{"id":55815,"date":"2020-03-24T08:54:55","date_gmt":"2020-03-24T08:54:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=55815"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:25:42","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:25:42","slug":"come-smettere-di-essere-un-narcisista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-smettere-di-essere-un-narcisista\/","title":{"rendered":"Come smettere di essere narcisista: Un processo in 12 fasi per rompere i tuoi schemi comportamentali"},"content":{"rendered":"

As long as you’re trying to figure out how to stop being a narcissist, congratulations\u2014you’re one step ahead.<\/p>\n

It means you’re at least becoming aware of your problem, which can’t be said for most of your peers who are narcissists.<\/p>\n

It doesn’t matter whether you recognized the symptoms of disturbo narcisistico di personalit\u00e0<\/a> da solo o un professionista della salute mentale ti ha detto che soffri di NPD, leggere tutte queste cose su di te fa paura.<\/p>\n

Quindi, lasciate che vi dia un po' di speranza: potete essere curati e potete cambiare, nonostante quello che la gente ignorante potrebbe dirvi.<\/p>\n

No, it won’t be easy but it can be done. If you just read on, we’re offering you the answer to the question: \u2018How to stop being a narcissist?\u2019<\/p>\n

1. Ammettere di avere un problema<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Il problema numero uno della maggior parte delle persone con tendenze narcisistiche e di quelle che soffrono di qualsiasi condizione mentale in generale \u00e8 il fatto che negano di avere un problema.<\/p>\n

Everyone around them keeps telling you that you should get some treatment and that it\u2019s about time to make some changes to your character but you simply can\u2019t get it in your head.<\/p>\n

Invece, si giustifica il proprio comportamento tossico e si incolpa tutto l'ambiente circostante per le proprie azioni.<\/p>\n

In fact, even when you notice that something is off, you observe it is as an episode and refuse to face the truth\u2014that you\u2019re suffering from a serious NPD and that something has to be done about it.<\/p>\n

Yes, saying: “I’m a narcissist,” for the first time is hard work but you have to do it. However, you can’t ask yourself: “How do I stop being a narcissist?” unless you say, “I’m a narcissist,” first.<\/p>\n

Before you make any concrete moves, firstly, you have to accept this reality. Don\u2019t worry\u2014there is no shame in it and you will manage to handle your disorder if you start with healing yourself in the healthiest way possible.<\/p>\n

2. Essere disposti ad accettare il cambiamento<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

They say that people don\u2019t change after a certain age, that we all basically stay who we essentially are, that we have the ability to adapt to a certain situation but that sooner or later, our true colors will swim back to the surface, as much as we try to control them.<\/p>\n

Well, there is something missing in this commonly used phrase\u2014people don\u2019t change<\/a> a meno che non lo vogliano.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t do it to please someone else or under any kind of pressure\u2014they only do it when they feel it\u2019s the right thing to do.<\/p>\n

So, that\u2019s the difference between you and anyone else and that\u2019s why you\u2019ll succeed\u2014you\u2019re the one who really decided to change your ways.<\/p>\n

Therefore, you have to be willing to change. You have to be open to this new you who will arise from this process; you\u2019ll have to love and accept yourself like never before.<\/p>\n

3. Andare alla radice del narcisismo<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Now that you\u2019ve made up your mind and are certain about sticking to your decision, it\u2019s time to start exploring your narcissistic personality disorder a little bit deeper.<\/p>\n

I warn you\u2014you’ll have a hard time doing so; after all, nobody likes digging through their old emotional wounds but it has to be done if you expect any kind of progress.<\/p>\n

The main question here is: \u201cWhat made you become a narcissist and have these narcissistic tendencies?\u201d No, you weren\u2019t born with the narcissistic traits you have today; your true self was turned into this toxic person.<\/p>\n

First and foremost, let\u2019s go back to your early childhood.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m sure your parents did the best they could do to raise you properly but sometimes, they can be the ones who caused your narcissistic personality disorder.<\/p>\n

Vi siete sentiti abbastanza amati durante la vostra educazione? O vi siete sentiti amati troppo?<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, un genitore insensibile o troppo sensibile pu\u00f2 essere il motivo per cui qualcuno diventa narcisista.<\/p>\n

Altre cause possono essere le troppe aspettative o le critiche costanti. Forse non avete mai sviluppato la vostra autostima nel modo giusto e quindi avete cercato di fuggire nel narcisismo.<\/p>\n

Inoltre, qualsiasi tipo di abuso, anche emotivo o verbale, pu\u00f2 essere all'origine del disturbo narcisistico di personalit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Qualunque sia il problema, una volta che si \u00e8 arrivati in fondo alla questione traumi<\/a>Questa volta, smettete di scappare da loro. Per cambiare, fate del vostro meglio per elaborarli e provate a lasciarli nel passato, dove appartengono.<\/p>\n

4. Imparare a capire cosa vi scatena<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

The next step also includes a lot of introspection, self-help and self-awareness because this is when you\u2019ll learn about your triggers.<\/p>\n

What has to happen for you to become like this because you certainly don\u2019t display your narcissistic behavior all the time? What makes you react the most and what turns you into a toxic person?<\/p>\n

Alcuni persone narcisiste<\/a> are triggered by people telling them, \u201cNo,\u201d and some react negatively when they feel threatened or intimidated or when their confidence is shook, while others can\u2019t stand criticism.<\/p>\n

Therefore, it\u2019s your job to get to the bottom of your personality and see what concerns you the most. This way, you\u2019ll have a better understanding of your actions and you\u2019ll be able to control them more.<\/p>\n

Tenete presente che tutte le persone hanno determinati fattori scatenanti.<\/p>\n

However, the difference between you and the rest of the world is that you stop being in charge of yourself the moment you are \u2018provoked\u2019, you shut off completely and your narcissistic self appears on the scene.<\/p>\n

5. Elencare i propri comportamenti narcisistici<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Once you\u2019ve finished with the root of your issue and your triggers, go on and list the types of behaviors you connect with narcissism as well.<\/p>\n

A volte potreste non essere nemmeno consapevoli di questi comportamenti, quindi forse il vostro elenco dovrebbe includere le cose a cui le persone pi\u00f9 vicine hanno prestato attenzione.<\/p>\n

Come reagisce quando viene innescato?<\/p>\n

Do you have an anger outburst the moment someone in your surroundings doesn\u2019t give you the response you expected, do you go all passive-aggressive on them, do you engage in emotional manipulation or do you just emotionally withdraw and ignore them?<\/p>\n

If necessary, observe yourself for a certain amount of time to get the real result. Get yourself a diary in which you can write about specific situations\u2014what brings you to your narcissistic behavior and how you react.<\/p>\n

6. Preparare un piano d'azione<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

The next step after writing your diary would be making a plan. You accepted your mistakes, you took full responsibility for them and now it\u2019s time to do something so they don\u2019t happen ever again.<\/p>\n

Therefore, it\u2019s your job to imagine your perfect response and reaction to a certain situation.<\/p>\n

Ripercorrete gli eventi in cui vi siete comportati male e chiedetevi se le cose potevano essere migliorate, se ci sarebbe stato un esito diverso se foste stati diversi e se c'\u00e8 un modo per costruire relazioni sane con i vostri cari.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014you won\u2019t start acting all nice and perfect overnight. After all, this doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re not allowed to be angry or sad from time to time; these are all basic human reactions.<\/p>\n

However, it will be much easier for you to take charge of your narcissistic behavior if you have this plan somewhere in the back of your head. Trust me\u2014before you know it, you\u2019ll catch yourself acting on it.<\/p>\n

7. Lavorare sulla propria bassa autostima<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

What most people don\u2019t know is that one of the symptoms of personalit\u00e0 narcisistica<\/a> Il disordine \u00e8 un ego estremamente fragile.<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, sembrate cos\u00ec pieni di voi stessi e fingete di avere un'enorme autostima e la migliore immagine possibile di voi stessi, ma in realt\u00e0 la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 ben diversa.<\/p>\n

The problem with NPD is that your confidence depends on other people\u2019s opinions and you take advantage of others to get the praise you desperately need.<\/p>\n

Seeking validation is actually your narcissistic supply, something you can’t function without.<\/p>\n

Well, if you\u2019re figuring out how to stop being a narcissist, the best way to do so is to start working on your low self-esteem.<\/p>\n

However, I\u2019m talking about different kinds of self-esteem here\u2014about ones which are not related to your ego. It means improving your self image and the way you perceive yourself.<\/p>\n

Significa sentirsi bene con se stessi, senza dipendere da ci\u00f2 che dicono gli altri.<\/p>\n

8. Diventare consapevoli delle proprie azioni<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Oltre all'autostima, altri elementi su cui costruire sono sicuramente la mindfulness e l'autoconsapevolezza. Ci\u00f2 significa essere pienamente consapevoli delle proprie azioni e del modo in cui esse influiscono su di noi e sulle altre persone che ci circondano.<\/p>\n

Per tutto il tempo che riuscite a ricordare, avete messo voi stessi al primo posto; siete stati egocentrico<\/a> e si \u00e8 occupato solo dei propri bisogni.<\/p>\n

A causa del vostro senso di autostima e della vostra tendenza alla grandiosit\u00e0, vi siete preoccupati solo delle cose che hanno un impatto diretto sui vostri sentimenti o sul vostro ego e non vi siete mai preoccupati delle conseguenze che il vostro comportamento avrebbe potuto lasciare sugli altri.<\/p>\n

Well, it\u2019s time to change that.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not saying that you should spend the rest of your life overthinking your every move before actually doing something about it but you certainly have to become more thoughtful when it comes to your actions and the way others handle them.<\/p>\n

9. Trovare un modo per ritardare il proprio comportamento narcisistico<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014as much as you try, you can\u2019t become your true self overnight.<\/p>\n

You can have an epiphany but you won\u2019t wake up the next morning, after reading this step by step guide, with someone else\u2019s mind and heart in your yesterday body.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, that doesn\u2019t mean that you shouldn\u2019t make any progress. In fact, just take baby steps, one at a time and before you know it, you\u2019ll reach your goal and see for yourself how to stop being a narcissist.<\/p>\n

Pertanto, c'\u00e8 questa grande pratica con cui potete iniziare il vostro viaggio. Invece di uccidere o cancellare magicamente tutti i vostri impulsi narcisistici, fate almeno del vostro meglio per ritardare il vostro comportamento narcisistico.<\/p>\n

Invece di guardare sempre al quadro generale, concentratevi su una situazione alla volta.<\/p>\n

Il vostro obiettivo \u00e8 controllare voi stessi in un determinato momento, senza pensare a ci\u00f2 che potrebbe accadere la prossima volta che vi troverete in una situazione simile.<\/p>\n

Quando sentite che sta per arrivare uno scoppio di rabbia o un episodio di ricatto emotivo, provate a inspirare ed espirare lentamente per un paio di secondi e a contare fino a dieci prima di dire qualcosa o di fare altri respiri.<\/p>\n

This way, you\u2019ll manage to calm your body, mind and heart and you\u2019ll be more in charge of yourself.<\/p>\n

10. Praticare l'empatia e la gentilezza<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

All people suffering from this disorder share one narcissistic trait\u2014they suffer from a lack of empathy and they have a hard time sympathizing with others.<\/p>\n

They think they\u2019re the only ones who matter in this world and they rarely take other people\u2019s feelings or viewpoints into account and nor do they give a damn about the needs of others.<\/p>\n

If this is something you can relate to, you\u2019re probably wondering how to stop being a narcisista occulto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Ebbene, questo deve cambiare in un modo o nell'altro. Tuttavia, la buona notizia \u00e8 che l'empatia, come la maggior parte delle altre cose, pu\u00f2 essere praticata.<\/p>\n

D'ora in poi, prima di agire, provate a pensare a come potrebbe sentirsi il destinatario delle vostre parole e azioni.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter whether you are about to display your toxic behavior or you plan on being nice\u2014just put yourself in their place and see whether you\u2019d like someone treating you that way or not.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t succeed in doing this in the middle of your episode, rethink the entire situation once you get calmer and try walking a mile in the vittima del suo abuso narcisistico<\/a>\u2019s shoes. It\u2019s not pleasant, is it now?<\/p>\n

Well, you\u2019re the only one who can end it.<\/p>\n

An important step toward putting an end to this lack of empathy is kindness. Instead of just perceiving other people\u2019s negative emotions, focus on the good ones as well.<\/p>\n

For a change, be kind to someone else, without expecting anything in return and without it being a part of your sneaky plan you\u2019re yet to reveal.<\/p>\n

Try figuring out how these people you treated nicely feel and focus on how being the reason for someone’s smile makes you feel.<\/p>\n

11. Smettere di buttare gi\u00f9 gli altri<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Another symptom of narcissism is the grandiosity, sense of superiority and self-importance over everyone around you\u2014your coworkers, best friends and closest family members.<\/p>\n

A narcissistic trait is having this sense of entitlement and thinking you\u2019re above everyone else, which often results in narcissistic abuse.<\/p>\n

Actually, your sense of self-love comes from taking advantage of others and using your loved ones to give you compliments and make you feel like they\u2019re below you.<\/p>\n

Guess what? They\u2019re not!<\/p>\n

Even if you disagree with someone, that doesn\u2019t make you smarter or more wise.<\/p>\n

Even if you\u2019re better looking or earn more money, you shouldn\u2019t have this sense of entitlement and nor should you feel like you\u2019re the privileged one.<\/p>\n

Ricordate che abbiamo parlato di empatia?<\/p>\n

Well, the next time you try ruining someone\u2019s self-confidence in order to get your narcissistic supply or feel that your sense of superiority is about to take over, wait a second and ask yourself how the victims of your abuso narcisistico<\/a> sentire.<\/p>\n

12. Chiedere un aiuto professionale<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

While figuring out how to stop being a narcissist, you\u2019re convinced that your loved ones, including your closest friends, coworkers and family members, are all the help you need in this self-healing process.<\/p>\n

Even though seeking support from them is a huge step toward your recovery, sometimes you need professional help with this issue\u2014and that is nothing you should be ashamed of.<\/p>\n

Ci sono professionisti della salute mentale che hanno conseguito un dottorato di ricerca su questo e altri argomenti simili, quindi sapranno senza dubbio come aiutarvi a risolvere il vostro problema nel modo giusto.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry\u2014nobody will judge you there but nobody can do the dirty work for you.<\/p>\n

Instead, they will just show you the way, take your head through this tunnel all the way toward the light and, most importantly, give you the answer to the question: \u2018How to stop being a narcissist?\u2019<\/p>\n

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