{"id":57591,"date":"2020-03-30T14:08:31","date_gmt":"2020-03-30T14:08:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=57591"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:23:47","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:23:47","slug":"ho-paura-dellamore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ho-paura-dellamore\/","title":{"rendered":"Voglio l'amore ma mi spaventa da morire"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Voglio che l'amore, il vero amore, mi dimostri finalmente che posso essere me stessa. Voglio un amore che non si nasconda, che non sia calcolato, spaventato o indeciso.<\/p>\n<p>Voglio un amore cos\u00ec forte da superare tutte le mie paure. \u00c8 chiedere troppo?<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes I\u2019m so convinced I will never find it. The emptiness in my chest is too comfortable. I\u2019m used to it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>It seems as if I crave love and at the same time, I\u2019m afraid of it. I\u2019m scared of commitment and being hurt again. <\/strong><strong>I\u2019m scared of making one big decision with such a huge impact on the rest of my life.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Maybe it\u2019s because subconsciously my mind thinks I\u2019m not deserving of love. Why?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-57629\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/nice-blond-woman-thinking.jpg\" alt=\"bella donna bionda che pensa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/nice-blond-woman-thinking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/nice-blond-woman-thinking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/nice-blond-woman-thinking-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t accept myself as I am, and no matter how hard the other person tries to make me comfortable, I can\u2019t feel comfortable inside myself.<\/p>\n<p>La stessa cosa mi fa attrarre da partner che mi maltrattano.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t want to end up with someone who will ruin my life and leave me in pieces. It happened before. That\u2019s why I\u2019m feeling this wrecked in the first place.<\/p>\n<p><strong>When you go through abuse, everything in your life changes. You\u2019re not the person you were before.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Uncertainty and feeling powerless become part of you. There\u2019s no going back to the old.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-57630\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-looking-through-car-window.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste che guarda attraverso il finestrino dell&#039;auto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-looking-through-car-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-looking-through-car-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sad-woman-looking-through-car-window-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Francamente, l'idea che qualcuno mi veda <em>solo il modo in cui<\/em> I am scares the heck out of me. It\u2019s almost like admitting <em>quello che vedete ora \u00e8 tutto ci\u00f2 che posso darvi<\/em>. And I\u2018m scared that\u2019s not enough.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t want to just wake up heartbroken one day. I\u2019d rather wake up lonely even if it hurts. The fear of future pain is almost paralyzing.<\/p>\n<p><strong>However, I want to overcome this fear and I\u2019m aware that the first step in overcoming it is changing my relationship with myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>When we stop limiting our feelings and let ourselves be vulnerable, things start changing. If we\u2019re not vulnerable, we\u2019re not being honest with ourselves.<\/p>\n<p>Lo ricordo a me stesso: Da qualche parte l\u00e0 fuori c'\u00e8 una persona che accetter\u00e0 le tue imperfezioni e non penser\u00e0 mai a te come a una persona che non ha mai pensato a te. <em>troppo o troppo poco<\/em> qualsiasi cosa. Qualcuno che ami veramente tutto ci\u00f2 che siete.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-57631\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-hugging-a-smiling-man.jpg\" alt=\"donna che abbraccia un uomo sorridente\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-hugging-a-smiling-man.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-hugging-a-smiling-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/woman-hugging-a-smiling-man-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ma prima di questo, dovete farvi vedere da loro.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t paralyze yourself in fear and don\u2019t give or accept half-hearted love.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Be yourself proudly. Don\u2019t let the past trauma take you away from you. You\u2019re more than the things that happened to you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t close off your heart because by doing that, you\u2019re hurting yourself anyway.<\/p>\n<p>Ogni lezione di vita ha il suo significato. Tutto nella vita va avanti, quindi lasciate che vada avanti.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Don\u2019t settle thinking I\u2019m that girl who\u2019s going to end up alone forever. That\u2019s not true! You decide who you are.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-57632\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-afro-woman.jpg\" alt=\"donna afro sorridente\" width=\"800\" height=\"531\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-afro-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-afro-woman-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/smiling-afro-woman-768x510.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Instead, stop thinking about love and a relationship as something unattainable. Making an effort towards something always opens a new door you didn\u2019t know about.<\/p>\n<p>Make a connection, say what\u2019s on your heart, don\u2019t worry about how you\u2019re being perceived, and let the magic happen.<\/p>\n<p>Being hurt or even being alone isn\u2019t the worst thing that can happen to you. Every situation is a chance for growth.<\/p>\n<p>Take your pain and what you learned from it to plant something new \u2013 something that can be your own revolution.<\/p>\n<p>You can have someone you can call your own, someone who will be there always. Someone who loves you without limit \u2013 who won\u2019t make you feel worthless, overlooked, put aside or sad.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-57633\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-couple-kissing-on-the-sunset.jpg\" alt=\"coppia felice che si bacia al tramonto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-couple-kissing-on-the-sunset.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-couple-kissing-on-the-sunset-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/happy-couple-kissing-on-the-sunset-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Meritate di amare e di essere amati a vostra volta. Aprite il vostro cuore a qualcosa di nuovo.<\/p>\n<p>Start by loving yourself and watch things change. Little by little you will find yourself doing things you never imagined. Bit by bit you\u2019ll notice fear disappearing.<\/p>\n<p>Love is the most powerful of all things, so don\u2019t underestimate its importance in your life. You need it, you\u2019re deserving of it, and you can experience it in its truest form.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t let it scare you. True love doesn\u2019t know fear.<\/p>\n<p>Esiste. Lasciate che vi trovi.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-57636\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/I-Want-Love-But-It-Scares-The-Hell-Out-Of-Me-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Voglio l&#039;amore ma mi spaventa da morire\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/I-Want-Love-But-It-Scares-The-Hell-Out-Of-Me-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/I-Want-Love-But-It-Scares-The-Hell-Out-Of-Me-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/I-Want-Love-But-It-Scares-The-Hell-Out-Of-Me-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/I-Want-Love-But-It-Scares-The-Hell-Out-Of-Me-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I want love \u2013 true love to finally show me I can be myself. I want a love that doesn\u2019t hide, that isn\u2019t calculated, scared, or indecisive. I want love so strong it overcomes all my fears. Is that too much to ask? Sometimes I\u2019m so convinced I will never find it. The emptiness in&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":57635,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-57591","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/I-Want-Love-But-It-Scares-The-Hell-Out-Of-Me.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/57591","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=57591"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/57591\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/57635"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=57591"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=57591"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=57591"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}