{"id":62845,"date":"2020-04-15T08:31:53","date_gmt":"2020-04-15T08:31:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=62845"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:09:16","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:09:16","slug":"sopportare-uomini-che-non-mi-meritavano","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/sopportare-uomini-che-non-mi-meritavano\/","title":{"rendered":"Mi devo delle scuse per aver sopportato uomini che non mi meritavano"},"content":{"rendered":"

Non parlerete mai a nessuno pi\u00f9 di quanto parliate a voi stessi nella vostra testa. Siate gentili con voi stessi.<\/em><\/p>\n

Dealing with men who didn\u2019t deserve me has led me to one thing: I learned that putting yourself first doesn\u2019t mean selfishness, it sometimes means survival.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the reason I want to apologize to myself first. Dear me, you let so many people walk over you and I\u2019m sorry for letting that happen. <\/strong><\/p>\n

You let men in your life make you feel unsafe, unwanted and scared, make you feel ashamed, like you\u2019re not enough.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry that thought even crossed your mind. <\/strong>Love shouldn\u2019t be hard. Love shouldn\u2019t hurt. Love shouldn\u2019t wait for approval.<\/p>\n

Love shouldn\u2019t make you feel unlovable. True love doesn\u2019t question your worth or take you for granted.<\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t go out of your way just to receive a normal reaction from the person you love. Love isn\u2019t silent or indifferent, it\u2019s not aggressive or inconsiderate.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry you had to learn your lesson so harshly. I\u2019m sorry I didn\u2019t protect you. I\u2019m sorry I didn\u2019t let you express your sadness and anger freely.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry men who loved you didn\u2019t truly love you. They never showed you real trust or what it\u2019s like to feel comfortable just being who you are.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry for letting yourself accept indifference and tolerance as enough. I\u2019m sorry your kindness was mistaken for weakness and taken for granted.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry I judged you when you were making choices that were not the best for you. I know you didn\u2019t know that at the time.<\/p>\n

I put all the blame on you. The same thing I have been doing ever since I can remember. But it\u2019s not your fault.<\/p>\n

Sometimes people don\u2019t choose what\u2019s best for them, sometimes they need to grow from pain. That\u2019s all right.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

A volte la vita ti insegna a essere pi\u00f9 forte nei modi pi\u00f9 insoliti. \u00c8 qui che smetto di chiedermi perch\u00e9.<\/p>\n

From now on, I refuse to look at myself as a victim. I refuse to look at myself as a casualty and someone\u2019s second choice.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not giving up on myself despite everything that has happened to me. Caro mio, d'ora in poi ti vedo come un guerriero e un sopravvissuto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You went through everything life prepared for you and you didn\u2019t break. That\u2019s called strength. Strength accompanied by courage.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not anyone\u2019s puppet and you never will be. You\u2019re not here for men who try to control you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not here for men who manipulate you and lie to you, who make you feel bad about yourself and don\u2019t make you a priority.<\/p>\n

You are not here for men who don\u2019t deserve you. <\/em>Ti chiedo scusa per esserti fidato pi\u00f9 degli altri che di te stesso, per aver dubitato di te e per aver ignorato la tua intuizione.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I own you an apology for letting you make yourself smaller in front of a man who didn\u2019t deserve you.<\/p>\n

Ti devo delle scuse per non aver creduto in te e per aver fatto delle cose pur sapendo chi sei nel profondo della tua anima.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I own you an apology for thinking someone is better and smarter than you. That\u2019s BS! You are perfectly smart, lovable and good on your own.<\/p>\n

I owe you an apology for always thinking you\u2019re somehow less than others when you clearly did everything on your own.<\/p>\n

I owe you an apology for feeling bad about other people\u2019s wrong choices. You couldn\u2019t have done anything.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ever forget all the wonderful things about yourself. Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone\u2019s imperfect and everyone\u2019s paths are different.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"ritratto<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t lose hope for love because of men who mistreated you. Let the past go and accept my apology.<\/p>\n

Un giorno incontrerete un uomo che vi tratter\u00e0 con il rispetto che meritate.<\/p>\n

Non ci saranno silenzi dolorosi, n\u00e9 giochi con i sentimenti o notti solitarie piene di dubbi e dolore.<\/p>\n

Ci sarai tu cos\u00ec come sei e la persona che ti ama per questo motivo.<\/p>\n

\"Mi<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You will never speak to anyone more than you speak to yourself in your head. Be kind to yourself. Dealing with men who didn\u2019t deserve me has led me to one thing: I learned that putting yourself first doesn\u2019t mean selfishness, it sometimes means survival. That\u2019s the reason I want to apologize to myself first….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":62861,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29618],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-62845","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moving-on"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29618,"label":"moving on"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/I-Owe-Myself-An-Apology-For-Putting-Up-With-Men-Who-Didnt-Deserve-Me-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29618,"name":"moving on","slug":"moving-on","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29618,"taxonomy":"category","description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","parent":38,"count":200,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29618,"category_count":200,"category_description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","cat_name":"moving on","category_nicename":"moving-on","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62845","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=62845"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62845\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/62861"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=62845"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=62845"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=62845"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}