{"id":58971,"date":"2021-10-07T20:09:46","date_gmt":"2021-10-07T20:09:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=58971"},"modified":"2022-01-17T22:42:13","modified_gmt":"2022-01-17T22:42:13","slug":"relazione-complicata-8-trappole","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relazione-complicata-8-trappole\/","title":{"rendered":"Relazione complicata: 8 trappole in cui non si vuole cadere"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u2018Complicated relationship\u2019 is a phrase we hear a lot these days. The term has become more widespread, thanks to the prominent Facebook relationship status option: It\u2019s complicated<\/i>.<\/p>\n

Mi sono sempre chiesta cosa provassero le persone per dichiarare una cosa del genere, e ho scoperto che ci sono diverse ragioni che contribuiscono alla complessit\u00e0 di una relazione.<\/p>\n

It’s not like we can provide a clear definition of it, but a <\/b>relazione complicata significa<\/b> un'insoddisfacente <\/b>amore vita<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

In other words, it’s when<\/i> i partner lottano con <\/i>insicurezze<\/i><\/a> e <\/i>codipendenza<\/i><\/a>hanno visioni diverse della vita, o altre <\/i>problemi di relazione<\/i> that don’t allow them to take their relationship to <\/i>the ‘<\/i>esclusivit\u00e0<\/i>‘ level<\/i><\/a>.<\/i><\/p>\n

It’s <\/b>a <\/b>relazione tossica<\/b><\/a> between two people who can’t find common ground despite the strong feelings they share for each other. <\/b>They’re aware they can’t be together, but they also can’t walk away from each other…<\/p>\n

Come si fa a sapere se la propria relazione \u00e8 complicata?<\/h2>\n

It’s actually pretty simple; if you aren’t sure what <\/i>il tuo <\/i>stato di relazione<\/i><\/a> is at every moment, and if you don’t know where exactly you stand with your partner, you’re in a <\/i>relazione complicata<\/i>. Punto e basta.<\/i><\/p>\n

Quando una persona \u00e8 in <\/b>una sana e <\/b>relazione di successo<\/b><\/a>, they don’t have to bother about these things because they have a clear picture of their relationship at every moment. <\/b>E se domande del genere iniziano a tormentarli, ne parlano semplicemente con il loro partner.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in a relationship in which you\u2019re hesitant to call yourself a couple, I\u2019m afraid you fall into one of these categories that definitely indicate your relationship is complicated:<\/p>\n

1. Relazione \"a tempo indeterminato\" e \"a tempo indeterminato\".<\/h3>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Sarebbe bello se esistesse una guida universale su come per costruire una relazione di successo<\/a>ma la realt\u00e0 \u00e8 che non solo non c'\u00e8 una guida, ma non ci sono proprio regole. E l'aggravante \u00e8 che ogni relazione \u00e8 diversa, proprio come ognuno di noi \u00e8 diverso.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s no right path. There\u2019s just a scarily big amount of small and narrow streets everywhere.<\/b><\/p>\n

L'amore \u00e8 disordinato<\/i><\/a>… our feelings are messy. So, how on earth will relationships not be messy.<\/i><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in una relazione on\/off<\/a>Come sapete, ci sono diversi motivi per cui le persone si lasciano.<\/p>\n

Pu\u00f2 essere a causa di un conflitto causato da diverse caratteristiche personali (la mancanza di compatibilit\u00e0), dal background di vita, dalla stagnazione o da un'altra situazione. gelosia<\/a>, ad esempio.<\/p>\n

One thing is for sure, though… The breakup is always followed by feelings of loneliness, missing the old habits, and lacking the comfort you had with your once significant other.<\/b><\/p>\n

And, that\u2019s when things start to get complicated, and are usually followed by a reunion. That\u2019s where the roller coaster begins.<\/p>\n

On\/off relationships are full of uncertainty, pain, and passion… It sounds like a good romance novel, doesn\u2019t it? However, this kind of relationship surely isn’t worth your efforts<\/a> e il vostro tempo prezioso.<\/p>\n

2. Amici con benefici<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

All'inizio, l'idea sembra ottima.<\/p>\n

Vi piace vedervi per un po' di tempo occasionale e sexy. Perch\u00e9 no?<\/p>\n

Nessun vincolo<\/b><\/a> Sembra un buon piano, ma in realt\u00e0 non funziona. <\/b>One side is going to catch feelings sooner or later and the whole thing will turn into hell. Trust me, I\u2019ve seen it happen so many times.<\/i><\/p>\n

Your sex lives may be great now but, pretty soon, a simple sentence like “We\u2019re just friends<\/a> and all of this between us is just a casual thing, right?” may sound heartbreaking to you.<\/p>\n

You will stay neither friends nor lovers. You’ll end up hating each other and yourselves for engaging in such a type of relationship in the first place.<\/i><\/p>\n

It\u2019s normal for human beings to feel other types of closeness after being physically close. <\/b>E purtroppo, gli amici con benefici<\/a> spesso pu\u00f2 significare evitare le responsabilit\u00e0 e agire in modo sconsiderato.<\/p>\n

Prima di intraprendere una relazione di questo tipo, \u00e8 necessario pensare alle conseguenze.<\/i><\/p>\n

I know Mila Kunis looks like the coolest person on earth in that movie \u2018Amici con benefici<\/a>,\u2019 but even she catches feelings in the end. And, you don\u2019t want to be the one who\u2019s saying, “It\u2019s complicated<\/a>” or, way worse… you don’t want to be left heartbroken.<\/p>\n

3. Relazione a distanza<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

It\u2019s no secret that <\/i>relazioni a distanza<\/i><\/a> pu\u00f2 diventare difficile. Per avere successo, bisogna impegnarsi molto di pi\u00f9 rispetto alle relazioni normali.<\/i><\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9? La comunicazione pu\u00f2 diventare faticosa. La vostra relazione pu\u00f2 facilmente cadere in un <\/b>solco<\/b> and it’ll be impossible to <\/b>affrontarlo<\/b>… to get out of that <\/b>solco<\/b> e<\/b> salva il tuo amore<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

A volte diventa estenuante scrivere o parlare di tutto quello che \u00e8 successo durante la giornata, ogni singolo giorno. Si vuole invece che siano presenti quando succede.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t know your friends, you didn’t meet theirs either, and the fact is that friends represent a huge part of our lives.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have the physical aspect of a relationship, and we can all agree that\u2019s pretty important.<\/b> Plus, you don\u2019t know when you\u2019re going to see each other, and it gets hard to live in uncertainty and anticipation.<\/p>\n

Ogni nuovo giorno di permanenza in<\/i> a <\/i>relazione a distanza<\/i> <\/a>diventa pi\u00f9 difficile.<\/i><\/p>\n

Other than that, there are factors such as the financial burden or that there\u2019s no way for the relationship to progress. In that case, you should think about your future together realistically.<\/p>\n

Funzioner\u00e0 o no?<\/p>\n

If you want it to work, both sides need to put immense effort into making it work, and also, they’ll need to take some risks. It’s possible to beat the distance… you only need to want it and fight for it enough.<\/p>\n

4. Relazione segreta<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

This might sound strange, but think about it. Have you ever felt like your partner is hiding you or being unnecessarily secretive about your relationship? Like you’re amanti segreti<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Non fanno mai foto con voi e, anche quando le fanno, non riescono mai a raggiungere il loro obiettivo. <\/i>social media<\/i> profili. Non scrivono mai <\/i>didascalie d'amore carine<\/i><\/a> o di taggarti in post carini. E anche se volete postare una vostra foto, si oppongono fermamente.<\/i><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in a brand new relationship, that might be okay, but after some time, it tends to become suspicious. You feel like they don\u2019t appreciate you enough… like they are not proud to be yours.<\/p>\n

It makes you feel like they’re having <\/b>ripensamenti <\/b><\/a>o di non prendervi sul serio.<\/b><\/p>\n

To deal with it, you need to confront them and get to the bottom of their behavior. If their answers are vague and unsatisfying, that means they’re hiding something or they simply don’t care<\/a> abbastanza.<\/b><\/p>\n

5. It feels like you\u2019re nothing more than a hookup<\/h3>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

L'ultima cosa che si desidera \u00e8 sentirsi come you’re just a hookup<\/a>. If you\u2019re into them and want una relazione a lungo termine<\/a>, and they treat you like you’re something casual, then it’s complicated and totalmente indegno del vostro tempo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The ways you\u2019ll know you\u2019re just a hookup are when:<\/p>\n

\u2022 They use excuses to not spend the night after you\u2019ve been together.<\/i><\/p>\n

\u2022 They don’t take the time to get to know what you\u2019re like, what you love to do, your tastes or hobbies, etc.<\/i><\/p>\n

\u2022 They don’t bother to answer your messages.<\/i><\/p>\n

\u2022 They avoid meeting your friends and don\u2019t talk about you to theirs.<\/i><\/p>\n

- They don\u2019t make any effort<\/a> per farvi sentire speciali.<\/i><\/p>\n

\u2022 They never <\/i>mostrare affetto in pubblico<\/i><\/a>.<\/i><\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry but if you\u2019re experiencing this, it probably means <\/b>il vostro partner \u00e8 un <\/b>narcisista <\/b><\/a>lei\/he doesn’t love you<\/a>,<\/strong> or doesn\u2019t see you as a long-term partner. <\/b>On the other hand, it may also mean they’re just a member of the ‘non-monogamous relationships’ club.<\/p>\n

6. Non avete mai avuto una relazione sana prima d'ora<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

This will probably sound awkward to you, but maybe it\u2019s complicated because you don\u2019t know what it feels like when it\u2019s not complicated<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019ve been hurt before, and your defense mechanism is constantly telling you to watch out if something is off.<\/p>\n

Analizzate troppo ogni situazione<\/b><\/a> because you have learned that things are not always what they appear to be. And, that\u2019s okay.<\/b><\/p>\n

It takes time to heal and trust yourself and other people again. You learned that it takes more than a simple ‘<\/i>Ti amo<\/i><\/a>‘ for making things work.<\/i><\/p>\n

In fin dei conti, \u00e8 necessario disporre di una soluzione semplice e relazione sana<\/a> prima di tutto con se stessi per poter avere la stessa cosa con qualcun altro. \u00c8 necessario chiarire e definire lo stato di relazione del proprio rapporto con se stessi.<\/p>\n

7. L'amore c'\u00e8, ma manca qualcos'altro<\/h3>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

You love each other, you care about each other, you text all day long. You feel supported and comfortable, but both of you can’t shake off the feeling that something big is missing.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, it feels like they\u2019re your <\/b>migliore amico<\/b> rather than your lover. It\u2019s like there\u2019s something left unsaid or undone.<\/b><\/p>\n

Neither of you ever said you\u2019re a couple.<\/b> You just happened to be there for each other when you needed it, and now it just is what it is \u2014 some form of undefined partnership with no certain objective.<\/i><\/p>\n

Inoltre, l'assenza di obiettivi significa una mancanza di vero interesse, che porta a molte complicazioni.<\/p>\n

Quindi, prima che tutto si trasformi in un guazzabuglio e diventi un rapporto con la situazione<\/a>augurarsi buona fortuna e andare avanti.<\/p>\n

8. Relazione proibita<\/h3>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Here comes the epitome of complicated. Maybe they’re your best friend\u2019s ex, maybe they’re married, or maybe you just know they’re not good for you.<\/p>\n

You both know you shouldn\u2019t be doing it, but it just feels so good.<\/i><\/p>\n

Try asking yourself whether you\u2019re really in love or if you\u2019re maybe subconsciously a thrill-seeker. You probably already know the answer.<\/b><\/p>\n

Dopo tutto questo, possiamo concludere che una relazione complicata \u00e8 solo un termine che usiamo per esprimere problemi molto pi\u00f9 complessi. Va oltre lo stato di relazione su Facebook.<\/p>\n

If you are in this kind of relationship or if you\u2019re entering one for the first time, remember that your own gut feeling will provide you with the best <\/b>consigli sulle relazioni<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Come si chiude una relazione complicata?<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Una relazione sana<\/a> dovrebbe essere sempre sicuro per entrambe le parti. Devono esserci forti livelli di comprensione, rispetto e impegno. Se nella vostra relazione manca uno di questi elementi, se le cose si complicano costantemente tra voi e il vostro partner, l'unica opzione che avete \u00e8 quella di porre fine alla relazione.<\/p>\n

But, first, you need to end it in your head. That is, you need to think it all through. Sort out your thoughts and choose a path you’ll go.<\/b><\/p>\n

Quando si tratta di ordinare le cose nel cuore, sar\u00e0 pi\u00f9 complicato. Tuttavia, quando si mette <\/i>l'amore per se stessi<\/i><\/a> and the love you feel for someone who doesn’t deserve it at all on scales, the first one will always prevail.<\/i><\/p>\n

Siate diretti e aperti con il vostro partner. <\/b>Dite loro tutto quello che avete tenuto dentro di voi per tutto questo tempo. Ottenere la chiusura di cui avete bisogno per andare avanti<\/a> in modo corretto.<\/p>\n

It’ll be hard and heartbreaking, that’s for sure. But, with the help of time and a well-organized support system, you’ll manage to get through it and move forward with your life.<\/p>\n

Come si risolve una relazione complicata?<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you want to fight for your love and think it’s really worth it, you should stay and work on saving your relationship.<\/p>\n

La prima cosa da fare \u00e8 trovare la causa principale di questa complicit\u00e0. Trovate e riconoscete tutte le vostre<\/b> problemi di relazione<\/b><\/a> e affrontare lentamente ciascuno di essi.<\/b><\/p>\n

Entrambe le parti devono ammettere i propri errori e assumersene la piena responsabilit\u00e0. <\/b>Inoltre, entrambi i partner devono lavorare per migliorare la loro comunicazione e costruire un livello di fiducia pi\u00f9 forte tra loro.<\/p>\n

If you both think it’s needed, you can also seek professional help.<\/i><\/p>\n

L'unico modo per far uscire la vostra relazione da questa situazione di complicit\u00e0 \u00e8 che entrambi vi dedichiate completamente a sistemare e far funzionare le cose tra di voi.<\/p>\n

It’s not enough just to clear that complicity… you also need to work on strengthening your bond and making your relationship healthy.<\/p>\n

Citazioni sulle relazioni complicate<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

I also had to share with you these touching complicated relationship quotes I found online because each one of them describes the heartbreaking struggle so well…<\/p>\n

1. “<\/b>Love isn\u2019t complicated<\/b><\/a>; people are.”<\/b><\/p>\n

2. “Somehow, you are both the best and the worst thing that has happened to me.”<\/p>\n

3. “A no-effort relationship is<\/i> una relazione condannata<\/i><\/a>, not a great relationship. It takes work to communicate accurately, and it takes work to expose and resolve conflicting hopes and beliefs. It doesn\u2019t mean there is no \u2018they lived happily ever after,\u2019 but it\u2019s more like \u2018they worked <\/i>per sempre felici e contenti<\/i><\/a>.” \u2013 Carol S. Dweck<\/i><\/p>\n

4. “It hurts having you close, but it would hurt even more not having you at all.”<\/p>\n

5. “You and I will always be unfinished business.”<\/p>\n

6. “We\u2019re more than friends, but less than a couple.”<\/b><\/p>\n

7. “People make love complicated because they do not get love the way they want to be, ever. I would rather have loved than never to have experienced this complicated and happy feeling.”<\/p>\n

8. “My relationship with him was defined by these complex emotions: this mixture of gratitude and resentment.” \u2013 Otsuichi<\/i><\/p>\n

9. “The only complicated things worth fighting for will change the world in some way and\/or make you lots of money, and a <\/b>relazione complicata<\/b> will only keep you from doing either.” \u2013 Ingrid Weir<\/b><\/p>\n

10. “I am sick and tired of all these things, you see… the problem is loving you is so complicated. You want to know what the problem with love is? No one actually knows what it really is.”<\/p>\n

\u2b50I saved the best for last, of course:<\/p>\n

11. “You deserve to be with somebody who makes you happy… somebody who doesn\u2019t complicate your life… somebody who won\u2019t hurt you.”<\/i><\/p>\n

To Leave Or To Stay, That’s The Question<\/h2>\n

Lo scenario di una relazione complicata ha solo due opzioni; to stay and fight for your love even though you know it’ll be hard, or to leave, turn your back on it for good, and dig it into the past forever.<\/i><\/p>\n

And, the only place you’ll find the right answer for your situation is… your heart. <\/b><\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

If you already tried and saw that you can’t be away from each other, maybe it’s because you aren’t meant to be apart. In that case, it’s worth the struggle and the fight.<\/i><\/p>\n

However, if they’re not willing to put your relationship first, then <\/b>you\u2019re better off without them<\/b><\/a>. <\/b>Move forward and find someone who\u2019s going to make you feel great and appreciated… someone who’s going to make you feel the way you deserve.<\/p>\n

Se lo ritenete indegno di combattere, raccogliete la forza di lasciare il vostro relazione sulle montagne russe<\/a> once and for all, and continue your search somewhere else…<\/p>\n

Somewhere where you\u2019re going to be needed and loved all the time, and without fear of losing your partner.<\/p>\n

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