{"id":55111,"date":"2020-03-17T12:29:40","date_gmt":"2020-03-17T12:29:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55111"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:49:59","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:49:59","slug":"le-donne-ferite-hanno-difficolta-a-relazionarsi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/le-donne-ferite-hanno-difficolta-a-relazionarsi\/","title":{"rendered":"Ecco perch\u00e9 le donne ferite hanno difficolt\u00e0 a stabilire un legame con qualcuno dopo un abuso"},"content":{"rendered":"

Se sei una donna che ha subito qualsiasi tipo di abuso, voglio applaudirti per il tuo coraggio e per non esserti mai arresa.<\/p>\n

Hai guardato in faccia la paura, hai affrontato il dolore e hai continuato a farlo ogni singolo giorno della tua vita.<\/p>\n

When it happens once, it\u2019s never really over. You need to reinvent yourself.<\/p>\n

Ritrovare chi si \u00e8 e vivere questo processo solo con fede cieca e dando alla vita un'altra possibilit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re a silent heroine. And your superpower is that you\u2019re unbreakable<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

After everything you\u2019ve been through, you\u2019re standing strong, examining your pain and vulnerability, and turning them into strength and wisdom.<\/p>\n

Voglio ricordarvi di dedicarvi sempre del tempo e di mettervi come priorit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

With that in mind, here are some things explaining why it is so hard to make connections \u2013 let alone romantic connections \u2013 after abuse, that you might relate to.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not sure who you are anymore<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Dopo l'abuso, la vittima viene lasciata priva del senso di s\u00e9.<\/p>\n

After manipulation, gaslighting, blackmailing, and conditioning, you\u2019re left with always second-guessing your thoughts and decisions.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not sure which part of you is real anymore.<\/p>\n

Il vostro abusatore voleva che vi sentiste persi, spaventati e soli per potervi controllare.<\/p>\n

And now you\u2019re left in that mess, not knowing how to start improving your self-confidence.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re left thinking you\u2019re crazy. Everything you\u2019d said was always “overreacting” or “irrational.”<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

E poi si \u00e8 rivelato vero, ma sempre dopo aver creduto di aver reagito in modo eccessivo e irrazionale.<\/p>\n

Dear women, you\u2019re allowed to take life in your own hands and write your own story.<\/p>\n

Potete tornare a essere quello che eravate prima o quello che avete sempre voluto diventare.<\/p>\n

The great strength lies in every one of you. If that wasn\u2019t true, you wouldn\u2019t be reading this!<\/p>\n

Avete bisogno di tempo per riconquistare la fiducia<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Every lie is poison and there have been so many lies told to you. And some of them you\u2019ve even continued to say to yourself.<\/p>\n

After breaking an abuser\u2019s power over you, you might have realized you spent so much time (months, years, half of your life!) believing something that was never real.<\/p>\n

E questo ha avuto un forte impatto sulla capacit\u00e0 di fidarsi, sulla salute mentale e sull'essere in generale.<\/p>\n

You need time to start trusting people again and that\u2019s perfectly normal.<\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t force anything or pursue something you\u2019re not comfortable with. You can heal, you just need time.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re scared of being hurt again<\/h2>\n

\"Donne<\/p>\n

Dopo un abuso, \u00e8 necessario ridisegnare i propri confini.<\/p>\n

With re-drawing boundaries \u2013 placing your own limits \u2013 you start seeing which people you want in your life and which people you\u2019re better off without.<\/p>\n

Chi supera i limiti non \u00e8 necessario nella vostra vita.<\/p>\n

Ci\u00f2 di cui avete bisogno sono confini sani, stabiliti attraverso una comunicazione significativa che mostri compassione e comprensione.<\/p>\n

Tutto ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 meno di questo ti fa temere di essere ferito di nuovo.<\/p>\n

Avete bisogno di tempo da soli<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

If you can\u2019t connect, maybe it\u2019s not time to connect. Maybe you need to connect with yourself again.<\/p>\n

Forse dovete riconoscere i vostri bisogni e assumerli come vostra responsabilit\u00e0.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ci\u00f2 significa che potreste essere soli, ma non solitari. A volte basta essere il migliore amico di se stessi.<\/p>\n

Permettete a voi stessi di essere qualsiasi cosa abbiate bisogno di essere in quel momento.<\/p>\n

You can be angry, sad, overwhelmed. Let yourself feel everything and then forgive yourself for all the times you\u2019ve been hard on yourself.<\/p>\n

Release any shame, guilt, or thinking that everything that happened was somehow your fault. It wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t feel understood<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Non tutti hanno vissuto quello che avete vissuto voi. Alcuni, per fortuna, non ne hanno idea.<\/p>\n

E questo a volte ti fa sentire come se nessuno potesse capirti.<\/p>\n

Not many people are vocal about their abuse and it\u2019s not the first thing they will talk about.<\/p>\n

It could be the same case with you. It\u2019s not unusual to feel like you don\u2019t belong.<\/p>\n

Building new friendships and relationships means investing a lot of time, strength, will, and emotions. And it\u2019s hard if you\u2019re a survivor.<\/p>\n

Il rapporto con l'abusante \u00e8 complicato<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Si tende a pensare che i maltrattanti siano persone che le vittime possono eliminare una volta per tutte.<\/p>\n

But what if he\u2019s the father of your child, your work college, your family member, or just a person you used to care about a lot?<\/p>\n

Feelings are not an on-and-off thing. We can\u2019t just stop loving someone in a day, even if it\u2019s an abuser.<\/p>\n

It is possible to love someone and realize that they aren\u2019t a safe person to be around.<\/p>\n

But it\u2019s also possible to learn through painful experiences and love again.<\/p>\n

Ricordate che meritate di essere sempre al sicuro, rispettati e amati.<\/p>\n

\"Ecco<\/p>\n

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If you\u2019re a woman who\u2019s suffered any type of abuse, I want to applaud you for your courage and never giving up. You looked fear in the face, pushed through the pain and you continued to do that every single day of your life. When it happens once, it\u2019s never really over. You need to…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":55119,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-55111","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/This-Is-Why-Hurt-Women-Have-A-Hard-Time-Connecting-With-Someone-After-Abuse.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55111","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=55111"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55111\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/55119"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=55111"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=55111"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=55111"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}