{"id":59593,"date":"2020-04-05T20:52:19","date_gmt":"2020-04-05T20:52:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=59593"},"modified":"2022-05-04T11:25:43","modified_gmt":"2022-05-04T11:25:43","slug":"cose-da-fare-dopo-il-combattimento","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/cose-da-fare-dopo-il-combattimento\/","title":{"rendered":"7 cose da fare dopo un grande litigio"},"content":{"rendered":"

Firstly, we need to make this clear\u2014every couple fights. Secondly, arguing isn\u2019t always necessarily bad; sometimes it\u2019s just a way to strengthen the relationship.<\/p>\n

And thirdly, you\u2019ll get through it even when it feels like the end of the world. It\u2019s not.<\/p>\n

When we\u2019re angry, it\u2019s hard to control what comes out from our mouth but it\u2019s possible to teach ourself some effective ways to keep things under control.<\/p>\n

However, when the damage it\u2019s done, there\u2019s only so much we can do. Here\u2019s some advice on how to ease the situation.<\/p>\n

1. Don\u2019t give him the silent treatment<\/h2>\n

\"coppia
\nOne of the worst things you can do is insist on silence and avoid communication. Both of you should give each other space\u2014space to reflect, calm down and think about everything that was said and done.<\/p>\n

However, that doesn\u2019t mean you shouldn\u2019t not talk for long as that could lead to complications and distance. Neither of you should let your L'orgoglio si mette in mezzo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

2. Esprimere i propri sentimenti<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Even in the heat of an argument, don\u2019t conceal your true emotions from your partner. If you know you\u2019re feeling jealous, betrayed or maybe abandoned, say it.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter if it doesn\u2019t make sense or seem silly when put in the context of what started the fight.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s hard for another person to know exactly what you feel.<\/p>\n

They might perceive it completely differently and at the end of the day, maybe if they know how certain things make you feel, they would\u2019ve never done it.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t hide your emotions and especially don\u2019t hide them under senseless anger or rude and hurtful words.<\/p>\n

3. Cool off and don\u2019t be stubborn<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

After a fight, you should try your best to keep cool and don\u2019t let negative feelings overwhelm you.<\/p>\n

Quando vi sentite tristi o arrabbiati, cercate di rivolgervi al vostro intelletto e di razionalizzare l'importanza della questione; capite che le cose minori verranno dimenticate e che l'amore per il vostro partner rimarr\u00e0 sempre lo stesso.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t cling to your pride or justify your partner\u2019s behavior if they are being stubborn.<\/p>\n

4. Presentare e accettare le scuse<\/h2>\n

\"uomini
\nThis is a very important thing. Give and accept an apology after you calm down but don\u2019t do so if you\u2019re not sincere about it. Don\u2019t just sweep things under the rug as that leads nowhere.<\/p>\n

Provate invece un approccio diverso e siate onesti sul vostro attuale stato emotivo e mentale, anche se questo significa non chiedere scusa o non accettare le scuse.<\/p>\n

5. Individuare e affrontare il problema alla radice e i fattori scatenanti<\/h2>\n

\"donna
\nInvece di affrontare ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 stato detto in un momento di grande rabbia, provate a vedere attraverso quelle parole.<\/p>\n

Se avete avuto un litigio pieno di emozioni intense, cercate di individuare queste emozioni e la loro causa.<\/p>\n

Sometimes our subconscious acts out and we don\u2019t even notice.<\/p>\n

Maybe simple things our partner doesn\u2019t even notice represent a big trigger for us due to our subconscious reminding us of past hurts that happened in previous relationships or even childhood.<\/p>\n

When we address the root cause, the real reason why we get so angry over something, that\u2019s the moment when we can move on.<\/p>\n

La comunicazione \u00e8 importante, ma la comprensione \u00e8 la cosa pi\u00f9 importante.<\/p>\n

6. Perdonare se stessi<\/h2>\n

\"donna
\nWhenever we\u2019re being rude to our loved one, we feel guilty afterward. It\u2019s a soul-crushing feeling.<\/p>\n

However, we need to remember that everything is solvable with enough effort. Nobody is perfect anyway\u2014not us, not our partner.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s important is showing care and willingness to change things and ourself for the better.<\/p>\n

7. Lavorare per migliorare la relazione<\/h2>\n

\"Coppia
\nAfter reconciliation, don\u2019t forget about the problem. Accept what happened and talk everything through, even if it lasts a few days.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not uncommon that after fighting, a couple becomes even closer and that\u2019s because they learn about each other\u2019s triggers.<\/p>\n

In fin dei conti, i litigi significano che si tiene all'altra persona, che si comunica in modo reale, che la relazione \u00e8 viva.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be afraid of arguing as long as you keep learning from each other.<\/p>\n

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