{"id":55366,"date":"2020-03-19T19:57:58","date_gmt":"2020-03-19T19:57:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55366"},"modified":"2022-03-24T01:58:38","modified_gmt":"2022-03-24T01:58:38","slug":"il-mio-ragazzo-mi-ha-tradito","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/il-mio-ragazzo-mi-ha-tradito\/","title":{"rendered":"Il mio ragazzo mi ha tradito: 21 cose da fare e da non fare"},"content":{"rendered":"

Il mio ragazzo mi ha tradito, cosa devo fare?<\/p>\n

Se questa o una frase simile vi \u00e8 mai passata per la testa, sapete quanto sia devastante e straziante questa esperienza.<\/p>\n

When you first find out that someone you could have sworn would do you no harm went behind your back and deliberately wounded you emotionally, you feel lost and don\u2019t know what to do.<\/p>\n

Tutto quello che c'era tra voi due era una grande, grossa bugia? Ti ha mai amato?<\/p>\n

Il vostro fidanzato traditore<\/a> ha mai pensato a te mentre lo faceva? Perch\u00e9 l'ha fatto, innanzitutto?<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Queste e molte altre domande si susseguono nella vostra mente e non avete risposte.<\/p>\n

In this state of shock, it is expected of you to make some moves that don\u2019t look like you. You don’t know what the right thing to do is and you need guidance. Well, that\u2019s why we\u2019re here.<\/p>\n

I wish that not a single woman has to read this but if you\u2019re in a similar situation and if your boyfriend cheated on you, we\u2019ll help you play your cards right and make the best of it all.<\/p>\n

Here are some things you should do and the things you shouldn\u2019t do when you\u2019re the victim of his infidelity.<\/p>\n

11 Things You Should And Shouldn’t Do When Tradisce<\/a> Su di te<\/h2>\n

1. Siate certi di ci\u00f2 che fate<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Before finding ways to deal with your partner\u2019s infidelity, firstly, you have to be sure that it really happened.<\/p>\n

Un conto \u00e8 se lui ha confessato di avervi tradito, perch\u00e9 in questo caso tutto \u00e8 pi\u00f9 che chiaro e voi sapete come stanno le cose.<\/p>\n

However, if these are your doubts only based on your gut feeling and if the sentence \u2018I think my boyfriend cheated on me\u2019 has gone through your mind, it is time to do some more investigating.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not advising you to go all crazy and dig up all the details from his other relationships just to break your heart even more.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I\u2019m telling you to get all the intel you can so you have all the proof you need in case your cheating boyfriend starts denying it or presenting it as much different than it actually is.<\/p>\n

Ad esempio, se avete trovato alcuni messaggi di testo incriminanti o attivit\u00e0 sospette sui suoi profili di social media, conservate le prove per un secondo momento o addirittura continuate a spiarlo fino a quando non arriverete in fondo a questi messaggi e simili e vedrete se dietro c'\u00e8 qualcosa di pi\u00f9 nascosto.<\/p>\n

Dovete sapere se ha avuto una relazione seria parallela o se si \u00e8 trattato di una cosa da una botta e via.<\/p>\n

Era qualcuno che stava sms<\/a> per qualche tempo o la relazione era fisica?<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, il tradimento non ha scuse ed \u00e8 una delle cose peggiori che si possano fare all'altra persona, ma c'\u00e8 comunque una differenza tra il fatto che lui abbia avuto una relazione che \u00e8 durata per un po' e che ha nascosto consapevolmente vivendo una doppia vita e il fatto che sia stato solo un momento di debolezza mentre era ubriaco, cosa che non \u00e8 stata fatta. si \u00e8 pentito subito<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You see, it would be much easier for you to believe that this was just your imagination and that your boyfriend didn\u2019t cheat on you at all.<\/p>\n

Quindi, se inizia a mentire o ad accusarvi di aver reagito in modo eccessivo, il vostro subconscio vi spinger\u00e0 a fidarvi di lui, semplicemente perch\u00e9 volete cancellare questo episodio e continuare la vostra relazione.<\/p>\n

However, if you present him with the evidence of his infidelity, he won\u2019t have any choice but to confess everything.<\/p>\n

2. Accettare<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Sadly, the worst thing many women do after they realize they\u2019ve been cheated on is pretend it didn\u2019t happen and avoid entering the realm of recupero della relazione<\/a>. <\/p>\n

Ebbene, se volete fare le cose per bene, dovete uscire da questo modello di comportamento tossico e accettare la dura verit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

There is no point in trying to dig into this as deeply as possible, no point in repressing your emotions, pretending that you\u2019re not hurt or heartbroken or acting like the entire affair didn\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n

Probabilmente per voi \u00e8 pi\u00f9 facile gestire la situazione in questo modo, ma a lungo andare questo approccio vi creer\u00e0 molti pi\u00f9 problemi di quanto possiate pensare.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let your boyfriend\u2019s moves define you and remember that you are and will always be much more than a girl who got cheated on.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, you need to embrace it because it is the truth you can\u2019t run away from and which won\u2019t magically disappear if you choose to ignore it.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t expect to move on or to heal unless you face reality first.<\/p>\n

Che vi piaccia o no, dovete avere la forza di accettarlo e trovare il modo migliore per affrontarlo.<\/p>\n

3. Affrontarlo<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t give your boyfriend the silent treatment or go all passivo-aggressivo<\/a> on him, expecting he\u2019ll realize you know about his infidelity.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t waste your time and lose more of your patience by waiting for him to bring the subject up because that won\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n

This man has been able to keep a secret from you and go behind you back, so he certainly won\u2019t start the topic by himself.<\/p>\n

Instead, he\u2019ll pretend to be innocent for as long as possible.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

That is why you\u2019ll be the one to put a stop to this agony and start this conversation.<\/p>\n

Parlategli dei vostri dubbi e aspettate la sua reazione e la sua risposta.<\/p>\n

Se il vostro ragazzo cerca di negare la relazione e inizia a convincervi che era del tutto priva di significato, colpitelo con tutte le prove che avete.<\/p>\n

Show him that you\u2019re not a fool he can keep on playing with!<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t take it personally<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

After you get cheated on, you think that you\u2019re the only one who didn\u2019t see what was happening right in front of your eyes.<\/p>\n

You analyze your relationship and can\u2019t help but wonder where things went wrong and how it was possible for the two of you to get to this stage.<\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019m here to beg you to put an effort into not taking it so personally. First of all, trust me\u2014you\u2019re not alone.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, cheating happens all the time and there are many more women around you who have been through something similar; you just don\u2019t know it since they chose to stay quiet about it.<\/p>\n

In secondo luogo, il tuo ragazzo \u00e8 un traditore e questo non ha nulla a che fare con te.<\/p>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

La sua natura di traditore non ha alcuna correlazione con il vostro aspetto, la vostra personalit\u00e0 o il modo in cui lo avete trattato; \u00e8 un problema che ha e che deve risolvere con se stesso.<\/p>\n

I know you\u2019ll probably start replaying your entire relationship back and forth in your mind. Were you not enough?<\/p>\n

Avreste potuto essere pi\u00f9 belli, pi\u00f9 intelligenti, pi\u00f9 interessanti? Avresti dovuto accorgerti prima che stava succedendo qualcosa?<\/p>\n

He probably cheated on his exes and it is very likely that he\u2019ll continue with his behavior patterns regardless of whether he remains next to you or moves on to his next victim.<\/p>\n

And there is absolutely nothing you can do about it; you couldn\u2019t have prevented it and nor could you have predicted it.<\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t let him put the blame on you<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Quando le persone tradiscono, di solito trascinano il proprio partner nella gioco delle colpe<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Invece di assumersi la piena responsabilit\u00e0 delle loro terribili azioni, alcuni uomini cercano di ribaltare la situazione e di farti sentire in colpa per essere stata tradita.<\/p>\n

Sembra ridicolo, lo so.<\/p>\n

However, when your low self-esteem kicks in and when you feel humiliated and betrayed, it is way easier for you to be manipulated into believing that you\u2019re guilty as well.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow him to tell you that he did all of this because you weren\u2019t giving him enough attention, because you refused to experiment under the sheets, because you don\u2019t look the way you did at the beginning of your relationship, because you stopped giving him butterflies, because your relationship had fallen into a rut or something like that.<\/p>\n

\"fidanzata<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t believe his empty excuses because there is absolutely no justification for what he did.<\/p>\n

After all, if he wasn\u2019t content with your committed relationship or if you weren\u2019t making him happy anymore, he should have tried talking things through and put an effort into rebuilding and reviving your romance.<\/p>\n

Poi, se non funzionava, aveva sempre la possibilit\u00e0 di andarsene come un gentiluomo.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, ha scelto la peggiore di tutte le opzioni: ha scelto di tradirla e di pugnalarla alle spalle, senza pensarci due volte e senza preoccuparsi delle conseguenze che la sua relazione avrebbe potuto lasciare su di lei.<\/p>\n

\"Coppia<\/p>\n

Please remember\u2014you\u2019re the victim here and the victim is never guilty.<\/p>\n

Se ha avuto le palle di andare in giro a tradire, fatelo essere abbastanza uomo e prendersi la responsabilit\u00e0 delle sue azioni come un adulto.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014by accusing you for his misdeeds and engaging in these blame games, he is just trying to make things easier for himself.<\/p>\n

Sta solo cercando di ripulire la sua coscienza e di privarsi del senso di colpa.<\/p>\n

And you shouldn\u2019t allow him to do that at any cost.<\/p>\n

6. \u2026but don\u2019t blame the other girl either<\/h2>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

A prima vista, probabilmente inizierete a maledire il giorno in cui \u00e8 nata la ragazza con cui il vostro ragazzo vi ha tradito.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll aim all of your disappointment and hate toward her. This man loved you and respected you until she came along, right?<\/p>\n

She must have seduced him into cheating and manipulated him into believing she\u2019d give him what you couldn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

E questi pensieri non sono insoliti.<\/p>\n

Dopo tutto, \u00e8 molto pi\u00f9 facile per voi dare tutta la colpa a una ragazza a caso di cui non sapete nulla, piuttosto che rendervi conto di aver passato anni accanto a qualcuno che vi avrebbe fatto una cosa del genere.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

It is easier to come up with different scenarios in which she\u2019s the bad guy, while he is a naive boy who did everything by accident and didn\u2019t know better.<\/p>\n

Pi\u00f9 facile ma non vero.<\/p>\n

Nessuno si aspetta che tu diventi il migliore amico di questa donna o che ti dispiaccia per lei, ma ti \u00e8 mai passato per la testa che anche lei \u00e8 la sua vittima?<\/p>\n

That she didn\u2019t even know you existed? Or maybe she did but he kept lying to her?<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest\u2014your boyfriend probably didn\u2019t tell her that ti ama<\/a> very much and that he doesn\u2019t plan on leaving you.<\/p>\n

Even though being the third wheel to someone\u2019s serious relationship is not something anyone should be proud of, have in mind that she is not guilty of ruining your relationship.<\/p>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

Se il tuo uomo \u00e8 un traditore<\/a>lui tradir\u00e0 e, se non con lei, lo far\u00e0 con qualcun'altra.<\/p>\n

After all, she is not the one who made any commitment toward you. She didn\u2019t make any promises and nor did she break any vows.<\/p>\n

Non \u00e8 lei che vi doveva essere fedele e non \u00e8 lei che aveva il dovere di rispettare il vostro amore e i sacrifici che avete fatto.<\/p>\n

She is not the one who should have thought of you\u2014he is.<\/p>\n

7. Parlare con lui onestamente<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, quest'uomo vi ha fatto molto male. Le ha spezzato il cuore e ha tradito la sua fiducia nel modo peggiore possibile.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not justifying his actions at all but this event doesn\u2019t nullify your entire relazione impegnata<\/a> e tutto ci\u00f2 che avete condiviso, avuto e vissuto prima dell'infedelt\u00e0.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 ancora l'uomo con cui avete avuto una storia e che fino a poco tempo fa consideravate il vostro migliore amico e la vostra anima gemella.<\/p>\n

Pertanto, entrambi meritate di parlare onestamente di tutto ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 accaduto.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t spare him anything, tell him exactly how you feel and face him with the consequences of his actions.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to put a brave mask on and pretend that you\u2019re completely unharmed because that couldn\u2019t be further from the truth.<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t see yourself as a victim either (even though you are his victim) and don\u2019t feel sorry for yourself.<\/p>\n

Parlate sinceramente di tutto quello che \u00e8 successo, di tutte le cose che vi hanno portato a questo terribile evento.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014talk about your plans for the future and be honest about whether it is possible to rebuild your relationship or not.<\/p>\n

Che cosa vuole? Ti sta implorando di riprenderlo o vuole chiudere la storia?<\/p>\n

8. Concedetevi il tempo di elaborare il lutto<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

What you\u2019ve been through is not the end of the world or the end of your life. However, it is not easy either.<\/p>\n

La consapevolezza che la persona amata \u00e8 stata infedele \u00e8 devastante per ogni donna.<\/p>\n

So, please don\u2019t feel the need for some heroic acts and don\u2019t pretend like everything is in perfect order.<\/p>\n

Invece, concedetevi del tempo per soffrire<\/a>. Piangete e urlate se ne sentite il bisogno.<\/p>\n

Se possibile, prendete qualche giorno di ferie e cancellate tutti i vostri impegni per avere un po' di tempo per voi stessi.<\/p>\n

Elaborate tutto quello che \u00e8 successo prima di essere pronti a tornare nel mondo.<\/p>\n

9. Fate del vostro meglio per perdonarlo<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

After the initial shock has passed and after you accept the fact that your boyfriend cheated on you, the first emotion you\u2019ll probably have is hate.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll feel repulsed by this man and you\u2019ll curse the day he was born.<\/p>\n

Please, don\u2019t feel bad about it since it is completely normal and a phase all of us have gone through.<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t let these negative emotions get the best of you and overwhelm your entire being either.<\/p>\n

You see, hatred and resentment won\u2019t do any damage to the guy who cheated you.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t feel it and nor will it make him regret his decision, if he hasn\u2019t already.<\/p>\n

D'altra parte, vi manger\u00e0 vivi e vi spezzer\u00e0 ancora di pi\u00f9 il cuore.<\/p>\n

Cambier\u00e0 l'essenza della persona che eravate e vi trasformer\u00e0 in una donna amara, negativa e senza pi\u00f9 amore.<\/p>\n

Pertanto, vi preghiamo di trovare la forza in voi stessi per perdonare<\/a> il vostro fidanzato traditore.<\/p>\n

Of course, your forgiveness is a process that takes time, otherwise it wouldn\u2019t be honest.<\/p>\n

\"ritratto<\/p>\n

What is important is for you to try as hard as you can, even if he doesn\u2019t ask you to.<\/p>\n

Remember\u2014you\u2019re not doing it for his sake, you\u2019re doing it to liberate yourself of all the toxic waste he left behind.<\/p>\n

Naturally, forgiving your boyfriend doesn\u2019t have anything to do with whether you\u2019ll take him back or not.<\/p>\n

By accepting his apology (even if you didn\u2019t get one), you\u2019re letting go of everything bad that has happened, you\u2019re getting rid of the emotional baggage this affair put on your shoulders and you\u2019re minimalizing the possibility of carrying some past traumas into your future.<\/p>\n

10. Don\u2019t wait for closure<\/h2>\n

\"ritratto<\/p>\n

In quanto donna tradita, \u00e8 perfettamente naturale che pretendiate una spiegazione dal vostro traditore.<\/p>\n

You want to know all the details of his affair and most importantly\u2014you want to know why he did all of this.<\/p>\n

Well, I have to disappoint you and tell you that it is unlikely that you\u2019ll ever get the answers you crave.<\/p>\n

Non importa cosa vi dica questo ragazzo, la sua spiegazione non vi soddisfer\u00e0 mai abbastanza.<\/p>\n

D'altra parte, c'\u00e8 anche la possibilit\u00e0 che trasformi l'intera situazione in una rissa, solo per evitare di discutere.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

In ogni caso, \u00e8 necessario smettere di aspettare la chiusura<\/a> e dovete semplicemente andare avanti con o senza di essa.<\/p>\n

Even if you don\u2019t get an apology, if you never find out exactly what happened, if he doesn\u2019t show signs of remorse, none of it is your concern.<\/p>\n

Il vostro unico obbligo in questo momento \u00e8 quello di superare tutto questo in modo sano e di uscirne con il minor numero possibile di conseguenze.<\/p>\n

After all, there is no valid explanation for cheating. He is an asshole who couldn\u2019t keep it in his pants\u2014simple as that.<\/p>\n

11. Prendetevi il tempo necessario per prendere una decisione<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

It is crucial for you to have one significant thing in mind\u2014this is your life and you\u2019re the only one who has the right to make decisions regarding it.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, you\u2019re the one who will suffer the consequences of your choices and the one who has to live with them.<\/p>\n

So when you decide whether you\u2019ll Riprenditi il tuo ragazzo traditore<\/a> or not, don\u2019t listen to anyone.<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, i vostri cari vi augurano solo il meglio, ma non camminano nei vostri panni e non hanno voce in capitolo.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Un conto \u00e8 se scegliete di tornare insieme a questo ragazzo o meno, ma \u00e8 completamente diverso se fate tutto questo a causa di altre persone.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014dumping a cheater is never a wrong choice.<\/p>\n

Gli uomini come lui cambiano raramente ed \u00e8 probabile che ripeta l'errore, anche se questa volta riuscite a superare quello che ha fatto.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, se pensate che meriti una seconda possibilit\u00e0, nessuno vi giudicher\u00e0 per questo.<\/p>\n

Just be aware you\u2019ll both have to invest a lot of time and energy before your relationship starts functioning all over again.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Disinnamorarsi dopo l'infedelt\u00e0: 12 modi semplici per farlo<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

5 cose da fare se decidete di riprendervelo<\/h2>\n

For some people, their partner’s infidelity is not a deal breaker and they want to give their relationship another shot.<\/p>\n

If you’re one of these people, here are the steps you should follow.<\/p>\n

1. Don\u2019t expect your relationship to ever be the same\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

As much as you try doing so, be aware that you can\u2019t magically erase the affair which happened.<\/p>\n

Voi e il vostro partner potete solo fare squadra, raccogliere i cocci e cercare di incollarli di nuovo.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, don\u2019t expect things to be the way they were.<\/p>\n

Just because you forgave him, it doesn\u2019t mean that everything is back in order and that you’ll manage to have una relazione sana<\/a> durante la notte.<\/p>\n

In fact, you\u2019re up for many more fights, grudges and arguments.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, la cosa peggiore che potete fare \u00e8 tenere tutte le vostre emozioni imbottigliate e far finta che non sia successo nulla.<\/p>\n

Quindi, s\u00ec, la vostra relazione sar\u00e0 diversa sotto molti aspetti.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

After all, something clearly wasn\u2019t right about how it worked before, otherwise the affair wouldn\u2019t have happened, so don\u2019t see this change as something necessarily bad.<\/p>\n

However, it is completely up to you whether you\u2019ll be able to make the best out of this painful situation or you\u2019ll make things even worse and break your relationship to the point of no repair.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014very few couples succeed in doing this.<\/p>\n

Non molti lo vedono come un ultimo avvertimento che qualcosa non va e lo vedono come un punto di svolta per la loro relazione.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, tutte le coppie sono diverse e nessuno pu\u00f2 dirvi cosa succeder\u00e0 tra voi e il vostro ragazzo.<\/p>\n

You can just hope for the best, since you\u2019ve already chosen to take things in this direction.<\/p>\n

2. \u2026 but don\u2019t bring up the cheating constantly<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Nobody expects you to ever forget what you\u2019ve been through.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, you can\u2019t order your heart to heal until it\u2019s fully ready so don\u2019t even try doing so.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, c'\u00e8 una differenza tra dimenticare e perdonare<\/a>. E lei ha scelto di fare la seconda.<\/p>\n

Be honest about yourself\u2014are you really ready to forgive your boyfriend for cheating on you?<\/p>\n

Lo ama ancora veramente, nonostante abbia fatto questa cosa orribile?<\/p>\n

Do you believe that your story deserves another sequel? Are you certain that you\u2019re not doing this just to heal your ego?<\/p>\n

If the answers to most of these questions are negative, then it\u2019s time to let go of every thought of reconciliation and tell this man your final goodbye.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

It is pointless to try and rebuild something if you\u2019re sure that you\u2019ll never be able to fully forgive him and if you don\u2019t hope you\u2019ll manage to work things out..<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you think that you have the capacity to leave his affair in the past, you\u2019ll make no progress if you continue bringing it up every time you have the chance to.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t use it as an excuse for your toxic behavior and don\u2019t see it as permission to be a bitch to your boyfriend.<\/p>\n

Remember\u2014he didn\u2019t force you to let him back into your life, it was your choice.<\/p>\n

3. Sostenere la propria decisione<\/h2>\n

\"ragazza<\/h2>\n

Ed \u00e8 una scelta da sostenere a tutti i costi.<\/p>\n

Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should forgive him for another affair but changing your mind every few days is not acceptable and nor is it healthy for either of you.<\/p>\n

So, please don\u2019t listen to people telling you that you should have done things differently. Don\u2019t second-guess your decision, now that you\u2019ve already made it, and don\u2019t think of all the what-ifs.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re a mature, grown woman who has the right to make her own choices so please don\u2019t compare yourself with other girls either.<\/p>\n

Ricordate che ogni coppia \u00e8 una storia a s\u00e9 e abbiate fede nel fatto che avete fatto ci\u00f2 che era destinato a voi.<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t seek revenge<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I\u2019m warning you\u2014one of the first impulses you\u2019ll have when you find out you\u2019ve been cheated on is to make your boyfriend pay for his affair.<\/p>\n

Anche quando si sceglie di perdonarlo, l'idea di vendetta<\/a> di tanto in tanto, potrebbe tornarvi in mente.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t feel bad about these thoughts because it is completely natural for you to have them.<\/p>\n

Siete alla ricerca di meccanismi di difesa e di modi per guarire il vostro cuore e il vostro ego infranti.<\/p>\n

Pertanto, si presume che dare a questo ragazzo un assaggio della sua stessa medicina sarebbe l'ideale.<\/p>\n

In questo modo, vi sentirete uguali e vi troverete in posizioni simili. Inoltre, pensate che questo vi aiuter\u00e0 a recuperare la vostra dignit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

You pay him back and he will get what he deserves for the humiliation he\u2019s put you through. Well, let me tell you that none of this is true.<\/p>\n

Even though I\u2019m not some kind of pacifist, trust me that seeking revenge will get you nowhere and that it is one of the worst things you could do to your relationship, which you decided you wanted to try and recover.<\/p>\n

Innanzitutto, non si pu\u00f2 mai sapere quali siano i motivi che hanno spinto il vostro ragazzo a agire alle vostre spalle.<\/p>\n

Era davvero innamorato di quest'altra donna per un certo periodo?<\/p>\n

Even if he wasn\u2019t, the fact is that she attracted him enough to forget about his loyalty and commitment.<\/p>\n

So, no matter what you do to pay him back, you\u2019ll always have these doubts.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

On the other hand, he\u2019ll forever be aware that you didn\u2019t cheat because you wanted to\u2014you only did it to hurt him. Knowing that, your affairs will never have the same echoes in your relationship.<\/p>\n

Another argument against revenge is the fact that by doing this, you\u2019ll be the same as your boyfriend.<\/p>\n

He\u2019ll have succeeded in pulling you down to his level and you\u2019ll get the label of a cheater as well, when you both know that you\u2019re not one in the essence of your being.<\/p>\n

Also, it is completely unnecessary to pull yet another person into your drama. You might break some other guy\u2019s heart in the process and you of all people know how painful that is.<\/p>\n

5. Chiedere aiuto<\/h2>\n

\"due<\/p>\n

Il processo di recupero da un tradimento non \u00e8 mai facile o di breve durata.<\/p>\n

After some time of attempting to make things right, many couples realize that, in spite of all of their desires, they aren\u2019t capable of doing it by themselves.<\/p>\n

E non c'\u00e8 nulla di cui vergognarsi.<\/p>\n

In effetti, cercare un aiuto professionale \u00e8 esattamente ci\u00f2 che voi e il vostro partner dovreste fare se volete superare questa situazione nel modo pi\u00f9 sano possibile.<\/p>\n

5 cose da fare se si sceglie di andare avanti da soli<\/h2>\n

On the other hand, if you see this cheating as a serious deal breaker you can’t surpass (after all, the two of you weren’t in an open relationship) and you decide to rottura<\/a> Se volete chiudere definitivamente con questo ragazzo, ci sono alcune cose che dovete ricordare:<\/p>\n

1. Don\u2019t rush your healing<\/h2>\n

\"Ragazza<\/p>\n

La prima cosa da fare se si decide di andare avanti da soli \u00e8 prendere quanto pi\u00f9 tempo necessario per guarire correttamente<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve had a massive emotional blow and it is completely natural that you can\u2019t get it off your shoulders in a matter of days.<\/p>\n

So please, don\u2019t pretend like if you\u2019re okay when you\u2019re not. Don\u2019t feel embarrassed about your sadness and embrace it as a natural part of your healing process.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014ignore everyone who is telling you that you should have gotten over this by now.<\/p>\n

Yes, they\u2019re right\u2014your ex isn\u2019t worthy of your tears but if you feel like crying, it is always better to get it out of your system than to pile it up inside of you.<\/p>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Of course, you shouldn\u2019t let your grief get the best of you but you shouldn\u2019t rush yourself into doing something you\u2019re not ready for just to meet other people\u2019s expectations.<\/p>\n

You loved this guy for a very long time and it will take you a while to forget what he\u2019s done to you.<\/p>\n

The point here is that you\u2019re not only trying to fix your heartbreak, you\u2019re also dealing with your crushed ego, low autostima<\/a>Le insicurezze e i dubbi sull'autostima che sono scaturiti da questa situazione.<\/p>\n

So, healing under these circumstances is even harder than recovering from a \u2018standard\u2019 breakup. However, it can be done and I promise that you will do it!<\/p>\n

2. Don\u2019t jump into new relationships<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Uno dei pi\u00f9 grandi errori che potete commettere \u00e8 quello di buttarvi subito tra le braccia del primo uomo che vi capita a tiro.<\/p>\n

Going from one rebound relationship to the next won\u2019t make you forget your past\u2014it will only be toxic for your present and future.<\/p>\n

Your best friends and family may keep telling you that it\u2019s best to fight fire with fire but trust me, in your case, this is not the way to go.<\/p>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

Besides involving some new boyfriend in your drama, this relationship will make you feel more miserable and it certainly won\u2019t help you leave your traumas behind.<\/p>\n

You see, moving on isn\u2019t just about finding a new boyfriend. It\u2019s about finding yourself again before you\u2019re ready for a nuova relazione<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not saying that you should remain single forever.<\/p>\n

Just don\u2019t do anything you don\u2019t truly want to do and don\u2019t put yourself back in the dating pool until you resolve all of your issues.<\/p>\n

3. Take it as a lesson\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"Ragazza<\/p>\n

Invece di rimpiangere il vostro passato e di vederlo come la cosa peggiore che vi sia mai capitata, cercate di fare del vostro meglio per imparare da esso.<\/p>\n

I know it sounds like a clich\u00e9 but trust me when I tell you that you ought to be grateful for the way things turned out.<\/p>\n

After all, you got rid of a man who clearly didn\u2019t love you enough, otherwise he wouldn\u2019t have ti ha tradito<\/a>.<\/p>\n

As much as you might refuse to admit this, you two weren\u2019t meant to be and this is actually God\u2019s way of saving you from more misery that would come in the future, if you had stuck by his side.<\/p>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Inoltre, questa \u00e8 stata un'opportunit\u00e0 per farvi capire quanto siete forti e potenti. Un'occasione per incontrare il vostro vero s\u00e9 e per vedere tutte le vostre capacit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Questi eventi vi hanno insegnato che non tutti sono chi fingono di essere.<\/p>\n

It showed you that there are some bad people out there who will hurt you without a second thought and that you shouldn\u2019t trust just anyone, even if that someone is your romantic partner.<\/p>\n

4. \u2026 but don\u2019t punish all men out there<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

However, this doesn\u2019t mean that all men are to blame for the mistake one made.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re finally ready to start dating again, don\u2019t let this one experience burden you or convince you that you’ll never have a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

It is perfectly fine if you\u2019re a little bit more careful now, that you need time to open up and that you\u2019re picky about the ones who you let into your life.
\nNevertheless, please don\u2019t become guarded.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t punish every guy who crosses your path for your ex\u2019s sins. Yes, people cheat but not all men are the same.<\/p>\n

Non tutti vi faranno soffrire e non tutti sono traditori.<\/p>\n

Per favore, date a qualche bravo ragazzo la possibilit\u00e0 di dimostrare che vi sbagliate.<\/p>\n

When he comes into your life, give him an opportunity to show you that he\u2019s different and don\u2019t chase him away just because of your emotional baggage.<\/p>\n

5. Concentrarsi su se stessi<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

L'aspetto pi\u00f9 importante \u00e8 quello di concentrare tutta l'energia su se stessi.<\/p>\n

Per cominciare, anche se tornate in pista, concentratevi sulla vostra felicit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Ricorda il tuo autostima<\/a>, understand that you\u2019re the most important person in this world and that you don\u2019t need anyone to complete you.<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, \u00e8 fantastico se vi capita di trovare un uomo degno del vostro tempo<\/a> and effort but even if you don\u2019t, I promise you that you will make it on your own.<\/p>\n

\"Il<\/p>\n

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