{"id":74624,"date":"2020-05-22T11:29:07","date_gmt":"2020-05-22T11:29:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=74624"},"modified":"2022-02-27T13:47:01","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T13:47:01","slug":"segni-che-sei-sposato-ma-innamorato-di-unaltra-persona","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/segni-che-sei-sposato-ma-innamorato-di-unaltra-persona\/","title":{"rendered":"10 segni sinceri di essere sposati ma innamorati di un'altra persona"},"content":{"rendered":"

Essere sposati ma innamorati di un'altra persona \u00e8 qualcosa che tutte le coppie vorrebbero evitare.<\/p>\n

However, just because you’re a uomo sposato<\/a> or a woman, it doesn’t mean that you can control your heart.<\/p>\n

Yes, you’ve made some vows and never even thought that you’d catch yourself being emotionally unfaithful.<\/p>\n

It doesn’t have to mean that you did something with this third person. They’re present in your heart and mind, and that\u2019s more than enough.<\/p>\n

There is no doubt about one thing: This is a tricky and a difficult situation for all parties involved. However, you’re not the first married man or woman going through this scenario.<\/p>\n

Here are 10 signs that you’re married but innamorati di qualcuno<\/a> altro, oltre a 10 cose da fare al riguardo.<\/p>\n

1. Tutto ci\u00f2 che riguarda il vostro coniuge vi infastidisce<\/h2>\n

\"La<\/p>\n

Ricordate tutte quelle cose carine di vostro marito o di vostra moglie di cui vi siete innamorati all'inizio della vostra relazione?<\/p>\n

Come vi \u00e8 piaciuto il suono del loro russare, come sms<\/a> che vi hanno fatto sorridere e di come avete amato i loro difetti e le loro stranezze tanto quanto le loro caratteristiche positive?<\/p>\n

Well, all of that\u2019s changed. In fact, lately, it can be said that every little thing about them annoys you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re bothered by the way they talk, laugh \u2013 even breathe. To be honest, in most cases you\u2019re annoyed by little, irrelevant things.<\/p>\n

In effetti, le cose che pi\u00f9 amavate di loro hanno iniziato a darvi fastidio. All'improvviso, nulla di ci\u00f2 che fanno o dicono \u00e8 carino o affascinante e vi ritrovate a roteare gli occhi in continuazione.<\/p>\n

The truth is that you can\u2019t stand this person. You don\u2019t hate them or anything like that, but you simply don\u2019t feel comfortable around them.<\/p>\n

The same way their presence used to brighten your entire day, now you can\u2019t wait to see their back and for them to leave the room.<\/p>\n

Se questo \u00e8 un caso che vi riguarda, \u00e8 sicuramente una bandiera rossa e uno dei primi segnali di problemi in paradiso.<\/p>\n

2. Trovate scuse per non stare in casa<\/h2>\n

\"Persone<\/p>\n

While you and your wife or husband were dating, you couldn\u2019t wait to finally move in together.<\/p>\n

Eravate stufi di girare in macchina, di dormire da voi e di tornare a casa vostra la mattina per prepararvi al lavoro, di dovervi inventare diverse soluzioni. idee per l'appuntamento<\/a>e di trascorrere del tempo in caffetterie o ristoranti.<\/p>\n

Per voi \u00e8 stato un sogno che si \u00e8 avverato quello di trascorrere il resto della vostra vita svegliandovi accanto a questa persona speciale.<\/p>\n

You couldn\u2019t wait to eat breakfast with them every single morning, cook together, spend all of your lazy Sundays next to each other, and sleep together until death do you apart.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, ora tutto questo \u00e8 cambiato. Infatti, continuate a trovare scuse diverse per non passare del tempo con il vostro partner e per uscire di casa.<\/p>\n

In fact, even your partner notices this. You\u2019re never around and nowhere to be found most of the time.<\/p>\n

Forse vi rifiutate di ammetterlo, ma se guardate le cose in modo realistico, \u00e8 davvero la verit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t have to mean that you\u2019re sneaking around to see someone else. You would just rather be alone than with your partner, which is certainly not a sign of a happy marriage.<\/p>\n

3. You’re spending time with another person<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

However, if you catch yourself spending more and more time with this third person, that might be a good sign that you\u2019re head over heels for them, without even being aware of it.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re home, you\u2019re making excuses to stay away from your spouse. On the other hand, you\u2019re putting a lot of effort into seeing this person as well.<\/p>\n

Se si tratta di un collaboratore<\/a>, you\u2019re constantly staying extra hours at your work. You\u2019re helping them out with everything and trying hard to synchronize your shifts.<\/p>\n

If we\u2019re talking about your neighbor, you catch yourself checking when they\u2019ll go out so you can accidentally meet.<\/p>\n

Lo stesso vale per il barista del locale pi\u00f9 vicino a voi o per qualcuno che fino a quel momento vedevate solo come un migliore amico.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re never too busy to talk to them. Moreover, when you don\u2019t see this person for a few days, you start missing them, even though you refuse to admit this to anyone, including yourself.<\/p>\n

One thing\u2019s for sure: Their company suits you. However, wouldn\u2019t it be normal if you use every second of your free time spent with your partner rather than with someone else?<\/p>\n

4. Condividete con loro i vostri problemi coniugali<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Che ci piaccia o no, ci sono situazioni in cui tutti condividiamo i nostri problemi privati con gli amici o i familiari pi\u00f9 stretti. Lo stesso vale per i problemi del vostro matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Anche se una coppia sposata dovrebbe essere in grado di risolvere le proprie divergenze e i momenti difficili a porte chiuse, cose come questa accadono.<\/p>\n

Dopo tutto, siete entrambi adulti e siete perfettamente in grado di trovare una soluzione a ci\u00f2 che vi preoccupa.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, a volte si ha semplicemente bisogno di togliersi un peso dallo stomaco. Volete un secondo parere e qualcuno che vi ascolti.<\/p>\n

At the end of the day, this is not such a big deal. Of course, as long as you\u2019re confiding to the people you trust \u2013 to those who won\u2019t bring you even more trouble.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, lately, you\u2019ve been sharing all of your marriage secrets with this special person. You feel like they understand you and you keep on looking for their advice.<\/p>\n

Non solo, la loro opinione influenza la vostra capacit\u00e0 di giudizio. Ci si sorprende ad essere d'accordo con loro pi\u00f9 di quanto si dovrebbe e persino a seguire quello che ci hanno detto essere la cosa migliore da fare.<\/p>\n

Sembra che questa persona sia diventata indirettamente parte del vostro matrimonio, senza che il vostro coniuge se ne renda conto.<\/p>\n

5. You\u2019ve changed things about yourself<\/h2>\n

\"ritratto<\/p>\n

When we\u2019re testa in gi\u00f9<\/a> per qualcuno, il nostro subconscio fa di tutto per renderci pi\u00f9 simpatici all'oggetto del nostro affetto.<\/p>\n

That is why one of the signs that you\u2019re married but in love with someone else is the fact that you\u2019re ready to change some things about yourself just to please this third person.<\/p>\n

It all starts with the little things. For example, if they told you that one shirt you once wore looks great on you, you\u2019ll try to wear that shirt as often as possible.<\/p>\n

Lo stesso vale per il taglio di capelli, il profumo e altre cose. Tuttavia, dopo un po' di tempo, si notano differenze ancora pi\u00f9 grandi su di s\u00e9.<\/p>\n

You see that you\u2019re ready to change some things about your character or to modify some of your personality traits just because you think that this other person will fancy you more in this new, updated version.<\/p>\n

Iniziate a prestare particolare attenzione al vostro aspetto perch\u00e9 volete essere il pi\u00f9 attraenti possibile per questa persona speciale.<\/p>\n

Volete che vi vedano sempre al meglio e questo non \u00e8 certo il tipo di comportamento che mostrate quando c'\u00e8 il vostro coniuge.<\/p>\n

On the contrary, it\u2019s like you couldn\u2019t care less about what your partner might think of you. You\u2019re not trying to conquistarli<\/a>; you\u2019re redirecting all of your effort to this new person.<\/p>\n

6. Nascondete la loro esistenza al vostro coniuge<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Your spouse shouldn\u2019t just be your romantic partner, they should be your best friend too.<\/p>\n

However, that doesn\u2019t mean that you don\u2019t have the right to hang out without them. After all, you’re human beings and it’s natural that you want contact with other people.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that you should suddenly become antisocial, you should reduce your circle of amici<\/a>, or you don\u2019t have the right to have friends outside of your marriage.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, quando non si ha nulla da nascondere, \u00e8 perfettamente normale che il partner coniugale conosca tutte le persone con cui si passa il tempo.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t have to be friends, but your spouse should at least be aware of their existence in your life.<\/p>\n

After all, this is the person you share your everyday life with. Therefore, it is expected that you\u2019ll mention your friends or that their name will come up in some random conversation.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, non \u00e8 cos\u00ec quando si tratta di questa persona speciale. Anzi, probabilmente ne nascondete l'esistenza al vostro coniuge.<\/p>\n

There is no trace of them in your social media profiles, you two aren’t texting in front of your spouse, and so on.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Sospetto, vero?<\/p>\n

Anche se vostro marito o vostra moglie sanno che questa persona esiste come vostro amico o collega, non hanno certo idea di quanto sia importante per voi.<\/p>\n

So, why do you think this is so? Is it possible that deep down you\u2019re aware that you\u2019re doing something wrong?<\/p>\n

\u00c8 possibile che la profondit\u00e0 del vostro cuore sia consapevole di questi sentimenti proibiti che provate? Vi sentite in colpa per aver trascorso cos\u00ec tanto tempo con questa persona?<\/p>\n

Se \u00e8 cos\u00ec, c'\u00e8 sicuramente qualcosa che non va.<\/p>\n

After all, if you were one hundred percent sure that nothing is going on, your conscience would be crystal clear and you wouldn\u2019t have the need to exclude this person from your marriage to this point.<\/p>\n

7. Litigate sempre con il vostro coniuge<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

A volte ci si sente insoddisfatti della propria vita, ma non se ne conosce il motivo e non si \u00e8 nemmeno consapevoli della propria insoddisfazione.<\/p>\n

However, in this scenario, you can\u2019t control the bad vibe you get from your spouse and the fact that all of this is turning you into a persona negativa<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec, voi due finite per litigare sempre. Discutete per ogni piccola cosa e si trasforma sempre in un gran casino.<\/p>\n

Of course, all couples fight and you two have had your share of differences since day one. But this time it\u2019s different.<\/p>\n

It seems like you don\u2019t even care about the outcome. You don\u2019t try to get to the solution and you put no effort into making things right again.<\/p>\n

Even when \u2013 if you put things realistically \u2013 your spouse isn\u2019t actually at fault, you\u2019re constantly angry at them.<\/p>\n

You hold grudges about things that should have been left in the past and you\u2019re the one who\u2019s always picking fights.<\/p>\n

Besides, nothing new has happened between you two to cause all of this drama. Nothing besides this person who\u2019s entered your life and obviously shaken you up.<\/p>\n

8. You can\u2019t stop thinking about them<\/h2>\n

\"Visione<\/p>\n

One of the biggest red flags that you\u2019re married but love someone else is that you can\u2019t seem to get this person out of your head, as hard as you try.<\/p>\n

You think about them all the time, even when you\u2019re with your spouse.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t have to necessarily mean that you only have romantical thoughts about this special someone. They simply cross your mind more often than they should and without any specific reason.<\/p>\n

Non c'\u00e8 nulla che debba ricordarvi questa persona per farvela ricordare.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, \u00e8 proprio questo che continuate a fare: pensare a loro<\/a>, what they\u2019re up to, and how they would react in a certain situation.<\/p>\n

They\u2019ve become the first person you want to call when you hear some good news and someone you want to share your happiness with.<\/p>\n

They\u2019re also the first ones you have the urge to reach out to when you need comfort, advice, or a shoulder to cry on.<\/p>\n

Tutto questo sarebbe bello se non fosse per un piccolo dettaglio: il vostro partner matrimoniale.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest here: Shouldn\u2019t your spouse be the person to stand in this role instead of this third person?<\/p>\n

9. Your mood changes when you\u2019re with them<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter whether you\u2019ve had a bad day, if you feel like crying, or you\u2019re just not feeling as your best self.<\/p>\n

Questa \u00e8 la persona che pu\u00f2 tirarvi su di morale e sollevare il vostro autostima<\/a> sempre, indipendentemente dalle circostanze.<\/p>\n

Whenever you\u2019re with your spouse, you feel like life is being sucked out of you. You have no energy for anything.<\/p>\n

Sei irritabile, ansioso<\/a>e depressi, e le loro stranezze vi infastidiscono. Di primo acchito, quindi, incolpate il vostro partner per la vostra condizione.<\/p>\n

You think that they\u2019re sending off some negative vibe you can\u2019t help but absorb. However, the truth is actually hidden a little deeper.<\/p>\n

Conversely, when you\u2019re with this third person, you feel like you could do anything and your self-esteem skyrockets.<\/p>\n

Godete di ogni respiro e la positivit\u00e0 e l'ottimismo invadono ogni atomo del vostro essere.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s pretty clear here: You\u2019re in love with this person. Your emotions for them are making you happy and satisfied with your own life.<\/p>\n

Whenever you\u2019re around them, all of your problems seem resolvable. It\u2019s like this special someone is the light at the end of your tunnel and the only person who can brighten up your darkest day.<\/p>\n

10. Sogni ad occhi aperti la tua vita con questa persona<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about this person? You\u2019re in the middle of something and out of nowhere, they appear in your thoughts.<\/p>\n

Ti chiedi come sarebbe se voi due foste insieme, anche se doveste stare lontani l'uno dall'altro.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, you even plan your life together in detail and only feel good while you\u2019re occupied with your imagination.<\/p>\n

This especially happens when you\u2019re in bad relations with your spouse (which is almost always).<\/p>\n

Even though you\u2019re probably not doing this on purpose, the fact is you\u2019re comparing your marital partner with this other person.<\/p>\n

Vi chiedete come reagirebbero in una certa situazione. Come vi tratterebbero?<\/p>\n

Vorresti essere pi\u00f9 felici<\/a> accanto a questa persona di quanto non lo siate ora? Avete preso la decisione sbagliata quando avete sposato il vostro coniuge?<\/p>\n

Questa persona speciale vi amerebbe di pi\u00f9? Andreste pi\u00f9 d'accordo?<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Ci sarebbero meno litigi e tensioni? Siete pi\u00f9 compatibili?<\/p>\n

Pi\u00f9 la pensate in questo modo, pi\u00f9 difetti continuate a trovare nel vostro coniuge. All'improvviso, diventa la scelta peggiore che avreste mai potuto fare.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, this person you\u2019re in love with seems like your perfect match. They appear to be the missing part of your puzzle.<\/p>\n

All of a sudden, they have everything your spouse doesn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

You think that this person\u2019s better than your marital partner in all ways possible and there is nothing the latter can do to change your mind regarding this.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: 10 segni che un uomo sposato \u00e8 innamorato di voi e che ha intenzione di agire di conseguenza <\/a><\/p>\n

3 motivi per cui siete innamorati di un'altra persona<\/h2>\n

Perch\u00e9 uomini e donne sposati si innamorano di qualcuno al di fuori del loro matrimonio? Quali sono le ragioni pi\u00f9 comuni? Perch\u00e9 le persone sono sposate e amano un'altra persona?<\/p>\n

1. They\u2019re really your soulmate<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

We don\u2019t all incontriamo le nostre anime gemelle<\/a> in tempo.<\/p>\n

Some meet their perfect person only when they\u2019re old and wrinkled, some are lucky to encounter them in their early youth, while others never get the chance to live through this amazing experience.<\/p>\n

Basically, what I\u2019m trying to tell you is that just because you married someone, it doesn\u2019t magically make them your soulmate.<\/p>\n

In effetti, c'\u00e8 una grande possibilit\u00e0 che questa nuova persona sia in realt\u00e0 il vostro partner ideale.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m sure you loved your husband or wife while you were saying \u201cI do\u201d at the altar. After all, you loved them so much that you decided to spend the rest of your life with them.<\/p>\n

However, soulmates are not concerned about a piece of paper. So, it is possible that you\u2019ve met your other half only now, when you\u2019re already married to someone you thought was your forever person.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ever forget that life writes novels, so something like this can easily happen.<\/p>\n

If this is true, it doesn\u2019t mean that everything you had with your spouse wasn\u2019t real. You loved your partner, but your love had an expiration date and it came to its end.<\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>\n

It\u2019s just that everything you feel towards this new person is more intense than anything you\u2019ve ever felt before. This is something you simply can\u2019t fight against, as hard as you try.<\/p>\n

La verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che avete smesso di amare il vostro partner. Probabilmente provate dei sentimenti profondi per lui come persona, ma tutto ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 romantico \u00e8 scomparso da tempo.<\/p>\n

Non solo, avete tutto il rispetto del mondo per tutto ci\u00f2 che voi e il vostro coniuge avete condiviso e costruito insieme.<\/p>\n

This is the person who\u2019s helped you become who you are today \u2013 someone you once wanted to grow old with.<\/p>\n

Rispettate tutti gli anni che avete trascorso l'uno accanto all'altro, tutto l'amore che avete avuto, tutti i sacrifici che avete fatto e tutta la vostra storia.<\/p>\n

However, you can\u2019t order your heart what to do, can you? Your emotions are simply stronger than your reason and there is not much you can do about it.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t love the person you share your life with. You see them as a friend, a roommate, or a family member, but you can\u2019t picture the two of you as a romantic couple anymore.<\/p>\n

Comunque sia, voi si \u00e8 innamorato di un'altra persona<\/a>. You didn\u2019t plan it. You didn\u2019t want it. It just happened.<\/p>\n

2. Il vostro matrimonio \u00e8 entrato in crisi<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

On the other hand, there\u2019s also a possibility that your marriage has fallen into a rut. You don\u2019t actually love this new person; you\u2019re just using them as an escape from your real life.<\/p>\n

Le farfalle che sentivate ogni volta che vedevate il vostro coniuge all'inizio della vostra vita di coppia. relazione a lungo termine<\/a> sono scomparsi da tempo.<\/p>\n

Voi due mancate di intimit\u00e0 e di legame, come molte persone sposate.<\/p>\n

Tutto il vostro matrimonio si \u00e8 ridotto a pagare le bollette e a correre da un obbligo all'altro, il che \u00e8 ben lontano dalla favola che speravate di ottenere.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have the time nor the energy to give to each other anymore, and nothing is like it used to be in the beginning.<\/p>\n

You no longer feel that thrill when you\u2019re about to see your spouse, you don\u2019t miss them even when days go by without a meaningful conversation, and there are no fireworks when they kiss you.<\/p>\n

However, all of this doesn\u2019t have to mean that you\u2019ve stopped loving them. Just like many married couples, you\u2019re just fallen out of love with each other and that can be fixed.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You got so burdened up with your busy lives that you\u2019ve forgotten to pay attention to each other. You\u2019ve started taking each other for granted and somehow, along the way, lost the initial spark.<\/p>\n

This is especially true if you have children. Like many other married people with kids, you\u2019re so overwhelmed with all the duties a family brings that you\u2019ve stopped seeing each other in a romantic way.<\/p>\n

Consequently, the moment you meet someone new who actually looks at you like an individual and shows some interest in you, you start thinking that you\u2019ve fallen for them. Well, that doesn\u2019t have to be true.<\/p>\n

In fact, everything you feel for them is short term and it will go away faster than it came. Yes, they\u2019ve managed to shake you up, but you will forget about this person before you know it.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not here to justify you, but these things happen more often than you might think. After all those years of marriage, having a crisis that\u2019ll pass by is nothing unusual.<\/p>\n

3. Vi sentite trascurati emotivamente dal vostro coniuge<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Un altro motivo per cui alcune persone sono sposate e innamorate di un'altra persona \u00e8 la mancanza di sostegno emotivo da parte del coniuge.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s possible that your marital partner has been emotionally neglecting you, ignoring your needs and desires, and treating you like they\u2019ve stopped loving you<\/a>.<\/p>\n

So, you\u2019ve looked for comfort elsewhere. Back home, you feel unwanted and unloved, and now, this person who obviously likes you has appeared to rock your world.<\/p>\n

You think that this certain someone will appreciate you more. You are convinced that they\u2019ll treat you the way you deserve. You just want to escape the toxic atmosphere you have in your marriage.<\/p>\n

Se questo \u00e8 il caso, questo infatuazione<\/a> you might be feeling can\u2019t serve as justification. I get it.<\/p>\n

Your partner treats you like garbage, but that doesn\u2019t give you the green light to be emotionally unfaithful to them.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong;. I\u2019m not trying to justify your husband or wife. However, you can\u2019t solve one problem by causing another one.<\/p>\n

Se vi sentite trascurato emotivamente<\/a>\u00c8 un aspetto che dovreste discutere con il vostro partner coniugale.<\/p>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Siate onesti, dite loro come vi sentite e provate a parlare con loro di tutti i problemi che il vostro matrimonio sta attraversando.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you. There\u2019s a chance that you won\u2019t come up with a solution. They might even give you false promises that they\u2019ll change but continue treating you the same way they used to.<\/p>\n

In questo caso, avete due opzioni. Potete restare e sopportare tutto questo oppure fare le valigie e andarvene.<\/p>\n

Only when you\u2019re separated as husband and wife is it acceptable for you to grow feelings for someone else or start a new relationship. Until then, you\u2019re taken and you should behave accordingly.<\/p>\n

10 Things To Do If You\u2019re Married But In Love With Someone Else<\/span><\/h2>\n

\u200bNow that you’ve figured out everything, you’ll probably agree that something has to be done about this situation.<\/p>\n

In realt\u00e0, avete solo due possibilit\u00e0: rimanere sposati e cercare di salvare il vostro matrimonio, oppure divorziare e andare dietro a questa nuova persona.<\/p>\n

Se decidete di rimanere sposati<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Essere certi che si tratta di ci\u00f2 che si vuole<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Prima di tutto, dovete essere sicuri che questo sia ci\u00f2 che volete davvero. Rimanete sposati perch\u00e9 avete capito che questa persona accanto a voi \u00e8 la vostra vera anima gemella?<\/p>\n

Or are you doing it because of your family? Or maybe you\u2019re stuck in your comfort zone and scared of changes your divorce might bring, so you prefer remaining unhappy.<\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019re worried about what other people might say and think about your separation. Or you don\u2019t want to break your home because of the kids?<\/p>\n

Ask yourself all of these questions before making a final decision. Don\u2019t get me wrong; I\u2019m not trying to persuade you that divorziare<\/a> \u00e8 la cosa giusta da fare per voi.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m just telling you that this is a call you have to make. You have to follow your heart and disregard social norms, fears, and other people.<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, il divorzio \u00e8 sempre difficile per tutte le parti coinvolte. Ma vivere in un matrimonio senza amore pu\u00f2 essere ancora peggio.<\/p>\n

2. Tagliare i ponti con l'altra persona<\/h2>\n

\"la<\/p>\n

Once you\u2019ve decided that you want to stay married, it\u2019s time to cut all possible ties with this other person.<\/p>\n

You have been in love with them and they can\u2019t stay in your life if you want your marriage to work.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t stay friends. If they’re your coworker and you don\u2019t have the option of kicking them out of your life for good, you have to reduce contact to the bare minimum.<\/p>\n

No, this doesn\u2019t make the object of your infatuation responsible for your feelings. However, the truth is that they represent a certain temptation and distraction for you.<\/p>\n

Quindi, per favore, andate nessun contatto<\/a> e rivolgetevi al vostro matrimonio.<\/p>\n

You can either confess your feelings to the other side and explain why you\u2019re doing all of this (don\u2019t worry, I assure you that they will appreciate your honesty and respect your decision), or you can just walk away from them and lose touch.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s all up to you and it depends on the nature of your relationship. Just remember, though: This step is not negotiable!<\/p>\n

3. Essere onesti con il proprio coniuge<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

La prossima cosa da fare sar\u00e0 probabilmente la pi\u00f9 difficile. Tuttavia, per il bene del vostro matrimonio, deve essere fatta.<\/p>\n

Dovete essere onesti con il vostro partner. Dovete dirgli come vi siete sentiti, ma anche che volete una seconda possibilit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

You have to have this talk after you\u2019ve cut ties with the third person. It\u2019s the only way your spouse will believe you and won\u2019t think that you have a backup plan, if they choose not to forgive you.<\/p>\n

Yes, it seems that it would all be a lot easier if you could just stay silent about all that\u2019s been going on in your heart.<\/p>\n

Dopo tutto, avete deciso di lasciarvi alle spalle tutto questo e penserete che non c'\u00e8 bisogno di creare problemi inutili.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, dovete iniziare a basare il vostro matrimonio sull'onest\u00e0, se volete davvero farlo funzionare. Basta bugie, basta inganni!<\/p>\n

4. Ricostruire il matrimonio<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not going to lie: There\u2019s a possibility that your spouse won\u2019t forgive you<\/a>. Almeno, non all'inizio.<\/p>\n

In that case, it\u2019s your job to win them back over. You have to show them that you want to save your marriage at all costs and that you chose them over everyone else.<\/p>\n

This is the part in which you both have to work on rebuilding your marriage. Even though it might have appeared to be perfect at first, the truth is that it didn\u2019t work out for the best.<\/p>\n

If that wasn\u2019t the case all of this wouldn\u2019t have happened. Yes, you\u2019re responsible for falling in love with someone else, but you\u2019re both responsible for the reconstruction of your marriage.<\/p>\n

Lavorate sulla comunicazione. Siate onesti l'uno con l'altro e parlate di tutto ci\u00f2 che vorreste cambiare nella vostra relazione.<\/p>\n

Per cominciare, ricominciate a frequentarvi. Ricordate perch\u00e9 vi siete innamorati l'uno dell'altra e impegnatevi per riaccendere quei sentimenti.<\/p>\n

Let me be honest: You won\u2019t see any difference right away.<\/p>\n

This will be a long and demanding process, but if you\u2019re both really eager to salvare il vostro matrimonio infelice<\/a>, you\u2019ll succeed.<\/p>\n

5. Make sure this doesn\u2019t happen again<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Infine, fate in modo che una cosa del genere non accada mai pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow yourself to fall into the trap of falling for someone else once more. Because if you do, you\u2019re definitely in the wrong marital union.<\/p>\n

Solo perch\u00e9 il vostro coniuge vi ha perdonato per il vostro infedelt\u00e0 emotiva<\/a>, it doesn\u2019t mean they\u2019ve given you the green light to continue going behind their back.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t see this as an opportunity to fool around.<\/p>\n

Fidatevi di me: Questa \u00e8 la tua ultima occasione e ti conviene sfruttarla bene!<\/p>\n

Se decidete di porre fine al vostro matrimonio<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Essere certi che si tratta di ci\u00f2 che si vuole<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Again, even if you decide to file for divorce, you should be completely positive that you\u2019re making the right decision.<\/p>\n

First and foremost, this decision shouldn\u2019t depend on this third person and the relationship you have with them. It should be solely based on your emotions and thoughts regarding your marriage.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t separate from your spouse just because you have somewhere to go.<\/p>\n

Do it only if you know deep down that you don\u2019t love them anymore (and see no hope of your emotions ever coming back) and are certain that you can\u2019t do anything to save your marriage.<\/p>\n

Remember that decisions like this are final and that there is no going back. Make the right decision with a cool head \u2013 not in the heat of the moment.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t do it while you\u2019re arguing with your spouse or just because you\u2019re angry at them at that given moment.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow others to influence you, and be aware that you\u2019re about to make some drastic changes in your life.<\/p>\n

2. Smettere di idealizzare il nuovo partner<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Now that you\u2019re certain that you want a divorce, it\u2019s time to think about this new person in your life. First and foremost, you have to stop idealizing them and get back to real life.<\/p>\n

Yes, everything between you two might be sunshine and rainbows now. Scientifically, this is called a halo effect \u2013 when you see someone in the best possible light.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, questo \u00e8 esattamente il modo in cui \u00e8 iniziato anche il vostro primo matrimonio, giusto?<\/p>\n

Ogni inizio \u00e8 bello e incantevole. Tuttavia, bisogna rendersi conto che \u00e8 improbabile che le cose rimangano cos\u00ec per sempre.<\/p>\n

Pertanto, se finite con questa nuova persona, sappiate che anche la vostra relazione a lungo termine o il vostro matrimonio con lei, prima o poi, finir\u00e0 nel dimenticatoio, proprio come \u00e8 successo con il vostro primo matrimonio.<\/p>\n

You will get tired of each other and there will be times when they\u2019ll annoy you.<\/p>\n

So, if you\u2019re making this step just because you\u2019re hooked on butterflies, think again.<\/p>\n

3. Chiedere il divorzio<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Now it\u2019s time for the hardest part-time to tell everything to your husband or wife.<\/p>\n

Anche quando si perde ogni emozione nei confronti di una persona, guardarla negli occhi e dirle che non la si ama pi\u00f9 \u00e8 sempre una scena straziante, quindi preparatevi al duro momento che vi aspetta.<\/p>\n

Be prepared for a lot of tears \u2013 perhaps even insults and name-calling. However, you messed things up and you have to deal with the consequences.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get into details, but do tell the other side that you are in love with someone new. This way, they\u2019ll understand that you\u2019re deadly serious.<\/p>\n

Ask them not to blame this third person. Tell them that you couldn\u2019t control yourself, that you hadn\u2019t planned any of this to happen, but that it did.<\/p>\n

That said, don\u2019t ask for their pity either. Don\u2019t play the victim. You are the bad guy in this story, after all.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re breaking your spouse\u2019s heart. You\u2019re leaving them, breaking all the promises you made to them.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s natural that they will be angry, disappointed, shocked, and betrayed. And that is their right.<\/p>\n

Non \u00e8 quindi il momento di dare la colpa a nessuno o di chiudere.<\/p>\n

Even though I\u2019m sure that your spouse is also responsible for some bad things in your marriage, being unfaithful is something you chose to do and you\u2019re the only one guilty for it.<\/p>\n

4. Take care of your children’s well-being<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

If you and your significant other have kids, it\u2019s important to agree on everything regarding them.<\/p>\n

I know that you\u2019re overwhelmed with your mess right now, but don\u2019t forget the fact that all of this will bring changes to their lives as well and also hurt them.<\/p>\n

So, do your best to ensure your children go unharmed and to preserve their well-being. It\u2019s traumatic enough for them to see their parents getting a divorce.<\/p>\n

If you have some issues with your soon to be ex-spouse, don\u2019t mix the kids up in them. Don’t argue over them and don\u2019t involve them to spite your significant other.<\/p>\n

At this point, your most important job is to show your ex and your kids that you\u2019re still a parent, even though you\u2019re no longer a marital partner.<\/p>\n

Aiutateli a separare queste due cose. Non pensate mai di trascurare i vostri figli.<\/p>\n

5. Valutare se \u00e8 possibile costruire una vita con questa nuova persona.<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Every person who is married yet in love with someone else thinks that they\u2019ll just jump into this new relationship the moment they sort things out in their marriage.<\/p>\n

However, just because you filed for divorce, it doesn\u2019t mean that you shouldn\u2019t think everything through regarding your new partner.<\/p>\n

Tutto questo \u00e8 solo infatuazione? O \u00e8 amore vero<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Vedete i loro difetti? O subite un effetto alone che vi porta a idealizzarli?<\/p>\n

\u00c8 solo una favola? O pu\u00f2 essere la vita reale?<\/p>\n

Questa persona non \u00e8 altro che la vostra carta per uscire di prigione da un brutto matrimonio infelice?<\/p>\n

Are the feelings you have for them just an excuse to get rid of the spouse you\u2019ve stopped loving ages ago?<\/p>\n

Or is this the real deal? Can you see yourself building a life with this new person? You\u2019re the only one who can make that call!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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