{"id":5729,"date":"2017-09-27T11:27:38","date_gmt":"2017-09-27T11:27:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=5729"},"modified":"2021-08-31T07:29:07","modified_gmt":"2021-08-31T07:29:07","slug":"i-millennial-hanno-cambiato-lamore-in-peggio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/i-millennial-hanno-cambiato-lamore-in-peggio\/","title":{"rendered":"Ecco come abbiamo ucciso l'amore"},"content":{"rendered":"

I Millennial, in generale, sono considerati quelli che cambieranno il mondo. Sono in sintonia con la tecnologia, sono i pi\u00f9 propensi a mangiare fuori casa, hanno le loro regole di vita e sono quelli che hanno cambiato l'idea di valore. Andava tutto bene finch\u00e9 non hanno cambiato l'idea di amore<\/a> anche.<\/span><\/p>\n

In passato abbiamo sbagliato molte cose. Ne abbiamo fatte anche di pi\u00f9, ma abbiamo fatto bene con l'amore. Abbiamo fatto bene a rispettare l'idea di amore e anche l'amore che provavamo. L'amore era importante. L'amore era una priorit\u00e0. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, let\u2019s not sugarcoat things here, millennials didn\u2019t just change love for worse, they ruined love.<\/span><\/p>\n

Le nostre conversazioni sono diventate messaggi.<\/b> What once was the most important part of a relationship and love is now switched into a faceless exchange of information. No wonder we\u2019re so harsh with words when we only talk to our screens. Our words would be more gentle if we\u2019d deliver them in person. But we rather choose not to. <\/span><\/p>\n

Le nostre discussioni sono diventate telefonate.<\/b> We don\u2019t call just to hear someone\u2019s voice. We don\u2019t call just so we could tell somebody something nice. We don\u2019t do it anymore. <\/span><\/p>\n

Feelings don\u2019t matter<\/a> unless we\u2019re talking about the negative ones. We call people to take it out on them. We pick up the phone and dial the number so we could tell the person listening on the other side of the line that they are wrong and that we\u2019re right, and then we take their opportunity to explain themselves and we hang up. But this isn\u2019t how it was done before. <\/span><\/p>\n

I nostri sentimenti sono diventati messaggi subliminali.<\/b> We\u2019re no longer aware of how we feel, no matter how much our feelings might wave right in front of our eyes. We refuse to feel or to acknowledge we actually feel. We are afraid to share our feelings, so we tend to shove them somewhere deep down, till we become absolutely oblivious of what emotions are running through our soul.<\/span><\/p>\n

Le nostre insicurezze sono diventate il nostro modo di pensare. <\/b>Since the day one, millenials have been feeding their insecurities, and instead of confronting them and making them disappear, this became our way of thinking. There isn\u2019t one thought in our mind that wasn\u2019t touched by insecurity or one action that wasn\u2019t consumed by insecurity. It\u2019s as if the more insecure you feel, the cooler you look. <\/span><\/p>\n

Getting jealous became a habit. It\u2019s like we can\u2019t enter a relationship, a friendship, or anything else without wanting something that somebody else has. It\u2019s also a product of our insecurities, so out of fear that somebody might take something that we think belongs to us, we become possessive and jealous often tightening our grip.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\"Ecco<\/p>\n

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Il sesso \u00e8 diventato cos\u00ec facile.<\/b> Now it\u2019s just a form of physical activity. We don\u2019t tend to give it too much thought. We just want our lust out of our system. And then, after we get attached, only then we tend to ask what went wrong. <\/span><\/p>\n

The word \u2018love\u2019 is used out of context. <\/b>Sempre. Siamo passati dall'amare le persone all'amare le cose. <\/span><\/p>\n

La fiducia \u00e8 difficile da ottenere. <\/b>We find it hard to put trust in other people and vice versa. We just don\u2019t believe people that easily, and there are only a few people who deserve to be trusted, to begin with. Those who have somebody trustworthy are the few lucky ones out there. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Essere feriti \u00e8 diventato naturale.<\/b> You just know you\u2019re going to get hurt eventually. You\u2019re prepared for it; it\u2019s not like it hurts less, but you\u2019re aware of it. It\u2019s like in every relationship we enter we\u2019re just waiting for the moment when our heart is going to be broken or our trust betrayed. It\u2019s just how we operate now. <\/span><\/p>\n

Partire divenne l'unica opzione. <\/b>We gave up on fighting long ago. We gave up on fighting for people we loved, and we gave up on love as well. It\u2019s way easier to just walk away from a relationship, that job that we didn\u2019t get, and the person who we love. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s sad how we want to be happy so desperately, but we fail to understand that love is one of the ultimate cose che ci rendono felici<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, when somebody calls just to hear your voice, don\u2019t take that person for granted. When somebody states loud and clear how he feels and stands behind his words, don\u2019t take it for granted. When you stumble upon somebody who doesn\u2019t take sex for granted, when you find somebody who won\u2019t project his insecurities on you, when somebody who you can trust knocks on your door and makes it clear he is not leaving, it means he’s worthy of your love. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you have something that\u2019s worth it, don\u2019t ever take it for granted. Because what you have is the treasure of this world to begin with. <\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Millennials, by and large, are credited for being the ones who will change the world. They are in tune with technology, they are most likely to be the ones to eat out, they have their own rules to live by, and they are the ones who changed the idea of value. It was all fine…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":5741,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5729","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/christian-gertenbach-179213-1024x683.jpg",1024,683,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","parent":38,"count":426,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29614,"category_count":426,"category_description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"love talks","category_nicename":"love-talks","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5729","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5729"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5729\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5741"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5729"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5729"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5729"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}