{"id":55562,"date":"2020-03-22T10:08:47","date_gmt":"2020-03-22T10:08:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55562"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:18:44","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:18:44","slug":"paura-di-perdere-tempo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/paura-di-perdere-tempo\/","title":{"rendered":"Non temo l'impegno, temo di sprecare il mio tempo con l'uomo sbagliato"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>L'amore non dovrebbe essere sempre cos\u00ec complicato.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>A volte basta esprimere chiaramente le proprie intenzioni e le proprie emozioni.<\/p>\n<p>I wish you knew that. I wish you\u2019d just told me how you felt about me right away, instead of making me guess and leaving me to turn cold and look for love elsewhere.<\/p>\n<p>I was never the spiteful type; you could\u2019ve just been honest.<\/p>\n<p>Abbiamo smesso di parlare perch\u00e9 lei non ha preso l'iniziativa.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-55563\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/unhappy-couple-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg\" alt=\"coppia infelice seduta sul letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/unhappy-couple-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/unhappy-couple-sitting-on-the-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/unhappy-couple-sitting-on-the-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not here to chase you. I was ready for a mature relationship, not some teenage puppy love filled with passive-aggressive behavior and unspoken words.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, the way you acted has forced me to become colder. That didn\u2019t happen because I didn\u2019t care, it was because I wanted you to do something.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I\u2019m done with men who can\u2019t take initiative and wait for me to start something first.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Chi stiamo prendendo in giro?<\/p>\n<p>I have no problem admitting I\u2019m a strong, bold woman, but that only means I need a strong, bold man too.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-55564\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-by-the-man.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste seduta accanto all&#039;uomo\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-by-the-man.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-by-the-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-sitting-by-the-man-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A man who\u2019s decisive and ready to take action. A man who doesn\u2019t let things just happen, but puts effort into reaching his goals.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s the kind of man I want.<\/p>\n<p>I want to be sure he\u2019s committed. I don\u2019t want to spend the rest of my life thinking I\u2019m not enough.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I want a man who has long term goals and lets me know, without hesitation, that I\u2019m one of them.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Voglio un uomo che faccia in modo di capirmi sempre e che comunichi con me ogni giorno.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t want to beg for anything.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-55565\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-woman-huging-a-man.jpg\" alt=\"donna felice che abbraccia un uomo\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-woman-huging-a-man.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-woman-huging-a-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-woman-huging-a-man-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>I want someone who can follow me and won\u2019t be afraid. Someone to share my future with. Someone to make me feel special.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>A person who is ready to put me first and be proud of me. Until I find that man, I\u2019m ready to stay single, I\u2019m not afraid.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I\u2019d rather stay single than waste my time on a man who is not committed.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re not committed, that means you\u2019re not serious about me. You treat me like an option.<\/p>\n<p>And I\u2019m so much more than that. I deserve better.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-55566\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-in-red-dress-and-red-hat.jpg\" alt=\"giovane donna in abito rosso e cappello rosso\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-in-red-dress-and-red-hat.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-in-red-dress-and-red-hat-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/young-woman-in-red-dress-and-red-hat-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Luckily, I don\u2019t base my self-worth on whether I\u2019m in a relationship or not. I choose to accept my life as it is and enjoy it.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m deeply convinced that someone out there is just the right for me. I know that person will never make me guess our commitment and our love.<\/p>\n<p>Non mi lascer\u00e0 mai dubitare della cosa pi\u00f9 importante in una relazione. Parleremo delle nostre emozioni pi\u00f9 profonde e dei nostri desideri segreti. Si assicurer\u00e0 che io mi senta al sicuro con lui.<\/p>\n<p>He won&#8217;t insist on the childish things that make me uncomfortable. Instead, he will act like a grown man and his actions will make me trust him.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-55567\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/loving-couple-sitting-on-the-bench.jpg\" alt=\"coppia di innamorati seduta sulla panchina\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/loving-couple-sitting-on-the-bench.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/loving-couple-sitting-on-the-bench-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/loving-couple-sitting-on-the-bench-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He won\u2019t make weird remarks, ignore me in front of his friends, interrupt me while I talk, mansplain things to me, or text with his ex and act like that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Time we spend together will fill me with hope, joy, and happiness and by that, I will know he\u2019s the one.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Mi far\u00e0 ridere come nessun altro, mi preparer\u00e0 la colazione a letto e mi lascer\u00e0 scegliere il film. Mi sentir\u00f2 valida e curata.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s what I never felt with you. That\u2019s why I gave up. You couldn\u2019t give me the simplest thing I needed.<\/p>\n<p>Non mi hai mai dato la devozione di cui ho bisogno per sentirmi apprezzato.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-55568\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/calm-woman-spreading-arms-on-the-beach.jpg\" alt=\"donna tranquilla che allarga le braccia sulla spiaggia\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/calm-woman-spreading-arms-on-the-beach.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/calm-woman-spreading-arms-on-the-beach-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/calm-woman-spreading-arms-on-the-beach-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Mi hai dato per scontato e questo \u00e8 ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 successo<\/strong>. Ho detto addio.<\/p>\n<p>Interestingly enough \u2013 I didn\u2019t even miss you, which made me realize it\u2019s because you were never really there to begin with. You were somehow passively selfish.<\/p>\n<p>I didn\u2019t like that.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s too much life in me. I set myself free by letting you go.<\/p>\n<p>I outgrew the need to be loved by someone who doesn\u2019t show he cares for me.<\/p>\n<p>Allo stesso tempo, ho iniziato ad amare me stessa per prepararmi ad accogliere colui che far\u00e0 in modo di mostrarmi il suo amore ogni giorno della sua vita.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-55570\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/I-Don\u2019t-Fear-Commitment-I-Fear-Wasting-My-Time-On-The-Wrong-Man-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Non temo l&#039;impegno, temo di sprecare il mio tempo con l&#039;uomo sbagliato\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/I-Don\u2019t-Fear-Commitment-I-Fear-Wasting-My-Time-On-The-Wrong-Man-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/I-Don\u2019t-Fear-Commitment-I-Fear-Wasting-My-Time-On-The-Wrong-Man-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/I-Don\u2019t-Fear-Commitment-I-Fear-Wasting-My-Time-On-The-Wrong-Man-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/I-Don\u2019t-Fear-Commitment-I-Fear-Wasting-My-Time-On-The-Wrong-Man-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Love shouldn\u2019t be so complicated all the time. Sometimes, all it takes is expressing your intentions and your emotions clearly. I wish you knew that. I wish you\u2019d just told me how you felt about me right away, instead of making me guess and leaving me to turn cold and look for love elsewhere. I&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":55569,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-55562","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/I-Don\u2019t-Fear-Commitment-I-Fear-Wasting-My-Time-On-The-Wrong-Man.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55562","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=55562"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/55562\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/55569"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=55562"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=55562"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=55562"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}