{"id":63259,"date":"2020-04-22T13:01:18","date_gmt":"2020-04-22T13:01:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=63259"},"modified":"2022-07-15T09:14:23","modified_gmt":"2022-07-15T09:14:23","slug":"come-affrontare-il-crepacuore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-affrontare-il-crepacuore\/","title":{"rendered":"Come affrontare il cuore spezzato: 15 modi comprovati per guarire dal dolore del cuore"},"content":{"rendered":"

You’ve read about it, seen it in movies, heard about it in all those songs and your friends have gone through it.<\/p>\n

However, this time, it’s happening to you\u2014your heart is broken!<\/p>\n

It’s even worse than you imagined! The emotional pain has been unbearable, you’ve been experiencing some feelings you didn’t even know you had and you’ve been wondering if this is the fine della vita<\/a> che avete conosciuto finora.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, ora che lo shock iniziale \u00e8 passato, si deve iniziare a capire come affrontare crepacuore<\/a> nel modo pi\u00f9 sano possibile.<\/p>\n

This is probably happening to you for the first time\u2014you’re completely clueless and you don’t know what to do, where to start or what to expect.<\/p>\n

Well, that’s why we’re here to assist you and to give you the answer to the question: \u2018How to deal with heartbreak?\u2019 Just follow the tips below and you’ll be cured in no time!<\/p>\n

15 consigli professionali su come affrontare un cuore spezzato<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Essere consapevoli della realt\u00e0<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Per la maggior parte delle persone, una delle prime fasi post-rottura<\/a> del lutto \u00e8 la negazione. Il dolore per la perdita di una persona a cui si tiene cos\u00ec tanto (anche se si trattava di un serial dater<\/a>) is extremely deep, so it\u2019s your body and mind\u2019s natural reaction to act like nothing is actually going on.<\/p>\n

Anche se all'inizio sembra un approccio pi\u00f9 semplice, a lungo andare pu\u00f2 portare molti problemi. Pertanto, se volete accelerare il processo di guarigione, fate del vostro meglio per saltare questa fase.<\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s difficult but sooner or later, you\u2019ll have to face the harsh truth\u2014whatever caused your heartbreak happened and it\u2019s time for you to accept it.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter whether we\u2019re talking about a break-up, a divorce or something else, be aware that this is the end and the final goodbye.<\/p>\n

Stop expecting your ex partner to come back to you and stop making future plans which include them, as this way, you\u2019re only deceiving yourself and prolonging your suffering.<\/p>\n

Besides, the hardest truth is always better than the best lie. After all, once you accept the reality, at least you\u2019ll know where you stand and you\u2019ll be able to start over from scratch.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, by lying to yourself, you\u2019re just walking in circles and you\u2019re not allowing yourself to move past this dead spot you got stuck in. It\u2019s your choice!<\/p>\n

2. Don\u2019t repress your emotions<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Un'altra cosa che purtroppo molte persone tendono a fare quando il loro cuore si spezza, nella speranza che questo le aiuti, \u00e8 cercare di spegnere le proprie emozioni.<\/p>\n

Well, let me tell you that doing something like this won\u2019t make your pain magically go away and it will actually only make it greater.<\/p>\n

No, pretending that you\u2019re not hurt and burying your feelings deep in your heart won\u2019t erase all the negativity.<\/p>\n

At first glance, people will think that you\u2019re better and that you\u2019ve managed to successfully riparare il tuo cuore spezzato<\/a>. However, the truth is that you\u2019ll just have made things worse than they have to be.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Yes, you might cry a little bit less but those tears you\u2019re holding back will pile up inside of you until they explode like a volcano.<\/p>\n

Therefore, the same way you have to accept the truth, you also have to face your pain, if you\u2019re looking to have any progress whatsoever.<\/p>\n

After all, if you want to defeat an enemy, you can\u2019t hide from them\u2014you have to look them straight in the eye and fight them with everything you\u2019ve got.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014doing this is for your own good. Otherwise, years from now, you\u2019ll catch yourself still feeling the consequences of your deeply rooted traumas and the worst part will be that you won\u2019t even know where they\u2019re coming from.<\/p>\n

3. Give yourself time to grieve\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Now that you\u2019ve prepared yourself mentally and emotionally for this processo di guarigione<\/a>, it\u2019s time to actually start it. The first step is to let yourself suffer and give yourself time to grieve.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll be honest with you\u2014you won\u2019t be cured overnight, so do things one day at a time. Something like this lasts a while and it requires a lot of patience, energy, time, effort and your willingness to get better.<\/p>\n

Pertanto, in queste fasi iniziali di dolore dopo la rottura, fate tutto ci\u00f2 che piace al vostro cuore spezzato.<\/p>\n

Cry when you feel like crying, scream if you think it will make you feel better, listen to sad songs, eat a ton of ice cream, spend a few days in your pajamas without talking to anyone, watch all those cheesy romantic comedies, read love novels\u2026<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

However, this doesn\u2019t mean that you can allow this phrase to become your permanent state and to turn to depression.<\/p>\n

The best way to prevent something like that from happening is to give yourself a deadline\u2014a date until which you have the right to act this way and the day after, you\u2019ll start putting the broken pieces of your shattered heart back together.<\/p>\n

Remember that we all have a different grieving pace but that doesn\u2019t mean that yours won\u2019t come to an end.<\/p>\n

After all, who knows you better than yourself? You\u2019re the one who can predict the amount of time you\u2019ll need to release the pain and to be ready for new victories, therefore, this deadline is fully up to you.<\/p>\n

4. \u2026 but don\u2019t wallow in self-pity<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

However, even when you\u2019re at your lowest, please don\u2019t feel sorry for yourself.<\/p>\n

First of all, you\u2019re not weak for feeling this way; there doesn\u2019t exist a person in this world who hasn\u2019t had a similar experience and whoever tells you differently is lying. This is all a part of life and a grande lezione<\/a> per il vostro futuro.<\/p>\n

Secondly, this is not the end of the world\u2014it\u2019s just a chance for a new beginning. Your life and heart will go on sooner or later, so please don\u2019t see this as your spiritual death.<\/p>\n

Yes, being heartbroken and breaking up with someone you love will probably leave consequences on you. Nevertheless, I can promise you one thing\u2014you will survive.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Imparerete a respirare di nuovo, a sorridere di nuovo e a godere di nuovo delle piccole cose della vostra vita.<\/p>\n

Even though I\u2019m not trying to minimize your emotional pain (because I’m well aware of how much it hurts when a relationship ends), remember that a heartache is not the reason for your pessimism.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re alive and healthy, you\u2019re in no physical pain and you\u2019re reading this, which means that you belong to the more privileged part of the world. I bet you\u2019re surrounded by a bunch of people who love you, therefore you have more than one reason to be happy.<\/p>\n

Allora, perch\u00e9 avete ancora bisogno di crogiolarsi nell'autocommiserazione<\/a>?<\/p>\n

5. Cercare di chiudere la questione<\/h2>\n

\"due<\/p>\n

Tutti dicono che il modo migliore per affrontare il cuore spezzato sia chiudere i conti<\/a> from your ex partner. Let\u2019s be real\u2014who wouldn\u2019t want that?<\/p>\n

Who wouldn\u2019t like having all their questions answered and dilemmas sorted out? Knowing where things went wrong and how the other person feels right now?<\/p>\n

Se pensate di averne bisogno per andare avanti, fatelo. Chiamate o inviate un messaggio al vostro ex partner e ditegli che avete bisogno di un colloquio finale.<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t use this as an excuse to try and get back together with them. Remember why you are there, sort everything out and leave it in the past, where it belongs, without licking your wounds any longer.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, be prepared for the possibility that your ex won\u2019t give you the closure you\u2019re looking for. Maybe they don\u2019t want any contact or simply don\u2019t have the answers you hope to get.<\/p>\n

In this scenario, you have to find a way to get your own ending. I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014andare avanti senza chiudere<\/a> is a little bit harder but it doesn\u2019t mean that it can\u2019t be done.<\/p>\n

Just accept that everything happened for a deeper cause. It\u2019s enough for you to know that the two of you are not meant to be, that better things await you and this relationship will soon be just a distant memory.<\/p>\n

Smettete di pensare a tutte le cose che avrebbero potuto o dovuto accadere. Invece di sprecare le vostre preziose energie nella ricerca dei motivi della rottura e del cuore spezzato, investite tutta la vostra forza nel farvi sentire meglio.<\/p>\n

6. Trovare la forza di perdonare<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

When your relationship ends and when someone causes you this much emotional pain, it\u2019s natural that at first you feel this overwhelming anger.<\/p>\n

Il primo impulso \u00e8 la vendetta: si vuole far assaggiare al proprio ex partner la sua stessa medicina, si vuole che si senta cuore spezzato<\/a> e volete pareggiare i conti.<\/p>\n

Even though I\u2019m not here to judge you for this, since it\u2019s a completely normal reaction to the trauma you\u2019ve lived through, please think things through. What would you actually achieve by getting your sweet revenge?<\/p>\n

Sapere che l'altra persona \u00e8 ferita ridurrebbe il vostro dolore? Vi curerebbe magicamente?<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You might feel a little bit better at the start but later on, you\u2019ll see that they actually won\u2014they made you become the same as them and they filled your soul with bitterness and negative thoughts.<\/p>\n

Therefore, the best thing you can do here is find the strength to forgive your former partner who broke your heart. No, you shouldn\u2019t be doing so for their sake, since that\u2019s probably the last thing they deserve; do it for your own good.<\/p>\n

Per favore, siate una persona pi\u00f9 grande e accettate le scuse che non avete mai ricevuto. Rilasciate i pensieri e le emozioni negative e fate qualcosa di buono per la vostra salute mentale.<\/p>\n

Trust me\u2014it\u2019s the only way to liberate yourself from resentment. After all, that\u2019s the difference between being consumed with love or hatred toward this person; they\u2019re still on your mind.<\/p>\n

7. Non abusare di sostanze<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

When wondering how to deal with heartbreak, many people find refuge in different substances, such as drugs, painkillers or alcohol. If this is something you have in mind, please know that it won\u2019t get you anywhere.<\/p>\n

I know that you want to get wasted because you probably see it as the only way to forget about everything you\u2019re going through. In a situation like this, you\u2019re choosing a way to numb your pain and thoughts but this is not the path to choose.<\/p>\n

After all, you can drink or get high for days but you\u2019ll have to sober up sooner or later.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

When that happens, all of your troubles will be there, patiently waiting for you to solve them; they won\u2019t have magically vanished just because you spent some time oblivious and in the dark.<\/p>\n

Have in mind that substance abuse won\u2019t resolve your problems\u2014it will only cause you some bigger ones.<\/p>\n

Before you know it, you\u2019ll find yourself trying to get rid of your addiction while still in the process of overcoming your heartbreak, which can be a fatal combination.<\/p>\n

Besides, is your former partner really worth you destroying your life over them? They\u2019re probably somewhere enjoying themselves while you\u2019re putting everything you have at stake because of them.<\/p>\n

8. Essere fisicamente attivi<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Another way to let go of all these negative emotions, thoughts and energy you\u2019ve got piled up inside and to redirect them somewhere else is to be physically active.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s actually pretty simple; if you want to give your mind and heart some rest, tire your body out as much as possible.<\/p>\n

Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should burden yourself to the point of physical exhaustion but keeping yourself busy in these times is one of the best options you have.<\/p>\n

I know that you feel completely incapable of being productive but you can make it. For starters, hit the gym or find new hobbies\u2014whatever keeps your mind off things.<\/p>\n

You can engage in learning a new language or go back to some of your old interests. Trust me\u2014when you fulfill your entire day, you\u2019ll have no time left to think about your broken heart.<\/p>\n

9. Fate le cose che vi rendono felici<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s dig a little deeper into the past; before you met this person who you think ruined you.<\/p>\n

Quali erano le cose che vi rendevano felici all'epoca? Cosa vi piaceva fare e come passavate il tempo?<\/p>\n

Ecco, queste sono le cose a cui dovreste rivolgervi. Coccolarsi<\/a> and do whatever fulfills your heart\u2019s desires, as long as you\u2019re not endangering yourself or anyone else in your surroundings.<\/p>\n

Even though you don\u2019t believe me now, soon enough you\u2019ll see that your ex partner is not the only source of happiness for you. In fact, there are other things and people you\u2019ll find joy in and that is where you should put all of your focus.<\/p>\n

10. Mettere via i promemoria<\/h2>\n

\"scatola<\/p>\n

Una delle cose pi\u00f9 importanti da fare quando si cerca di capire come affrontare il cuore spezzato \u00e8 sbarazzarsi di tutto ci\u00f2 che pu\u00f2 ricordare questa persona.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t emphasize enough how important it is for you to go full no contact\u2014no calling them, no texting, no staying friends and no following them on social media.<\/p>\n

Questa persona vi ha fatto del male e l'unico modo per tenerla lontana dal vostro cuore \u00e8 tenerla lontana anche dalla vostra vista.<\/p>\n

However, even though many people stick to the no contact rule, they don\u2019t accomplish much since they remain surrounded by reminders of their ex.<\/p>\n

\"persona<\/p>\n

There is no point in you cutting ties with this person if you\u2019ll continue stalking their social media profiles from a fake profile, if you\u2019ll keep photos of you two all around your apartment, if you listen to the songs you two danced to together or if you stay in touch with their best friends and family, talking about them and trying to get information.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014your ex partner was a huge part of your life and you shouldn\u2019t try to erase them from your memory, as if they never existed.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, almeno d'ora in poi, allontanatevi da tutto e da tutti coloro che potrebbero ricordarvi la vostra relazione fallita.<\/p>\n

11. Lavorare sulla propria autostima<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Un'altra cosa fondamentale in questo processo \u00e8 iniziare a ricostruire la propria autostima. La cosa peggiore che possiate permettere a voi stessi di sentirvi indegni o non desiderosi di essere amati, solo perch\u00e9 avete avuto una pessima esperienza amorosa.<\/p>\n

Potreste chiedervi perch\u00e9 la fiducia in se stessi sia cos\u00ec importante quando si ha a che fare con un cuore spezzato.<\/p>\n

Well, once you finally see your true value, you\u2019ll understand how much you deserve and all of a sudden, your ex who never treated you right will be out of your league and you\u2019ll forget all about them with more ease.<\/p>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Quindi, invece, continuate a ripetervi che questa rottura \u00e8 la loro perdita<\/a>; you\u2019re a valuable human being and you will love and be loved in the future.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 pi\u00f9 facile a dirsi che a farsi, lo so. Tuttavia, esistono alcuni modi efficaci per aumentare la fiducia in se stessi.<\/p>\n

Per cominciare, provate a elencare tutte le cose buone che avete fatto nella vita; concentratevi sui vostri successi invece che sui vostri fallimenti.<\/p>\n

Also, it\u2019s a good idea to present yourself with a set of tiny challenges. Each time you acquire a new short-term goal, you\u2019ll see that you should be proud of yourself and your self-faith will slowly begin to be restored.<\/p>\n

12. Remember that you\u2019re in charge<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest here\u2014you can\u2019t control what is happening around you. You can play by the rules, do everything by the book and give the best version of yourself to someone but that doesn\u2019t ensure that you\u2019ll get the same treatment in return.<\/p>\n

As much as you try, you can never control other people\u2019s actions. So, why bother trying?<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t you ever forget that you\u2019re in complete charge of your reactions to certain life events and that you have full control of your emotions and state of mind.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

It\u2019s up to you whether you\u2019ll allow some things to tear you apart or make you even stronger; it\u2019s your choice whether you\u2019ll look at life optimistically or negatively.<\/p>\n

Therefore, it\u2019s your decision whether your heartbreak will break you entirely as well.<\/p>\n

Remember\u2014la vostra felicit\u00e0<\/a> can never be in someone else\u2019s hands. You\u2019re the ruler of your own life and you\u2019re stronger than your emotions\u2014not the other way around.<\/p>\n

13. Don\u2019t force yourself into anything you\u2019re not ready for<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Remember what we said\u2026 One day at a time.<\/p>\n

It means that you should never force yourself into doing something you don\u2019t feel comfortable with or ready for and this especially applies to romantic relationships.<\/p>\n

Nessuno vi sta dicendo di alzare la guardia e di chiudere per sempre il vostro cuore all'amore solo a causa di questa brutta esperienza. Anzi, probabilmente sarebbe la cosa pi\u00f9 sciocca che potreste mai fare.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, attenzione al pericolo di relazioni di rimbalzo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t go back in the dating market to fool yourself that you\u2019re doing better, don\u2019t do it to get even with your ex who moved on before you and especially don\u2019t do it to convince the people in your surroundings that you\u2019re recovering successfully, according to their standards.<\/p>\n

Even though people might advise you to jump into a new relationship in order to heal your heartbreak, if you do so just for the sake of forgetting your past, you\u2019ll only deepen your wounds.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow your emotional baggage to ruin your future. Take your time and patiently wait until true love comes to you, instead of forcing it.<\/p>\n

One day, when you kiss someone, do it for your own sake and do it once you see that you\u2019re completely recovered from your past traumas; that\u2019s only fair to you and to your new partner and anything else is self-deception.<\/p>\n

14. Prendetela come una lezione<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Anche se un colpo di fulmine \u00e8 qualcosa che nessuno si diverte a subire, la rottura di una relazione sentimentale per la prima volta pu\u00f2 anche servirvi da lezione, dura ma preziosa. lezione<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It can teach you more than you think and it can help you grow into the person you\u2019re destined to be; you just have to let it.<\/p>\n

For starters, this awful experience is an indicator of your inner strength. It shows you that a simple heartache can\u2019t destroy you and that you have the ability to overcome much worse things than this.<\/p>\n

Secondly, going through something like this shows you that you don\u2019t really need anyone, especially not your former partner. You might think that this person is essential for your survival but here you are, breathing without them.<\/p>\n

15. Chiedere aiuto<\/h2>\n

\"tre<\/p>\n

Finally, don\u2019t look for the answer to the question: \u2018How to deal with heartbreak?\u2019 on your own. There is absolutely no shame in asking for help from your trusted friends or closest family members.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not telling you to follow their advice blindly but ask them to be there for you, to listen to you when you need it, to give you their support and to be your shoulder to cry on. Trust me\u2014everything is easier when you\u2019re not alone.<\/p>\n

Inoltre, se vi sembra che il vostro amici fidati<\/a> and family can\u2019t give you the assistance you need, look for professional help. Turn to a mental health specialist and I assure you that they\u2019ll show you the right path!<\/p>\n

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