{"id":55256,"date":"2020-03-18T21:34:29","date_gmt":"2020-03-18T21:34:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55256"},"modified":"2021-11-03T15:18:22","modified_gmt":"2021-11-03T15:18:22","slug":"segni-di-unamicizia-unilaterale","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/segni-di-unamicizia-unilaterale\/","title":{"rendered":"12 segni di un'amicizia unilaterale e come affrontarla"},"content":{"rendered":"

Un buon amico \u00e8 difficile da trovare e ancor pi\u00f9 da mantenere.<\/p>\n

And to be honest, I don’t know a single individual who hasn’t had a hard time with toxic friendships or amicizie a distanza<\/a> e si chiede come affrontarli.<\/p>\n

Le amicizie unilaterali sono le peggiori, vero?<\/p>\n

You’re so sure that you’ve got a good friend by your side who knows how to make you feel good about yourself and the amount of time you spend together is truly a sign of a real friendship.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Voglio dire, chi passa cinque giorni alla settimana con l'altro senza annoiarsi? Solo i migliori amici possono fare questo e sentirsi ancora mancare!<\/p>\n

But when difficult times arise and you don’t have as much time for a decent social life, you start seeing a lot of people for who they truly are.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Le amicizie squilibrate cominciano a diventare evidenti e i veri amici diventano una rarit\u00e0.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you pay attention to the red flags you’d love to be able to ignore (but shouldn’t!) you see bad friends from good friends.<\/p>\n

You see who’s able to get together last-minute because they miss you and who starts having less and less time for a healthy friendship that you seek.<\/p>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Le amicizie sono una strada a doppio senso! Dovrebbero aumentare la vostra autostima, aiutarvi nel vostro viaggio verso l'amore per voi stessi ed esservi accanto dal liceo fino all'ultimo respiro.<\/p>\n

But that’s easier said than done. Even people with whom we have forged the strongest bonds tend to disappear on us during our difficult times.<\/p>\n

Le persone pi\u00f9 vicine tendono a diventare semplici estranei, come se non aveste mai condiviso la vostra vita insieme.<\/p>\n

Una delle cose pi\u00f9 strazianti al mondo \u00e8 vedere qualcuno che significava il mondo per voi diventare freddo o distaccato.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Amici falsi e amici veri: 12 modi per riconoscere i falsi<\/a><\/p>\n

Segni di un'amicizia unilaterale<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Le amicizie unilaterali di solito diventano tali a causa di nuovi amici con cui si inizia a passare pi\u00f9 tempo, al fine di trovare un amico migliore di te.<\/p>\n

Postare sui social media foto di nuove avventure con persone appena conosciute, lasciandosi completamente alle spalle, diventa la nuova norma.<\/p>\n

Le amicizie unilaterali tendono a farvi sentire soli, non ascoltati, non importanti e non amabili.<\/p>\n

Mettono a repentaglio la vostra salute mentale e vi rendono difficile affrontare i compiti pi\u00f9 semplici.<\/p>\n

Non si fa altro che pensare a quello che \u00e8 successo. Dov'\u00e8 finito il vostro buon amico e come \u00e8 diventato tutto cos\u00ec complicato?<\/p>\n

Are their new friends really there to replace the bond you’ve shared for so long or are there other factors playing a role?<\/p>\n

\"amiche<\/p>\n

Here, I’ll delve deeper into the intricacies of one-sided friendships and help you gain a better understanding of your issues in order to help you find a solution. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Perhaps your problem can be salvaged and the toxic friendship that has started messing with your mental health isn’t as one-sided as it seems.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I veri amici valgono sempre il disturbo.<\/p>\n

Let’s find out if your unbalanced friendship has any characteristics of a one-sided friendship and if there’s a way to move forward to a healthier place with your once good friend.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: 10 verit\u00e0 sul perch\u00e9 le persone parlano alle spalle (e come affrontarle)<\/a><\/p>\n

1. Chiamano solo quando gli fa comodo<\/h2>\n

\"amiche<\/p>\n

Un segno importante di un'amicizia unilaterale \u00e8 quando il vostro amico chiama solo quando ha bisogno di qualcosa da voi.<\/p>\n

Prestate attenzione a questo aspetto perch\u00e9 vi dir\u00e0 molto. Le amicizie tossiche sono caratterizzate dalla mancanza di interesse e dal chiamare solo quando si ha bisogno di un favore.<\/p>\n

A volte, in ogni buona amicizia, arriva un momento in cui un amico attraversa un periodo di difficolt\u00e0 che si manifesta chiamando e appoggiandosi a voi molto pi\u00f9 spesso del solito.<\/p>\n

And that’s a major difference from a one-sided friendship.<\/p>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

When this is the norm and you never get called by them unless it’s for their own selfish purposes, you know you’re in a toxic friendship.<\/p>\n

A good friend makes sure to call and check in on you no matter what they’re going through.<\/p>\n

Recognize this toxic pattern and don’t let them give you a hard time if they never make an effort around you apart from when they have an agenda.<\/p>\n

2. They don’t respect your time<\/h2>\n

\"amiche<\/p>\n

I buoni amici danno valore al vostro tempo. Si assicurano di rispettare i vostri programmi e di presentarsi in orario.<\/p>\n

When you have plans to get together, they don’t show up last minute or even worse, hours late, because they respect you as a person and know your time is valuable.<\/p>\n

Bad friends, on the other hand, don’t give a rat’s ass about your time.<\/p>\n

Si presentano quando vogliono e se avete un problema con il loro ritardo, lo ignorano.<\/p>\n

La vostra vita sociale \u00e8 diventata un disastro perch\u00e9 non potete mai contare sul fatto che i vostri amici si presentino in orario, se non addirittura in tempo!<\/p>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

Le amicizie squilibrate iniziano proprio cos\u00ec.<\/p>\n

A complete disregard of one’s time, not caring to show up at a designated hour and making difficult times that much more difficult.<\/p>\n

They just don’t care that real friendships are a two-way street.<\/p>\n

Quando trovano un amico migliore, passano meno tempo a preoccuparsi di voi e pi\u00f9 tempo con il loro nuovo migliore amico.<\/p>\n

3. Ti lasciano a malapena parlare<\/h2>\n

\"amiche<\/p>\n

Lately, you’ve been feeling muzzled around them. Whether in a group of friends or just the two of you, it’s always their turn to speak.<\/p>\n

Una persona che prima era una buona amica per voi ha iniziato a chiudervi in pi\u00f9 di un modo.<\/p>\n

You’re having a hard time getting your voice heard and you don’t really know how to deal with that.<\/p>\n

Do you let them know you’ve been feeling left out? Do you express your worries or do you silently hope for a better turn of events?<\/p>\n

I can’t speak about your particular situation but I do know a little bit about one-sided friendships and this issue.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

When you’re being denied your voice and made feel unheard, you speak up and you fight for your place in your friendship. Never let toxic friendships win.<\/p>\n

Se questa persona vuole farvi sentire indegni di avere un'opinione, mostratele quanto potete essere forti e orgogliosi.<\/p>\n

It can result in them realizing the error of their ways or in you realizing that they’ve never truly appreciated you. Either way, it’s a win for you.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Bellezza interiore: Cosa significa realmente e 7 modi per raggiungerla<\/a><\/p>\n

4. They don’t listen to you either<\/h2>\n

\"amici<\/p>\n

Un vero amico \u00e8 un buon ascoltatore. Le vere amicizie prosperano grazie a una comunicazione buona e onesta e alla trasparenza.<\/p>\n

Ma in un'amicizia unilaterale, un amico non si preoccupa mai di ascoltare davvero.<\/p>\n

They pretend to hear what you’re saying but they’re really just waiting for their turn to talk.<\/p>\n

Even when you do get to speak (which is rare, as mentioned above) it’s as if you’re talking to a wall.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

There’s no rapport between you anymore. Even if they’ve always been a chatterbox and you not so much, that still doesn’t give them the right to be so cold.<\/p>\n

Un buon amico vi far\u00e0 sempre sentire ascoltati e compresi.<\/p>\n

When you’re having a hard time being heard by someone you used to consider one of your best friends, ask yourself what went wrong.<\/p>\n

Why are they icing you out like this? There’s no point sticking around with someone who keeps giving you the cold shoulder.<\/p>\n

5. They keep \u2018borrowing\u2019 your belongings<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Friends borrow things from each other, that’s a given. I’ve lent things to my best friends millions of times and vice versa.<\/p>\n

Ma in un'amicizia unilaterale, \u00e8 raro che si riceva indietro la propria roba. E ci si sente anche un po' in colpa a chiederle indietro.<\/p>\n

How many times has your friend borrowed something and then accidentally forgotten to give it back?  Pay attention to this as it’s a huge red flag.<\/p>\n

Sapete meglio di chiunque altro cosa lasciate in prestito ai vostri amici e quanto spesso vi lasciano in prestito qualcosa di loro.<\/p>\n

It’s only fair that you get to borrow something from them if you keep letting them wear your stuff. But does it happen?<\/p>\n

Quando \u00e8 stata l'ultima volta che avete preso in prestito qualcosa da questo amico? Pensateci.<\/p>\n

It needs to go both ways or it’s nothing but a one-sided friendship where you keep getting used.<\/p>\n

6. They’re deeply ungrateful<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Real friends never take each other for granted! Being grateful in a friendship is a must and you should never feel like you’re being used or taken advantage of.<\/p>\n

But in a one-sided friendship, you never hear, ”Thank you.”<\/p>\n

Your efforts are never appreciated and it’s as if they keep expecting your kindness without ever reciprocating being appreciative.<\/p>\n

It doesn’t even have to be anything big but if you keep paying for drinks or if you’re always the one hosting your get-togethers, you never hear a word out of them.<\/p>\n

It is expected that you’ll be at their beck and call and anytime you suggest someone else take your place, they make you feel guilty about it, as if hosting them should be some kind of privilege.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

It’s important to be thankful at all times. What would your family members say if they knew how you were being treated?<\/p>\n

Pensate a vostra madre e a quanto sarebbe delusa se sapesse che lasciate che le persone diano per scontata la vostra gentilezza.<\/p>\n

Lei vi ha cresciuti per essere migliori di cos\u00ec, quindi smettete di offrire il vostro meglio a qualcuno che continua a mostrarvi il suo peggio e chiudete la porta alle amicizie unilaterali una volta per tutte.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Vi sentite sconfitti e persi? Queste 10 cose vi aiuteranno a risollevarvi<\/a><\/p>\n

7. If you don’t make plans, you don’t get invited anywhere<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

The sad truth is that if you think that you’d never get invited anywhere unless you took the initiative, you’re probably in a one-sided friendship.<\/p>\n

Gli amici che vi amano e che amano passare del tempo con voi fanno in modo di includervi nei loro programmi.<\/p>\n

Nessun nuovo amico potr\u00e0 mai farli dimenticare di voi.<\/p>\n

If you love someone, you make an effort to be around them whenever it’s possible but in a toxic friendship, you’ll often feel like the black sheep of the group, as you never get invited unless you ask if there are plans to meet up.<\/p>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

I know it’s really difficult admitting this to yourself (I’ve been there and I honestly know the pain of realizing this tough truth) but when a person keeps proving to you that you mean so little to them, believe them!<\/p>\n

You’re better off without them anyway.<\/p>\n

There are so many kind people in this world and you’re stuck on this toxic friend who keeps disregarding your feelings.<\/p>\n

Move away from them and open your eyes to a life without them. Soon, you’ll see how colorful life can be when you weed out a bad friend.<\/p>\n

8. They’re apathetic toward you<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

In un'amicizia sbilanciata, un amico guida il volante mentre l'altro \u00e8 molto meno interessato a rimanere sulla strada.<\/p>\n

Basically, they just don’t care about you anymore. You’re the one keeping things going while they’re dragging you down.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, there’s not much to do other than accept this brutal reality.<\/p>\n

If you keep trying to salvage something that’s no longer there, you’re hurting yourself in the long run.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Conosco il dolore che si prova quando si viene allontanati da qualcuno che si considerava un migliore amico. Non ho mai avuto la mia chiusura e non ho mai avuto risposte.<\/p>\n

Sono stata semplicemente lasciata senza una parola e ho dovuto fare pace dopo aver versato tante lacrime.<\/p>\n

La vita va avanti, gli amici di merda ti spezzano e tu impari a rimetterti insieme.<\/p>\n

It’s tough, it’s inexplicably sad but you pull through because that’s your only choice. Life will be okay at some point again. Not today but someday.<\/p>\n

9. Si aspettano troppo da voi<\/h2>\n

\"Ragazza<\/p>\n

Il vostro animo gentile e la vostra natura altruista vi portano spesso a fare cose per gli altri senza aspettarvi nulla in cambio.<\/p>\n

It’s simply in your nature to be there for your friends, be that emotionally, physically or even financially.<\/p>\n

Le amicizie unilaterali sono tutta un'altra cosa.<\/p>\n

If there was ever an instance where you offered to cover the tab or pay for your friend’s dinner because they were tight in the money department, now, it’s become the norm.<\/p>\n

Quando arriva il conto, tutti gli occhi sono puntati su di voi.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

They are always in a worse situation than you, so it’s expected that you’ll keep paying. That’s called emotional manipulation.<\/p>\n

You’re made to feel obligated to keep doing things of this nature because they think you have it better than them.<\/p>\n

Anche se fosse cos\u00ec, questo \u00e8 sbagliato sotto molti punti di vista. Non sei responsabile del tuo amico.<\/p>\n

You do not have to keep being there for them in whichever capacity they need you to if you’re made to feel obliged to do it.<\/p>\n

That is not a friendship; it\u2019s a toxic environment where you’re being manipulated and used.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Manifestare una persona specifica usando la Legge di Attrazione<\/p>\n

10. They’re flaky and undependable<\/h2>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

A questo punto, non potete dipendere dal vostro amico nemmeno per le cose pi\u00f9 piccole.<\/p>\n

Sono completamente inaffidabili e vi hanno abbandonato in tante occasioni.<\/p>\n

Non si pu\u00f2 pi\u00f9 contare sulla loro tempestivit\u00e0 e genuinit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

La qualit\u00e0 chiave di un'amicizia equilibrata \u00e8 la coerenza. Dire qualcosa e sapere che il proprio amico lo fa bene.<\/p>\n

Promising to pick you up at the airport and knowing they’ll be there.<\/p>\n

\"Ragazza<\/p>\n

Walking your dog when they say they would and not forgetting to show up after your doctor’s appointment.<\/p>\n

When consistency stops being a factor, it is highly likely that you’re in an unbalanced friendship.<\/p>\n

Prestate attenzione a chi vi abbandona e a chi si fa vivo anche nei momenti difficili. Questo vi dir\u00e0 molto pi\u00f9 di quanto le parole potranno mai dire.<\/p>\n

One-sided friendships are difficult to deal with but the sooner you rip off the Band-Aid, the sooner it’ll stop hurting.<\/p>\n

11. You’re always the designated driver<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

This pertains to those with a driver’s license. With good friends, you’re never made to feel like you’re nothing but a chauffeur.<\/p>\n

Even if you’re one of the few in your group who can actually drive, they know better than to keep expecting you to drive them everywhere.<\/p>\n

But in one-sided friendships, you’re basically their own personal Uber.<\/p>\n

Be that a night out or a groceries run, they’ll always happily point out how lucky they are to have you to drive them.<\/p>\n

But they’ll never stop to see how selfish it is to keep expecting you to just stop your life and be their driver as if your time is not important.<\/p>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

Ancora peggio \u00e8 quando ti fanno guidare durante le serate; non riesci mai a bere un solo bicchiere mentre loro continuano allegramente a bere a pi\u00f9 non posso.<\/p>\n

Don’t be anyone’s doormat! Just because you drive, it doesn’t mean you always have to!<\/p>\n

I buoni amici troveranno un modo per farvi partecipare alle avventure da ubriachi senza essere il loro autista sobrio designato.<\/p>\n

Ai veri amici interessa di pi\u00f9 passare del tempo con voi che avere i vostri servizi di guida.<\/p>\n

12. Vi fanno sentire esausti<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Questa \u00e8 la parte pi\u00f9 triste.<\/p>\n

Non importa quanto vogliate salvare questa amicizia o quanto foste vicini un tempo, ora, dopo averli frequentati, sentite solo un profondo esaurimento.
\nThat’s what an unbalanced friendship does to a person.<\/p>\n

Stare vicino a qualcuno che continua a usarti, ad approfittarsi di te e ad essere egoisticamente scortese con te ti prosciuga e distrugge la tua salute mentale.<\/p>\n

After getting home, all you can think about is how peaceful and nice it is to be not surrounded by them and as horrible as it may sound, you’re kind of glad they’re no longer there, at least for the remainder of the day.<\/p>\n

My advice is listen to your gut. If someone makes you feel drained and used, they’re not your friend.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

They probably never were. It may have taken you a bit longer to see it but now you get to decide that it’s time to say your goodbyes.<\/p>\n

After discarding toxic, bad friends from your life, for a while, you’ll be feeling lost and a little bit broken.<\/p>\n

But one day, you’ll simply wake up with a brand new perspective that will help you turn over a new leaf.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Sesso con gli amici? I 10 segreti pi\u00f9 grandi che nessuno ti svela<\/a><\/p>\n

And Finally…<\/h3>\n

Si inizia a vedere le cose per come sono realmente e non per come si voleva che fossero.<\/p>\n

I cattivi amici iniziano a manifestarsi e ci si rende conto di quanto siano rari e inestimabili i buoni amici.<\/p>\n

Si ha una nuova visione della vita e si sceglie di abbandonare l'amicizia unilaterale per il bene della propria salute mentale.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

No more fake friends and wasted time. Unbalanced friendships are a toxic waste of time and yours is simply too valuable for anyone who doesn’t see the value of being around you.<\/p>\n

Knowing your worth is the key to finding people whose company will make you feel good about yourself. It isn’t selfish putting yourself first. <\/p>\n

It isn’t wrong to want to find a deep, genuine connection with somebody who will appreciate what you bring to the table.<\/p>\n

\"Donne<\/p>\n

Meritate di essere amati per il vostro intelletto e la vostra gentilezza.<\/p>\n

Moving on is never easy but when you know it’s the right thing to do, you never look back.<\/p>\n

Decidete di lasciare il male nel passato e di concentrarvi sul bene del vostro presente.<\/p>\n

E prima che ve ne rendiate conto, iniziate a sentirvi cos\u00ec bene dopo essere stati cos\u00ec male per troppo tempo.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Come vivere in pace e armonia con l'aiuto di questi 5 passi<\/a><\/p>\n

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