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<\/p>\nMolte persone pensano che tutto andr\u00e0 liscio nella loro vita nel momento in cui pronunceranno la loro promessa di matrimonio.<\/p>\n
They assume that all the problems they had in the relationship are behind them now, once they say, \u201cI do.\u201d<\/p>\n
In realt\u00e0 la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 un po' diversa.<\/p>\n
In effetti, un matrimonio sano \u00e8 un lavoro costante e richiede la definizione di obiettivi matrimoniali, che sono fondamentali per il successo di una relazione tra due persone.<\/p>\n
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Gli obiettivi matrimoniali sono fondamentalmente degli obiettivi che vi sforzate di raggiungere nella vostra relazione.<\/p>\n
\u00c8 qualcosa per cui lavorate insieme, un modo per rafforzare il vostro matrimonio e qualcosa che vi ispira e vi motiva ad andare sempre avanti.<\/p>\n
What are these goals we’re talking about? How do you set goals in marriage?<\/p>\n
Continuate a leggere per trovare le risposte a queste domande.<\/p>\n
15 obiettivi realistici per un matrimonio sano<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Uno dei primi obiettivi del matrimonio che dovreste cercare di fissare, se volete un matrimonio di successo, \u00e8 decidere di impegnarvi per costruirlo.<\/p>\n You need to understand one thing\u2014no healthy relationship can be built overnight and this especially goes for a romantic one.<\/p>\n S\u00ec, questo significa che sia voi che il vostro partner dovete impegnarvi allo stesso modo per far funzionare il vostro matrimonio.<\/p>\n Tuttavia, tenete presente che alcuni giorni uno dei due investir\u00e0 pi\u00f9 energie, mentre ci saranno momenti in cui l'altro avr\u00e0 la maggior parte del peso.<\/p>\n Keep in mind that marriage is both about giving and receiving and this effort we\u2019re talking about has to go both ways for everything to make sense.<\/p>\n You can\u2019t be l'unico che ci prova<\/a>, nor can your partner be the only one who cares about your future\u2014otherwise you\u2019ll never make the best out of your marriage.<\/p>\n You probably assume that you\u2019re done with dating the moment you say, \u201cI do,\u201d Well, think again because you\u2019re wrong.<\/p>\n Anche se avete figli, una famiglia, lavori quotidiani, faccende domestiche e altri doveri, dovreste comunque trascorrere del tempo di qualit\u00e0 con il vostro partner.<\/p>\n I know that you probably live busy lives and that you feel like you don\u2019t have a second of free time but trust me\u2014this marriage goal is crucial for your survival.<\/p>\n Spare some time for just the two of you, without your children and without phones and pretend like you\u2019re still in a relationship.<\/p>\n Almeno una volta al mese, uscite settimanali data<\/a> like in the old days; it doesn\u2019t have to be a fancy, romantic, candlelit dinner if you\u2019re out of money\u2014it will be enough for the two of you to grab a cup of coffee on your own, without anyone disturbing you.<\/p>\n Purtroppo, molte coppie sposate cadono nella routine e si dimenticano di questo obiettivo.<\/p>\n Pertanto, prima di rendersene conto, smettono di essere ci\u00f2 che sono essenzialmente (partner romantici) e si trasformano in nient'altro che co-genitori che lottano per finanziare una famiglia insieme.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t forget one crucial thing\u2014you and your other half are a team now.<\/p>\n You\u2019re companions and everything you do, you should do it with joint forces.<\/p>\n Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re expected to lose your individuality altogether.<\/p>\n Nessuno vi dice di abbandonare gli amici, la famiglia, gli hobby o gli interessi o di smettere di essere la persona che siete stati per tutta la vita e di diventare solo un marito o una moglie.<\/p>\n Tuttavia, le cose saranno molto pi\u00f9 facili per voi se iniziate a vedervi come parte di una coppia di potere.<\/p>\n The good news is that you\u2019re no longer alone in this world and that you have someone to back you up at all times.<\/p>\n Questo \u00e8 un altro aspetto che voi e il vostro partner dovete curare e su cui dovete lavorare.<\/p>\n S\u00ec, comporta una grande responsabilit\u00e0 perch\u00e9 dal giorno in cui pronunciate le promesse di matrimonio, le vostre azioni smettono di riguardare solo voi, ma \u00e8 anche un enorme sollievo che da quel momento in poi abbiate un compagno di squadra.<\/p>\n What most people forget is that there is not much point in loving each other if you don\u2019t share mutual respect, which is something you can\u2019t have a happy marriage without.<\/p>\n Dopo tutto, voi due non siete bambini e sapete cosa significa trattare qualcuno con rispetto, soprattutto il vostro coniuge.<\/p>\n No, to set goals doesn\u2019t include you nodding your head to everything they say or that you have to blindly follow their lead; naturally, you\u2019re allowed to have an opinion of your own\u2014you just have to take theirs into consideration at all times as well.<\/p>\n Anche quando avete atteggiamenti diversi su qualcosa, non ci si insulta o ci si mette in difficolt\u00e0 a vicenda, soprattutto non davanti agli altri.<\/p>\n Imparate invece ad accettare di essere in disaccordo.<\/p>\n Also, it is crucial to respect each other\u2019s friends and families, desires, personal time, space and individuality.<\/p>\n Another relationship goal you should strive for is respecting your wedding vows for as long as you\u2019re married\u2014not only having them in mind while you\u2019re newlyweds.<\/p>\n It is remembering that you promised to be there for each other in both good and bad days, in sickness and health and that a break up is the last option you won\u2019t even take into consideration.<\/p>\n Just don\u2019t forget to have some self-respect along the way!<\/p>\n Un'altra delle chiavi per un matrimonio felice \u00e8 senza dubbio una sana comunicazione, che \u00e8 fondamentale per la salute del vostro matrimonio.<\/p>\n This is the person you share your life with and if you can\u2019t tell each other what you think and how you honestly feel, without holding anything back, what\u2019s the point of your relationship?<\/p>\n When you\u2019re bothered by something, there is no ignoring or silent treatment.<\/p>\n Remember that your significant other doesn\u2019t have the ability to read minds, so there is no theoretical possibility for them to know what\u2019s wrong unless you tell them.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t worry\u2014happy couples argue as well, so it doesn\u2019t mean that your communication is poor if you have some issues.<\/p>\n Tuttavia, la differenza \u00e8 che sanno come litigare. Quando avete una buona comunicazione, voi e il vostro coniuge imparerete dalle vostre discussioni.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll perfect the skill of accepting the other person\u2019s opinion, even if it differs from yours, you won\u2019t insult each other during your fights and you won\u2019t bring them down.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t forget\u2014it\u2019s always you two on one side and the problem on the other; it should never be you against each other.<\/p>\n Inoltre, una comunicazione sana comprende l'ascolto di ci\u00f2 che l'altro sta dicendo.<\/p>\n It means acknowledging their words and paying close attention to what they\u2019re telling you.<\/p>\n As it was already stated, you\u2019re no longer alone in this world and as much benefit this brings, it also means that you can\u2019t do whatever the hell you want.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not saying that your marriage should limit your freedom but as soon as you become a sposi<\/a>, you can\u2019t go through life the way you feel like it, without taking the other person\u2019s well-being into consideration.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why compromise is one of the smart goals you should put an effort into achieving if you want to preserve the health of your marriage.<\/p>\n Ricordate che si tratta di una strada a doppio senso e che dovete incontrarvi a met\u00e0 strada se volete avere un matrimonio pi\u00f9 forte.<\/p>\n Voi e il vostro partner siete alla pari; non ci sono ruoli di sottomissione o dominanza e le vostre opinioni e i vostri desideri contano entrambi allo stesso modo.<\/p>\n Poich\u00e9 entrambi avete la stessa quantit\u00e0 di responsabilit\u00e0, doveri e diritti, dovreste avere la stessa voce in capitolo quando si tratta di prendere decisioni cruciali per la vostra relazione.<\/p>\n Un altro obiettivo relazionale per il quale dovreste lavorare \u00e8 senza dubbio perdono<\/a>.<\/p>\n No, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should allow your partner to treat you the way they want, while you should keep on forgiving them and acting like everything is in perfect order.<\/p>\n Instead, tell them when something is wrong and when you\u2019re not okay with the way they\u2019ve been acting.<\/p>\n However, setting goals in marriage doesn\u2019t include either of you holding grudges or being resentful for ages about something in the past.<\/p>\n Se succede qualcosa tra voi due, parlatene e lavorate per il perdono, invece di permettere che questo problema diventi un trampolino di lancio verso il fallimento del vostro matrimonio.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t mention a breakup after your first mistake and don\u2019t even think about divorce.<\/p>\n Naturally, there are some things you can\u2019t find an excuse for and nobody will blame you for respecting your deal-breakers but please, do your best to be as tolerant as possible.<\/p>\n Tenete presente che entrambi siete esseri umani fatti di carne e sangue.<\/p>\n You both make mistakes which you regret and you\u2019re both entitled to forgiveness.<\/p>\n Invece, nutrite aspettative realistiche ma chiare nei confronti del vostro partner.<\/p>\n Provate a camminare per un miglio nei loro panni e siate comprensivi, anche se fanno qualcosa che vi ferisce.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t have to be eternally grateful to your spouse when they\u2019re acting the way a normal marital partner should act.<\/p>\n Tuttavia, uno dei obiettivi di relazione<\/a> Il punto di partenza per il vostro lavoro \u00e8 sicuramente l'apprezzamento.<\/p>\n Show your partner that you appreciate everything they\u2019re doing for your marriage and be thankful for the effort they put into setting goals for your future together.<\/p>\n Show them that you appreciate their sacrifices and that you\u2019re more than proud of having them around.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t take their efforts for granted and put a smile on your face for every little thing they do for you.<\/p>\n Of course, expect the same treatment back. Don\u2019t allow your spouse to behave like it\u2019s okay for you to move mountains for them, while they don\u2019t have to lift a finger.<\/p>\n A dispetto di quanto molte coppie possano pensare, l'intimit\u00e0 \u00e8 molto pi\u00f9 che sesso e azione in camera da letto ed \u00e8 uno degli obiettivi pi\u00f9 importanti del matrimonio.<\/p>\n Sometimes, it\u2019s all about holding hands, having weekly date nights, looking each other deeply in the eyes while not saying a word, spending quality time together and knowing each other to the core.<\/p>\n S\u00ec, avere una vita sessuale di alta qualit\u00e0 \u00e8 un obiettivo forte e per il quale bisogna lavorare.<\/p>\n I won\u2019t lie to you though\u2014you won\u2019t have a relazione sana<\/a> if it\u2019s only based on the physical aspects.<\/p>\n Tuttavia, se volete un matrimonio pi\u00f9 solido, anche la vostra vita sessuale dovrebbe essere in ordine.<\/p>\n In camera da letto non c'\u00e8 spazio per l'egoismo ed \u00e8 fondamentale che entrambi siate soddisfatti.<\/p>\n Come in tutte le cose della vita, trovate una via di mezzo.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t do anything you\u2019re not comfortable doing but make sure you please your spouse\u2019s well-being.<\/p>\n Tuttavia, un obiettivo intelligente \u00e8 quello di aumentare i livelli di intimit\u00e0 anche in altri campi.<\/p>\n Collegatevi in modi diversi e fate del vostro meglio per rafforzare il vostro legame dentro e fuori la camera da letto.<\/p>\n L'obiettivo pi\u00f9 potente in ogni matrimonio \u00e8 la fede.<\/p>\n Even if you don\u2019t believe in God in traditional terms, I\u2019m sure you do believe in something or someone to whom you pray and who you think can give you a hand when you\u2019re going through rough times.<\/p>\n You and your spouse don\u2019t have to respect the same God but it is important if you\u2019re both united in praying for the success of your marriage with joint forces.<\/p>\n Anche quando le cose vanno male, abbiate fede che ce la farete, a prescindere da tutto.<\/p>\n Besides, respect each other\u2019s beliefs. Remember\u2014God is all about love and it is insane to argue about religion, as long as you both want peace, understanding and compromise.<\/p>\n Uno degli obiettivi quotidiani su cui ogni coppia deve sempre lavorare \u00e8 l'amicizia.<\/p>\n Your partner is not only your lover\u2014they should be your migliore amico<\/a> anche.<\/p>\n Sapete come trattate il vostro migliore amico? Fate del vostro meglio per capirli, per accettare le loro imperfezioni, per essere sempre al loro fianco e per non giudicarli mai.<\/p>\n Tuttavia, vi aspettate lo stesso trattamento in cambio.<\/p>\n After all, this is your person\u2014the first person you go to when you\u2019re going through some trouble, the first one you tell all the bad and good news to and someone whose advice you always take into consideration and listen to.<\/p>\n This is your confidant, the person you\u2019re not ashamed to show your darkest side, someone you\u2019re not scared of exposing your vulnerabilities to and a person you consider to be your family.<\/p>\n Anche se dovreste mantenere una vita sociale sana e le amicizie che avevate prima del matrimonio, il vostro coniuge dovrebbe diventare il vostro amico numero uno.<\/p>\n Oltre a tutto questo, dovrebbe essere la persona con cui vi piace di pi\u00f9 passare il tempo, con cui vi divertite e accanto alla quale potete essere voi stessi.<\/p>\n Remember your wedding vows? How you both promised never to leave each other\u2019s side, no matter what?<\/p>\n E questo include il sostegno incondizionato.<\/p>\n Fissare obiettivi intelligenti nel matrimonio significa contare sul proprio coniuge per sostenervi quando tutti gli altri vi abbandonano, per esservi accanto in salute e in malattia e per credere in voi anche quando perdete la fiducia in voi stessi.<\/p>\n Il vostro partner coniugale dovrebbe essere la persona su cui potete contare, a cui potete confidare i vostri segreti pi\u00f9 profondi, a cui potete affidare la vostra vita e che non vi lascer\u00e0 mai in sospeso.<\/p>\n They should be the wind beneath your wings, your biggest fan and ally, someone who pushes you forward and who doesn\u2019t let you give up.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re setting your own goals for a successful marriage, please don\u2019t forget about accepting the other person for who they really are.<\/p>\n Naturalmente, ogni relazione, e soprattutto una cosa seria come il matrimonio, richiede un certo livello di adattamento.<\/p>\n However, it doesn\u2019t mean that either of you should change the essence of your personality just to please the other person.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t fool yourself\u2014your love can\u2019t change someone and if you try modifying your partner or molding them to fit your standards, while deep down this is not what they want, you\u2019ll sentence both of you to a life of misery.<\/p>\n You and your spouse are grown-ups. You\u2019re individuals with already formed personalities so you have no other choice but to completely accept each other, together with all of your flaws.<\/p>\n \u00c8 importante avere delle aspettative realistiche ma chiare e standard<\/a> fin dal primo giorno.<\/p>\n See whether you\u2019re compatible before getting married and see whether this is the person you can see yourself growing old next to.<\/p>\n Se vi rendete conto del contrario, potete accettare le loro imperfezioni o allontanarvi per tempo.<\/p>\n Remember\u2014nobody likes being parented and told what to do or how to behave themselves for you to like them more.<\/p>\n Un altro obiettivo intelligente per il vostro matrimonio \u00e8 la fiducia reciproca.<\/p>\n This means that neither of you will doubt your partner\u2019s words, that you\u2019ll believe that they wouldn\u2019t cheat on you or betray you in any way possible and that there won\u2019t be some problemi di fiducia<\/a> nel vostro matrimonio.<\/p>\n Anche la gelosia \u00e8 un aspetto importante della fiducia.<\/p>\n Yes, there is an amount of healthy jealousy in every romantic relationship but as soon as it turns into possessiveness, it\u2019s time to make some changes between you two.<\/p>\n Finally, there is no point in achieving any of these realistic goals we\u2019ve talked about unless there is love.<\/p>\n Voi e il vostro coniuge dovete amarvi incondizionatamente e per sempre se sperate che la vostra relazione funzioni.<\/p>\n1. Sforzo<\/h2>\n
![\"Marito](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Husband-cooking-for-wife.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"Donna](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Woman-piggyback-man-park.jpg\")
<\/p>\n2. Tempo di qualit\u00e0<\/h2>\n
![\"Coppia](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/couple-date-wine-glasses.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"Coppia](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Man-hug-woman-coffee.jpg\")
<\/p>\n3. Compagnia<\/h2>\n
![\"Coppia](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Couple-walking-grass.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"Primo](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Close-up-clasped-hands-wristwatch.jpg\")
<\/p>\n4. Rispetto<\/h2>\n
![\"La](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Woman-Man-talking-sofa.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"Una](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/woman-comforts-man-head-down.jpg\")
<\/p>\n5. Comunicazione sana<\/h2>\n
![\"Coppia](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Happy-couple-arms-propped-table.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"Uomo](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/man-pinches-woman-nose.jpg\")
<\/p>\n6. Compromesso<\/h2>\n
![\"Uomo](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Man-propped-elbow-woman-looks-down.jpg\")
<\/p>\n7. Il perdono<\/h2>\n
![\"Coppia](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Man-comforts-upset-woman.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"Donna](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Woman-pinch-nose-man-back.jpg\")
<\/p>\n8. Apprezzamento<\/h2>\n
![\"Coppia](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Couple-hugging-man-behind.jpg\")
<\/p>\n9. Intimit\u00e0<\/h2>\n
![\"Coppia](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Couple-bed-pizza.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"Coppia](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/man-kisses-woman-forehead.jpg\")
<\/p>\n10. La fede<\/h2>\n
![\"Coppia](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/couple-praying-lake.jpg\")
<\/p>\n11. L'amicizia<\/h2>\n
![\"Coppia](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Laughing-couple-hugging-autumn.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"Coppia](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/smiling-couple-hugging-roofdeck.jpg\")
<\/p>\n12. Supporto<\/h2>\n
![\"Primo](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/couple-hands-woman-smiling.jpg\")
<\/p>\n13. Accettazione<\/h2>\n
![\"Uomo](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Man-bun-hugging-woman.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"Donna](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Woman-hugs-man-closed-eyes.jpg\")
<\/p>\n14. Fiducia<\/h2>\n
![\"Coppia](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Couple-touching-foreheads.jpg\")
<\/p>\n15. L'amore<\/h2>\n
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