cos\u00ec che si atterra sui propri piedi e si pone fine all'idealizzazione di qualcuno con cui non si ha futuro.<\/p>\n

Cosa ti piace davvero di loro?<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Okay, so it’s clear that this person has caught your eye and you’ve developed intense feelings of infatuation toward them.<\/p>\n

But what is it that you actually find so appealing about them? Once you get yourself to look at your idealization from a rational perspective, you’ll see the actual chances of your crush becoming a real-life true love.<\/p>\n

When we fantasize about people, we don’t see them for who they really are but for who we picture them to be.<\/p>\n

So the connection you’ve created in your head is just that\u2014imaginary.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

If you have a crush, chances are it’s unlikely to turn into a real thing because there’s no basis for that relationship to work.<\/p>\n

If there was, you’d have done something about it already, don’t you think?<\/p>\n

Le cotte romantiche tendono ad avere la meglio su di noi, indipendentemente dalla nostra maturit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

But after the initial few months, you have to start seeing them for who they really are, which is how you realize that they’re just as flawed as any other human being.<\/p>\n

Trattatelo come la fine di una relazione<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Obviously, you didn’t actually date but this is one plausible way to get closure without ever having had a healthy relationship with them.<\/p>\n

Comportatevi come se aveste appena concluso una relazione a lungo termine con questa persona.<\/p>\n

Dopo tutto, voi fatto<\/em> trascorrere una quantit\u00e0 significativa di tempo investito emotivamente nella vostra cotta romantica.<\/p>\n

Quindi prendetevi il tempo necessario per superarlo.<\/p>\n

Come si riprende normalmente dopo una rottura?<\/p>\n

Fate shopping, guardate commedie romantiche, ascoltate i Coldplay?<\/p>\n

Qualsiasi cosa vi porti a questo punto, fatelo. Piangete a dirotto, parlate con i vostri migliori amici e sfogatevi.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Take the amount of time you’d normally need for an actual break-up, and heal at your own pace.<\/p>\n

Nessuno vi giudicher\u00e0.<\/p>\n

You’re entitled to your emotions and nobody can take that away from you.<\/p>\n

Infatuation is a tricky thing, especially if we convince our mind to cooperate into believing that it’s romantic love.<\/p>\n

Un consiglio: state alla larga dai suoi social media.<\/p>\n

If you want this crush to end, you don’t need to be reminded of how attractive he is on a daily basis.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Relazione di 3 mesi: 12 cambiamenti che devono avvenire (e 7 bandiere rosse)<\/a><\/p>\n

Mettete una distanza di qualit\u00e0 tra voi due<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

You’ll never get over your crush if you keep seeing them everywhere.<\/p>\n

Sometimes it can be hard to avoid certain people if you’re in the same social circle or attend the same classes.<\/p>\n

Ma quello che si pu\u00f2 fare \u00e8 sedersi il pi\u00f9 lontano possibile da loro e scegliere di non intraprendere alcun tipo di conversazione con loro.<\/p>\n

You can’t tell them where to go or what to do but you can affect where you go and what you do.<\/p>\n

Se sapete che frequentano un certo bar, cambiate scena.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Se sapete quale gruppo frequenta, evitatelo.<\/p>\n

Almeno per un po', per far passare la cotta. Inoltre, chi lo sa.<\/p>\n

Maybe if you distance yourself enough, you’ll see your crush turn into just somebody you used to know but don’t care about anymore.<\/p>\n

Where there’s a will, there’s a freaking way.<\/p>\n

Niente stalking sui social media<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I’ve already casually mentioned this but it bears repeating.<\/p>\n

In nessun caso vi \u00e8 permesso di perseguitare la vostra cotta sui social media.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 del tutto controproducente e vi render\u00e0 impossibile dimenticarlo.<\/p>\n

You don’t have to go so far as to delete them from all your social media accounts.<\/p>\n

Nasconderli va benissimo.<\/p>\n

Nascondete anche le loro storie di Instagram!<\/p>\n

That way, you won’t be privy to what they do every day and you’ll be able to go about your day uninterrupted.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 tutto nelle vostre mani.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Your idealization has got you this far and it’s up to you to make it stop and find the right person who’ll actually become part of your life.<\/p>\n

L'amore romantico \u00e8 molto meglio della pura infatuazione.<\/p>\n

Just imagine how fulfilling it’s going to be when you finally stumble upon a person who’ll reciprocate your feelings and won’t make you feel like your mental health is deteriorating.<\/p>\n

Il vero amore ne varr\u00e0 la pena. Basta aspettare.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Come ricominciare a uscire con gli amici: 15 consigli per tornare in gioco<\/a><\/p>\n

Nessun aggiornamento sulla loro vita<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

If your crush has lasted for more than a few months, it’s going to be a bit more challenging to get over them so it’s vital that you pay attention to every single step.<\/p>\n

E non si salta! Uno di questi passaggi \u00e8 l'azzeramento degli aggiornamenti sulla loro vita.<\/p>\n

Non chiedete di loro agli amici comuni.<\/p>\n

Don’t ask your best friends to find out whatever they can in secret and then inform you.<\/p>\n

Stop wanting to know what’s going on in their life if your end goal is to erase them from yours.<\/p>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

By constantly asking how they are, what they’re doing and who they’re seeing, you’re getting deeper into the intricate web of infatuation, which is precisely what you’ve been trying so hard to avoid.<\/p>\n

Amate voi stessi abbastanza da sapere quando \u00e8 abbastanza.<\/p>\n

They don’t love you, you don’t love them and if you got to know them on a deeper level, you’d probably see that there’s nothing there in the first place.<\/p>\n

Quindi smettete di preoccuparvi di come sono loro e iniziate a preoccuparvi di come volete essere voi.<\/p>\n

Siate sinceri con voi stessi<\/h2>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

Forse avete fatto una mossa e siete stati respinti.<\/p>\n

Maybe you never tried anything and it’s simply been too long and it’s time to move on.<\/p>\n

Qualunque sia la vostra realt\u00e0, accettatela e abbracciatela.<\/p>\n

You can deceive everyone around you but you can’t lie to yourself.<\/p>\n

If there was ever a chance for your crush to develop into something serious, you’d already have done something about it.<\/p>\n

And even if you got rejected, so what? You tried your best and it didn’t work out.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Tutto ci\u00f2 che si pu\u00f2 fare nella vita \u00e8 inseguire ci\u00f2 che si vuole, sapendo di aver dato il massimo.<\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 tutto ci\u00f2 che ognuno pu\u00f2 fare.<\/p>\n

And now it’s time to admit defeat and turn over a new leaf.<\/p>\n

Il vostro vero amore \u00e8 l\u00e0 fuori da qualche parte e si sta chiedendo la stessa cosa che vi state chiedendo voi.<\/p>\n

Don’t you want to know what awaits you? Aren’t you the least bit curious to see what else is out there?<\/p>\n

Il mondo \u00e8 vostro e potete prenderlo.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Fate un salto nel buio ed esplorate ci\u00f2 che ha da offrire.<\/p>\n

Crushes come and go but when real romantic love finds you, it’ll make you feel everything your crush never could and then some.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: L'elenco definitivo degli obiettivi di coppia per le relazioni pi\u00f9 felici<\/a><\/p>\n

Sappiate che per un po' far\u00e0 schifo<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

But that’s okay. As long as you’re ready to truly heal, you’re ready to go through the motions.<\/p>\n

Sapete che le rotture possono fare schifo, vero? Beh, questo \u00e8 simile.<\/p>\n

You’re mourning over something that never was but could’ve been something real.<\/p>\n

Now that you’re counting your losses, it’s important that this horrible feeling doesn’t discourage you from falling in love ever again.<\/p>\n

Ogni volta che si supera qualcosa, si diventa un po' pi\u00f9 forti e pi\u00f9 attrezzati per affrontare la cosa successiva.<\/p>\n

While you’re suffering, remind yourself of all your past heartbreaks and how you got over every single one of them, even though you were sure that you wouldn’t be able to.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Nei momenti di grande dolore \u00e8 quando vediamo la nostra vera forza.<\/p>\n

And right now, you’re not aware of how capable you really are.<\/p>\n

In a few weeks you’ll be looking at this with a smile on your face, knowing how foolish it was to think you couldn’t do this.<\/p>\n

Potete fare qualsiasi cosa vi prefiggete e non smettete mai di dimostrarlo a voi stessi.<\/p>\n

Uscire e incontrare nuove persone<\/h2>\n

\"amici<\/p>\n

Bonus points if those people are in no way connected to your crush! I’m not suggesting that you jump right back into a new intense crush.<\/p>\n

All I’m saying is that the best way to get over something is by surrounding yourself with good people.<\/p>\n

Non dimenticate mai i vostri vecchi amici, ma cercate sempre di conoscere facce nuove.<\/p>\n

Non si sa mai chi si pu\u00f2 incontrare.<\/p>\n

People need people; that\u2019s a fact.<\/p>\n

And by giving new faces a chance to prove their worth, you’re opening up your heart and discovering new depths of your ability to love.<\/p>\n

\"due<\/p>\n

E sapete cos'altro significa?<\/p>\n

Less time for you to dwell on your crush! That’s right.<\/p>\n

You won’t even realize thi, but once you start mingling and having fun, it’ll just dawn on you that it has been a few straight hours without them entering your mind.<\/p>\n

And that’s how you heal and move forward.<\/p>\n

Non ci si pu\u00f2 sedere in casa a rimuginare su qualcosa che non \u00e8 mai stato, ma ci si pu\u00f2 rialzare e scegliere la vita invece dell'infelicit\u00e0!<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Dovrei bloccare il mio ex? Queste 10 realizzazioni vi aiuteranno a decidere<\/a><\/p>\n

Trovare nuovi hobby appaganti<\/h2>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

For me, it’s the gym.<\/p>\n

I can’t even tell you how much it saved my soul and preserved my sanity.<\/p>\n

Nei momenti di difficolt\u00e0 mi rivolgo alla palestra.<\/p>\n

Mi aiuta a sfogarmi e a preoccuparmi di qualcosa di sano, dandomi forza sia mentale che fisica!<\/p>\n

It’s beyond helpful for dealing with any type of stress and I cannot recommend it enough.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if it’s really not your thing, no worries, there are plenty of amazing hobbies you can choose from that will successfully distract you from real life.<\/p>\n

\"due<\/p>\n

If you’re into sports, join a team! If you love to sing, join a choir! If you’re into artistic things, explore your options there.<\/p>\n

Le possibilit\u00e0 sono tantissime e aspettano solo di essere scoperte!<\/p>\n

Don’t be too lazy to get up off your booty and find your passion.<\/p>\n

Once you get going, you won’t be able to stop.<\/p>\n

Vi rende proattivi, vi distrae dai vostri problemi e vi aiuta a conoscere nuove persone.<\/p>\n

Tante vittorie, quindi cosa state aspettando?<\/p>\n

Flirtare per ottenere un nuovo interesse romantico<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Once you’ve taken all the aforementioned steps, you’ll finally be ready to get back into the dating scene and get your flirt on!<\/p>\n

\u00c8 chiaro che questo \u00e8 l'ultimo dei passi necessari per una vera chiusura che vi permetter\u00e0 di ritrovare pi\u00f9 facilmente voi stessi.<\/p>\n

Now that you’ve gained back your confidence and preoccupied yourself with new proactive things, it’s time to give your ego a necessary boost.<\/p>\n

Remind yourself that you’re a catch.<\/p>\n

\"migliori<\/p>\n

Prendete il vostro migliore amico e uscite con lo scopo di flirtare spudoratamente con ogni sconosciuto sexy che incontrate.<\/p>\n

It’ll give you that push in the right direction and help you see that there is so much potential out there!<\/p>\n

Some innocent flirting is the best cure for a broken heart and it doesn’t have to amount to anything unless you want it to.<\/p>\n

So, if you’re ready and willing, I think it’s time to put your dancing shoes back on and go get yourself back to the old you!<\/p>\n

Where There’s A Will…<\/h2>\n

There’s most certainly a way!<\/p>\n

L'infatuazione non \u00e8 una cosa da prendere alla leggera, perch\u00e9 a volte mette in crisi le emozioni di una vera relazione.<\/p>\n

But if you’re adamant to get yourself out of your spunk, you’re sure able to heal as if it never happened in the first place.<\/p>\n

Tutto ci\u00f2 che serve \u00e8 un po' di volont\u00e0 e un po' di impegno.<\/p>\n

\"ritratto<\/p>\n

Nobody said it was easy (just ask Coldplay) but it doesn’t mean that it’s not worth it.<\/p>\n

Everything that’s valuable and precious in life comes at a certain cost.<\/p>\n

Sometimes you’ll end up broken-hearted but it’ll teach you a lot of lessons and make you that much stronger.<\/p>\n

When you catch intense feelings for someone, there’s no other way than fighting right through them.<\/p>\n

And when you get to the finish line, you’ll see just how strong, capable and fabulous you are.<\/p>\n

Don’t believe me? Just watch.<\/p>\n

In a few short weeks, you’ll be a new person and your crush will be nothing but a thing of the past.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Cosa amo di te: Un elenco di 100 motivi per cui ti amo<\/a><\/p>\n

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