{"id":68381,"date":"2020-05-08T16:14:59","date_gmt":"2020-05-08T16:14:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=68381"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:24:47","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:24:47","slug":"come-non-innamorarsi-e-salvarsi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-non-innamorarsi-e-salvarsi\/","title":{"rendered":"Come non innamorarsi e salvarsi dal batticuore"},"content":{"rendered":"

Are you one of those people who fall in love too fast and too hard? Yes? Then we’re the same.<\/p>\n

That’s exactly why I’m writing this guide on how to not fall in love and thus save yourself from being miserable for a long period of time \u2013 been there, done that.<\/p>\n

Essentially, there’s nothing wrong with being open and vulnerable, in fact, that’s admirable, but in order to save yourself from unwanted heartbreak, you need to create boundaries and have a good relationship with yourself first.<\/em><\/p>\n

It’s possible to learn how to control emotions, along with a few more tricks, in order to protect your heart successfully and avoid having it broken again.<\/em><\/p>\n

One of the reasons people fall in love easily is because they’re either very sensitive, hopeless romantics, or they\u2019ve been single for a while.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I’m definitely a hopeless romantic and a dreamer. My views on love are lofty and sentimental and I’m not ashamed of it.<\/p>\n

However, I\u2019ve gotten stuck in situations I’d rather not experience again all because of my idealistic approach to dating.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s cost me my time, energy, and a lot of inner strength to get through heartbreak. Once you know the aching pain of unrequited or simply impossible love, you’re determined never to go through that pain again.<\/p>\n

Sconvolge tutta la tua vita e ti cambia per sempre.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I started being more cautious with my heart and developed a tactic for avoiding crepacuore<\/a>.<\/p>\n

10 consigli per evitare di innamorarsi<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Admit to yourself what you’re feeling<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

\u201cIf you can’t accept something, you need to change it. If you can’t change it, you need to accept it.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Molly Burke<\/p>\n

Per evitare di innamorarsi, \u00e8 necessario essere molto consapevoli dei propri sentimenti in ogni momento. Che cosa significa? Significa essere realistici su ci\u00f2 che si prova e vedere le cose con obiettivit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Passate una quantit\u00e0 allarmante di tempo a pensare a loro? Vi capita di sorridere pensando a loro?<\/p>\n

Do you feel nervous and extra pressure to look good when you’re about to see them? Does your heart go crazy when you see they texted you?<\/p>\n

Se la risposta \u00e8 s\u00ec a tutte le domande precedenti, allora potreste essere gi\u00e0 caduti in disgrazia. testa in gi\u00f9<\/a> ma se provate solo una leggera eccitazione, avete ancora una possibilit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Don’t let your brain trick you into thinking you have everything under control; that’s not how it works, trust me. The heart is a wild thing and it doesn’t listen to our brain.<\/p>\n

It pretty much makes fun of our attempts to rationalize things we can’t comprehend. Pay attention to what it wants and needs.<\/p>\n

Per salvarci dal crepacuore, dobbiamo porre dei limiti ai nostri bisogni e ai comportamenti che essi provocano.<\/p>\n

For example, don’t ask them out and don’t go out when they ask you; don’t try to think of conversation openings, and stop listening to songs that remind you of them. Get busy with something else.<\/p>\n

Uno dei modi migliori per reindirizzare le energie \u00e8 ricordare a se stessi gli obiettivi che si vogliono raggiungere da soli e tutte le distrazioni che l'innamoramento causer\u00e0.<\/p>\n

If you want to be as productive as you can \u2013 fall in love with yourself and follow your dreams.<\/p>\n

2. Analizzare i propri sentimenti<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

\u201cThe essence of love begins when infatuation ends.\u201c<\/em> \u2013 Anonymous<\/p>\n

Infatuazione<\/a> is pretty much like a spell. You don’t know what’s going on with you but you’re totally into it and then after it gets washed off you can’t believe the things you’ve done.<\/p>\n

That’s why a little common sense comes in handy. Before you do something silly or plain dumb ask yourself:<\/p>\n

Why am I doing this? Am I doing this to impress someone else? Am I doing this to prove something to myself? Maybe I’m just fed up with feeling lonely or need confirmation that I’m valuable?<\/em><\/p>\n

Nessuna di queste cose \u00e8 un motivo sufficiente per immergersi in un'infatuazione senza senso. Tutto ci\u00f2 che si fa va fatto con autenticit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

It should align with your true needs. That doesn’t include a need for recognition by others but by you.<\/p>\n

Observe the feelings that arise in you and try to see their origin. What do you really want from the interaction you’re insisting on? Is it something ego-based or completely selfless?<\/p>\n

Il segreto \u00e8 sentirsi sempre soddisfatti di se stessi.<\/p>\n

Whatever you do, do it with integrity \u2013 not because of someone else and not to impress. If we pretend to be something we’re not, failure is inevitable.<\/p>\n

At one point you’ll be exhausted and all the make-believe will crumble before your eyes.<\/p>\n

No person can keep up with the high expectation they put on themself when trying to be good enough for the person they’re crushing on.<\/p>\n

The truth is you’re good enough already and if they don’t see it, there’s no point in being with them anyway.<\/p>\n

3. Creare confini<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

\u201cWhatever you are willing to put up with is exactly what you will have.\u201c<\/em> \u2013 Anonymous<\/p>\n

Feelings of love can make us do crazy things. You know, like overlooking your partner’s shortcomings, pretending they’re perfect, giving them the tastiest piece of the meal and whatnot.<\/p>\n

Jokes aside, creating boundaries is an important topic. We don’t like to think about boundaries in a romantic relationship but the truth is \u2013 any kind of relationship needs boundaries. Especially if you don’t want to fall in love.<\/p>\n

Don’t let their pretty face make you forget about your boundaries. Don’t let them play with you. Don’t let yourself forget what you want \u2013 and that’s to not fall in love.<\/p>\n

Imparate a dire di no agli altri e a voi stessi. Non innamorarsi ha molto a che fare con l'autodisciplina e la conoscenza di se stessi e l'autodisciplina ha molto a che fare con l'eliminazione delle tentazioni e il mantenimento delle proprie decisioni.<\/p>\n

4. Evitare il contatto con la cotta<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

\u201cAll successes begin with self-discipline. It starts with you.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Dwayne Johnson<\/p>\n

Mute and unfollow them on social media (that means you don’t have to unfriend them) and stop exchanging text messages and calls. That’s the first step.<\/p>\n

Seeing a person you don’t want to fall in love, especially in an Instagram post that is almost always the best possible looking version of them, isn’t going to get you far.<\/p>\n

Le persone sono tentate da cose apparentemente tangibili come le foto.<\/p>\n

Other than that, of course, you should avoid them in real life, even if you’re in a situation where you see them often or daily (at the job, for example). Spending time with somebody is crucial in falling in love with them.<\/p>\n

What do I mean by avoiding when they’re already at the same place as you? Avoid situations where there’s just two of you. Don’t have lunch together.<\/p>\n

Don’t come up with ideas of how to interact with them. Focus on your work and keep yourself busy.<\/p>\n

Don’t indulge in listening to songs or watching movies that make you think about them even more. Try not to glorify them but remember they’re human like everyone else.<\/p>\n

Think of every trait you find fascinating about them from a different point of view and remind yourself why you don’t want to fall in love in the first place.<\/p>\n

5. Aumentare la fiducia in se stessi<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

\u201cDon’t compromise yourself \u2013 you’re all you have.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 John Grisham<\/p>\n

L'autostima ha un ruolo importante nel modo in cui interagiamo e ci sentiamo con gli altri. Per sentirsi soddisfatti di se stessi, \u00e8 necessario sentirsi bene nella propria pelle. Essere single \u00e8 il momento perfetto per farlo.<\/p>\n

Set goals for yourself and then start actively engaging in activities that lead you to your long term goals. Want to look a certain way? It’s possible.<\/p>\n

Want to learn a new language? Take up the new hobby \u2013 now’s the time.<\/p>\n

Riempite il vostro tempo libero con contenuti significativi e inizierete a sentirvi autosufficienti. Potete fare per voi stessi ci\u00f2 che pensate che gli altri possano fare per voi; dovete solo essere determinati a farlo.<\/p>\n

There are many ways to boost self-confidence but the best way is to try doing something you always found admirable. Build a healthy relationship with yourself and you won’t be dependent on other people and their attention or approval.<\/p>\n

When you’re busy with something that truly interests you and fills you with the purpose it’s less likely that you will be distracted by falling in love.<\/p>\n

6. Imparare a controllare le emozioni attraverso la consapevolezza<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

\u201cWithout desire there is stillness, and the world settles by itself.\u201c<\/em> \u2013 Lao Tzu<\/p>\n

The feeling that’s present when it comes to being in love is needing. You need to be with the person, you need to hear from them and see them.<\/p>\n

Tutto il vostro mondo inizia a girare intorno a loro. Invadono i vostri pensieri perch\u00e9 sentite sempre una sorta di desiderio per qualcosa che presumibilmente possono darvi.<\/p>\n

Riuscite a capire di cosa si tratta? Perch\u00e9 la loro attenzione \u00e8 cos\u00ec importante per voi? Perch\u00e9 controlla i vostri pensieri?<\/p>\n

That’s why you need to eliminate the need. To let go of need means to conquer oneself and the false feeling you need something or someone else to feel good on your own.<\/p>\n

When you learn to let go of fantasies deeply rooted in your desire to get approval from other people you’ll instantly learn how to not fall in love.<\/p>\n

7. Parlarne con gli amici<\/h2>\n

\"due<\/p>\n

\u201cOne good conversation can shift the direction of change forever.\u201c<\/em> \u2013 Linda Lambert<\/p>\n

Purposely ask your friends for a reality check! Your loved ones often know you well enough and love you enough to give you an objective and useful piece of advice. You\u2019ve got nothing to lose.<\/p>\n

Talking with someone else about something that’s consuming you can be very productive. Friends are friends for a reason. A good friend won’t sugarcoat anything.<\/p>\n

Inoltre, passare del tempo con i migliori amici e i membri della famiglia pu\u00f2 distogliere la mente dalla cotta e ricordare altre cose importanti della vita.<\/p>\n

8. Prestare attenzione alle bandiere rosse<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.\u201c<\/em> \u2013 Maya AngelouThis one is important.<\/p>\n

Caring for your mental health means recognizing red flags on time. It doesn’t matter how much of a nice guy or girl they seem if you notice the following things you should step aside:<\/p>\n

They don’t start any form of interaction with you. They don’t start a conversation and they don’t make any kind of physical contact.<\/p>\n

They seem distracted all the time and don’t pay attention to what you’re saying. Now, these things mean they’re simply not into you.<\/p>\n

But if you notice they’re inconsiderate of other people, have inappropriate or offensive jokes, or a weird sense of entitlement, then that means they’re just not that much of a good person anyway. Why would you want that?<\/p>\n

9. Lavorare sui propri obiettivi personali<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

“If you don\u2019t know where you are going, you will probably end up somewhere else.”<\/em> \u2013 Lawrence J. Peter<\/p>\n

Setting goals is very important in the process of self-discipline. Shifting your focus from something unattainable to yourself and attainable means you\u2019re doing yourself a big favor.<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 fissare degli obiettivi e lavorare su di essi \u00e8 cos\u00ec importante? Il motivo principale \u00e8 che gli obiettivi ci permettono di concentrarci.<\/p>\n

La concentrazione ci permette di avere una percezione pi\u00f9 chiara e ci aiuta a risolvere i problemi e a prendere decisioni, che alla fine ci aiutano nella nostra situazione.<\/p>\n

Gli obiettivi danno motivazione e con la motivazione si raggiunge la grandezza.<\/p>\n

10. Ricordare le relazioni fallite<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

\u201cBeing single is definitely better than being with the wrong person.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Hassan Choughari<\/p>\n

I don’t want to upset you but think about it: Do you remember your last relationship?<\/p>\n

And I’m not talking about the primo appuntamento<\/a>, I’m talking about how it ended. I bet it wasn’t fun. It could’ve easily been the worst period of your life.<\/p>\n

Prima di fantasticare su nuove relazioni, riavvolgete tutte le vostre relazioni passate e i loro finali. Le relazioni romantiche non sono uno scherzo!<\/p>\n

A successful love life requires a lot of energy, time, and dedication and you’re never sure if it’s going to actually work out in the end or not.<\/p>\n

In a sense, it’s like putting your life at stake. It’s gambling. Of course, some people are worth it, but if you know you don’t want to fall in love, motivate yourself by reminding yourself of the potential impending doom that comes after a failed relationship.<\/p>\n

It may be a little dark, but it’s very efficient.<\/p>\n

Cosa fare se si finisce per innamorarsi lo stesso<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

\u201cThe mystery of life isn’t a problem to solve, but a reality to experience.\u201c<\/em> \u2013 Frank Herbert<\/p>\n

If you still end up falling in love, then there’s not much you can do about it. You’ll need to accept that some things are not meant to be.<\/p>\n

You need to recognize that pain you’re feeling is normal and allow yourself time to heal and sort out your emotions.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, things aren’t in our control no matter how hard we try. If love is unrequited or impossible, the truth is you’re better off without it.<\/p>\n

Don’t give up on yourself. Challenge your unhelpful thoughts and think of everything as a learning experience that will pass.<\/p>\n

Quasi tutte le persone sperimentano una sorta di crepacuore nella loro vita.<\/p>\n

It’s important to realize that things don’t always go the way we imagine they will go and that we can’t control another person\u2019s feelings or actions.<\/p>\n

Be patient with yourself and soon you will find yourself ready to move on. Once you’re ready to move on, you’ll know it within your heart.<\/p>\n

Tutto nella vita \u00e8 transitorio e lo sono anche i sentimenti. Possono evolversi e cambiare, ma non rimarranno gli stessi.<\/p>\n

To finish off this lengthy advice on how to not fall in love, I want to say that deep down inside everybody knows what they’re supposed to do when it comes to situations like this.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Sfortunatamente, raramente vogliono ascoltare quella piccola voce della ragione in fondo alla loro mente e scelgono invece di soffrire.<\/p>\n

That human tendency maybe relieves the basic human need to always choose and seek love, even when we think we don’t want it.<\/p>\n

Regardless of current knowledge of the physical and chemical reasons behind love and attraction \u2013 love remains a subject of mystery.<\/p>\n

If you fall in love, even if it’s unrequited \u2013 be happy that you’re able to feel deeply. At the end of the day, people’s lives are always about feelings. That’s just how we are. Don’t blame yourself for being what you are.<\/p>\n

Feelings are normal and we shouldn’t want to change ourselves to fit somebody else’s picture of success and an acceptable life.<\/p>\n

Don’t let yourself live with resentment and don’t let society (or anyone else) dictate your worth as a human being. Emotional or not, you have every right to be as you are and express yourself fully.<\/p>\n

Ricordate che l'accettazione di s\u00e9 \u00e8 sempre il primo passo per raggiungere qualsiasi obiettivo nella vita, compreso quello di essere pi\u00f9 autentici e quindi pi\u00f9 conformi ai vostri veri sentimenti, desideri e bisogni, che alla fine vi condurranno alla persona con cui siete destinati a stare.<\/p>\n

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