{"id":56301,"date":"2020-03-27T13:07:58","date_gmt":"2020-03-27T13:07:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=56301"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:30:09","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:30:09","slug":"come-dimenticare-il-primo-amore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-dimenticare-il-primo-amore\/","title":{"rendered":"Come superare il primo amore: 13 passi per il successo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Come si fa a superare il <\/span>primo amore<\/span>? Questa \u00e8 la domanda a cui tutti noi abbiamo voluto rispondere almeno una volta nella vita. <\/span><\/p>\n

Potrebbe essere il <\/span>prima persona<\/span> siamo usciti insieme nel <\/span>scuola superiore<\/span> come 16 <\/span>anni<\/span>, qualcuno con cui abbiamo condiviso il nostro <\/span>primo bacio<\/span> con, il <\/span>prima persona<\/span> we said “<\/span>Ti amo<\/span>” to, or that special someone we thought was our <\/span>anima gemella<\/span>. Chiunque sia, perdere il proprio <\/span>primo fidanzato<\/span> o fidanzata non \u00e8 mai facile. <\/span><\/p>\n

If this is something you\u2019re dealing with right now, we have a solution to your problem. Here are 13 steps to follow if you\u2019re trying to figure out how to get over your <\/span>primo amore<\/span> nel modo pi\u00f9 sano possibile. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Accept that it\u2019s the end<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Il passo iniziale per superare la <\/span>primo colpo di fulmine<\/span> \u00e8 quello di <\/span>convincersi<\/span> it’s really over. You can\u2019t expect to <\/span>dimenticarli<\/span><\/a> and to kick them out of your heart if you keep hoping that they\u2019ll come back to you and that things will be the way they used to be. <\/span><\/p>\n

That is exactly what many people do when they first break up: they\u2019re in denial and refuse to face the harsh reality. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s easier to keep on pretending that nothing has changed than look at the truth and the pain in your eyes, but you simply have to do it sooner or later, if you want any progress, and it\u2019s definitely better to do it right away than to give yourself more false hope. <\/span><\/p>\n

Destiny won\u2019t magically bring you and your ex together (and even if it does, it would never be the same), this is not a phase or a test every relationship goes through. This is it-this is the end and the final goodbye. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quindi, invece di mettere il vostro <\/span>tutta la vita<\/span> in attesa mentre aspettate pazientemente questo <\/span>una persona<\/span> di tornare, investite tutte le vostre energie per superarle. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Smettere di vedere la rottura come la fine del mondo<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Questa \u00e8 un'altra cosa che accade alla maggior parte delle persone dopo la loro <\/span>primo colpo di fulmine<\/span>: they think it\u2019s the end of the world and that they won’t recover in <\/span>un milione<\/span> anni. Questo \u00e8 il vostro <\/span>prima esperienza<\/span> when it comes to this type of emotional pain, it hits you right in the guts and it is perfectly natural that you don\u2019t know how to handle it. <\/span><\/p>\n

At first, you think you\u2019ll die. Your life is over and everything besides this person is pointless. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, this is far from the truth. The Earth will keep on spinning even though you\u2019ve lost someone you love and you will continue living, even though it doesn\u2019t seem that way now. <\/span><\/p>\n

Per favore, smettetela di essere cos\u00ec pessimisti. <\/span>Le prime relazioni finiscono<\/span>, people grow apart and it’s up to you to accept this as a part of life-nothing more and nothing less.<\/span><\/p>\n

Besides, I won\u2019t lie to you-these things will continue happening. You\u2019ll make mistakes in love and you will be heartbroken again but the difference is, the next time it happens, you\u2019ll know you\u2019ll <\/span>sopravvivere<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Smettere di romanticizzare il primo amore<\/h2>\n

\"Silhouette<\/p>\n

If you want the answer to the question: \u201c<\/span>Come posso dimenticare il mio primo amore<\/span>?\u201d it is actually pretty simple: you just have to stop romanticizing it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Cosa rende <\/span>primi amori<\/span> cos\u00ec difficile da superare \u00e8 il fatto che le persone tendono a romanticizzarlo, in quanto \u00e8 il vostro <\/span>prima esperienza<\/span> quando si tratta di romanticismo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quante volte avete sentito dire da qualcuno che non si dimentica mai la <\/span>prima persona<\/span> you ever loved? That you’ll forever remember your <\/span>primo bacio<\/span><\/a> e <\/span>prima esperienza<\/span> con il sesso opposto?<\/span><\/p>\n

Quanti film avete visto che parlano di persone che si riavvicinano a un'altra persona? <\/span>scuola superiore<\/span> storie d'amore quando invecchiano?<\/span><\/p>\n

You might not be aware of this but we\u2019re surrounded by the cult of <\/span>primo amore<\/span>. Tutti la considerano la forma pi\u00f9 pura, pi\u00f9 pulita e pi\u00f9 intensa di legame romantico. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, it\u2019s about time for you to break that myth. <\/span><\/p>\n

Lasciate che vi dica una cosa: i sentimenti che provate per il vostro <\/span>primo amore<\/span> only seem to be the strongest simply because you\u2019ve never experienced anything similar. You give yourself entirely to the other person just because you still haven\u2019t learned to be careful about the way you open your heart to others. <\/span><\/p>\n

Il <\/span>prima volta<\/span> you break up with someone seems to be the most painful because you still haven’t had the chance to learn how to process it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, there is nothing special about first romance. It\u2019s actually just like any other relationship you\u2019ll have during your lifetime. <\/span><\/p>\n

Infatti, l'ultimo \u00e8 <\/span>l'uno<\/span> che conta!<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Non avere contatti<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

After you\u2019ve sorted out the basics in your head, it\u2019s time for some radical moves. The first step towards your complete healing is going completely no contact with your ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve heard about the no contact rule: you block your ex\u2019s number, unfriend and unfollow them on all <\/span>social media,<\/span>  e interrompere qualsiasi tipo di comunicazione con loro. Di solito si segue questa regola per far sentire all'ex la propria assenza e per riconquistarlo.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, even though you\u2019ll stick to the <\/span>regola del divieto di contatto<\/span><\/a>, you won\u2019t do it for these purposes. Instead, you\u2019ll do it because it\u2019s the only way to kick your ex both out of your life and heart. <\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ec, rimanere amici dopo una relazione seria di lunga durata \u00e8 una cosa bella e civile da fare. Tuttavia, \u00e8 possibile solo nel caso in cui entrambi siate completamente indifferenti l'uno all'altro e non abbiate pi\u00f9 sentimenti romantici. <\/span><\/p>\n

D'altro canto, non appena si inizia a cercare di capire come superare il proprio <\/span>primo amore<\/span>, it becomes more than apparent that you haven\u2019t gotten over your ex. Therefore, the last thing you should be doing is tormenting yourself and pretending you can be <\/span>migliori amici<\/span> just to \u201cdo the right thing\u201d. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Cut all ties with “their people”<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Many people don\u2019t know this but there is a difference between going fully no contact and cutting all ties with your <\/span>relazione passata<\/span>. However, let\u2019s be real here: is there any point in you finishing all communication with your ex if you\u2019ll continue doing some other things to be around them?<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ec, questo potrebbe essere efficace se il vostro obiettivo \u00e8 quello di farli <\/span>paura di perderti<\/span><\/a> and if you just want for them to think that you\u2019ve moved on. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, if you really want to get over this person, you won\u2019t care what they think-what will be important is how you feel and if you\u2019re making any actual progress. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why your life has to stop revolving around this person. First of all, cut ties with their friends and family. I know that this is quite difficult, especially if we\u2019re talking about some mutual friends you also love and who are important to you. <\/span><\/p>\n

On the other hand, when it comes to your ex\u2019s family, you are probably too shy to start avoiding them or to block them everywhere because you don\u2019t want to appear rude. After all, none of these people has ever done you any harm and it\u2019s not fair for them to pay the consequences for your ex\u2019s action. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, this is not about them-it\u2019s about you. You have to find a way to make yourself feel better and this an amazing starting point.<\/span><\/p>\n

Besides, this doesn\u2019t mean that you have to erase these people from your life permanently. You can just explain the situation, ask them to understand and to give you some time, and I\u2019m sure most of them will. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Limitare il tempo in cui si pensa a loro<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

So, you\u2019ve physically removed your ex and everyone who reminded you of them. You\u2019ve narrowed down the people you can talk to about them, but despite that, this person is still constantly present in the back of your mind. <\/span><\/p>\n

The worst part is that you\u2019ve started thinking that there is nothing more you can do about it. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ve stopped going to places where you know you could meet them, you\u2019ve cut ties with everyone they know, you\u2019re not reaching out to them, you\u2019re not stalking their profiles, you\u2019re not asking around about them\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

But despite all of this, it looks like you\u2019re not going anywhere. This person is still <\/span>l'uno<\/span> Si pensa dall'alba al tramonto e naturalmente ci si sente impotenti. <\/span><\/p>\n

Well, the trick is in limiting the time you\u2019re allowed to think about your ex. Of course, it would be ideal if you could just snap your fingers and <\/span>smettere di pensare a loro<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, since that is impossible, it would be great if you could begin with some baby steps. For starters, give yourself let\u2019s say half an hour a day when this person is allowed to exist in your brain.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ogni volta che pensate a loro al di fuori di questo lasso di tempo, ricordate a voi stessi la vostra decisione e lasciate i vostri pensieri per dopo. Naturalmente, dovreste ridurre questo tempo ogni giorno o settimana che passa. <\/span><\/p>\n

7. Avere speranza <\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Whenever you\u2019re going through a tough time in your life, including the breakup of your <\/span>prima relazione<\/span>, the crucial thing is to not lose hope. Instead, try to be optimistic and to have faith in a better tomorrow, no matter the problems you\u2019re facing. <\/span><\/p>\n

Questo aspetto \u00e8 molto importante quando si tratta di superare il primo <\/span>amore vero<\/span> anche. A prescindere da come vi sentite ora, dovete essere consapevoli che amerete di nuovo e che la <\/span>persona giusta<\/span><\/a> verr\u00e0.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whether you believe it or not, someone will come along who you\u2019ll love more than you loved your ex. <\/span><\/p>\n

Qualcuno che guarir\u00e0 il vostro <\/span>cuore spezzato<\/span> and help you raise you from the ashes; someone who will make you forget all of this pain you\u2019re facing now and who will help you leave all of it in the past, where it belongs. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know that hearing this now makes you think that I\u2019m just trying to comfort you and make you feel better but it really is the truth and you have to put all of your strength into believing it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Il tuo <\/span>nuova vita<\/span> awaits you and sooner or later, this will be nothing but a distant memory. In fact, you\u2019ll remember your first <\/span>amore vero<\/span> con il sorriso sulle labbra e niente di pi\u00f9. <\/span><\/p>\n

8. Concentrarsi sulla cura di s\u00e9<\/h2>\n

\"Bella<\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 il momento in cui \u00e8 necessario concentrarsi su <\/span>cura di s\u00e9<\/span><\/a> prima. Per un <\/span>un paio d'anni<\/span>avete amato questa persona con tutto il vostro cuore e le avete dato <\/span>primo posto<\/span> nella vostra vita e ora dovete imparare a rompere questo ciclo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Forse siete cambiati per adattarvi meglio a loro. Forse avete perso la persona che eravate un tempo, ma ora \u00e8 il momento di riconquistare il vostro <\/span>autostima<\/span> e di ritrovare se stessi.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of wasting entire days on thinking about your ex, focus on self-improvement. Work on your appearance, intellect, emotions, career…whatever helps.<\/span><\/p>\n

The bottom line is that you should invest your energy into becoming the person you\u2019re destined to be. Work on personal progress, do all the things you\u2019ve always wanted to do and please all of your heart\u2019s deepest desires. <\/span><\/p>\n

Viziatevi, aumentate il vostro <\/span>autostima<\/span>, pratica <\/span>cura di s\u00e9,<\/span> e fate tutto il possibile per rendervi felici, perch\u00e9 nessuno lo far\u00e0 per voi. <\/span><\/p>\n

9. Chiedere aiuto<\/h2>\n

\"Due<\/p>\n

Listen carefully: there is no shame in admitting that you can\u2019t handle some life situations on your own and that you could use a hand while going through them. <\/span><\/p>\n

No, this doesn\u2019t apply just to things like the death of a <\/span>amata<\/span><\/a>, a divorce, or job loss-you\u2019re allowed to grieve someone who is still alive and over the <\/span>crepacuore<\/span> il tuo <\/span>prima relazione<\/span> sinistra.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have the right to feel the way you do and nobody can tell you that your suffering makes you weak, immature, or that it\u2019s irrelevant. <\/span><\/p>\n

Prima di tutto, cercate di chiedere aiuto al vostro <\/span>migliori amici<\/span> e famiglia. \u00c8 probabile che la maggior parte delle persone intorno a voi abbia gi\u00e0 affrontato la stessa situazione in passato, quindi la loro preziosa esperienza pu\u00f2 sicuramente esservi utile come consiglio. <\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that you should blindly follow their patterns of behavior, since we all heal in a different manner and at a different pace, but what you can do is look up to them. Besides, other people\u2019s stories will make you see that everyone gets over every possible pain, sooner or later. <\/span><\/p>\n

If this doesn\u2019t help, don\u2019t be embarrassed to look for professional help. Go talk to an expert who will give you the push you need to start rationalizing things and to begin your healing process in a healthy way. <\/span><\/p>\n

10. Imparare dalla propria relazione<\/h2>\n

\"Giovane<\/p>\n

Invece di vedere la rottura come la cosa peggiore che potesse capitarvi, provate a osservare tutto quello che \u00e8 successo da una prospettiva diversa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Prima di tutto, il vostro <\/span>relazione d'amore<\/span> wasn’t all <\/span>cose brutte<\/span>-it had its beautiful moments. Please don\u2019t allow those moments to be wiped from your memory and for all the <\/span>cose brutte<\/span> che sono accaduti di recente per cancellarli. <\/span><\/p>\n

Non importa come sia finita, aveva comunque il suo valore e che <\/span>una persona<\/span> che avete frequentato per tanto tempo merita di rimanere nella vostra memoria. S\u00ec, \u00e8 finita, ma \u00e8 stato bello finch\u00e9 \u00e8 durato. <\/span><\/p>\n

Secondly, if you\u2019re wise, you\u2019ll use your failed romance as a tough but valuable lesson. It will help you learn about love, about the opposite sex, about life and relationships, and most importantly-about yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Considerate questa occasione come un'opportunit\u00e0 per osservare il vostro <\/span>modelli di incontri tossici<\/span><\/a>. Quali sono stati i vostri errori durante questa relazione? <\/span><\/p>\n

What are the things you\u2019re looking for and <\/span>quelli<\/span> you won\u2019t tolerate again? What is your preferable type of partner and what are your deal breakers? <\/span><\/p>\n

Come pu\u00f2 aiutarvi a trovare il <\/span>persona giusta<\/span>? <\/span><\/p>\n

Out of all the lessons your break up can teach you, this one is crucial: you don\u2019t need anyone to survive-you just have to <\/span>convincersi<\/span> of that. After all, for all this time, you were convinced that you couldn\u2019t make it without your partner and that you would die if they left your side. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, there you are, safe and sound. Yes, you’re going through your <\/span>primo colpo di fulmine<\/span> but what matters is that you\u2019re still whole and complete. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, I guess you\u2019re way stronger than you assumed. <\/span><\/p>\n

11. Don\u2019t rush yourself into a new relationship<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Asking for advice from your loved ones doesn\u2019t mean that you should go against your heart\u2019s desires. This especially applies to the situation when everyone tells you to fight fire with fire and that the best way to forget your ex is to get yourself involved into a new, <\/span>relazione d'amore<\/span> ASAP – like that’s a piece of cake. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even though there is nothing wrong with falling in love again, please don\u2019t force yourself into doing anything you\u2019re not ready for. Don\u2019t rush yourself into a <\/span>nuova relazione<\/span> perch\u00e9 questo non far\u00e0 altro che farvi sentire peggio di prima. <\/span><\/p>\n

Oltre a consegnare il bagaglio emotivo del vostro <\/span>relazione passata<\/span> la possibilit\u00e0 di rovinare il vostro <\/span>nuovo inizio<\/span><\/a>Ma non c'\u00e8 modo che abbia successo se lo iniziate per le ragioni sbagliate. Dopo tutto, nessuno merita di essere il vostro punto di sutura: sarebbe ingiusto per voi trascinare una terza persona nelle vostre montagne russe emotive. <\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter that you have broken off for good with your ex-you still have some unresolved issues with yourself and that is not fruitful soil for a new healthy romance. <\/span><\/p>\n

12. Ma siate aperti a nuovi amori<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, c'\u00e8 una differenza tra alzare la guardia e condannarsi a una vita senza amore e non saltare da una relazione all'altra. Non ha assolutamente senso fuggire da un potenziale amore e questo tipo di approccio pu\u00f2 causare molti pi\u00f9 danni di quanto si possa pensare.<\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, if love knocks on your door, don\u2019t push it away. Be careful but embrace it openly. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong-I\u2019m not here to promise you that you\u2019ll never get your heart broken again. The truth is that there is no way to protect yourself from that possibility. <\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ec, l'amore \u00e8 sempre un rischio. Tuttavia, \u00e8 un rischio che vale la pena correre. <\/span><\/p>\n

Un'altra cosa a cui dovete prestare attenzione \u00e8 quella di non paragonare le altre persone della vostra vita con il vostro ex. <\/span><\/p>\n

To be honest: I don\u2019t know which is worse: thinking that they were the best and rejecting potential partners because they\u2019re not your <\/span>primo fidanzato<\/span> o fidanzata, o essere convinti che tutti vi faranno del male come ha fatto il vostro ex. <\/span><\/p>\n

Either way, by doing any of these things, you\u2019re only giving them power over you. You\u2019ll sabotage your <\/span>nuova vita<\/span><\/a> and future relationships right from the start if you\u2019re looking for your ex\u2019s replacement. <\/span><\/p>\n

13. Datevi il tempo di guarire<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, tutto questo riguarda il superamento del vostro <\/span>relazione passata<\/span> and moving on. However, in order to know the answer to the question: \u201c<\/span>Come posso dimenticare il mio primo amore<\/span>?\u201d, you have to fix your <\/span>cuore spezzato<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Healing is a process which takes time, devotion, and energy. So, please don\u2019t expect it to be done overnight. <\/span><\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not saying that you should dedicate your <\/span>tutta la vita<\/span> to this person and that you should allow yourself to grieve over them for the rest of eternity. However, you can\u2019t repress your emotions and pretend that everything is in perfect order either. <\/span><\/p>\n

A good idea would be to set yourself a deadline. Mark a certain date on your calendar and allow yourself to suffer up to then. Then, when that date comes, you\u2019re no longer allowed to think or talk about that person. No, you won\u2019t be completely healed then either, but you will have made significant progress and you’ll have the answer to the question: “How do you get over your <\/span>primo amore<\/span>“?<\/span><\/p>\n

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