{"id":63479,"date":"2020-04-16T14:47:31","date_gmt":"2020-04-16T14:47:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=63479"},"modified":"2021-08-12T09:52:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T09:52:30","slug":"non-sentirsi-in-colpa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/non-sentirsi-in-colpa\/","title":{"rendered":"Non sentitevi in colpa per aver tagliato chi vi ha dato le forbici"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Nonostante tutto quello che quest'uomo le ha fatto, lei continua a mettere in discussione la sua decisione di cacciarlo dalla sua vita.<\/p>\n<p>La notte si sveglia ancora, chiedendosi se ha fatto la cosa giusta e se avrebbe dovuto dargli un'altra possibilit\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re a smart girl and you know he is not <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/9-segni-che-lei-ti-sta-mettendo-alla-prova-per-decidere-se-sei-un-fidanzato\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">materiale del ragazzo<\/span><\/a>. Ma forse voi due avreste dovuto rimanere amici, se non altro.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-63490\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/worried-woman-holding-for-head.jpg\" alt=\"donna preoccupata che si tiene per la testa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/worried-woman-holding-for-head.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/worried-woman-holding-for-head-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/worried-woman-holding-for-head-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Dopo tutto, ha sempre avuto bisogno di lei. Continuava a dirle che lei era il suo angelo custode e che non avrebbe mai potuto farcela senza di lei al suo fianco.<\/p>\n<p>Inoltre, ha provato a contattarla dopo la rottura. Tuttavia, lei era troppo ferita per ascoltarlo.<\/p>\n<p>Era troppo arrabbiata e devastata per parlargli. Invece, hai riattaccato il telefono e l'hai bloccato ovunque.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-63487\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/angry-girl-looking-at-phone.jpg\" alt=\"ragazza arrabbiata che guarda il telefono\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/angry-girl-looking-at-phone.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/angry-girl-looking-at-phone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/angry-girl-looking-at-phone-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>So now that the resentment is gone, you\u2019re not sure whether you made the right choice.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Now that the bitterness has passed, you can\u2019t help but wonder if you ended up being the bad guy in this story.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Well, I\u2019m going to have to ask you to stop right there. Remember all the pain this man caused you and all the hell he\u2019s put you through.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-63493\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/young-woman-crying-next-to-her-boyfriend.jpg\" alt=\"giovane donna che piange accanto al suo ragazzo\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/young-woman-crying-next-to-her-boyfriend.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/young-woman-crying-next-to-her-boyfriend-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/young-woman-crying-next-to-her-boyfriend-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t forget about all the tears you cried for him. About all the times he broke your heart and all the harm he\u2019s done.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ricorda tutte le seconde possibilit\u00e0 che gli hai dato<\/strong>? Ricordate tutte le promesse che non ha mai mantenuto?<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s be honest here and remember how many times this guy has given you his word that he\u2019ll change.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-63496\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/young-couple-arguing-in-caffe.jpg\" alt=\"giovane coppia che discute in un caff\u00e8\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/young-couple-arguing-in-caffe.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/young-couple-arguing-in-caffe-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/young-couple-arguing-in-caffe-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>E quante volte avete creduto alle sue bugie e ai suoi inganni, solo perch\u00e9 si rivelasse peggiore che mai?<\/p>\n<p>For years, you kept putting effort into your relationship while he couldn\u2019t care less about it.<\/p>\n<p>You loved him while he took you for granted, assuming that you\u2019ll spend the rest of your life waiting for him to come to his senses.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-63523\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-woman-looking-away-in-front-of-a-man.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste che distoglie lo sguardo da un uomo\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-woman-looking-away-in-front-of-a-man.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-woman-looking-away-in-front-of-a-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-woman-looking-away-in-front-of-a-man-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Per tutto questo tempo, sei stato tu a combattere contro i mulini a vento. Quello che ha mantenuto questa relazione in vita.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Quello che lo implorava di cambiare strada. Quello che lo ha inseguito mentre scappava.<\/p>\n<p>Quella che ha messo la sua vita in attesa che lui facesse finalmente la cosa giusta. Che ha continuato ad accontentarsi delle briciole della sua attenzione, quando lei meritava molto di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-63497\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-young-woman-sitting-on-the-floor.jpg\" alt=\"giovane donna triste seduta sul pavimento\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-young-woman-sitting-on-the-floor.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-young-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-young-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Dopo un po' di tempo, hai detto basta e hai dato l'ultimo addio. Per la prima volta, hai preferito te stessa a questo piccolo bastardo ingrato.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>So, now you\u2019re telling me that you feel guilty for it? Well, I hate to be brutal, but you seem a bigger fool than I thought.<\/p>\n<p>Lasciate che vi dica una cosa: <strong>You didn\u2019t walk away from this man because you wanted to.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-63500\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-couple-sitting-on-the-couch.jpg\" alt=\"coppia triste seduta sul divano\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-couple-sitting-on-the-couch.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-couple-sitting-on-the-couch-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-couple-sitting-on-the-couch-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong> You didn\u2019t wake up one morning, determined to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/se-il-vostro-uomo-fa-queste-10-cose-probabilmente-e-arrivato-il-momento-di-scaricarlo\/\"><b>scaricarlo<\/b><\/a> per un capriccio sciocco e infantile.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Invece, avevate un'enorme ragione per fare tutto questo.<\/p>\n<p>You didn\u2019t stop loving him all of a sudden nor did you replace him with someone new. You didn\u2019t use him in any way nor did you ever think of another man while he was present in your life.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-63502\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-while-man-laying.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste seduta sul letto mentre l&#039;uomo giace\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-while-man-laying.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-while-man-laying-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-while-man-laying-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ti sei semplicemente stancato. Ne hai avuto abbastanza, il che \u00e8 perfettamente naturale.<\/p>\n<p>Ricorda: <strong>You didn\u2019t abandon him. Instead, he was the one who <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/ora-ti-manca-ma-e-colpa-tua-se-lhai-lasciata-andare\/\"><b>lasciarti andare<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>The one who kept pushing you away with his behavior. The one who kept proving to you that he doesn\u2019t want you in his life.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-63504\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-1.jpg\" alt=\"uomo arrabbiato che urla contro una donna\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quindi, cosa avreste dovuto fare esattamente? Permettergli di continuare ad abbandonarvi e a tornare a suo piacimento?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Dovreste dargli la possibilit\u00e0 di continuare a ferirvi? Di riaprire le ferite ad ogni messaggio o telefonata?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Dovreste continuare a servirlo come rete di sicurezza? Continuare ad essere presente per lui, se mai avesse bisogno di una guida o di un aiuto?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-63506\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/young-woman-resting-by-the-window.jpg\" alt=\"giovane donna che riposa alla finestra\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/young-woman-resting-by-the-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/young-woman-resting-by-the-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/young-woman-resting-by-the-window-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>No, damn right you shouldn\u2019t.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Allora, perch\u00e9 ti senti in colpa per averlo tagliato fuori quando \u00e8 stato lui a darti le forbici per tutto il tempo?<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t you see that it was the only choice you had and that you saved yourself at the last minute?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-63520\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Don\u2019t-Feel-Guilty-For-Cutting-Off-The-One-Who-Gave-You-The-Scissors-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Non sentitevi in colpa per aver tagliato chi vi ha dato le forbici \" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Don\u2019t-Feel-Guilty-For-Cutting-Off-The-One-Who-Gave-You-The-Scissors-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Don\u2019t-Feel-Guilty-For-Cutting-Off-The-One-Who-Gave-You-The-Scissors-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Don\u2019t-Feel-Guilty-For-Cutting-Off-The-One-Who-Gave-You-The-Scissors-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Don\u2019t-Feel-Guilty-For-Cutting-Off-The-One-Who-Gave-You-The-Scissors-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Despite everything this man has done to you, you still question your decision to kick him out of your life. You still wake up at night, wondering if you did the right thing and whether you should have given him another chance. You\u2019re a smart girl and you know he is not boyfriend material. But&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":63511,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-63479","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Don\u2019t-Feel-Guilty-For-Cutting-Off-The-One-Who-Gave-You-The-Scissors.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63479","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=63479"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63479\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/63511"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=63479"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=63479"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=63479"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}