{"id":54635,"date":"2020-03-12T15:53:20","date_gmt":"2020-03-12T15:53:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=54635"},"modified":"2022-01-10T20:59:15","modified_gmt":"2022-01-10T20:59:15","slug":"differenze-tra-premuroso-e-appiccicoso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/differenze-tra-premuroso-e-appiccicoso\/","title":{"rendered":"5 differenze cruciali tra il comportamento premuroso e quello appiccicoso"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nel incontri moderni<\/span><\/a> mondo, uno dei peggiori comportamenti che si possono mostrare in una relazione sentimentale \u00e8 quello di essere appiccicosi.<\/p>\n

L'ultima cosa che volete \u00e8 che il vostro interlocutore vi percepisca come troppo bisognosi e disperatamente innamorati di lui.<\/p>\n

Anche se queste non sono qualit\u00e0 desiderabili per una fidanzata, il fatto \u00e8 che oggi molte persone confondono la cura con un comportamento appiccicoso.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, ci sono alcune differenze fondamentali tra i due, e qui ne elenchiamo cinque.<\/p>\n

1. Troppo attaccati subito, invece di lasciare che le cose seguano il loro corso<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

La prima differenza tra l'essere troppo appiccicosi e il prendersi cura del proprio uomo risiede nella quantit\u00e0 di attaccamento emotivo<\/span><\/a> verso di lui e soprattutto nel tempo necessario per affezionarsi a lui.<\/p>\n

Even though you believe in romantic things such as love at first sight, it doesn\u2019t mean that it is okay to obsess over this guy from day one.<\/p>\n

And this is exactly a basic characteristic of a needy and clingy girlfriend\u2014she starts acting like she and her new boyfriend are in a long-term, committed relationship from the very beginning, which scares most men away.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not just that these girls want to make things official right away, they insist on seeing their boyfriend every day, on meeting one another\u2019s families and becoming a part of his life from the very start.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014these girls tend to plan too far ahead.<\/p>\n

They talk about marriage and their future together long before the guy they\u2019re dating even decides whether they\u2019re relationship material.<\/p>\n

\"famiglia<\/p>\n

You know who I\u2019m talking about\u2014the type of girls who have their kids\u2019 names all figured out after the first date. Scary, right?<\/p>\n

Well, clinginess is even more than this. You display clingy behavior if you say, \u201cI love you,\u201d too soon and if you behave like you can\u2019t imagine living without your boyfriend even though you two have just been dating a short while.<\/p>\n

To put things simply\u2014you can\u2019t act like his wife if you have been dating for a few weeks or even months.<\/p>\n

D'altra parte, una fidanzata premurosa lascer\u00e0 che le cose seguano il loro corso naturale, per quanto sia interessata a un ragazzo.<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t push him into something he\u2019s not ready for just to heal your insecurities and you won\u2019t force him to take your relationship to a new level unless he wants to do so himself.<\/p>\n

Treating your boyfriend and your relationship like this doesn\u2019t mean you don\u2019t give a damn about him or it; it is actually a sign that you care for this guy enough to have enough respect for his boundaries.<\/p>\n

2. Avere una vita propria e non essere parte della sua.<\/h2>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

When you are a part of a couple, it is natural for your and your boyfriend\u2019s lives to become intertwined to a certain extent.<\/p>\n

However, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should cease to exist as an individual person just because you\u2019re his girlfriend now.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s okay for you to completely disregard everyone and everything around you, including your career and daily habits, just to adjust to him and his needs.<\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 esattamente uno degli esempi di comportamento appiccicoso<\/span><\/a>\u2014ditching your life and fully focusing on your boyfriend\u2019s.<\/p>\n

It is killing the person you were before you met your boyfriend; losing all of your friends and doing your best to become a part of his crowd, forgetting about all of your hobbies and interests and becoming a female clone of the man you\u2019re dating.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

No, he won\u2019t like you more if you start behaving like this. Instead, you\u2019ll annoy him and he\u2019ll start seeing you as a creep who is trying to take over his life and personality.<\/p>\n

La verit\u00e0 potrebbe essere che le persone simili sono quelle pi\u00f9 compatibili.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, this doesn\u2019t mean you should change the essence of who you are and pretend to be someone else just for this man to like you more.<\/p>\n

Nonostante la durata e il livello di impegno della vostra relazione, ricordate di avere sempre una vita vostra al di fuori di essa.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to blindly follow your boyfriend around because you\u2019re not his accessory, you\u2019re a human being on your own and you should never forget to act like one.<\/p>\n

\"bella<\/p>\n

Your friends and family are all yours and you shouldn\u2019t even think about ditching them if, for example, your BF doesn\u2019t get along well with them.<\/p>\n

Keep your tastes in music, movies and other things and don\u2019t let this relationship change you all the way.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014keep your real self! Trust me\u2014every guy prefers being with a woman who stayed true to the person he fell in love with over a girl he can mold as he pleases.<\/p>\n

Besides, if you care for your boyfriend, you\u2019ll give him enough space to breathe. It doesn\u2019t mean that he doesn\u2019t love you enough just because he needs some time off or because he wants to hang out with his guy friends without you present.<\/p>\n

3. Perseguitarlo o controllarlo<\/h2>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

Anche se alcuni non lo vedono, c'\u00e8 un'enorme differenza tra seguire il partner romantico e controllarlo, tra seguirlo e prendersi cura di lui.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, molte ragazze confondono le due cose e spesso scacciare i loro fidanzati<\/span><\/a> alitando continuamente sul loro collo.<\/p>\n

Chiedetevi perch\u00e9 chiamate e mandate messaggi a quest'uomo per la maggior parte del tempo.<\/p>\n

Are you genuinely interested in whether he\u2019s tired and how he\u2019s been doing or are you using this as a pretext to check on who he is spending his time with?<\/p>\n

Do you care about whether he\u2019s eaten or slept well or do you just want to make sure he hasn\u2019t been hanging out with some girls after work?<\/p>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

Are you concerned about your man\u2019s well-being or are you trying to keep up with his every move just to prevent him from walking too far away from you?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry\u2014no mature guy will accuse you of being too needy if you show true care for him.<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t feel like you\u2019re suffocating him when you show that you worry about him and that you want him to be okay.<\/p>\n

However, if your intentions are different and if you couldn\u2019t care less about what\u2019s going on with him as long as he\u2019s not cheating, he\u2019ll see right through you and he will think of you as a possessive lunatic who is limiting his freedom.<\/p>\n

4. Amarlo e non temere di perderlo<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Un'altra differenza fondamentale tra il comportamento appiccicoso e quello premuroso \u00e8 la differenza tra amare veramente il partner e avere paura di perderlo.<\/p>\n

At first glance, you might think these two concepts are the same thing but they\u2019re actually not.<\/p>\n

Yes, when you love someone with all of your heart and soul, it is completely natural that you don\u2019t want to live without them.<\/p>\n

However, when it comes to true love, the most important thing for you is this person\u2019s happiness.<\/p>\n

Therefore, when you deeply care for a guy, you just want him to be okay and satisfied with his life, even if that doesn\u2019t include you.<\/p>\n

Your emotions are completely selfless and you want what\u2019s best for this man, with or without you.<\/p>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

On the other hand, when you\u2019re appiccicoso<\/span><\/a>Tutti i vostri sforzi sono volti a tenerlo vicino a voi.<\/p>\n

You are ready to do whatever it takes for him to never leave your side and you don\u2019t care whether that\u2019s what he truly wants.<\/p>\n

Le vostre insicurezze hanno la meglio su di voi e tutto ci\u00f2 che fate per questo ragazzo \u00e8 il risultato delle vostre paure.<\/p>\n

You hold on to him so tightly that you end up pushing him away from you, which is, ironically, what you\u2019ve been trying to avoid all along.<\/p>\n

5. Desiderio di essere gentili vs. acquisizione di potere<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Quando si \u00e8 premurosi, si vuole solo essere gentili.<\/p>\n

Of course, you expect some kind of appreciation and respect for all of your sacrifices and you feel offended if the other party doesn\u2019t match your efforts but that\u2019s about it.<\/p>\n

However, clingy people don\u2019t do anything from the bottom of their hearts. Instead, they demand gratitude and do their partner favors just to gain power over them.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re clingy<\/a>, you\u2019ll always look for ways to help out your boyfriend, just so you could be superior over him.<\/p>\n

In this scenario, he is the one who needs to constantly thank you and the one who needs to pay you back for everything you\u2019ve given him.<\/p>\n

And to be honest, that is exactly what you wanted to achieve all along. You wanted a chance to rub your kindness in his face every time he doesn\u2019t behave the way you want him to.<\/p>\n

Moreover, you\u2019re using all of these favors as a form of ricatto emotivo<\/span><\/a>. You play on this guy\u2019s conscience and you know that he won\u2019t leave you, due to everything you do for him.<\/p>\n

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