{"id":5989,"date":"2020-04-03T07:42:08","date_gmt":"2020-04-03T07:42:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=5989"},"modified":"2021-08-11T09:44:25","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T09:44:25","slug":"ogni-ragazza-ha-perso-un-uomo-narcisista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ogni-ragazza-ha-perso-un-uomo-narcisista\/","title":{"rendered":"A tutte le ragazze che hanno perso se stesse per colpa di un uomo narcisista"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Vi \u00e8 mai capitato di amare un uomo in modo cos\u00ec forte, immenso e ingenuo da pensare di essere una ragazza fortunata che ha trovato il suo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/happily-ever-guy\/\">\u2018happily ever after\u2019<\/a> in un solo uomo? Beh, io l'ho fatto.<\/p>\n<p>Has it ever happened to you that you loved the wrong guy and strongly believed that he\u2019s the one? Well, it did to me.<\/p>\n<p>Dopo di lui, le cose hanno continuato a sfuggirmi di mano.<\/p>\n<p>Dopo di lui, la felicit\u00e0 era qualcosa di cui sentivo solo parlare. E la tristezza mi arrivava a ondate.<\/p>\n<p>Memories would just take turns and I\u2019d be overwhelmed by the emotions they\u2019d bring along. For a long time, I wondered if I would be able to grasp the meaning of my life again.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75312\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste seduta sul pavimento\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I wondered if I would ever get back to normal or if I\u2019ll ever be capable of loving again. God knows it was something that love was hundreds of miles away from me.<\/p>\n<p>Dio sa che mi ero quasi arreso. <b>I wasn\u2019t always like this.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Ero una di quelle donne felici che erano sempre grate per quello che avevano.<\/p>\n<p>I was one of those who enjoyed her life, smiled and laughed every day, and I was one of those who\u2019d go to sleep with enthusiasm for the new day.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/learned-dating-narcissistic-guy\/\"><b>Ma frequentare un narcisista mi ha cambiato.<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75313\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/sad-woman-looking-at-mirror.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste che si guarda allo specchio\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/sad-woman-looking-at-mirror.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/sad-woman-looking-at-mirror-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/sad-woman-looking-at-mirror-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I wasn\u2019t half the person I used to be after he was done with me.<\/p>\n<p>Lo stesso entusiasmo che avevo prima di incontrarci al mattino si \u00e8 trasformato in paura di alzarsi dal letto.<\/p>\n<p>La mia felicit\u00e0 \u00e8 stata sostituita dall'ansia.<\/p>\n<p>For a long time, I was ashamed of letting him change me. For a long time, I was ashamed of the person I became, but mostly I was ashamed that I allowed him to get the best of me. I should\u2019ve known better.<\/p>\n<h2>Mi sono fidato di lui<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75314\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/attractive-woman-hugging-a-man-on-bed.jpg\" alt=\"donna attraente che abbraccia un uomo sul letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/attractive-woman-hugging-a-man-on-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/attractive-woman-hugging-a-man-on-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/attractive-woman-hugging-a-man-on-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Mi ha fatto fidare di lui.<\/i><\/b> He did everything to convince me he\u2019s got my back and that he\u2019s my person.<\/p>\n<p>He made me feel like I could count on him and that he\u2019d do anything for me. He kept making promises and I always waited for those promises to be kept.<\/p>\n<p>Ma non lo sono mai stati. Perch\u00e9 mi ha fatto fidare di lui <b><i> solo per potermi tradire<\/i><\/b> .<\/p>\n<h2>Mi ha fatto sentire al sicuro.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75315\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/man-kissing-a-woman.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che bacia una donna\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/man-kissing-a-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/man-kissing-a-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/man-kissing-a-woman-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>For a while, I felt like I could call him for a rescue mission and he\u2019d come any time of the day.<\/p>\n<p>For a while, I thought he was my safe heaven\u2014but he was far from that. <b><i> <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Mi ha fatto sentire al sicuro per farmi abbassare la guardia. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Quando ho abbassato la guardia, la sua missione \u00e8 stata compiuta perch\u00e9 non ero assolutamente protetto dai suoi attacchi. Non li ho mai visti arrivare.<\/p>\n<h2>Lo amavo.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75316\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/couple-in-love.jpg\" alt=\"coppia innamorata\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/couple-in-love.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/couple-in-love-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/couple-in-love-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ho permesso a qualcuno che aveva una storia di relazioni interrotte di far parte della mia vita. Ho dato il mio cuore, il mio corpo e la mia anima a un uomo che non aveva idea di cosa fosse l'amore.<\/p>\n<p>L'ho amato con ogni cellula del mio corpo e gli ho dato il mio amore incondizionato, irrevocabile e disinteressato, perdendomi completamente in lui.<\/p>\n<p>Ma solo <b><i>perch\u00e9 mi ha convinto che si pu\u00f2 insegnare ad amare.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/ragazza-che-esce-con-un-uomo-narcisista-non-riesce-a-domare-la-bestia\/\">But you can\u2019t teach a narcissist to love.<\/a> It\u2019s just not in his system. Love is just an abstract word he\u2019ll never feel.<\/p>\n<p><i> Ho perso me stessa per un uomo incapace di amare. <\/i><\/p>\n<h2>Mi ha reso prigioniero del mio amore.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75317\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/man-hugging-a-sad-woman.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che abbraccia una donna triste\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/man-hugging-a-sad-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/man-hugging-a-sad-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/man-hugging-a-sad-woman-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Sono rimasta con lui perch\u00e9 credevo che fosse per amore. Ho sempre creduto nell'amore.<\/p>\n<p>I believed humans were created from two bodies and one soul and that I had found my other soul, my other half in him. But, he wasn\u2019t my soulmate.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 stato qualcuno che ha avuto la meglio su di me. Era qualcuno che si nutriva della mia infelicit\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>Era una persona che aveva bisogno che io fossi gi\u00f9 per sentirsi bene con se stesso. E io gli ho permesso di farlo perch\u00e9 ero ingenua.<\/p>\n<p>Ho romanticizzato la mia sofferenza e mi sono fatta credere un'eroina che lottava contro l'amore. Ma sono stata solo una stupida ad innamorarmi di un narcisista.<\/p>\n<p>Correlato: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/guida-definitiva-allindividuazione-del-narcisista-dopo-la-sua-morte\/\">La guida definitiva per ignorare un narcisista (Individuazione e conseguenze)<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>I lost myself to a narcissistic person&#8230;<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75318\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/sad-woman-sitting-in-the-room.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste seduta nella stanza\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/sad-woman-sitting-in-the-room.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/sad-woman-sitting-in-the-room-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/sad-woman-sitting-in-the-room-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I stopped believing I\u2019m worthy and that I deserve to be loved.<\/p>\n<p>Ho perso la fiducia in me stesso. Ho perso la mia autostima. Ho lasciato che il suo egoismo vincesse e ho permesso che tutto fosse incentrato su di lui.<\/p>\n<p>Ho lasciato che mi manipolasse. Niente di tutto questo era consensuale, eppure \u00e8 successo.<\/p>\n<p><em> Mi sono perso.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Correlato: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/come-ferire-emotivamente-un-uomo-narcisista-6-modi-efficaci-per-farlo\/\">Come ferire emotivamente un uomo narcisista<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>Ma ho ritrovato anche me stesso.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75319\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/young-woman-standing-on-the-mountain.jpg\" alt=\"giovane donna in piedi sulla montagna\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/young-woman-standing-on-the-mountain.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/young-woman-standing-on-the-mountain-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/young-woman-standing-on-the-mountain-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ho vissuto un inferno per un uomo. Ero la versione migliore di me stessa. Ho dato tutto e non ho trattenuto nulla.<\/p>\n<p>I wish I could say I didn\u2019t get anything out of it, but that\u2019s not how the story ended. I got a whole new life lesson out of it.<\/p>\n<p>I might have been a wreck for a while, but I wasn\u2019t going to allow myself to be that for the rest of my life. It\u2019d mean he won and I couldn\u2019t let that happen.<\/p>\n<p>Cos\u00ec mi sono ripresa e ho iniziato a ricucire i miei pezzi strappati uno per uno. Ho riparato ogni buco nel mio cuore uno per uno.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75320\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/happy-woman-looking-through-the-window.jpg\" alt=\"donna felice che guarda attraverso la finestra\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/happy-woman-looking-through-the-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/happy-woman-looking-through-the-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/happy-woman-looking-through-the-window-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I patched every hole in my soul as well. I\u2019d leave my house with my head held high as if what he did to me was nothing.<\/p>\n<p>Mi ha calpestato troppe volte e non ho avuto altra scelta se non quella di accompagnarlo fuori dalla mia vita.<\/p>\n<p><b>Per il modo in cui mi trattava, ho pensato di <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/just-walked-away-doesnt-mean-youre-not-worthy-love\/\">wasn\u2019t worthy of love<\/a>. <\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>It took me a while but I realized that I am more than enough\u2014it was him who didn\u2019t deserve to be loved.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75311\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/To-Every-Girl-Who-Has-Ever-Lost-Herself-To-A-Narcissistic-Man-pinterest-2.jpg\" alt=\"A tutte le ragazze che hanno perso se stesse per colpa di un uomo narcisista\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/To-Every-Girl-Who-Has-Ever-Lost-Herself-To-A-Narcissistic-Man-pinterest-2.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/To-Every-Girl-Who-Has-Ever-Lost-Herself-To-A-Narcissistic-Man-pinterest-2-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/To-Every-Girl-Who-Has-Ever-Lost-Herself-To-A-Narcissistic-Man-pinterest-2-683x1024.jpg 683w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-75310\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/To-Every-Girl-Who-Has-Ever-Lost-Herself-To-A-Narcissistic-Man-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"A tutte le ragazze che hanno perso se stesse per colpa di un uomo narcisista\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/To-Every-Girl-Who-Has-Ever-Lost-Herself-To-A-Narcissistic-Man-pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/To-Every-Girl-Who-Has-Ever-Lost-Herself-To-A-Narcissistic-Man-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever loved a man so strongly, immensely and naively that you thought you are one lucky girl who found her \u2018happily ever after\u2019 in one man? Well, I did. Has it ever happened to you that you loved the wrong guy and strongly believed that he\u2019s the one? Well, it did to me&#8230;.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":75321,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5989","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/To-Every-Girl-Who-Has-Ever-Lost-Herself-To-A-Narcissistic-Man.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":69,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. 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