{"id":63333,"date":"2020-04-16T09:30:40","date_gmt":"2020-04-16T09:30:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=63333"},"modified":"2021-08-12T09:59:46","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T09:59:46","slug":"ragazza-che-non-riesce-a-perdonare-ancora-una-volta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ragazza-che-non-riesce-a-perdonare-ancora-una-volta\/","title":{"rendered":"Alla ragazza ferita che non riesce a perdonare ancora una volta"},"content":{"rendered":"

Indipendentemente da ci\u00f2 che qualcuno vi fa, tutti vi consigliano di essere la persona pi\u00f9 grande e di perdonare.<\/p>\n

Le persone ti fanno passare l'inferno, da cui devi trovare una via d'uscita da solo, e poi tutti si aspettano che tu lo superi, come se non fosse successo nulla.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not talking about giving second chances or letting the people who hurt you back into your life.<\/p>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about the kind act of forgiveness.<\/p>\n

Well, when you\u2019re the vittima di abusi<\/a>Quando si tratta di tradimenti, pugnalate alle spalle o manipolazioni, o quando la persona di cui ci si fidava di pi\u00f9 vi ha spezzato il cuore o vi ha abbandonato, \u00e8 molto pi\u00f9 facile dirlo che farlo.<\/p>\n

In fact, in this case, forgiveness looks like mission impossible. It\u2019s not that you\u2019re unaware of its perks.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that you are deliberately refusing to forget everything that you\u2019ve been through or that you are actively seeking revenge against those who broke your heart and hurt you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You know everything that should be done. After all, you\u2019ve heard it a million times.<\/p>\n

You should forgive the ones who\u2019ve done you harm because it\u2019s the only way towards your personal liberation.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the only way to free yourself from the chains these evil people put on you.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Tutti continuano a dirvi che \u00e8 l'unico modo per vivere in pace con voi stessi.<\/p>\n

Che la capacit\u00e0 di perdonare \u00e8 l'attributo pi\u00f9 forte tra noi.<\/p>\n

Vi consigliano persino di accettare le scuse che non avete mai ricevuto.<\/p>\n

Che perdonare \u00e8 l'unico modo per lasciare veramente andare il passato e andare avanti con la propria vita.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

People will tell you that you don\u2019t stand a chance against your demons if you hold onto anger.<\/p>\n

That you can\u2019t expect to heal and retake control over your life if you hold on to grudges from the past.<\/p>\n

Tutto questo \u00e8 vero, non c'\u00e8 dubbio.<\/p>\n

Forgiveness is something you should definitely strive for, despite the magnitude of someone\u2019s misdeeds towards you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

However, what happens when you simply can\u2019t forgive, as much as you try? <\/strong><\/p>\n

What if you don\u2019t have the la forza di perdonare<\/a> coloro che vi hanno fatto del male, nonostante tutti i vostri sforzi?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, in that case: just don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, avete capito bene: don\u2019t forgive someone unless you feel the need to do so deep inside of you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t do it because it\u2019s the right thing to do, because others expect you to, or because you want to prove that you are a nicer person than those who ask for your forgiveness.<\/p>\n

This is nothing but a sign that you\u2019re still not ready for this merciful act.<\/p>\n

It means that you still need time to process and accept everything you\u2019ve been through.<\/p>\n

Most importantly – it means that you still haven\u2019t understood your abusers.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t find a reason for their toxic behavior, nor do you have an explanation for it.<\/p>\n

And that is perfectly okay. It doesn\u2019t make you weak and it definitely doesn\u2019t make you a bad person.<\/p>\n

Ricorda: you\u2019re the victim here and you\u2019re allowed to feel whatever you might be feeling.<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00ec, il bagaglio emotivo che vi portate dietro probabilmente vi rende la vita pi\u00f9 difficile.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

However, you can\u2019t forcefully get rid of it if you still feel it\u2019s tied on your chest.<\/p>\n

Quindi, per favore, don\u2019t feel guilty for your inability to forgive. Don\u2019t judge your pain and let time do its magic.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t forget that we all heal at a different pace.<\/p>\n

Therefore, just because it\u2019s taking you longer to reach your goal, it doesn\u2019t mean that you won\u2019t get there.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, voglio che sappiate che questo non \u00e8 permanente.<\/p>\n

In fact, I promise you one thing: the moment you have enough strength to forgive whoever broke your heart will come when you\u2019re completely ready for it.<\/p>\n

No, you don\u2019t have to give your abusatore<\/a> un assaggio della loro stessa medicina per questo momento a venire.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to seek revenge, nor do you have to enjoy their suffering in order to feel like you got even.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll just wake up one morning and there will be no more bitterness and no more anger.<\/p>\n

Just like that, you\u2019ll see that you successfully let go of every negative emotion you had and that is when you\u2019ll be completely cured.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Alla<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

No matter what someone does to you, everyone advises you to be the bigger person and to forgive. People put you through hell, which you have to find a way out of alone, and then everyone expects you to just get over it, as if nothing has happened. Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not talking…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":63347,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-63333","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/To-The-Hurt-Girl-Who-Can\u2019t-Forgive-Once-More.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","parent":29651,"count":207,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29653,"category_count":207,"category_description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","cat_name":"letters","category_nicename":"letters","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63333","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/41"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=63333"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63333\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/63347"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=63333"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=63333"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=63333"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}