{"id":62790,"date":"2020-04-15T19:41:40","date_gmt":"2020-04-15T19:41:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=62790"},"modified":"2022-03-18T00:36:22","modified_gmt":"2022-03-18T00:36:22","slug":"motivi-per-cui-sei-single","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/motivi-per-cui-sei-single\/","title":{"rendered":"Perch\u00e9 non ho un ragazzo? 9 motivi per cui sei ancora single"},"content":{"rendered":"

All'inizio vi piaceva la vostra condizione di single. Amavate la vostra indipendenza e il fatto di poter vivere la vostra vita come volevate.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, dopo un po' di tempo, si \u00e8 cominciato a chiedersi: Why don’t I have a boyfriend<\/a> ancora?<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

\u00c8 colpa mia? Cosa sto facendo di sbagliato? Come posso cambiare il mio stato di relazione<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Well, if you’re one of the girls who keep asking themselves these questions, here are the possible answers.<\/p>\n

1. You\u2019re not emotionally available<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

The number one reason why most single girls are not romantically involved is because they\u2019re still invested in their previous relationships.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong-this doesn\u2019t have to mean that you\u2019re still in touch with your ex.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, c'\u00e8 una grande possibilit\u00e0 che amiate e sentiate ancora la mancanza di quell'uomo e che pensiate che fosse il vostro uomo giusto.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Or maybe you hate his guts and can\u2019t forgive him for breaking your heart?<\/p>\n

Either way, the bottom line is that he is still present in your heart or mind, even if he\u2019s out of your life.<\/p>\n

Even this doesn’t have to be the case-maybe you\u2019re still overwhelmed with the trauma your ex caused you.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

\u00c8 possibile che, nel profondo, paragoniate ogni ragazzo che vi si presenta con il vostro ex.<\/p>\n

You push them away the moment you see that he is nowhere to be found, or that they\u2019re too similar to him.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve been through a nasty breakup, it is perfectly natural to assume that every man will hurt you the same way your ex did.<\/p>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve built thick walls around you in an attempt to protect yourself and you can’t seem to open up.<\/p>\n

Forse non ne siete nemmeno consapevoli, ma il vostro bagaglio emotivo<\/a> sta rovinando la possibilit\u00e0 di avere una nuova relazione di successo.<\/p>\n

2. You\u2019re not in the piscina per incontri<\/a><\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re wondering: \u201cWhy don\u2019t I have a boyfriend?\u201d, but are not doing anything to change your relationship status and improve your love life, what actually do you expect?<\/p>\n

Your Mr. Perfect won\u2019t appear out of nowhere. Life isn\u2019t a romantic comedy-he won\u2019t come knocking on your door, nor will you bump into each other on the street and ride off together into the sunset.<\/p>\n

\"sguardo<\/p>\n

Vedete, per avere qualcuno, dovete cercarlo.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong-I\u2019m not saying that you ought to drag men by their sleeves and beg them to be with you.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, \u00e8 necessario mettersi in gioco.<\/p>\n

\"due<\/p>\n

For starters, tell your best friends that you\u2019re looking for a BF. I\u2019m sure they have a single guy friend they could set you up with.<\/p>\n

Also, don\u2019t rule out online dating and dating apps such as Tinder. What do you have to lose?<\/p>\n

So, why don’t you make some changes? Why don’t you go out next Friday night and put yourself out there?<\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>\n

Uscite dalla vostra zona di comfort e incontrate gente. Date una possibilit\u00e0 ai ragazzi che ci provano con voi e vedete cosa hanno da offrirvi.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to get yourself involved with each one of them. However, there is nothing wrong in going out on a few dates.<\/p>\n

Besides, I\u2019m sure that if you relax and look around you, you\u2019ll find many guys who are boyfriend material. You just haven\u2019t been paying enough attention.<\/p>\n

3. You\u2019re too picky when it comes to men<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve got your standards-there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. In fact, you should never settle for less than you deserve just to find a boyfriend.<\/p>\n

After all, it\u2019s always better to be single than with the wrong guy. However, the right guy doesn\u2019t equal Mr. Perfect.<\/p>\n

If you expect to find a man who has no flaws at all, it\u2019s time to think again.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest-you have your set of imperfections, as well. You want your potential significant other to accept you for who you are.<\/p>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

So, why can\u2019t you do the same? Why can\u2019t you come to terms with the fact that every guy you run into will have some traits you probably won\u2019t like?<\/p>\n

For a change, give someone who doesn\u2019t fulfill all of your standards a chance and see where it gets you.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t waste years of your life waiting for Prince Charming because there is no such thing as a perfect man.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

In questo caso, \u00e8 necessario stabilire alcune regole di base che impediscano l'accesso alle persone senza essere troppo esigente<\/a>.<\/p>\n

What are the things you can\u2019t tolerate in a man? What is something you couldn\u2019t live with?<\/p>\n

Once you answer these questions and realize we\u2019re all humans made of flesh and blood, things will get easier for you.<\/p>\n

4. Sembrate troppo disperati<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve already talked about the situation where you don\u2019t try hard enough to find the right person.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, cosa succede quando si esagera? Purtroppo si ottiene lo stesso risultato del caso precedente.<\/p>\n

You see, when it comes to this, it\u2019s like most men have some kind of a sixth sense.<\/p>\n

La verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che sentono l'odore della disperazione a un miglio di distanza. La cosa peggiore \u00e8 che iniziano a scappare per salvarsi nel momento in cui sentono che volete metterli in trappola.<\/p>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Therefore, you can\u2019t make your search for a relationship the only priority in your life. If you do, it\u2019ll just have a counterproductive effect.<\/p>\n

The key is in perfect balance-it\u2019s in putting yourself out there but not acting like not having a boyfriend is the end of the world. On the contrary, every guy you meet will wonder what\u2019s wrong with you.<\/p>\n

How come you\u2019re cos\u00ec disperato<\/a> di trovare l'uomo giusto ma nessuno sembra volerti?<\/p>\n

5. You\u2019re too shy<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Modern dating is nothing like the old days. It\u2019s unlikely that a man will approach you through your BFF or family and that just like that, you\u2019ll end up happily married.<\/p>\n

Basically, if you\u2019re wondering \u201cwhy don’t I have a boyfriend\u201d but you\u2019re not flirting or making any moves towards the opposite sex, you have your answer. You’re not sending the right vibe!<\/p>\n

Many introverted single girls who don’t like being surrounded by a lot of people have the same problem: even if they like a dude, they are too shy to send him some hints.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Ebbene, questa situazione deve cambiare se si ha una speranza di trovare una relazione di successo.<\/p>\n

For starters, learn how to flirt. Send some body language signals, make eye contact, and don\u2019t be scared to talk to a guy if he starts a conversation.<\/p>\n

Actually, today\u2019s world has changed the dating game for good. So, forget about the ancient rules that guys have to make the first step.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be old fashioned and learn how to approach guys. For starters, you can ask your BFF to be your wingman.<\/p>\n

Esercitarsi con qualche frasi per rimorchiare<\/a> e se ti piace un ragazzo, inizia a parlargli senza alcuna pressione.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong-I\u2019m not saying that you should start doing things you\u2019re not comfortable with.<\/p>\n

However, it\u2019s time to step out of your comfort zone and make some progress!<\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if your insecurities come from your self-esteem problems, it’s time to work on that.<\/p>\n

Remember: you’re good enough and there is no reason for you to be shy.<\/p>\n

Work on the vibe you’re sending, get out there, meet people, and show them your worth! I promise you that your Mr. Right will come along.<\/p>\n

6. You\u2019re not girlfriend material<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Ok, questa sar\u00e0 una pillola difficile da ingoiare. Tuttavia, \u00e8 sicuramente una delle opzioni da prendere in considerazione.<\/p>\n

The truth is that maybe you\u2019re not materiale per la fidanzata<\/a>.  Maybe men don\u2019t see your qualities, or maybe you have the wrong attitude.<\/p>\n

Yes, you heard it right: it\u2019s not them-it\u2019s you. The same way you have a certain set of standards for your potential boyfriend, men have some deal breakers, too.<\/p>\n

State facendo qualcosa per scacciare ogni ragazzo che si avvicina a voi?<\/p>\n

Are you giving them the impression that you\u2019re not ready for a relationship? Or that you\u2019re only after casual hookups and meaningless affairs?<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Siete troppo disponibili? O non siete affatto disponibili?<\/p>\n

Whether you like to admit it or not, these could all be the answers to your question of why you don\u2019t have a significant other.<\/p>\n

So, instead of blaming the entire world for your crappy love life, do some self-reflection and see whether you\u2019re the guilty one.<\/p>\n

However, even if you realize that you\u2019re not girlfriend material, it doesn\u2019t mean that everything is lost.<\/p>\n

\"ritratto<\/p>\n

In fact, it\u2019s just a red flag that you should work on yourself.<\/p>\n

No, this is not advice on how to change the essence of yourself to become more likeable to men, because that\u2019s something you should never do.<\/p>\n

On the contrary, it\u2019s just a heads up to get the best out of your looks and personality and to work on some self-improvement.<\/p>\n

7. You\u2019re too needy<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Molte persone vi diranno che la cosa pi\u00f9 importante che allontana la maggior parte degli uomini \u00e8 il bisogno.<\/p>\n

In alcuni casi, i ragazzi e le ragazze hanno una percezione diversa di una relazione felice.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re into a guy, it\u2019s perfectly natural that you have the need to be all over this guy.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Vuoi passare ogni secondo del tuo tempo libero con lui e continui a mandargli messaggi e a chiamarlo.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, invece di apprezzare la vostra lealt\u00e0, la maggior parte degli uomini considerer\u00e0 il vostro comportamento troppo disperato e patetico. Ad essere sinceri, nessun uomo vuole avere una fidanzata appiccicosa<\/a>.<\/p>\n

In fact, they\u2019ll just start taking you for granted. You\u2019ll bore the hell out of them and consequently, you\u2019ll just make them run away.<\/p>\n

\"l'uomo<\/p>\n

Your potential boyfriend will think that you have self-esteem problems and that you see yourself as not good enough for him and that you’re scared of losing him.<\/p>\n

If this is something you\u2019ve experienced, bear in mind that it\u2019s not your fault.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s just that men start to feel caged easily and when that happens, they get the urge to escape.<\/p>\n

So, the next time you find a guy you like, show him some interest but don\u2019t exaggerate.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Let him come to you and expect the same amount of effort and emotions you\u2019re putting in.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t talk about the future right from the beginning and let things go with the flow.<\/p>\n

Naturally, you have the right to demand your relationship be labelled but that doesn\u2019t mean that you should start on the marriage talk before it\u2019s time.<\/p>\n

8. You\u2019re going for the wrong kind of guys<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Un'altra ragione per cui molti single hanno difficolt\u00e0 a trovare la persona per sempre \u00e8 il tipo di partner che cercano.<\/p>\n

This is exactly what’s going on with you: even since middle school, all through high school, college, and into your adult life, you’ve been dating the exact same tipi di ragazzi sbagliati<\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re chasing men who don\u2019t want to be caught, you\u2019ll have no success in finding a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re going after players, expect for them to play games with you-it\u2019s that simple.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

L'unica cosa che si pu\u00f2 ottenere da questi ragazzi \u00e8 un cuore spezzato e non una relazione d'amore.<\/p>\n

Sure, they\u2019ll give you some attention until they get what they want but don\u2019t expect them to commit and be faithful any time soon.<\/p>\n

The same goes with men who are too good to be true. I don\u2019t want to generalize but this is the type which usually turns out to be worse than anyone before, once they show their true colors.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you\u2019re constantly surrounded by seemingly great guys who actually can\u2019t make up their minds about you, maybe it\u2019s your fault that you let them get away with their indecisiveness right from the beginning.<\/p>\n

Either way, what you should bear in mind is that you\u2019re in charge. You decide who has a chance to become a part of your life and who needs to go away.<\/p>\n

Pertanto, provate a cambiare la vostra routine. Cambiate il tipo di ragazzi con cui uscite e vedete cosa succede.<\/p>\n

9. You’re happy with your relationship status<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Finally, the answer to your question of \u201cwhy don’t I have a boyfriend?\u201d could be: Because you don\u2019t want to.<\/p>\n

Is it possible that you\u2019re actually enjoying your single life too much, without even being aware of it?<\/p>\n

One of the reasons for the lack of romance in your life could lie in the fact that subconsciously you\u2019re the one chasing it away.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re having a great time on your own, you love your peace, and you think that a boyfriend would just be an unnecessary disturbance.<\/p>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Over the years, you\u2019ve become so independent that the last thing you want is someone you\u2019ll have to compromise with.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re simply not ready to share your life with anyone.<\/p>\n

In fact, you\u2019re not sure whether you\u2019ll ever be. When you come to think of it, you wouldn\u2019t actually mind singolo rimanente<\/a> per il resto della vita.<\/p>\n

Se questo \u00e8 il caso, smettete di ossessionarvi con quello che dicono gli altri e continuate a fare la vostra vita da single!<\/p>\n

\"Perch\u00e9<\/p>\n

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