{"id":6988,"date":"2020-05-17T12:30:27","date_gmt":"2020-05-17T12:30:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=6988"},"modified":"2022-02-20T22:15:20","modified_gmt":"2022-02-20T22:15:20","slug":"lettera-aperta-luomo-ha-avuto-una-seconda-possibilita","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/lettera-aperta-luomo-ha-avuto-una-seconda-possibilita\/","title":{"rendered":"Una lettera aperta a un uomo che ha avuto una seconda possibilit\u00e0"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Non mi sono mai piaciute le seconde possibilit\u00e0. Ho sempre pensato che dare a qualcuno una seconda possibilit\u00e0 significasse dargli la possibilit\u00e0 di ferirmi ancora di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n<p>Ho sempre pensato che una seconda possibilit\u00e0 equivalesse a una seconda rottura di un cuore gi\u00e0 spezzato.<\/p>\n<p>And the thing with a broken heart is that once it\u2019s broken it can\u2019t be repaired by the person who caused it to break.<i> That\u2019s why I still don\u2019t know why I decided to give you a second chance. &nbsp;<\/i><\/p>\n<p>Perdonare \u00e8 stato facile. Ti ho perdonato in fretta. Non sono mai stata una di quelle persone che serbano rancore.<\/p>\n<p>Hai chiesto il mio perdono e te l'ho dato, senza fare domande.<b> \u00c8 stato pi\u00f9 difficile perdonare me stesso per averti perdonato. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>All'inizio, non c'era modo di farti entrare di nuovo. Ero decisa a dire che tra noi era finita e basta.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, I hadn\u2019t excluded you from my life. I still returned your texts from time to time. I let you stay close to me even though we weren\u2019t together anymore.<\/p>\n<p>Anche quando non ci messaggiavamo per molto tempo, eri sempre nei miei pensieri.<\/p>\n<p>I wasn\u2019t able to get you out of my system. Afterwards, we had a period when we hadn\u2019t had any contact for months.<\/p>\n<p>Ti avevo chiesto di non contattarmi, pensando che questo mi avrebbe aiutato a dimenticarti prima. Ma sei sempre rimasto nel mio cuore ancora ferito.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88642\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/woman-holding-cup-of-tea-and-looking-outside.jpg\" alt=\"donna che tiene in mano una tazza di t\u00e8 e guarda fuori\" width=\"800\" height=\"550\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/woman-holding-cup-of-tea-and-looking-outside.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/woman-holding-cup-of-tea-and-looking-outside-300x206.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/woman-holding-cup-of-tea-and-looking-outside-768x528.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b>Sembrava che la cosa peggiore fosse superare l'abitudine di pensare a te piuttosto che lasciarti andare come persona. Pensavo che tutto ci\u00f2 che provavo per te fosse solo una creazione della mia testa. <\/b><\/p>\n<p><i>That\u2019s why I decided to try and find my happiness with somebody else. <\/i>I remember convincing myself that I didn\u2019t feel anything anymore for you. That you were just a distant memory.<\/p>\n<p>E per qualche tempo \u00e8 andata bene. Almeno cos\u00ec pensavo. Ero felice con quella persona.<\/p>\n<p>Ha esaudito ogni mio desiderio, mi ha trattato come una regina. Era rinfrescante stare con qualcuno che era inebriato di me. Mi sentivo al sicuro. Non mi avrebbe mai fatto del male come hai fatto tu.<\/p>\n<p><b>Then I saw you after a long, long time. And just like that, I realized it wasn\u2019t over yet. <\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>I wasn\u2019t over you.<\/b> We looked at each other long before we even spoke a single word, the feelings so intense that I felt all the pain and all the love I had for you &#8211; they were still there. They were deep down inside of me and they surfaced when I saw you.<\/p>\n<p>Quando finalmente abbiamo parlato, sono riuscito a ricompormi e a comportarmi da duro. Eri tu quello disorientato. Ti tremavano le mani e riuscivi a malapena a formulare frasi chiare.<\/p>\n<p>Per un breve momento mi \u00e8 sembrato di vincere. Credo che volessi che tu ti sentissi impotente come mi sentivo io quando<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/lettera-al-fidanzato-per-esprimere-i-propri-sentimenti\/\"> mi hai fatto male<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>But it was just a brief moment; I didn\u2019t want to hurt you back. You asked me,<i> \u201cAre you happy with him?\u201d<\/i> e io ho risposto di s\u00ec.<\/p>\n<p>As we got deeper into conversation, I was just more and more aware of how I\u2019d missed you like crazy. You asked, \u201c<i>Provi ancora qualcosa per me? Provi ancora<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/hai-superato-tutti-i-miei-limiti1\/\"> prendersi cura di me<\/a>?\u201d <\/i>e ho detto, <i>\u201cI care, but it\u2019s too late.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88641\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/close-up-photo-of-couple-holding-hands.jpg\" alt=\"foto ravvicinata di una coppia che si tiene per mano\" width=\"800\" height=\"550\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/close-up-photo-of-couple-holding-hands.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/close-up-photo-of-couple-holding-hands-300x206.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/close-up-photo-of-couple-holding-hands-768x528.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b><i>\u201cIt\u2019s never too late,\u201d <\/i><\/b><b>hai detto<\/b><b><i>. \u201cI will always have hope that you will give me a second chance.\u201d<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>And I saw your eyes filled with tears. I couldn\u2019t believe it. I had never seen you like that. You were the toughest man I had ever met.<\/p>\n<p>Ora eri debole e stavi cadendo a pezzi davanti ai miei occhi, incapace di trovare le parole giuste per esprimere quanto eri dispiaciuta e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/please-dont-go-back-to-the-one-who-left-you\/\">quanto mi volevi indietro.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>It shook me to see you so repentant. I hadn\u2019t expected it. You were never good at showing your feelings and you just took me by surprise.<\/p>\n<p>Riuscii a malapena a trattenermi per il resto della nostra conversazione. Dopo, sono andata subito a casa e ho pianto a dirotto. Pensavo di essere pi\u00f9 forte di cos\u00ec.<\/p>\n<p>I thought I was happy and safe with him and that you were a part of my past. I realized it wasn\u2019t happiness I had with him; it was an escape from you.<\/p>\n<p>So, I broke up with him. I realized that regardless of what I decided to do with me and you, that it was unfair to him. It\u2019s unfair to receive somebody\u2019s love and not be able to give it back.<\/p>\n<p>La cosa successiva che dovetti ammettere al mio orgoglio fu che il mio cuore era ancora accanto a te. Non si era mai allontanato dalla tua vista. Eri e sei ancora l'unico uomo che abbia mai amato.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88643\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/couple-happy-silhouettes.jpg\" alt=\"coppia felice silhouette\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/couple-happy-silhouettes.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/couple-happy-silhouettes-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/couple-happy-silhouettes-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A poco a poco ti ho fatto rientrare nella mia vita. Avevo tanta paura. Sapevo che tornare con te significava lasciare il mio cuore all'aperto, senza protezione e con un alto rischio di essere spezzato di nuovo. Avevo paura di come avrei fatto a rimetterlo insieme se tu mi avessi deluso di nuovo.<\/p>\n<p>Ma passare del tempo con te mi ha fatto capire che eri cambiato. Hai fatto esattamente ci\u00f2 di cui avevo bisogno.<\/p>\n<p>You still weren\u2019t good with words but your actions spoke louder. You showed me that you were truly sorry and that you were a changed man.<\/p>\n<p>I still can\u2019t believe that you are next to me, that I was able to surpass my pride and forgive you for everything.<\/p>\n<p>I still can\u2019t believe you changed. You know that I didn\u2019t believe in changes and I didn\u2019t believe in second chances.<\/p>\n<p><i>Quello in cui credo \u00e8 l'amore che provo per te. Credo nel rischio. Credo che per alcune persone valga la pena rischiare. Credo in me stessa, che sar\u00f2 abbastanza forte da sopravvivere se mi farai ancora del male. <\/i><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Mi hai fatto credere nelle seconde possibilit\u00e0. Ma devi sapere che questa seconda possibilit\u00e0 \u00e8 un altro modo per dire ultima possibilit\u00e0.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>S<\/i><\/b><b><i>o, I am giving you and this love one last chance, with an open mind and with all my heart. So &nbsp;please don\u2019t waste it, because the only thing I know for sure is that <\/i><\/b><b><i>non ci saranno pi\u00f9 possibilit\u00e0<\/i><\/b><b><i>.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-88634 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/An-Open-Letter-To-A-Man-Who-Got-A-Second-Chance-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Una lettera aperta a un uomo che ha avuto una seconda possibilit\u00e0\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/An-Open-Letter-To-A-Man-Who-Got-A-Second-Chance-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/An-Open-Letter-To-A-Man-Who-Got-A-Second-Chance-Pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/An-Open-Letter-To-A-Man-Who-Got-A-Second-Chance-Pinterest-768x1086.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/An-Open-Letter-To-A-Man-Who-Got-A-Second-Chance-Pinterest-1086x1536.jpg 1086w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/An-Open-Letter-To-A-Man-Who-Got-A-Second-Chance-Pinterest-1448x2048.jpg 1448w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/An-Open-Letter-To-A-Man-Who-Got-A-Second-Chance-Pinterest.jpg 1587w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I was never big on second chances. I always thought giving someone a second chance meant giving him a chance to hurt me even more. I always thought that a second chance was equal to a second breaking of an already broken heart. And the thing with a broken heart is that once it\u2019s broken&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":88636,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6988","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/An-Open-Letter-To-A-Man-Who-Got-A-Second-Chance-1.jpg",800,540,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. 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