{"id":72911,"date":"2020-05-19T12:49:26","date_gmt":"2020-05-19T12:49:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=72911"},"modified":"2021-11-22T19:24:11","modified_gmt":"2021-11-22T19:24:11","slug":"come-comunicare-con-gli-uomini","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-comunicare-con-gli-uomini\/","title":{"rendered":"Come comunicare con gli uomini: 16 modi per avere una comunicazione migliore"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Fin dall'inizio dei tempi, la comunicazione uomo-donna \u00e8 stata un mistero.<\/p>\n<p>Even though guys also try hard to understand girls, the truth is that women are usually the ones wondering how to communicate with men and doing their best to see inside a man&#8217;s brain.<\/p>\n<p>How to be a better communicator? How to be understood and listened to? How to communicate with a man who can\u2019t seem to have a mature conversation?<\/p>\n<p>Well, you&#8217;ve come to the right place because you&#8217;re about to get all the answers you need. Here are 16 tips on how to communicate with men.<\/p>\n<h2>1. Comprendere che uomini e donne comunicano in modo diverso<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72953\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/multiracial-couple-talking.jpg\" alt=\"coppia multirazziale che parla mentre \u00e8 seduta l&#039;una accanto all&#039;altra\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/multiracial-couple-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/multiracial-couple-talking-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/multiracial-couple-talking-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Most women are wondering how to have better communication with a guy who clearly doesn&#8217;t want to have or is not capable of having an adult conversation which surpasses everyday small talk.<\/p>\n<p>At first glance, it might appear to you that your boyfriend simply doesn\u2019t have the communication skills needed for a mature relationship.<\/p>\n<p>It seems that you&#8217;re a better communicator and that he doesn\u2019t know how to or doesn&#8217;t want to maintain healthy and effective communication.<\/p>\n<p>Well, that\u2019s actually not true. In fact, most miscommunication between couples comes from the fact that a man&#8217;s brain functions differently from a woman&#8217;s.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve already heard about the saying that men are from Mars and women are from Venus.<\/p>\n<p>It means that sometimes we\u2019re polar opposites and have little in common when it comes to certain things.<\/p>\n<p>Prima di ogni altra cosa, bisogna mettere in chiaro una cosa: nella maggior parte dei casi, le ragazze e i ragazzi pensano in modo diverso, si comportano in modo diverso e quindi parlano in modo diverso.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, you can\u2019t expect your man to have the same communication skills and style as you.<\/p>\n<p>For example, us women often talk just for the sake of talking. Yes, we build relationships through communication but there are also cases where our monologues don\u2019t actually have a point.<\/p>\n<p>D'altra parte, la maggior parte degli uomini pensa che la comunicazione senza uno scopo chiaro sia assolutamente inutile.<\/p>\n<p>Also, they\u2019re not as good at reading non-verbal signals as women. Men mostly have an extremely hard time figuring out <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/lui\/inside-his-mind\/17-segnali-del-linguaggio-del-corpo-che-gli-piaci-segretamente-e-che-e-interessato-a-te\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">segni del linguaggio del corpo<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, knowing all of this, you understand why it\u2019s important to stop looking at things from just your point of view when you\u2019re trying to communicate effectively with a guy.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t make any assumptions and instead realize that this man standing in front of you has a different style of communication.<\/p>\n<p>Get it that he probably won\u2019t understand the things you think are implied and that you have to adapt to him in a certain way if you want to be heard.<\/p>\n<h2>2. Adattare gli stili di comunicazione<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72959\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia che parla mentre l&#039;uomo legge il giornale e la donna beve il caff\u00e8\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, even though it was already stated that men and women communicate differently, it\u2019s also true that you can\u2019t generalize a person based on their sex.<\/p>\n<p>Non tutti gli uomini hanno lo stesso stile di comunicazione. Secondo le ricerche, esistono quattro stili di comunicazione principali.<\/p>\n<p>When someone has a passive communication style, they usually repress their emotions and even if they\u2019re perfectly aware of them, they\u2019re not likely to openly express them.<\/p>\n<p>Queste persone fanno del loro meglio per evitare il dramma e il confronto, il che di solito le porta a non essere oneste riguardo ai loro sentimenti o alle loro opinioni.<\/p>\n<p>Al contrario, c'\u00e8 uno stile di comunicazione aggressivo.<\/p>\n<p>People who communicate in this way usually speak loudly, to the extent that it appears like they\u2019re ordering and demanding something from the other person.<\/p>\n<p>C'\u00e8 anche il <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/segnali-relazione-passiva-aggressiva\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">passivo-aggressivo<\/a> stile di comunicazione. Questo stile si basa sull'ignorare e sul trattamento del silenzio.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, these people won\u2019t directly tell you what\u2019s bothering them.<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, a differenza dei comunicatori passivi, i loro sentimenti sono molto chiari in altri modi, soprattutto attraverso i segnali del linguaggio del corpo.<\/p>\n<p>Finally, those who have an assertive communication style will speak their mind but will always take other people\u2019s needs into consideration.<\/p>\n<p>Assertive communicators are empaths who don\u2019t have trouble expressing themselves but don\u2019t make the other person the bad guy even when they feel hurt by something they did.<\/p>\n<p>Knowing all of this, now you see why it\u2019s important to have compatible styles of communication with someone you\u2019re talking to, especially if that someone is your romantic partner and the person you share your every day with.<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che siamo tutti diversi e che \u00e8 probabile che voi e la vostra famiglia siate in grado di gestire il vostro lavoro. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/capire-un-uomo\/\">il tuo uomo<\/a> entreranno nella vostra relazione con stili di comunicazione diversi o addirittura opposti.<\/p>\n<p>In questo caso, \u00e8 fondamentale adattare i propri stili e incontrarsi a met\u00e0 strada.<\/p>\n<p>La vostra comunicazione non sar\u00e0 mai sana o produttiva se voi avete, ad esempio, uno stile aggressivo, mentre lui \u00e8 pi\u00f9 una persona passiva.<\/p>\n<p>In this case, you\u2019ll do all the talking, he\u2019ll pretend that he is agreeing with everything you say but will actually be repressing everything.<\/p>\n<p>Ideally, it would be great if you both could adopt assertive communication styles. This way, you\u2019ll be able to express yourself but you\u2019ll avoid unnecessary fights while doing so.<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, queste cose richiedono tempo e molto lavoro autonomo.<\/p>\n<p>In the meantime, it will be enough to try and harmonize your communication styles in a manner where you\u2019ll both feel equal to each other.<\/p>\n<h2>3. Cercare di guardare le cose dal suo punto di vista<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72965\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-the-living-room.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che comunica in salotto con un giornale sul tavolo tenuto dall&#039;uomo\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-the-living-room.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-the-living-room-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-the-living-room-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ogni relazione, compresa la vostra, \u00e8 una strada a doppio senso. Ci\u00f2 significa che entrambe le parti coinvolte hanno la loro parte di responsabilit\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>Inoltre, questo significa che entrambi avete il diritto di parlare. Il diritto di esprimere la propria opinione e i propri sentimenti su una determinata questione.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, if you want to reach a conclusion and have better communication, you have to learn to look at things from your partner\u2019s point of view.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is that all of us think we\u2019re always right. After all, we wouldn\u2019t stand behind what we believed in if we thought it was wrong, would we?<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che ogni medaglia ha due facce.<\/p>\n<p>So, even when you\u2019re convinced that you\u2019re the only right one and you want to blame your boyfriend or husband for something, take a step back and try looking at the world through his eyes.<\/p>\n<p>Provate per un attimo a camminare per un miglio nei suoi panni. Come vede lui questa situazione? Come si sente?<\/p>\n<p>Ma soprattutto: Cosa dovreste dire perch\u00e9 quest'uomo vi capisca davvero? Come dovreste comportarvi per far s\u00ec che lui arrivi in fondo alle vostre parole e, infine, che voi due raggiungiate un accordo?<\/p>\n<h2>4. Parlare con lui di persona<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72971\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking-in-working-out.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che parla in tenuta da ginnastica vicino a una parete da arrampicata\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking-in-working-out.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking-in-working-out-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking-in-working-out-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Negli appuntamenti moderni tutto \u00e8 cambiato, anche le capacit\u00e0 di comunicazione. Sembra che tutto ruoti intorno agli sms, alle telefonate o ai social media.<\/p>\n<p>When you want someone to get your message, you\u2019ll probably post a status update or a quote dedicated to them, expecting them to understand what you\u2019re trying to say.<\/p>\n<p>Or you\u2019ll just text them; after all, it\u2019s much easier to write down everything that&#8217;s been bothering you than to say it face to face.<\/p>\n<p>Quando si invia a qualcuno un <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/cosa-scrivere-a-un-ragazzo-per-attirare-la-sua-attenzione-60-testi-che-funzionano-a-meraviglia\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">messaggio di testo<\/a>Si evita cos\u00ec il rischio di essere interrotti.<\/p>\n<p>Avete tempo a sufficienza per tradurre le vostre emozioni in parole nel miglior modo possibile, potete controllare pi\u00f9 volte tutto ci\u00f2 che avete scritto e potete preparare il vostro saggio per giorni fino a ottenere la forma perfetta.<\/p>\n<p>Inoltre, siete al sicuro dalla possibilit\u00e0 che il vostro nervosismo rovini tutto.<\/p>\n<p>The other person won\u2019t hear your voice shaking, you won\u2019t get tongue-tied, they won\u2019t see your palms sweating and you won\u2019t start crying in the middle of making a point.<\/p>\n<p>This is especially the case when it comes to some \u2018difficult\u2019 talks.<\/p>\n<p>You won\u2019t chicken out when you see the other person\u2019s reaction to your words and you won\u2019t give up in the middle of your speech and change your mind about whatever you wanted to say.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00ec, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che parlare con qualcuno al telefono o mandargli un messaggio sembra essere pi\u00f9 facile. Tuttavia, non \u00e8 la strada da seguire nelle relazioni serie.<\/p>\n<p>Naturalmente, potete scrivere al vostro ragazzo messaggi su cose irrilevanti e i vostri messaggi possono contenere chiacchiere.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, when you want to address an important topic, it\u2019s always best to talk to him in person.<\/p>\n<p>First of all, this way, you\u2019ll show your strength and determination. You\u2019ll show him that you\u2019re not a coward who hides behind the screen of her phone.<\/p>\n<p>Besides, when you\u2019re talking face to face, there is no running away. There is no leaving one another\u2019s text messages on read, turning off your phone or not answering.<\/p>\n<p>Non dimenticate mai che siete adulti e che dovete comportarvi di conseguenza.<\/p>\n<h2>5. Essere rispettosi<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72975\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/two-couples-talking.jpg\" alt=\"due coppie che parlano all&#039;aperto con il cibo sul tavolo centrale\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/two-couples-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/two-couples-talking-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/two-couples-talking-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Even when they don\u2019t show it, all men have a fragile ego. The things they hate the most are being insulted, put down, or humiliated.<\/p>\n<p>Questo vale soprattutto per la loro mascolinit\u00e0. A tutti i ragazzi piace sentirsi abbastanza uomini per la propria donna e se si insulta la sua mascolinit\u00e0, tutto il resto diventa vano.<\/p>\n<p>Pertanto, la regola numero uno per una comunicazione sana con il proprio fidanzato o marito \u00e8 il rispetto.<\/p>\n<p>Trust me\u2014you won\u2019t go anywhere if you show him that you don\u2019t respect him as a person or as your partner.<\/p>\n<p>Per quanto pensiate che abbia torto, non dovrebbe esistere l'insulto.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t try to ruin his self-esteem and increase <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/8-segni-di-insicurezza-emotiva-non-disturbatevi-ad-uscire-con-lui\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">le sue insicurezze<\/a>. Even when you disagree with him, don\u2019t devalue his opinion.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t question his intelligence or wit. This is especially important when you\u2019re communicating in front of others.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, respecting your man doesn\u2019t have to include you nodding your head and agreeing with everything he has to say just not to hurt his feelings.<\/p>\n<p>Becoming a better communicator doesn\u2019t include you being a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/8-segni-che-sei-una-persona-che-piace-alle-persone\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">persona che piace<\/a> just to boost your guy\u2019s ego.<\/p>\n<p>In realt\u00e0, avete il pieno diritto di richiamarlo sulle sue azioni o di dirgli che si sbaglia. Tuttavia, la chiave sta nel modo in cui lo fate.<\/p>\n<h2>6. Utilizzare affermazioni positive<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72977\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-on-the-bed.jpg\" alt=\"coppia sull&#039;uomo parlante che indossa top e pantaloni neri \" width=\"800\" height=\"502\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-on-the-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-on-the-bed-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-on-the-bed-768x482.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re wondering how to communicate with men, the important thing is not to be negative while trying to make a point. Instead, try using positive statements while talking to your guy.<\/p>\n<p>Cosa sono le affermazioni positive e come si differenziano da quelle negative?<\/p>\n<p>Well, for example, let\u2019s say that you want to tell your partner that you\u2019re bothered by the amount of time you two spend together.<\/p>\n<p>You feel emotionally neglected and think that he isn\u2019t giving you enough of his attention.<\/p>\n<p>Your first impulse will probably be to attack him. It\u2019s to tell him that everyone and everything seems to be more important than you and to accuse him of not loving you enough.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 qui che vi sbagliate. Ognuna di queste frasi \u00e8 un'affermazione negativa e ha il potenziale per trasformarsi in una lotta inutile, invece di darvi quello che volete.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, it\u2019s time to change your ways of communicating. Instead of telling your partner any of the things mentioned above, try using a different approach.<\/p>\n<p>Per esempio, ditegli quanto <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/dopo-tutto-questo-tempo-mi-manchi-ancora\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">ti manca<\/a> e che vi piacerebbe passare pi\u00f9 tempo con lui. Proponete un'attivit\u00e0 che vada bene per entrambi.<\/p>\n<p>Also, tell him that you\u2019re aware of all the good things he does for your relationship. State that you\u2019re not criticizing him and that you\u2019re only looking for ways to improve things between you two.<\/p>\n<h2>7. Scegliere il luogo e il momento giusto<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72989\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/curly-haired-woman.jpg\" alt=\"Donna dai capelli ricci con in mano un cellulare e una banconota seduta mentre parla con una persona\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/curly-haired-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/curly-haired-woman-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/curly-haired-woman-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re trying to figure out how to communicate with men and become a better communicator, two more important aspects are the time and place of your talks.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t start some important topics while you two are in a crowded place or with friends. First and foremost, you can\u2019t hear each other properly this way, let alone have healthy communication.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t do it while he\u2019s busy and in the middle of something. This way, your man won\u2019t be able to give you his full attention and completely focus on your discussion.<\/p>\n<p>When it comes to choosing the place for your communication, make sure it\u2019s somewhere where you both feel safe and comfortable. If you two live together, the best place is your home.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if you\u2019re dating and still haven\u2019t moved in together, try choosing a neutral place.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t do the talking in your home because he might feel like you could kick him out if things get nasty and don\u2019t do it in his either because that is his space and you\u2019ll feel like you\u2019re being rude for calling him out on something in his own home.<\/p>\n<p>Inoltre, entrambi i vostri bioritmi sono importanti. Alcune persone sono nervose quando si alzano, quindi non \u00e8 il caso di iniziare un discorso serio prima di aver bevuto il primo caff\u00e8 del mattino.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, some don\u2019t function well at night after a long day so if you\u2019re one of those couples, avoid discussions before bedtime.<\/p>\n<h2>8. Attenzione al tono di voce<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73005\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/serious-couple-talking.jpg\" alt=\"coppia seria che parla donna in top blu con libri in mezzo a loro\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/serious-couple-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/serious-couple-talking-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/serious-couple-talking-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Molte persone alzano la voce nel tentativo di esprimere un concetto. Nella maggior parte dei casi, non siamo nemmeno consapevoli di farlo e siamo convinti che il nostro tono sia del tutto normale.<\/p>\n<p>Questo tipo di reazione \u00e8 del tutto naturale.<\/p>\n<p>You want to be heard and understood so desperately that you subconsciously start raising the tone of your voice in order for the other person to really get what you\u2019re trying to tell them.<\/p>\n<p>However, this approach will bring you more bad than good. Your partner will feel that you\u2019re attacking him and he won\u2019t listen to your point.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, he\u2019ll only hear you yelling at him and disregard the bottom line of what you\u2019re trying to tell him.<\/p>\n<p>Consequently, he\u2019ll feel the need to defend himself and you two will just end up fighting, without reaching any kind of conclusion.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, you shouldn\u2019t be too quiet either. This way, you\u2019ll just appear as being too scared to speak your mind and to say what you want.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, do your best to find the perfect balance while choosing the right words. Be certain about what you\u2019re saying without shouting and screaming.<\/p>\n<p>Try hard to remain as calm as possible and don&#8217;t raise your tone of voice. Don\u2019t lose your patience and don\u2019t let this conversation turn into a yelling competition.<\/p>\n<h2>9. Far s\u00ec che si concentri<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72999\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-standing-in-front.jpg\" alt=\"donna in piedi di fronte a un uomo che indossa una giacca di pelle\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-standing-in-front.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-standing-in-front-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-standing-in-front-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Le donne sono multitasking per nascita. Al contrario, questa non \u00e8 una qualit\u00e0 che la maggior parte degli uomini possiede e questo \u00e8 anche uno dei problemi pi\u00f9 comuni nella comunicazione uomo-donna.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, it\u2019s crucial for your guy to be completely concentrated on what you\u2019re saying. If you want to have a successful conversation, you simply have to find a way to get him to focus on it.<\/p>\n<p>Ci\u00f2 significa che dovete liberarvi di tutte le possibili distrazioni. Ditegli che volete parlargli di qualcosa di importante e chiedete la sua completa attenzione.<\/p>\n<p>Assicuratevi di mantenere <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/5-cose-che-sta-cercando-di-dire-usando-un-contatto-visivo-prolungato\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">contatto visivo<\/a> e che le espressioni facciali mostrino la vostra seriet\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t look away while you two are talking and don&#8217;t turn your conversation into background noise while you&#8217;re busy making lunch or doing something else.<\/p>\n<p>I know that sometimes you don\u2019t want to make a big deal about the things you want to say so you just casually mention them and expect your partner to listen to you and understand what you are trying to tell him.<\/p>\n<p>However, I\u2019ll have to burst your bubble and tell you that this is not likely to happen.<\/p>\n<p>Se si vuole che lui <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/8-motivi-per-cui-il-vostro-uomo-non-vi-prende-affatto-sul-serio\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">prenderti sul serio<\/a>Dovete essere sicuri di avere la sua piena attenzione e che si stia concentrando sulla vostra conversazione.<\/p>\n<h2>10. Essere concreti e diretti<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73017\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-cafe.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che comunica in un caff\u00e8 con l&#039;uomo che tiene la tazza e la donna che ridacchia\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-cafe.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-cafe-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-cafe-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Here is the tough part\u2014whenever you\u2019re communicating with men, you have to be concrete and direct.<\/p>\n<p>Dovete verbalizzare le vostre emozioni e i vostri pensieri in modo dettagliato se volete essere compresi nel modo giusto.<\/p>\n<p>The truth which most women fail to accept is that men don\u2019t take hints.<\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t understand mixed signals, have zero capacity for reading between the lines and, most importantly, they\u2019re not mind readers.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, if you expect your partner to know that he\u2019s been doing something wrong just because it is clear and logical for you, think again.<\/p>\n<p>Se vi aspettate che si renda conto che <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/lettera-aperta-uomo-ferito\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">he\u2019s been hurting you<\/a> with a certain behavior without you pointing out his mistake, you\u2019ll be disappointed.<\/p>\n<p>Se vi aspettate che cambi facendo la passiva-aggressiva o dandogli la <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-modi-per-reagire-al-trattamento-silenzioso-nella-vostra-relazione-di-coppia\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">trattamento silenzioso<\/a>, trust me that you\u2019ll be waiting for ages but nothing will happen.<\/p>\n<p>If you want him to magically know how you feel and what you think, you\u2019ll get nowhere.<\/p>\n<p>All of this means just one thing\u2014when it comes to men, there is no beating around the bush. Instead, if you expect success, explain to your guy in detail everything you want to say.<\/p>\n<h2>11. Raggiungere la parit\u00e0<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73019\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/happy-couple-talking.jpg\" alt=\"coppia felice che parla sui gradini del parco con molte foglie secche a terra\" width=\"800\" height=\"502\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/happy-couple-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/happy-couple-talking-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/happy-couple-talking-768x482.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Come abbiamo gi\u00e0 detto, una relazione \u00e8 una strada a doppio senso.<\/p>\n<p>Among other things, that also means that you\u2019re both equal partners and that one person should never be dominant over the other when it comes to open communication and problem solving, among other things.<\/p>\n<p>Questo \u00e8 particolarmente importante quando si tratta di comunicazione, se volete che sia sana. Entrambi avete lo stesso diritto di parlare, di avere un'opinione e di provare quello che volete.<\/p>\n<p>So, please, make sure you don\u2019t fall into a trap many women sadly get themselves into. Don\u2019t act like your partner is a little child.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/5-segni-che-sei-madre-e-non-fidanzata\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">non sua madre<\/a> or his teacher and you\u2019re not there to parent him.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re not there to show him how to live his life or teach him anything so there is absolutely no need to use a condescending tone or any words which will make him feel inferior.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, this goes both ways as well. Don\u2019t allow him to treat you like he is above you either.<\/p>\n<p>Remember that you can\u2019t have healthy communication as long as one of you is afraid of the other in any way. I\u2019m not talking about the possibility of actual <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/i-veri-uomini-proteggono-le-loro-donne-non-le-maltrattano\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">abuso<\/a> di qualsiasi tipo qui.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m talking about the fact that you\u2019re, for example, scared of your boyfriend\u2019s reaction if you tell him something he doesn\u2019t agree with or if you avoid going against the grain just not to provoke an argument or you even think that he might leave you if you tell him something he doesn\u2019t like.<\/p>\n<p>In questo scenario, non si pu\u00f2 mai essere onesti o aperti con l'altro. Naturalmente, questo porta molta insoddisfazione e problemi in futuro.<\/p>\n<h2>12. Essere il pi\u00f9 veloce possibile<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73021\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-harvesting-vegetables.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia che raccoglie ortaggi in un orto comunitario\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-harvesting-vegetables.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-harvesting-vegetables-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-harvesting-vegetables-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you were told to tell your partner how you feel and what you think in detail, it doesn\u2019t mean that your conversations should last an entire day.<\/p>\n<p>In detail means being specific but it doesn\u2019t have to include long conversations.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 stato infatti scientificamente provato che gli uomini hanno una capacit\u00e0 di attenzione inferiore a quella delle donne.<\/p>\n<p>Your partner is no exception so it is likely that he\u2019ll lose focus after some time and that he\u2019ll just remain physically present in the room, without actually listening to you.<\/p>\n<p>Well, in order to avoid this, it\u2019s important not to make tiring speeches. Instead, be as quick as possible and get to the point.<\/p>\n<p>Cut to the chase. Don\u2019t make long introductions and conclusions and just speak about what\u2019s important. Instead, split this conversation into a few shorter ones.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if you see that he has stopped listening but you still haven\u2019t finished or you haven\u2019t reached a conclusion, end the conversation.<\/p>\n<p>Non ha senso fare monologhi senza alcun feedback.<\/p>\n<p>So che volete concludere subito il lavoro, ma credetemi, questo avr\u00e0 un effetto migliore a lungo termine sulla vostra relazione.<\/p>\n<h2>13. Be honest about your feelings\u2026<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73024\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-having-problem.jpg\" alt=\"donna che ha un problema mentre l&#039;uomo cerca di consolarla\" width=\"800\" height=\"502\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-having-problem.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-having-problem-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-having-problem-768x482.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>La base di ogni <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/15-characteristics-of-a-healthy-and-mature-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">relazione sana<\/a> \u00e8 una comunicazione aperta e la base di ogni comunicazione efficace \u00e8 l'onest\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t expect to achieve anything or to reach your goals if you lie to or deceive the person you\u2019re talking to.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, you simply must be one hundred percent honest about your feelings and thoughts when communicating with your guy and this can\u2019t be stressed enough.<\/p>\n<p>Prima di tutto, dovete essere onesti con voi stessi. Dovete avere la capacit\u00e0 di riconoscere le vostre emozioni, di accettarle e infine di valutarle prima di presentarle all'altro.<\/p>\n<p>However, remember that feelings are always subjective. Therefore, you\u2019re not the judge of any conversation.<\/p>\n<p>You have the right to say how things make you feel and how certain events look from your point of view. However, this doesn\u2019t mean that your side of the story is the only real one.<\/p>\n<p>Finally, please don\u2019t be ashamed of your emotions. They don\u2019t make you weak and you won\u2019t appear desperate if you acknowledge them.<\/p>\n<p>Invece, essere onesti sui propri sentimenti e difenderli \u00e8 un segno di maturit\u00e0. Essere <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/her\/alpha\/vulnerabile-tratto-principale-donna-forte\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">vulnerabile \u00e8 segno di un'incredibile forza interiore<\/a> non molti lo hanno fatto.<\/p>\n<h2>14. \u2026 but don\u2019t be a drama queen<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73029\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-crying-and-man-consoling.jpg\" alt=\"donna che piange e uomo che la consola tenendole le spalle\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-crying-and-man-consoling.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-crying-and-man-consoling-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-crying-and-man-consoling-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, it\u2019s crucial not to behave like a drama queen while you\u2019re trying to argue or just communicate with your forever person.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be a spoiled brat and stop thinking that the earth revolves around you because guess what? It\u2019s not.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, don\u2019t even talk to your partner unless you calm yourself down first. Sometimes it\u2019s better to cool down and let time be your ally before saying or doing some things you might regret later on.<\/p>\n<p>Pertanto, se il vostro partner ha fatto qualcosa che vi ha ferito ma sapete che <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/al-ragazzo-che-ha-fatto-del-male-alla-brava-ragazza-mentre-stava-soffrendo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">ti senti troppo ferito<\/a> now to talk to him calmly, leave this topic for tomorrow. Sleep it off and don\u2019t react impulsively.<\/p>\n<p>There is no point in making a big fuss about everything. Men don\u2019t like arguing and will mostly react negatively to constant drama, fights and scandals.<\/p>\n<h2>15. Don\u2019t be accusatory<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73035\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-on-sofa.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia che discute sul divano mentre la donna tiene in mano un cellulare\" width=\"800\" height=\"502\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-on-sofa.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-on-sofa-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-on-sofa-768x482.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Whether we like to admit this or not, every couple fights. Arguments and miscommunication are a part of all relationships and there don\u2019t exist two people who never had the slightest disagreement.<\/p>\n<p>Pertanto, sembra che i litigi occasionali facciano parte della comunicazione. Tutti vorremmo evitarli, ma si tratta di aspettative irrealistiche.<\/p>\n<p>However, arguments don\u2019t have to be bad for a relationship. In fact, they can actually help you on your path toward healthier communication.<\/p>\n<p>Vedete, la cosa pi\u00f9 importante <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/consigli-di-coppia-per-le-donne-12-cose-fondamentali-che-dovete-sapere\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">consigli sulle relazioni<\/a> here is to understand this: You two are not fighting with each other, you\u2019re fighting against the problem you\u2019re dealing with.<\/p>\n<p>At least, that\u2019s how things should be; you two should work together toward problem solving.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, there is absolutely no point in engaging in different blame games. You\u2019ll get nowhere if you keep on accusing each other and trying to put the blame on one person only.<\/p>\n<p>Take over your share of the responsibility, be open about everything that\u2019s been bothering you and work united toward a solution.<\/p>\n<h2>16. Evitare le ipotesi<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73046\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-outdoors.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che discute all&#039;aperto con donna che indossa un top grigio \" width=\"800\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-outdoors.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-outdoors-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-outdoors-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re trying to figure out how to communicate with men in the best way possible, one of the things you have to do is get rid of all possible assumptions you might have.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t make conclusions on your own and don\u2019t create different scenarios in your head, which probably have nothing to do with reality and are only based on fragments of truth.<\/p>\n<p>Here is what I\u2019m talking about; if, for example, you suspect that your <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/il-flirt-e-un-tradimento-7-modi-per-essere-infedeli-senza-nemmeno-saperlo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Il fidanzato \u00e8 infedele<\/a>, affrontarlo.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t spend days or weeks imagining different scenarios and reaching your own conclusion before even discussing things with him.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00ec, questo esempio pu\u00f2 sembrare troppo brutale, ma il concetto di fondo \u00e8 pi\u00f9 o meno lo stesso in tutte le situazioni.<\/p>\n<p>Se avete delle domande da porre al vostro fidanzato o al vostro coniuge, lui \u00e8 l'unico che pu\u00f2 darvi le risposte di cui avete bisogno.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73320\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/How-To-Communicate-With-Men_-16-Ways-To-Have-Better-Communication-Pinterest..jpg\" alt=\"Come comunicare con gli uomini: 16 modi per avere una comunicazione migliore\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/How-To-Communicate-With-Men_-16-Ways-To-Have-Better-Communication-Pinterest..jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/How-To-Communicate-With-Men_-16-Ways-To-Have-Better-Communication-Pinterest.-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/How-To-Communicate-With-Men_-16-Ways-To-Have-Better-Communication-Pinterest.-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/How-To-Communicate-With-Men_-16-Ways-To-Have-Better-Communication-Pinterest.-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>From the beginning of time, male-female communication has been a mystery. Even though guys also try hard to understand girls, the truth is that women are usually the ones wondering how to communicate with men and doing their best to see inside a man&#8217;s brain. How to be a better communicator? 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