{"id":56642,"date":"2020-03-28T22:49:11","date_gmt":"2020-03-28T22:49:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=56642"},"modified":"2022-08-12T08:14:56","modified_gmt":"2022-08-12T08:14:56","slug":"come-riparare-un-matrimonio-in-crisi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-riparare-un-matrimonio-in-crisi\/","title":{"rendered":"Come riparare un matrimonio in crisi: Un piano di salvataggio in 15 fasi"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Sul vostro <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/una-lettera-accorata-a-una-sposa-nel-giorno-del-suo-matrimonio\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">giorno del matrimonio<\/a>, after you\u2019d walked down the aisle and were saying your marital vows, you thought that was it.<\/p>\n<p>Tutti i vostri problemi sentimentali erano spariti per sempre e stavate per vivere felici e contenti accanto alla persona amata.<\/p>\n<p>Dopo tutto, questa \u00e8 la scena in cui finiscono tutte le favole e i film romantici. I protagonisti sono riusciti a superare tutti gli ostacoli e sono partiti per la loro vita perfetta.<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, nessuno vi dice cosa viene dopo.<\/p>\n<p>Nessuno vi parla dei problemi che vi aspettano, del fatto che potete facilmente rimanere intrappolati in un matrimonio infelice e nessuno vi avverte della situazione in cui la vostra relazione sta andando a rotoli e non potete farci nulla.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56944\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-on-bed-crying.jpg\" alt=\"Donna sul letto che piange con il volto coperto\" width=\"800\" height=\"535\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-on-bed-crying.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-on-bed-crying-300x201.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-on-bed-crying-768x514.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you were listening to stories about marriage, nobody mentioned that one day, you would be sitting in your room, silently crying and wondering, &#8220;How can I save my marriage before it becomes too late?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Well, that&#8217;s why we&#8217;re here\u2014to give you that answer you&#8217;re so desperate to find.<\/p>\n<p>Innanzitutto, dovete smettere di cercare di capire come sistemare un matrimonio in crisi da soli.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, if you want a healthy marriage, you&#8217;ll have to team up with your spouse and you&#8217;ll both have to invest your entire selves into making it work.<\/p>\n<p>Ecco come farlo esattamente in 15 passi.<\/p>\n<h2>1. Identificare i problemi matrimoniali<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-56675 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-and-man-quarrel-sitting-on-bench.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia Donna e uomo litigano seduti su una panchina\" width=\"800\" height=\"508\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-and-man-quarrel-sitting-on-bench.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-and-man-quarrel-sitting-on-bench-300x191.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-and-man-quarrel-sitting-on-bench-768x488.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Prima di risolvere eventuali problemi e di tentare di riparare il vostro <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/17-segni-di-un-matrimonio-infelice-e-come-risolverlo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">matrimonio infelice<\/a>, firstly you have to know what you\u2019re fighting against.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s the same with your marital problems; before anything else, you need to identify your problems.<\/p>\n<p>Verificate se voi e il vostro coniuge siete sulla stessa lunghezza d'onda. Avete un punto di vista simile sul vostro matrimonio e considerate le stesse cose come problemi matrimoniali?<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 possibile che voi vediate qualcosa che si \u00e8 verificato tra voi due come un grosso problema, mentre l'altra persona lo osserva come completamente irrilevante.<\/p>\n<p>In questo caso, dovrete trovare una via di mezzo e trovare un accordo su quali sono i vostri problemi pi\u00f9 importanti.<\/p>\n<p>Was it infidelity and now you&#8217;re going through an <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/recupero-della-relazione\/\">recupero della relazione<\/a>? Emotivi, sessuali, verbali o <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/incontri-ragazza-sopravvissuta-ad-abusi-fisici-sapere\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">abuso fisico<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56947\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-misunderstanding.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia che ha un malinteso\" width=\"800\" height=\"501\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-misunderstanding.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-misunderstanding-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-misunderstanding-768x481.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>O \u00e8 stata una mancanza di comunicazione e di attenzione? \u00c8 stato un abbandono emotivo o il vostro matrimonio si \u00e8 arenato?<\/p>\n<p>Cosa vi ha portato a trovarvi qui? Qual \u00e8 stata la causa iniziale e il principale fattore scatenante?<\/p>\n<p>Be careful when trying to identify your problems and have in mind that in many cases, the ones you\u2019re having now are actually just a consequence of an issue you both thought you managed to leave behind ages ago.<\/p>\n<p>Potrebbe trattarsi di un trauma profondamente radicato che avete represso o di qualcosa che non avete mai considerato rilevante.<\/p>\n<h2>2. Comunicare onestamente<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56677\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Man-and-woman-communicating.jpg\" alt=\"Uomo e donna che comunicano\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Man-and-woman-communicating.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Man-and-woman-communicating-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Man-and-woman-communicating-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><br \/>\nIn ogni caso, il punto \u00e8 che nessuno dei vostri problemi coniugali \u00e8 irrilevante.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be ashamed to tell your partner exactly what\u2019s bothering you just because you think that they\u2019ll think of you as too weak or overly emotional.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, rebuilding healthy communication is the first step toward rebuilding your marriage and it&#8217;s one of the most important pieces of <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/consigli-sul-matrimonio\/\">consigli sul matrimonio<\/a>. Dimenticatevi di serbare rancore, di <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/segnali-relazione-passiva-aggressiva\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">passivo-aggressivo<\/a> comportamento e sugli insulti.<\/p>\n<p>Dovete semplicemente trovare un modo per parlarvi il pi\u00f9 onestamente possibile, senza paura di essere giudicati.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-56949 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-long-sleeved-top-thinking.jpg\" alt=\"donna con top a maniche lunghe che pensa pensierosa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-long-sleeved-top-thinking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-long-sleeved-top-thinking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-long-sleeved-top-thinking-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Speak your mind and tell one another everything that lies on your heart, everything that\u2019s hurting you and bothering you.<\/p>\n<p>There is no good marriage without good communication and you can\u2019t expect to make something out of yours until you learn the importance of opening up to your partner and until you realize that not every disagreement has to produce a fight.<\/p>\n<p>Ricordate che a voi due \u00e8 consentito avere opinioni diverse su certe questioni e che spetta a voi trovare un punto d'incontro quando ci\u00f2 accade, senza permettere che la situazione degeneri in uno scontro pi\u00f9 grande.<\/p>\n<h2>3. Verificare se c'\u00e8 qualcosa da sistemare<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56679\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-man-in-bed.jpg\" alt=\"Donna sdraiata sul petto di un uomo a letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-man-in-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-man-in-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-man-in-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>After you know what\u2019s mainly wrong with your relationship and after you\u2019ve talked about it directly with your significant other, it\u2019s time to be honest with yourself as well.<\/p>\n<p>Let me warn you\u2014fixing a failing marriage is hard work; it is a long-lasting process which doesn\u2019t only take a lot of time but it also requires much effort, numerous sacrifices and it can cost you more of your patience than you might think.<\/p>\n<p>So, is all of this hard work really worth it? Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not implying that it\u2019s not and neither am I advising you to ditch your entire relationship without a fight; I\u2019m just begging you to think things through as thoroughly as possible before making any final decisions.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/vale-la-pena-salvare-il-mio-matrimonio\/\">Vale la pena salvare il vostro matrimonio<\/a>? Is it worth the trouble you\u2019re certainly about to go through?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56951\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-crouched-down-grab-own-hair.jpg\" alt=\"Un uomo in camicia a quadri si \u00e8 abbassato toccandosi i capelli.\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-crouched-down-grab-own-hair.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-crouched-down-grab-own-hair-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-crouched-down-grab-own-hair-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Can it be fixed? Can you expect to have a happy marriage after you\u2019re done with this crisis or are you fighting in vain?<\/p>\n<p>Queste sono tutte le domande che voi e il vostro partner dovreste porvi. Prendetevi tutto il tempo necessario e, per favore, siate realistici nel formulare le risposte.<\/p>\n<p>Anche se vi amate ancora profondamente, potete essere sicuri che il vostro <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/7-motivi-per-cui-lamore-non-e-sufficiente-a-tenervi-insieme\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">l'amore sar\u00e0 sufficiente<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p>Of course, you\u2019ll take your emotions into consideration but don\u2019t disregard your reason either.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56969\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-covering-face.jpg\" alt=\"donna moglie che piange mani che coprono il viso\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-covering-face.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-covering-face-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-covering-face-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Se decidete di dare l'ultimo saluto al vostro coniuge, concentratevi per rendere il divorzio un'esperienza indolore.<\/p>\n<p>Concentratevi sulla ricostruzione di voi stessi invece che sul vostro matrimonio e andate avanti con la vostra vita.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if you\u2019re certain that both you and your partner have a desire to make this marriage work and that you both believe that it will succeed, go for it.<\/p>\n<p>Dimenticate quello che dicono gli altri, seguite il vostro istinto e fate un'altra prova!<\/p>\n<h2>4. Ricordate perch\u00e9 vi siete innamorati<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56682\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-sitting-on-bench.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia seduta su una panchina di fronte al lago\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-sitting-on-bench.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-sitting-on-bench-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-sitting-on-bench-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>So, your marriage is in big trouble, otherwise, you wouldn\u2019t be here, would you?<\/p>\n<p>La persona che dorme accanto a voi probabilmente vi infastidisce da anni e ci sono stati anche momenti in cui vi sembrava di disprezzarla e in cui il solo guardarla in faccia vi faceva star male.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s true\u2014none of these emotions is beautiful but don\u2019t feel guilty for having them from time to time.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t mean that you really hate your spouse or that you would indeed enjoy seeing them miserable.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56971\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-hands-covering-face.jpg\" alt=\"Donna a letto con le mani che coprono il viso\" width=\"800\" height=\"535\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-hands-covering-face.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-hands-covering-face-300x201.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-hands-covering-face-768x514.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>However, if you\u2019re trying to rebuild your marriage, it\u2019s time to put all of these negative feelings aside and concentrate on something else.<\/p>\n<p>Per cambiare, provate a ricordare perch\u00e9 vi siete innamorati di questa persona.<\/p>\n<p>After all, you two didn\u2019t always have a turbulent relationship. There were times when you got along perfectly, times when you didn\u2019t fight and times when you were convinced you\u2019d live happily ever after.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00ec, probabilmente entrambi siete cambiati con il tempo, ma l'essenza della vostra personalit\u00e0 doveva rimanere almeno simile.<\/p>\n<p>Riesci a vedere qualche traccia dell'uomo o della donna che hai <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/naughty-stuff\/fare-lamore\/20-piccoli-segni-che-si-sta-innamorando-di-te-e-se-durera\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">si \u00e8 innamorato cos\u00ec tanto<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56952\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-love-on-his-face.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che guarda con amore sul suo volto\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-love-on-his-face.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-love-on-his-face-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-love-on-his-face-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Riuscite a ricordare le promesse fatte il giorno del vostro matrimonio? Come avete promesso di rimanere insieme nei giorni belli e in quelli brutti, in salute e in malattia, nella buona e nella cattiva sorte?<\/p>\n<p>Well, the bad days have come and while I\u2019m not saying that you should put up with someone treating you poorly or giving you less than you deserve.<\/p>\n<p>If you already decided to try and make this marriage work, stick to your promise and don\u2019t back out at the first sign of trouble!<\/p>\n<h2>5. Walk a mile in your spouse\u2019s shoes<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56683\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-and-woman-walking.jpg\" alt=\"Uomo e donna che camminano sul marciapiede\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-and-woman-walking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-and-woman-walking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-and-woman-walking-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Bisogna essere consapevoli che in ogni scenario ci sono due facce della medaglia.<\/p>\n<p>Even though you might have a hard time accepting this, you\u2019re not always right and your point of view is not the only true one.<\/p>\n<p>In realt\u00e0, il vostro coniuge probabilmente ha la sua versione della storia ed \u00e8 ora di ascoltarlo.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t let them <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/psychology\/mind-games\/5-segnali-di-allarme-per-la-manipolazione-emotiva\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">manipolarvi<\/a> e cambiare la vostra opinione, ma provate ad ascoltarli.<\/p>\n<p>Sforzatevi di mettervi nei loro panni e di camminare per un miglio nelle loro scarpe.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56953\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-black-long-sleeved-top-thinking.jpg\" alt=\"Donna con top nero a maniche lunghe che pensa\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-black-long-sleeved-top-thinking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-black-long-sleeved-top-thinking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-black-long-sleeved-top-thinking-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>See what it is that you\u2019re doing wrong, how your words and actions impact them and how your spouse feels in this entire drama.<\/p>\n<p>After all, you\u2019re trying to save a romantic relationship which is a two-way street. The goal is not just for you to be okay with the outcome, it is to make you both feel better and more satisfied.<\/p>\n<p>If you can\u2019t make yourself do this, for a few days pretend that you\u2019re a bystander who observes your marriage objectively.<\/p>\n<p>Dimenticate le vostre emozioni e vedete cosa concludereste se non foste parte di questa relazione e se aveste la possibilit\u00e0 di guardarla dall'esterno.<\/p>\n<p>Trust me\u2014this approach will expand your horizons and it will give you a completely new perspective on things.<\/p>\n<h2>6. Trovare tempo per l'altro<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56684\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-walking-on-shallow-water.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia che ride mentre cammina sull&#039;acqua bassa\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-walking-on-shallow-water.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-walking-on-shallow-water-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-walking-on-shallow-water-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>So che voi e il vostro coniuge avete vite impegnate e che i vostri obblighi quotidiani spesso ostacolano il vostro matrimonio.<\/p>\n<p>Outside of this broken marriage, you have a job, your friends, parents, hobbies\u2026 and your partner is the same.<\/p>\n<p>Se avete dei figli, i vostri doveri sono ancora pi\u00f9 grandi. Volete guadagnare abbastanza denaro per permettere una vita migliore a tutta la vostra famiglia, volete essere dei buoni genitori, dovete tenere la casa pulita e in ordine e, naturalmente, avete bisogno di un po' di tempo per voi stessi.<\/p>\n<p>Naturalmente, dopo aver fatto tutto ci\u00f2, non avete pi\u00f9 energie per il vostro coniuge.<\/p>\n<p>Be honest\u2014how frequently do you two spend time together, without anyone else and without any disturbances from the outside world?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56955\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-hugging-beside-stairs.jpg\" alt=\"Uomo e donna che si abbracciano vicino al muro di mattoni delle scale\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-hugging-beside-stairs.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-hugging-beside-stairs-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-hugging-beside-stairs-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>What was the last time you just chilled next to each other, without talking about the mortgage, the kids\u2019 sports practice or what you\u2019ll cook for dinner tomorrow?<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t remember, right? Well, that\u2019s one of the problems and something you have to change ASAP if you want to see some progress in this marriage.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t matter how but you have to find time for the two of you.<\/p>\n<p>Prendete un giorno di ferie (o aspettate il fine settimana), trovate qualcuno che faccia da babysitter ai bambini e passate qualche ora con vostro marito o vostra moglie, senza che nessuno o qualcosa interferisca o ostacoli il vostro matrimonio.<\/p>\n<p>However, don\u2019t make this a one-time thing. Instead, if you want a successful marriage, make sure you make it a habit and you\u2019ll see how beneficial this time will be for both of you.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t forget that besides being responsible <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/family\/5-consigli-di-successo-per-la-co-genitorialita-con-un-narcisista\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">co-genitori<\/a> e persone in carriera, voi due siete ancora una coppia!<\/p>\n<h2>7. Take responsibility\u2026<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56956\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-sparklers.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna che tengono in mano dei fuochi d&#039;artificio\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-sparklers.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-sparklers-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-sparklers-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quando le cose vanno male, una delle cose pi\u00f9 difficili per tutti \u00e8 assumersi la responsabilit\u00e0 delle proprie azioni.<\/p>\n<p>We all prefer passing the buck to the next person, thinking that they\u2019re the only one guilty for the failure of our relationship and the mere thought that we also carry a part of the weight kills us.<\/p>\n<p>La verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che entrambi siete responsabili dello stato della vostra relazione.<\/p>\n<p>Naturalmente, se il vostro coniuge <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-cose-da-fare-quando-scopri-che-ti-ha-tradito\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">ti ha tradito<\/a>, for example, you can\u2019t be to blame but I\u2019m sure that both of you have done some things the other person didn\u2019t like during the course of your marriage.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, iniziate a comportarvi come due adulti e assumetevi la responsabilit\u00e0 delle vostre azioni.<\/p>\n<p>Admit that you hurt your spouse in the past (even if it wasn\u2019t deliberately) and accept the fact that you contributed to this situation, one way or another.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56686\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-hugging.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia che si abbraccia in giardino all&#039;aperto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-hugging.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-hugging-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-hugging-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Stand behind your actions and give your partner the apology they\u2019ve been waiting so long for.<\/p>\n<p>Naturalmente, ditegli che vi aspettate lo stesso trattamento in cambio.<\/p>\n<p>Naturally, you can\u2019t change the past and nobody is asking you to do so. You can\u2019t magically erase your mistakes but acknowledging that you made them is much better than pretending to be flawless.<\/p>\n<p>By avoiding responsibility, you\u2019re deepening your significant other\u2019s wounds.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 stato pi\u00f9 che sufficiente che tu abbia fatto qualcosa che li ha feriti e non avere la decenza di ammettere che hai sbagliato \u00e8 ancora peggio.<\/p>\n<h2>8. \u2026 but avoid the blame game<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56688\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Man-leaning-on-wooden-table.jpg\" alt=\"Uomo problematico appoggiato a un tavolo di legno\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Man-leaning-on-wooden-table.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Man-leaning-on-wooden-table-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Man-leaning-on-wooden-table-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>However, don\u2019t turn this process of taking responsibility into a blame game because it won\u2019t get you anywhere.<\/p>\n<p>Accusing your spouse of being the only guilty one or putting each other\u2019s mistakes on a scale is pointless and will only make your confrontations nastier.<\/p>\n<p>Remember\u2014after the two of you own up to your mistakes and after you accept each other\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/questa-volta-le-sue-scuse-non-sono-sufficienti\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">scuse<\/a>non si pu\u00f2 pi\u00f9 tornare indietro.<\/p>\n<p>Non c'\u00e8 rancore, non c'\u00e8 vendetta e non c'\u00e8 da sbatterglielo in faccia.<\/p>\n<p>Doing something to make the other person suffer even more for their misdeeds is a clear sign that you haven\u2019t managed to forget them, even though you claimed you did.<\/p>\n<h2>9. Spostare l'attenzione<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56689\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-writing-on-notebook.jpg\" alt=\"Donna che scrive su quaderno scrivania bianca\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-writing-on-notebook.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-writing-on-notebook-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-writing-on-notebook-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quando la vostra relazione \u00e8 in crisi, vi concentrate solo sulle cose negative che accadono.<\/p>\n<p>You talk to your friends about your spouse\u2019s awful treatment, you can\u2019t help but think of all the bad stuff they\u2019ve done to you and all of a sudden, you see them as the worst person walking on this planet.<\/p>\n<p>Well, even though I\u2019m not saying that you\u2019re exaggerating, if you want to save the marriage, it is time to change your focus.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of only seeing the things that are bothering you and giving them an extra thought, put an effort into noticing your partner\u2019s positive behavior.<\/p>\n<p>You can both get a journal in which you\u2019ll write your significant other\u2019s nice gestures every day.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56958\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Man-bouquet-of-wild-flowers.jpg\" alt=\"Uomo con alle spalle un mazzo di fiori di campo\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Man-bouquet-of-wild-flowers.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Man-bouquet-of-wild-flowers-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Man-bouquet-of-wild-flowers-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Scrivete come sono venuti a prendervi al lavoro, come vi hanno sorpreso presentandosi nella vostra pausa pranzo, come vi hanno comprato esattamente ci\u00f2 che volevate per il vostro matrimonio. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/25-idee-per-il-compleanno-di-tuo-marito-che-linferno-ama-assolutamente\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">compleanno<\/a> o semplicemente come vi hanno sorriso senza un motivo specifico.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, all of these things are normal in a relationship and shouldn\u2019t be seen as miracles. However, you and your spouse need to change your views on each other and this is the way to do so.<\/p>\n<p>You can also write down your partner\u2019s positive qualities every day.<\/p>\n<p>This advice is effective in more than one way. Firstly, it will help you see that despite what you might have thought, your marriage isn\u2019t as bad as it seems.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56962\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-at-the-field.jpg\" alt=\"coppia al campo giacca dell&#039;uomo come copertura per la donna\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-at-the-field.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-at-the-field-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-at-the-field-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll realize that there are still more than a few good things about it and knowing this will without a doubt change your entire mindset and attitude toward your relationship.<\/p>\n<p>After all, I\u2019m sure you wouldn\u2019t still be next to this person if they were entirely bad.<\/p>\n<p>Un altro vantaggio di questo diario \u00e8 che potete rileggerlo ogni volta che il vostro coniuge vi infastidisce o fa qualcosa che vi ferisce.<\/p>\n<p>It will serve you as a reminder that you\u2019re married to a great person and it will help you remember all the good things they have done for you.<\/p>\n<h2>10. Agire sui problemi<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56690\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Family-walking-in-pedestrian-lane.jpg\" alt=\"Famiglia felice di bambini che cammina sulla corsia pedonale\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Family-walking-in-pedestrian-lane.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Family-walking-in-pedestrian-lane-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Family-walking-in-pedestrian-lane-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Many people do a lot of talking when they&#8217;re trying to figure out <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-salvare-un-matrimonio-quando-solo-uno-ci-prova\/\">come salvare un matrimonio<\/a> che \u00e8 rotto.<\/p>\n<p>They promise both themselves and their spouse that they\u2019ll be better and that they will make all the changes required of them.<\/p>\n<p>In teoria, tutto ci\u00f2 sembra fantastico. Tuttavia, quando si arriva alla parte pratica, la maggior parte si tira indietro dopo aver capito che aveva promesso molto di pi\u00f9 di quanto potesse realizzare.<\/p>\n<p>Please, don\u2019t be one of those people. Yes, communication is crucial but that doesn\u2019t mean that you should spend days, weeks or even months blabbing about your issues without actually doing anything about it.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, it is your and your partner\u2019s job to act on your problems and to find a solution to them which will fit both of you.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56960\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-kissing-hand-of-wife.jpg\" alt=\"Uomo che bacia la mano della moglie con la fede nuziale\" width=\"800\" height=\"538\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-kissing-hand-of-wife.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-kissing-hand-of-wife-300x202.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-kissing-hand-of-wife-768x516.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-kissing-hand-of-wife-760x510.jpg 760w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Per cominciare, dimenticatevi di <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/basta-con-le-parole-dolci-e-le-promesse-vuote-voglio-onesta-e-impegno\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">promesse vuote<\/a>; fare un piano d'azione concreto e rispettarlo, a prescindere da tutto.<\/p>\n<p>Quali sono le cose che volete cambiare, come pensate esattamente di cambiarle e fino a quando si dovrebbe notare qualche tipo di progresso?<\/p>\n<p>Cosa chiedete all'altra persona e cosa promettete di fare?<\/p>\n<p>Lo so, sembra un accordo commerciale. Tuttavia, a volte \u00e8 l'unico modo per uscire da un punto morto e iniziare a fare qualcosa, invece di parlarne soltanto.<\/p>\n<h2>11. Ricominciare a frequentare gli amici<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56961\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-sitting-at-the-table.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia di sposi seduti al tavolo cena a lume di candela\" width=\"800\" height=\"530\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-sitting-at-the-table.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-sitting-at-the-table-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-sitting-at-the-table-768x509.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quando \u00e8 stata l'ultima volta che siete usciti a cena o al cinema con il vostro partner senza un'occasione speciale?<\/p>\n<p>Solo voi due, senza i bambini, gli amici o i genitori?<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re one of those people who thinks that married couples shouldn\u2019t go out on dates, please change your mind and consider the option of dating your husband or wife all over again.<\/p>\n<p>You two can engage in some role-playing and pretend that you don\u2019t even know each other and that this is your first blind date or you can just start dating like two lovebirds who are already in a long-term relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Determinare un <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/20-idee-sorprendenti-e-carine-per-un-appuntamento-a-tarda-notte\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">appuntamento con la notte<\/a> ogni settimana e rispettarlo, salvo altri piani o emergenze che potrebbero verificarsi.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56691\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-holding-wine-glass.jpg\" alt=\"Donna che tiene il bicchiere di vino per la cena\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-holding-wine-glass.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-holding-wine-glass-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Woman-holding-wine-glass-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Dress nicely, pick a fancy place (it doesn\u2019t have to be anything expensive but it is not a date if you stay in your living room) and do everything by the book.<\/p>\n<p>This is especially great for those couples who already stopped living together but still haven\u2019t filed for divorce and instead decided to give their marriage a second chance.<\/p>\n<p>In questo caso, potete mandarvi messaggi tra un appuntamento e l'altro e comportarvi come due persone che si stanno appena conoscendo.<\/p>\n<p>Trust me\u2014this game will freshen up your entire relationship, it will remind you what butterflies feel like and it will help you remember why you fell in love with each other in the first place.<\/p>\n<h2>12. Lavorare sull'intimit\u00e0<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56693\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-breakfast-on-the-floor.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia relaxec che fa colazione sul pavimento\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-breakfast-on-the-floor.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-breakfast-on-the-floor-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-breakfast-on-the-floor-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014sex is an important part of every romantic relationship and its significance can only increase with time.<\/p>\n<p>Certo, non \u00e8 l'unica cosa che pu\u00f2 preservare una relazione, ma quando le cose in camera da letto smettono di funzionare, di solito si riflettono anche su tutto il resto.<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, pur sapendo questo, molte coppie sposate si disinteressano del sesso e, dopo un po', lo cacciano addirittura dalla loro vita.<\/p>\n<p>Si annoiano l'uno dell'altro, sono stanchi della vita quotidiana o hanno qualche altro motivo, ma il fatto \u00e8 che la maggior parte delle coppie che sono sull'orlo del divorzio testimoniano che la loro vita sessuale \u00e8 stata inesistente per un certo periodo di tempo.<\/p>\n<p>And I\u2019m not talking about sex here only. I\u2019m talking about other forms of <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/cinque-fatti-importanti-da-sapere-sullintimita-fisica-nel-matrimonio\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">intimit\u00e0 fisica<\/a> you should make a habit of doing as well\u2014about kissing, hugging, cuddling and so on.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56963\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-embracing.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che abbraccia l&#039;uomo dietro la donna\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-embracing.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-embracing-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-embracing-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Anche se risolvere le discussioni sotto le lenzuola equivale a nascondere le cose sotto il tappeto ed \u00e8 tutt'altro che salutare, ricordate che lavorare sul vostro matrimonio significa anche lavorare sulla vostra intimit\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>Per cominciare, fatevi sentire di pi\u00f9 con il vostro coniuge. Lasciate che i vostri corpi si abituino di nuovo l'uno all'altro; iniziate a sedervi accanto a loro, sfruttate ogni occasione per toccarli accidentalmente o per dargli un abbraccio o un bacio sulla guancia, se non altro quando gli passate accanto, senza un motivo particolare.<\/p>\n<p>Trust me\u2014each one of these little things is actually huge for your marriage.<\/p>\n<p>Vi avvicina e approfondisce il vostro legame ed \u00e8 proprio quello di cui avete bisogno in un momento di emergenza come questo.<\/p>\n<h2>13. Imparare dai conflitti<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56694\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-grass-field.jpg\" alt=\"Uomo e donna seduti vicino al prato\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-grass-field.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-grass-field-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-grass-field-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Believe me when I tell you that even the happiest couples fight. In fact, it wouldn\u2019t be normal if you didn\u2019t have some sort of confrontation every now and then with someone you share your life with.<\/p>\n<p>Dopo tutto, siete persone diverse ed \u00e8 naturale che non siate d'accordo su alcuni aspetti.<\/p>\n<p>Also, a married couple should be in love with each other and if you\u2019re never bored with something the other person does, it might be a red flag that you\u2019re completely indifferent toward them and that you can\u2019t be touched by their words or actions.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, nessuno vi chiede di smettere di litigare se volete un matrimonio di successo.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56964\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-holding-hands-monochrome.jpg\" alt=\"Tenersi per mano di una coppia vista da dietro\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-holding-hands-monochrome.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-holding-hands-monochrome-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Couple-holding-hands-monochrome-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, secondo la maggior parte degli esperti di matrimonio, la differenza principale tra un matrimonio malsano e uno <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/15-characteristics-of-a-healthy-and-mature-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">relazioni sane<\/a> \u00e8 nel modo in cui questi ultimi imparano dalle loro argomentazioni.<\/p>\n<p>Pertanto, se volete salvare il vostro matrimonio, dovete rendere i vostri litigi produttivi.<\/p>\n<p>Utilizzateli come piattaforma per aiutarvi a migliorare la vostra relazione e a capire alcune cose nuove del vostro partner.<\/p>\n<p>Remember\u2014calling each other names, insulting each other and saying things below the belt are never acceptable.<\/p>\n<p>Alla fine della giornata, potete sempre concordare di non essere d'accordo, come due adulti maturi.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56967\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-distressed.jpg\" alt=\"donna-in-grigio-canottiera-distrutta\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-distressed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-distressed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-distressed-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Also, it is important to know exactly what you\u2019re fighting about. Is the unfolded laundry the real problem or are you keeping your anger about something from before bottled up and you explode at each other about any nonsense?<\/p>\n<p>Either way, please don\u2019t forget that it should never be you two against each other. In fact, it\u2019s you two against the problem.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t matter who is right; what is important is to come up with a solution which will be beneficial for both of you and the best option for your relationship. There are no winners or losers here.<\/p>\n<p>Put aside your ego and join forces even when you\u2019re arguing! Admit if you&#8217;re wrong and don&#8217;t let your broken self-esteem ruin your chance of having a healthy marriage!<\/p>\n<h2>14. Costruire un nuovo matrimonio<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56695\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-bedroom-window.jpg\" alt=\"Uomo donna di fronte alla finestra della camera da letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-bedroom-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-bedroom-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/man-woman-bedroom-window-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The sad fact that you&#8217;re trapped in a failing marriage tells you the painful truth\u2014it obviously isn\u2019t working.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not saying that you and your spouse aren\u2019t meant to be, that you can\u2019t succeed or that you don\u2019t love each other enough; I\u2019m just pointing out the obvious\u2014your relationship, the way it has been up until now, is not a functional one.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t put any effort into reviving it. Don\u2019t try to make things the way they used to be because if everything was in order, you wouldn\u2019t be facing this problem, would you?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56965\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-couple-hugging.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia felice che si abbraccia all&#039;aperto in pieno giorno\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-couple-hugging.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-couple-hugging-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-couple-hugging-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Accept the fact that your marriage will never be the same. However, that is actually a good thing because it means that if you play your cards right, you probably won\u2019t be in this situation ever again.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, invece di ricostruire la vostra vecchia relazione, costruite un nuovo matrimonio partendo da zero. Voltate pagina e ricominciate da capo, come se vi foste appena conosciuti.<\/p>\n<p>Stabilite nuove regole, dimenticate il passato e concentratevi sul futuro. Lasciate il vostro <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/ecco-come-lasciare-che-il-tuo-bagaglio-emotivo-rovini-la-tua-prossima-relazione\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">bagaglio emotivo<\/a> e traumi alle spalle e fingere che si tratti di un'altra persona con cui provare a convivere per la prima volta.<\/p>\n<h2>15. Fare una visita a un consulente matrimoniale<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56696\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-holding-hands-2.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia che tiene per mano la moglie con la fede nuziale\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-holding-hands-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-holding-hands-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/couple-holding-hands-2-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>La consulenza matrimoniale o il rivolgersi a un terapeuta familiare sono cose che molte coppie evitano per diversi motivi.<\/p>\n<p>Some are ashamed of their surroundings or are afraid that everyone will know that their marriage is going downhill and some can\u2019t admit that they couldn&#8217;t figure out how to fix a broken marriage without counseling and need professional assistance in getting their relationship back on its feet after all.<\/p>\n<p>Tenete presente che esistono numerosi corsi di matrimonio certificati, tenuti da esperti del settore, che possono dare al vostro matrimonio l'aiuto di cui ha bisogno e trovare la soluzione migliore per tutti i vostri problemi coniugali.<\/p>\n<p>Ebbene, lasciate che vi dica che cercare aiuto e andare in consulenza matrimoniale o fare una visita a un terapeuta familiare \u00e8 la cosa giusta da fare se volete risolvere i vostri problemi nel modo pi\u00f9 sano possibile.<\/p>\n<p>No, this step doesn\u2019t mean that you and your spouse are a couple of failures who are not capable of doing everything on your own\u2014it is only a sign that you\u2019re mature enough to know that marriage counselors and family therapists are trained experts who have the capacity and the ability to show you the right path.<\/p>\n<p>Most importantly\u2014this is a sign that you are both serious in your desire to save the marriage.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-56915\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-To-Fix-A-Broken-Marriage-A-15-Step-Rescue-Plan-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Come sistemare un matrimonio in crisi: Un piano di salvataggio in 15 passi Pinterest \" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-To-Fix-A-Broken-Marriage-A-15-Step-Rescue-Plan-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-To-Fix-A-Broken-Marriage-A-15-Step-Rescue-Plan-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-To-Fix-A-Broken-Marriage-A-15-Step-Rescue-Plan-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-To-Fix-A-Broken-Marriage-A-15-Step-Rescue-Plan-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>On your wedding day, after you\u2019d walked down the aisle and were saying your marital vows, you thought that was it. All of your romantic troubles were gone forever and you were about to live happily ever after next to your loved one. After all, this is the scene where all the fairy tales and&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":56671,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29623],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-56642","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marriage"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29623,"label":"marriage"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-To-Fix-A-Broken-Marriage-A-15-Step-Rescue-Plan.jpg",800,550,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29623,"name":"marriage","slug":"marriage","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29623,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. 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