{"id":65311,"date":"2020-04-22T15:30:44","date_gmt":"2020-04-22T15:30:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=65311"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:26:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:26:30","slug":"anche-il-cuore-che-capisce-si-stanca","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/anche-il-cuore-che-capisce-si-stanca\/","title":{"rendered":"Un cuore che comprende sempre si stanca anche"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cIf your compassion does not include yourself it is incomplete.\u201d<\/strong> \u2013 Jack Kornfield<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve always been that person who\u2019s first to help. I was taught to be kind-hearted and it stayed with me.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s weird because I grew up thinking that saying something like that wasn\u2019t humble and I don\u2019t mean to boast, but I\u2019ve come to realize that I truly am a good person because I strive to be one.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

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Unfortunately, I soon realized something else \u2013 not many people appreciate selflessness; to be more precise, not many people appreciate selflessness when they don\u2019t need you anymore.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve always tried to understand everyone and think before I judge. The same goes when I\u2019m in a relationship.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I got stuck in a relationship with a man who used me.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Era un uomo molto affascinante e io ero in soggezione per le sue parole e per la sua capacit\u00e0 di farmi ridere in continuazione. Lo amavo come non avevo mai amato nessuno prima.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, con il tempo ho iniziato a notare che venivo data per scontata. Mi ci \u00e8 voluto un po' di tempo per ammetterlo a me stessa.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t want to believe that the man I loved didn\u2019t care enough to notice I was exhausted.<\/p>\n

Si dimenticava di me e si limitava a liquidare i miei problemi come banali.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Trovava sempre un motivo per non fare qualcosa che gli avevo chiesto di fare e la faceva franca.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mi sono sentita sola tante volte e ho pianto fino ad addormentarmi cercando di non farmi sentire. Mi sembrava di non avere nessuno che mi confortasse e mi capisse.<\/p>\n

He simply didn\u2019t notice il mio cuore si era stancato. <\/a>I was tired of all the things I let slide when I should\u2019ve said something.<\/p>\n

Ero stanca di lasciare che le persone facessero a modo loro invece di lottare per ottenere ci\u00f2 che meritavo.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Ero stanchi di pensare troppo<\/a> ogni passo per assicurarmi di non fare mai del male a nessuno. Ero stanco di mettere <\/strong>tutti, tranne me stesso, prima di tutto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I was tired of trying to meet everyone\u2019s expectations. I was that person who everyone saw as a saving grace – everyone but herself.<\/p>\n

While others would seek comfort in me, I couldn\u2019t find it anywhere. What\u2019s even worse, I let it all happen.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I insisted on telling everyone I was fine when in reality I was mentally exhausted from all the things I couldn\u2019t fight.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Odiavo deludere gli altri e ho sempre avuto difficolt\u00e0 a dire di no. Tutta questa pressione mi faceva precipitare nell'ansia e nel senso di colpa.<\/p>\n

Mi sentivo sopraffatta e svuotata cos\u00ec facilmente. Mi sono stancata di prendermi cura di tutti, mentre non c'era nessuno che si prendesse cura di me.<\/p>\n

At one point I felt like I was cursed with feeling everything so deeply and my heart couldn\u2019t take it anymore.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

La mia compassione a volte si sentiva come un peso. <\/strong>Volevo essere amata e curata.<\/p>\n

I wanted to feel safe in someone\u2019s arms and hear that everything was going to be okay.<\/p>\n

Volevo che qualcuno fosse la mia spalla su cui piangere, invece di esserlo sempre io.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Sognavo di trovare qualcuno che mi prendesse per come sono, che accettasse tutti i miei difetti e che capisse come mi sentivo.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s when I decided to let go of the blockages that made me think I was being selfish for asking for <\/strong>amore e comprensione.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Finally, I understood that I don\u2019t have to spend my life asking for love and being deprived of it. I want the love in my life to be reciprocal.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I want it to be as love should be \u2013 unconditional and always present. I understood that I am worthy of everything I was giving to other people.<\/p>\n

Ho imparato che devo stabilire i miei limiti<\/a> e assicurarsi che tutti li rispettino. Stabilire dei limiti ha cambiato la mia vita.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I let go of guilt I had over something that\u2019s not mine and which I can\u2019t control. I let myself finally understand and accept myself first.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Learning to have compassion for myself made me realize that we can\u2019t be complete without loving ourselves first.<\/p>\n

Invece di lasciare che la mia compassione mi rovini, lascio che mi serva.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Finalmente ho iniziato a rispettare me stessa e tutto ci\u00f2 che mi rende ci\u00f2 che sono e improvvisamente le cose sono andate al loro posto.<\/p>\n

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