{"id":65632,"date":"2020-04-25T23:35:20","date_gmt":"2020-04-25T23:35:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=65632"},"modified":"2022-06-30T20:14:28","modified_gmt":"2022-06-30T20:14:28","slug":"riallacciare-i-rapporti-con-un-ex-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/riallacciare-i-rapporti-con-un-ex-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Ricongiungersi con un ex: come sapere se \u00e8 una buona idea (o no)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Avete visto una loro foto sui social media, avete visto la pubblicit\u00e0 della loro merenda preferita in TV o un ricordo dimenticato da tempo vi \u00e8 tornato in mente all'improvviso.<\/p>\n

E pensi a te stesso: Maybe reconnecting with an ex isn’t such a bad idea after all.<\/em><\/p>\n

Maybe you can still make it work somehow, or if only you hadn’t done or said certain things, everything would be different now. Or would it?<\/p>\n

Si entra nel mondo dei troppi \"se\", dei rimpianti e delle speranze. Si inizia a pensare che ci sia ancora una possibilit\u00e0 di riaccendere quella vecchia fiamma.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

But, you’re not quite sure whether it is a good idea or not, and that’s why you’re here today.<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s good that you are, because riallacciare i rapporti con un ex<\/a> per il motivo sbagliato \u00e8 una ricetta sicura per il disastro e per il dolore!<\/p>\n

There’s only one way to find out if getting back with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend is the right thing to do and that is by checking if any or all of the reasons below apply to you:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

1. You’re nostalgic and scared of turning a new page<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Terminare un relazione romantica<\/a> \u00e8 una cosa dolorosa e schifosa, indipendentemente dalla ragione o dalle circostanze.<\/p>\n

E a rendere il tutto ancora pi\u00f9 confuso \u00e8 la maledetta nostalgia che bussa alla porta quando meno te lo aspetti.<\/p>\n

It’s when you start thinking about all the happy moments that you shared together, recollecting the feeling of excitement when you were about to meet up with them for the first time, and so on.<\/p>\n

Ricordate di esservi sentiti come in una storia d'amore al liceo ed eravate convinti che sarebbe durata per sempre.<\/p>\n

\"storia<\/p>\n

Ma, purtroppo, dopo un po' di tempo ci si rende conto che non c'\u00e8 nulla di vero e la nostalgia fa parte del processo di elaborazione del lutto.<\/p>\n

Another aspect is fear. You’re scared of turning a new page, you’re scared of entering a new relationship because you don’t want to risk experiencing the pain of a broken heart ever again.<\/p>\n

Ed \u00e8 allora che si inizia a pensare: Solo una telefonata significherebbe il mondo per me. Solo un messaggio di testo pu\u00f2 aumentare la mia speranza.<\/em> Ma \u00e8 una cosa intelligente da fare?<\/p>\n

Should you reconnect with an ex because you’re nostalgic about past times and scared of turning a new page?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

If you want your ex back because you’re nostalgic about your time together and you fear the unknown, I’m sorry to tell you, but you shouldn’t do it.<\/p>\n

Getting back with your ex for these reasons is the last thing you’d want to do. Why?<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 la nostalgia e la paura sono una parte inevitabile del processo di elaborazione del lutto, che non ha nulla a che vedere con la vera mancanza e il desiderio di riaverli per le giuste ragioni.<\/p>\n

L'unica cosa su cui dovreste concentrarvi \u00e8 il tempo. Il tempo vi guarir\u00e0 e canceller\u00e0 tutte le tracce di momenti nostalgici e di paura del futuro.<\/p>\n

2. La percezione della vostra relazione passata \u00e8 cambiata<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

When we’re about to break up with someone, we see things clearly as they are.<\/p>\n

We know exactly why we are going our separate ways and how painful it is to do so, but necessary for both partners\u2019 well-being.<\/p>\n

Dopo qualche tempo, questa percezione di vedere le cose come sono potrebbe alterarsi.<\/p>\n

Potrebbe cambiare in modo tale da vedere solo le cose positive della vostra relazione passata e trascurare quelle negative (quelle che vi hanno fatto perdere la testa). rottura<\/a> in primo luogo).<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Iniziate a sentirvi confusi sul motivo per cui la vostra relazione \u00e8 finita e vi convincete che riallacciare i rapporti con un ex potrebbe essere la cosa giusta da fare. Ma \u00e8 davvero cos\u00ec?<\/p>\n

Dovreste riallacciare i rapporti con un ex perch\u00e9 la vostra percezione della relazione passata \u00e8 cambiata?<\/strong><\/p>\n

As you may assume, again the answer is no. When you no longer see things as they are or refuse to acknowledge why you broke up in the first place, you enter the zone called “Ignorance.”<\/p>\n

Volontariamente o inconsapevolmente si iniziano a ignorare tutte le bandiere rosse che hanno portato alla rottura.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

It’s true that there will always be some positive things in every relationship, but you should never solely focus on only them.<\/p>\n

You should always look at the bigger picture and remember both the good and bad sides of your relationship. That’s the only way to see things clearly instead of live in an illusion.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Come riconquistare l'ex fidanzato: 6 modi per avere successo<\/a><\/p>\n

3. You want to know if they’re in pain and\/or if they miss you<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Since you broke up, you’ve been feeling completely devastated and the pain is real.<\/p>\n

Passate la maggior parte del vostro tempo a guardare Il taccuino<\/em>sperando segretamente di poter sperimentare un amore cos\u00ec vintage in futuro.<\/p>\n

Tons of ice cream, funny memes, tissues in case you get too sentimental, socializing hours cut to the minimum\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n

It’s evident to both you and all the people around you that you’re in pain (which is also a part of the grieving process).<\/p>\n

\"tre<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s when it strikes you: What if my ex is not hurting like I am? What if they’re sipping cocktails, living life to the fullest, and not giving a damn about our past relationship?<\/em><\/p>\n

Chiedere agli amici comuni o ai loro familiari non \u00e8 una soluzione, e mettersi in contatto con loro \u00e8 fuori discussione. O forse no?<\/p>\n

Should you reconnect with an ex because you want to know if they’re in pain and\/or if they miss you?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Reconnecting with an ex for the sole purpose of knowing whether they’re afflicted by the same amount of pain as you or miss you is a shitty thing to do (if you don’t miss them yourself)!<\/p>\n

You will gain absolutely nothing from the fact that they are still in pain and miss you if you’re not on the same page.<\/p>\n

C'\u00e8 chi ha bisogno di pi\u00f9 tempo per superare il processo di rottura e chi invece lo fa pi\u00f9 rapidamente. Ancora una volta, il tempo \u00e8 il vostro migliore amico in questa situazione.<\/p>\n

4. You’re afraid of being “\u2018forever alone”<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

All of your friends and close people are in a relationship or married (okay, not all of them, but most of them) and you’re freshly broken.<\/p>\n

The dating pool situation isn\u2019t getting any better and there are more and more narcissistic individuals, no-fuck-givers, and fobici all'impegno.<\/a><\/p>\n

If you’re a woman, you become convinced that the chances of meeting someone with a personality of Ed Sheeran<\/em> e Ryan Gosling<\/em> \u00e8 uno su un milione.<\/p>\n

If you’re a man, you\u2019re convinced that meeting a cute girl next door stands the same chances.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

E poi si inizia a pensare a se stessi: I’ll be forever alone. I’ll never meet anyone again who I’ll have the slightest interest in, because the world is a shitty place.<\/em><\/p>\n

In una situazione del genere, riallacciare i rapporti con un ex sembra l'unica soluzione logica. O forse no?<\/p>\n

Should you reconnect with an ex because you’re afraid of being forever alone?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nope! You probably realize that they’re nothing more than just an old friend to you, but still, you want them back because you’re scared of being forever alone.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Questo non \u00e8 un motivo valido per riallacciare i rapporti con qualcuno e non lo sar\u00e0 mai.<\/p>\n

L'unica cosa logica da fare in questa situazione \u00e8 superare la paura uscendo con gli amici, conoscendo nuove persone e godendosi ogni momento.<\/p>\n

And, trust me, when you least expect it, you’ll meet the right one for you!<\/p>\n

5. Vi manca averli intorno a voi<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

When you wake up in the morning, the first thing that comes to your mind is sending them a message, telling them how lazy you’re feeling today and how much you hate the world you live in.<\/p>\n

Or that you’re feeling inspired and grateful for new adventures (if you’re feeling optimistic).<\/p>\n

When you need help with something, they’re the first person that comes to mind. When something bad happens to you, they’re the first person you want to cry with and seek advice from.<\/p>\n

But you know you can’t do it because you broke up with them. They’re your ex and there’s no point in keeping them updated on your every thought and event. But, still\u2026<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Dovreste riallacciare i rapporti con un ex perch\u00e9 vi manca la sua presenza?<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s important to understand that this is not a matter of real love, but a habit of having someone around you. They were your best friend, lover, a partner in crime, and you miss all that.<\/p>\n

You texted them frequently (thousands of times a day) and now when they\u2019ve gone from your favorite person to radio silence.<\/p>\n

So, of course, you’ll miss having them around you! Every normal person would. But, still, this is not a valid reason for reconnecting with an ex.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Come riconquistare la tua ex ragazza: 17 modi comprovati per farlo<\/a><\/p>\n

Quando \u00e8 ragionevole riallacciare i rapporti con un ex?<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Riallacciare i rapporti con un ex \u00e8 una cosa ragionevole da fare solo in un caso e cio\u00e8: Quando davvero, genuinamente, li amate e vi mancano ancora!<\/strong><\/p>\n

So, it’s time to ask yourself: How do you feel about the idea of reconnecting with them?<\/p>\n

La sensazione di sentire la loro mancanza \u00e8 cos\u00ec intensa da impedirvi di funzionare correttamente durante le vostre attivit\u00e0 quotidiane?<\/p>\n

Sentite nel vostro intimo che riallacciare i rapporti con il vostro ex \u00e8 la cosa giusta da fare?<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

E la pi\u00f9 importante: Come vi sentireste se vi rifiutassero?<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s normal that you’d feel disappointed, but would you feel mad at them, like really mad? If yes, then you’re not truly and genuinely in love with them.<\/p>\n

When we really love someone, their happiness becomes a reflection of our own. When we know that they’re happy, we’re happy for them.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Si sa di amare veramente qualcuno quando la sua felicit\u00e0 e il suo benessere sono pi\u00f9 importanti della propria.<\/p>\n

When you’re willingly and wholeheartedly ready to let them go because they’ve found their happiness in another place without you.<\/p>\n

If that’s not the case, then andare avanti<\/a> \u00e8 l'unica cosa ragionevole da fare.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: 15 chiari segni che il tuo ex ti sta mettendo alla prova (e come gestirlo)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Come riallacciare i rapporti con un ex?<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

If you concluded that you genuinely still love and miss them and you’re totally ready to reconnect with your ex, you’re probably wondering how to do it (so that you don’t come off as desperate or pushy).<\/p>\n

Mandare un messaggio per la prima volta dopo la Regola di non contatto<\/a> \u00e8 come buttarsi in acque sconosciute. Non si ha idea di quale sar\u00e0 il risultato finale.<\/p>\n

Chiamarli \u00e8 forse ancora peggio, perch\u00e9 non avete la possibilit\u00e0 di pensare in anticipo alla vostra risposta.<\/p>\n

Meeting them in person is also a risky endeavor \u2013 then you\u2019d have to pay attention to your body language as well (like the act of speaking isn\u2019t enough).<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Qualunque sia l'opzione scelta, si tratta di un'operazione rischiosa, ma se la si fa bene, si hanno ottime probabilit\u00e0 di ricevere una risposta positiva e di instaurare una conversazione significativa, virtualmente o di persona.<\/p>\n

Quindi, come si fa a riallacciare i rapporti con un ex<\/em>?<\/strong><\/p>\n

You do it by following your heart. You don’t think too much about what you will say, as long as the words come from the depths of your heart.<\/p>\n

Still, pay attention not to overdo it. You don’t want to shower them with too much affection all of a sudden or with too much explaining and as a result, scare them away.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: 7 pericoli di una nuova relazione con un ex mentre si \u00e8 sposati<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mano<\/p>\n

Ricorda: I piccoli passi sono i vostri migliori amici!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Simply ask them how they’re doing and let the conversation unravel at its natural pace. Don’t think too much, don’t say too much.<\/p>\n

Just say exactly what’s in your heart and if you’re meant to be, they’ll surely understand the language of your love for them and act accordingly.<\/em><\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Come far s\u00ec che il vostro ex vi rivoglia: 10 metodi che funzionano davvero<\/a><\/p>\n

\"Ricongiungersi<\/p>\n

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