{"id":75995,"date":"2020-06-01T10:28:29","date_gmt":"2020-06-01T10:28:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=75995"},"modified":"2021-10-29T12:53:19","modified_gmt":"2021-10-29T12:53:19","slug":"i-segnali-di-allarme-di-un-fidanzato-dispotico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/i-segnali-di-allarme-di-un-fidanzato-dispotico\/","title":{"rendered":"18 segnali d'allarme di un fidanzato dispotico"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando si vede una donna che \u00e8 <\/span>trattare con un <\/span>narcisista<\/span><\/a> che le sta rovinando la vita, pensa tra s\u00e9 e s\u00e9: <\/span>Cosa sta facendo con lui?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

You wonder how come she couldn’t see the <\/span>bandiere rosse<\/span> and how she could have been so foolish to believe this guy’s lies. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ebbene, anche se la maggior parte di noi pensa il contrario, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che <\/b>I segni di un fidanzato dispotico<\/b> sono facili da perdere all'inizio. <\/b><\/p>\n

Tutti <\/span>persone manipolatrici<\/span><\/a>, compreso lui, nascondono la loro vera natura fino a quando non ti entrano nel cuore e ti trascinano in un'inchiesta. <\/span>relazione tossica<\/span><\/a> with them \u2013 one that you can’t get out of without difficulty. <\/span><\/p>\n

Well, that’s why we’re here \u2013 to save you from an awful fate all those tricked girls had to experience. <\/span><\/p>\n

We’re here to help you open your eyes through these 18 <\/span>I primi segnali di allarme di un fidanzato dispotico<\/span> many girls sadly don’t notice in time. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Critica tutto ci\u00f2 che fate<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

One of the first signs that you\u2019re dealing with a <\/span>persona di controllo<\/span> is your boyfriend’s constant critique. <\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be real here: When there is <\/span>amore vero<\/span> involved, your partner shouldn\u2019t lie to you, telling you that everything is going smoothly and that you\u2019re making all the right decisions, even though that couldn\u2019t be further from the truth. <\/span><\/p>\n

Invece, quelli che sono i vostri veri amici vi faranno notare le vostre azioni. Vi diranno quando avete fatto qualcosa di sbagliato; vi faranno notare i vostri errori in tempo.<\/span><\/p>\n

This especially goes for your life partner. He should be the one to spill you the harsh truth directly in the eye, even if it\u2019s the last thing you want to hear.<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ec, questo spesso include le critiche. Questo \u00e8 l'uomo che vuole che voi diventiate un <\/span>persona migliore<\/span><\/a>E lui ha il pieno diritto di dirvi la sua opinione e di essere onesto sul vostro comportamento e sulle vostre azioni.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, \u00e8 completamente diverso se il vostro intero, ovviamente.<\/span>relazione di controllo<\/span> si basa su questo tizio che critica ogni tua mossa e parola.<\/span><\/p>\n

In questo caso, non sta certo cercando di aiutarvi a migliorare o di influenzarvi in modo positivo; sta facendo del suo meglio per mettervi in difficolt\u00e0. <\/span><\/p>\n

Questo tizio deve fare un commento cattivo su ogni <\/span>piccola cosa<\/span> in your life. He doesn\u2019t like the way you look, dress, talk, behave, walk, eat, smell\u2026 <\/span><\/p>\n

Il pi\u00f9 delle volte vi sentite aggrediti da lui. In effetti, dopo un po' di tempo, si ha persino paura di fare qualcosa perch\u00e9 si sa che tipo di reazione ci si pu\u00f2 aspettare da lui. <\/span><\/p>\n

He humiliates your education, your world views are not right, you don\u2019t make enough money, you\u2019re not pretty enough, and the list goes on. Sounds familiar?<\/span><\/p>\n

Se \u00e8 cos\u00ec, una cosa \u00e8 chiara: quest'uomo sta facendo tutto questo intenzionalmente. Vuole che tu stia il pi\u00f9 male possibile con te stessa, in modo da poterti controllare con pi\u00f9 facilit\u00e0. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Vi ricatta emotivamente<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Whoever\u2019s experienced <\/span>ricatto emotivo<\/span><\/a> sa quanto sia doloroso e devastante affrontarlo.<\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, the problem with it is that you have a hard time identifying it and understanding that you\u2019re actually being blackmailed. <\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, once you do, it is usually too late. You\u2019re already trapped in an endless circle of torture, and you need a lot of time, energy, and effort to get yourself out of there.<\/span><\/p>\n

Che cos'\u00e8 in realt\u00e0 il ricatto emotivo? Si tratta di una tecnica in cui <\/span>persone manipolatrici<\/span> (nel tuo caso, il tuo <\/span>partner di controllo<\/span>) usano i sentimenti che provate per loro o il vostro senso di coscienza contro di voi. <\/span><\/p>\n

It usually starts with simple demands, which later on turn into threats once you don\u2019t answer them positively.<\/span><\/p>\n

For example, if your boyfriend emotionally blackmails you, he may threaten to leave you unless you do things his way \u2013 unless you listen to him. <\/span><\/p>\n

He\u2019ll probably make it clear that he\u2019ll stop loving you unless you obey him. However, things don\u2019t always end at this.<\/span><\/p>\n

In realt\u00e0, molti ricattatori emotivi si spingono oltre. Minacciano di fare qualcosa a se stessi o addirittura di prendere le loro <\/span>la propria vita<\/span> if you\u2019re the one who walks away from them or does something they don\u2019t agree with. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sembra orribile, lo so. La cosa peggiore \u00e8 che all'inizio ci si crede davvero e si lotta con queste terribili <\/span>sensi di colpa<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even if you doubt that their threats are actually real, there is always that tiny, deep voice inside of your head, wondering \u201cwhat if?\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

E se facesse davvero quello che ha promesso? Riuscireste a convivere con voi stesse se quest'uomo si facesse del male quando lo lasciate? <\/span><\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec, si finisce per rimanere con lui o per fare esattamente quello che lui vi ha detto di fare per paura. <\/span><\/p>\n

If this is something you\u2019re going through, be aware that this man knows you. He knows your vulnerabilities and weaknesses, and is using them in his favor. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Vi isola da tutti<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Ecco il pi\u00f9 <\/span>segno comune<\/span> di un <\/span>fidanzato dispotico<\/span>isolamento. Ogni ragazzo che cerca di controllarvi e manipolarvi far\u00e0 del suo meglio per farvi tagliare i ponti con tutti quelli che vi circondano. <\/span><\/p>\n

Potreste pensare che lo faccia perch\u00e9 vi ama tanto e vuole avervi solo per s\u00e9. Tuttavia, questo \u00e8 solo un inganno che vuole farvi credere.<\/span><\/p>\n

Please, don\u2019t feel flattered when a guy tries to control your social and family life. He is doing it because, this way, it\u2019s easier for him to control you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tutto questo inizia con il fatto che a lui non piacciono i vostri amici e <\/span>membri della famiglia<\/span>. Certo, questa \u00e8 la vostra gente e lui non ha l'obbligo di amarli, ma di certo dovrebbe rispettarli.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, prima che ve ne accorgiate, le sue opinioni e i suoi atteggiamenti nei confronti del vostro <\/span>persone care<\/span> iniziare a influenzare anche voi. <\/span><\/p>\n

You might not see it at first, but after a while, you notice that you\u2019re growing apart from them and that adopting your boyfriend\u2019s views.<\/span><\/p>\n

Naturalmente, questo ragazzo non vi dice mai le sue intenzioni finali. Invece, vi fa credere che sta cercando di aprirvi gli occhi.<\/span><\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t want you going out at night and coming home late because he is worried about your health. <\/span><\/p>\n

Vuole che smettiate di frequentare quella particolare folla perch\u00e9 hanno una cattiva influenza su di voi che siete assolutamente perfetti. <\/span><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Ogni volta che uscite senza di lui, fa in modo di rovinarvi la serata. Si arrabbia o si deprime dopo, oppure vi chiama nel bel mezzo del vostro appuntamento con gli amici perch\u00e9 ha un'emergenza che solo voi potete risolvere.<\/span><\/p>\n

Di conseguenza, si perde la volont\u00e0 di <\/span>trascorrere il tempo libero<\/span> con altre persone perch\u00e9 si conosce l'esito e il clamore che ci aspetta quando lo si vede.<\/span><\/p>\n

Or your friends get tired of this behavior and they\u2019re the ones who end up cutting you off.<\/span><\/p>\n

Besides, all of a sudden, nobody around you is good enough. Your friends are potential backstabbers you shouldn\u2019t trust and are only jealous of you, and your family never appreciated you enough. <\/span><\/p>\n

In pratica, nessuno si preoccupa veramente di voi. In realt\u00e0, lui \u00e8 l'unico che vi ama veramente e vuole salvarvi da tutte le persone cattive che vi circondano. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che \u00e8 lui il cattivo della storia. Vuole isolarvi per potervi controllare con pi\u00f9 facilit\u00e0.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s actually pretty simple. If you have no one to talk to, the <\/span>persona di controllo<\/span> pu\u00f2 fare il lavaggio del cervello per farvi credere quello che vuole.<\/span><\/p>\n

Non avete <\/span>migliori amici<\/span><\/a> per dirvi che la vostra relazione non \u00e8 sana e per farvi mettere in discussione le sue mosse e il suo comportamento nei vostri confronti.<\/span><\/p>\n

Also, when you\u2019re fully isolated from the rest of the world, it will be much harder for you to leave him. You have no one to turn to, no one to support you, and you become completely dependent on him.  <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Si prende gioco di voi<\/h2>\n

\"Uomo<\/p>\n

Every girl likes a guy who can make her smile, and you\u2019re no exception. You enjoy starting a <\/span>nuova relazione<\/span><\/a> con un fidanzato in grado di farti piangere dalle risate. <\/span><\/p>\n

Inoltre, l'umorismo \u00e8 una parte importante di ogni relazione, comprese quelle sentimentali. Scaccia la negativit\u00e0, porta ottimismo e unisce la coppia. <\/span><\/p>\n

This is all true as long as we’re talking about healthy humor. The way your boyfriend jokes with you is everything but that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, most of the time, his jokes are intended to hurt you. They\u2019re inappropriate and inadequate. <\/span><\/p>\n

He is sarcastic and ironic. However, he\u2019s not like that to other people, so it is pretty obvious that his jokes are actually a mask for the insults directed towards you \u2013 that this is personal. <\/span><\/p>\n

A dire il vero, quest'uomo si sta prendendo gioco di voi. Non sta cercando di essere divertente e di certo non sta facendo del suo meglio per farvi ridere.<\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, whenever he\u2019s joking, he\u2019s actually humiliating you. He points out your flaws and ridicules you.<\/span><\/p>\n

The worst part is that he especially loves doing this when you two are surrounded by others. It\u2019s like he sadistically enjoys everyone laughing at you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sfrutta ogni occasione per usare le vostre ferite pi\u00f9 profonde e i vostri segreti pi\u00f9 oscuri contro di voi. Quest'uomo conosce le vostre insicurezze e le usa come base per le sue battute. <\/span><\/p>\n

He mocks you and embarrasses you all the time. Basically, this guy is bullying you and there is nothing you\u2019re doing about it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even when you confront him about his behavior and tell him straightforwardly that you don\u2019t feel comfortable when he jokes like this, making fun of your sensitivity. <\/span><\/p>\n

He tells you that he is only goofing around, that he isn\u2019t trying to hurt your feelings, that you should chill and toughen up a little. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. \u00c8 paranoico sulla vostra fedelt\u00e0<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Quando si avvia per la prima volta un <\/span>nuova relazione<\/span>, you\u2019ll probably find this guy’s jealousy kind of cute. You\u2019ll be happy that this man you\u2019ve just met is obviously head over heels for you and wants you all for himself.<\/span><\/p>\n

In effetti, la maggior parte delle ragazze trova carina la gelosia negli ultimi anni. <\/span>fasi della loro relazione sentimentale<\/span><\/a>. They see it as proof of their partner\u2019s enormous love for them.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all, this man is clearly afraid of losing you. In fact, if he couldn\u2019t care less whether or not you leave him and trade him for someone else, it can be a <\/span>segnale di avvertimento<\/span> that he doesn\u2019t care about you either. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, esiste un'enorme differenza tra la gelosia sana e la gelosia possessiva. Quando si ha un <\/span>fidanzato dispotico<\/span>, vi terrorizza con quest'ultimo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quest'uomo non \u00e8 solo geloso, \u00e8 anche paranoico sulla vostra fedelt\u00e0. Vede ogni ragazzo che vi sta vicino come una potenziale minaccia e qualcuno con cui potreste scherzare alle sue spalle. <\/span><\/p>\n

All'inizio vi siete sentiti lusingati da questo. Ma dopo un po', voi stessi lo vedete come un enorme problema.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your boyfriend doesn\u2019t allow you to have <\/span>amici maschi<\/span><\/a>. He makes a big fuss when he sees that you\u2019re talking with your <\/span>amici maschi<\/span> o colleghi, e accusa ognuno di loro di essere innamorato di lei. <\/span><\/p>\n

He literally follows your eyes to see where and who you\u2019re looking at. He accuses you of flirting with the guy at the supermarket, the hotel reception, and every other man you have any contact with whatsoever. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c8 pi\u00f9 che evidente che quest'uomo non ha alcuna fiducia in lei. Presume che lei gli sarebbe infedele alla prima occasione, quando in realt\u00e0 \u00e8 l'ultima cosa che le passa per la testa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mette in dubbio la sua moralit\u00e0 ed \u00e8 convinto che lei lo sostituirebbe con qualsiasi altro ragazzo. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. \u00c8 ossessionato dai vostri ex-fidanzati<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s not the worst. Your boyfriend is not only <\/span>geloso<\/span><\/a> di altri uomini che sono presenti nella sua vita ora, sta anche litigando con lei per il suo passato. <\/span><\/p>\n

This man can\u2019t seem to accept that you had a life before him. He is obsessed with each one of your previous relationships and <\/span>ex fidanzati<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Vuole conoscere ogni singolo dettaglio di tutto ci\u00f2 che avete fatto prima di lui.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not only that, he lives in a constant state of paranoia that you\u2019ll go back to one of your exes \u2013 that he is nothing more than a rebound \u2013 despite the fact that you two have been together for ages. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ti tortura pretendendo che tu gli dica ogni cosa che ti viene in mente. <\/span>piccola cosa<\/span> delle vostre relazioni prima di lui. Poi, una volta scoperto tutto quello che vuole sapere, lo usa contro di voi e ve lo sbatte in faccia. <\/span><\/p>\n

This guy is actually comparing himself with all of your exes. He wants to make sure that you\u2019ve never loved anyone the way you love him.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c8 un <\/span>narcisista<\/span> che cerca una costante convalida. Vuole che gli confermiate che lui \u00e8 l'unico per voi, che tutti i vostri precedenti fidanzati sono stati degli errori e che nessuno di loro ha significato qualcosa per voi.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t even think of staying on friendly terms with any of your exes. Your boyfriend goes crazy even when he sees you greeting them in the street or following them on social media. <\/span><\/p>\n

7. Vi lascia in debito<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Il problema con <\/span>controllare le persone<\/span> \u00e8 che non sembrano mai tali a prima vista. Al contrario, <\/span>controllare gli uomini<\/span> di solito si presentano all'inizio come troppo belli per essere veri.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you first met your boyfriend, you thought all of your dreams finally came true and couldn’t dream of finding yourself in a <\/span>relazione di controllo<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

You couldn\u2019t believe that you were so lucky to meet a man as perfect as him. <\/span><\/p>\n

Era <\/span>romantico<\/span><\/a>, gave you attention, did you favors, and was there for you, no matter what. This man even bought you presents and offered you his help even when you didn\u2019t ask him to do so. <\/span><\/p>\n

Naturalmente, pensavate a lui come a un dono del cielo. Era convinta che stesse facendo tutto questo a causa del suo cuore gentile e della profondit\u00e0 delle sue emozioni per lei.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, tutto questo era in realt\u00e0 solo una parte del suo piano pi\u00f9 grande, in cui aveva l'intenzione di manipolarvi. <\/span><\/p>\n

Il tuo ragazzo ha fatto le faccende di casa per te, ti ha prestato dei soldi, ti ha dato dei consigli e ha risolto tutti i tuoi problemi solo per poterti lasciare in debito.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong. I\u2019m not talking about any kind of material debt here. I\u2019m talking about emotional debt this <\/span>maniaco del controllo<\/span><\/a> imposto a voi. <\/span><\/p>\n

As time has gone on, you can\u2019t seem to repay this man for everything he\u2019s done for you. He constantly reminds you of all the good things you owe him and puts you on endless <\/span>sensi di colpa<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is obvious his intentions were never sincere. He never gave you anything from the goodness of his heart, otherwise he wouldn\u2019t be using every opportunity he gets to rub it in your face. <\/span><\/p>\n

He expects your eternal gratitude. It\u2019s like you should allow him to treat you the way he wants just for the sake of all of the favors he\u2019s done for you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even though you should definitely appreciate his sacrifices, it\u2019s important to remember that you never asked him for anything. Basically, you owe him nothing.<\/span><\/p>\n

Leaving you in debt is one of this man\u2019s ways to control and emotionally blackmail you. By doing this, he is making sure you\u2019ll never leave him. <\/span><\/p>\n

8. \u00c8 molto insicuro<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Un altro dei <\/span>I primi segnali di un fidanzato dispotico<\/span> \u00e8 la sua insicurezza, che \u00e8 comune anche ai <\/span>narcisisti<\/span> (e probabilmente lo \u00e8).<\/span><\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 in realt\u00e0 comune a tutte le persone manipolatrici e tossiche, cos\u00ec come a <\/span>maniaci del controllo<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even though they appear to be self-confident, deep down, they\u2019re actually struggling with deep issues the world knows nothing about. <\/span><\/p>\n

To the casual eye, you don\u2019t notice that this <\/span>l'uomo \u00e8 insicuro<\/span><\/a>. He will carefully hide his traumas and weaknesses, and he\u2019ll never expose his vulnerabilities in front of you.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll probably see him as this alpha male and tough guy. In fact, you\u2019ll be proud of his dominance and think that you\u2019ve finally found yourself a real man.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, as time goes by, you\u2019ll realize the devastating truth. You\u2019ll see that this guy actually has deeply rooted <\/span>autostima<\/span> problemi, che lui proietta su di voi. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your boyfriend is actually intimidated by you. He thinks that you\u2019re a <\/span>persona migliore<\/span> than him. Deep down, he thinks he doesn\u2019t deserve you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec, invece di lavorare su se stesso per diventare migliore e degno del vostro amore, fa qualcosa di completamente diverso.<\/span><\/p>\n

He puts all efforts into dragging you down to his level, since it\u2019s the only way for him not to feel inferior. <\/span><\/p>\n

Vuole distruggere la tua sicurezza e trasformarti in una donna insicura, perch\u00e9 solo cos\u00ec potr\u00e0 sentirsi alla tua altezza. <\/span><\/p>\n

Also, he lives in constant fear that you\u2019ll eventually <\/span>rottura<\/span> con lui.<\/span><\/p>\n

He is terrified that sooner or later you\u2019ll discover his true colors, realize that you can do better, see that he is not enough for you, and walk away from this relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

Basically, your boyfriend thinks that he has to manipulate you into staying with him. He assumes that you would never be his girlfriend voluntarily and that he simply must control you if he doesn\u2019t want to lose you. <\/span><\/p>\n

9. Il suo amore \u00e8 condizionato<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Su una cosa non ci sono dubbi: <\/span>Il vero amore<\/span> \u00e8, tra le altre cose, incondizionata. Non ha nulla a che fare con il vostro background, la vostra istruzione, le vostre finanze o altro.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quando si ama qualcuno, lo si ama a prescindere da tutto.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re ready to accept this person at their worst, you love them despite their bad sides, you love their imperfections, and you\u2019d support and stand by them against the entire world. <\/span><\/p>\n

This kind of love can\u2019t be destroyed by anything or anyone. It is eternal and everlasting. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, these words can\u2019t describe the love your boyfriend feels for you, can they? In fact, this <\/span>guy’s love is actually conditional<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

First of all, this man doesn\u2019t love you when you\u2019re not up to his standards. He doesn\u2019t act like he loves you when you\u2019re not perfect and he certainly doesn\u2019t love your flaws.<\/span><\/p>\n

He can\u2019t stand you when you\u2019re feeling down or going through some hardships. He is nowhere to be found when you\u2019re nervous, depressed, or in any kind of pain.<\/span><\/p>\n

Inoltre, un altro <\/span>bandiera rossa<\/span> La segnalazione di un amore malsano \u00e8 costituita dalle condizioni che vi pone direttamente. Vuole che facciate tutto a modo suo e vi manipola per costringervi ad ascoltarlo.<\/span><\/p>\n

For example, if he doesn\u2019t want you to go out with your friends tonight, he threatens to cancel the date plans you two have for tomorrow night if you disobey him and see your friends despite his wishes. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t stop wearing short skirts he explicitly forbids you to wear, he\u2019ll stop being nice to your parents and siblings. <\/span><\/p>\n

Most importantly: if you don\u2019t do everything his way, he\u2019ll stop loving you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Beh, lasciate che vi dica una cosa: se l'amore \u00e8 reale, non c'\u00e8 assolutamente nulla che l'altra persona possa fare perch\u00e9 le vostre emozioni si spengano. Pertanto, questo non \u00e8 altro che un tentativo di controllarvi. <\/span><\/p>\n

10. Si aspetta che seguiate ciecamente le sue indicazioni<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Secondo quest'uomo, dovreste fare come dice lui e non avete il diritto di fare le vostre scelte. <\/span>decisioni proprie<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

He is the one who knows what\u2019s best for you, the one who will show you the way, and the one who is doing everything for your own good. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c8 la persona pi\u00f9 intelligente, pi\u00f9 saggia e pi\u00f9 competente. \u00c8 la persona che dovete ascoltare e di cui dovete seguire l'esempio. <\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, most of the time, this man doesn\u2019t act like your boyfriend or romantic partner. He doesn\u2019t treat you as his <\/span>fidanzata<\/span><\/a>ma come sua figlia che deve crescere e fare da genitore. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your boyfriend doesn\u2019t want equality in your relationship. In fact, he expects you to always be one step behind him.<\/span><\/p>\n

He wants you to see him as your savior and the light at the end of the tunnel. Not only that, he also convinces you that you couldn\u2019t make it without him in life and that you need him to function properly. <\/span><\/p>\n

He can\u2019t accept that there are times when you disagree with him, that you have some opinions and attitudes that differ from his, and that you don\u2019t follow him blindly through life. <\/span><\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t want you to have your own judgment-making skills, which have nothing to do with him. He doesn\u2019t allow you to make your <\/span>decisioni proprie<\/span> e vuole diventare la vostra guida e l'unica guida di cui avete bisogno. <\/span><\/p>\n

11. Si lamenta di essere stato trascurato emotivamente<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Quando c'\u00e8 <\/span>amore vero<\/span><\/a> coinvolti, avete questo impulso incontrollabile di spendere tutti i vostri <\/span>tempo libero<\/span> con loro.<\/span><\/p>\n

Per quanto affetto e attenzione vi dia questa persona, ne volete sempre di pi\u00f9 e vi sembra di non averne mai abbastanza di questa persona speciale.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, as soon as this infatuation passes, you realize that under these terms, you’re headed towards a <\/span>relazione tossica<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

You continue loving your romantic partner, but you become aware that the two of you are separate individuals and that him not giving you undivided attention for a moment doesn\u2019t necessarily have to mean that he stopped loving you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, no matter how much effort you put into your boyfriend, he constantly complains about the lack of emotions and attention he\u2019s been getting from you.<\/span><\/p>\n

He tells you that he feels emotionally neglected and alone every time you get engaged in a single activity that doesn\u2019t include him. <\/span><\/p>\n

At first, he represents himself as this lonely, deserted, poor man whom you don\u2019t love enough. However, after a while, you\u2019ll realize that this is actually a part of that isolation process we already talked about. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quest'uomo \u00e8 un <\/span>maestro <\/span>manipolatore<\/span><\/a>, don\u2019t forget that. Besides, he is your long term boyfriend, so it is natural that he knows the core of your being.<\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, he counts on you feeling guilty for making him feel the way he tells you he does. He\u2019s counting on you cutting off more and more people so you can give him all the attention you need. <\/span><\/p>\n

He is deliberately destroying all of your get-togethers, hobbies, and interests that don\u2019t include him. <\/span><\/p>\n

He knows that the next time, for example, someone asks you out, you\u2019ll say \u201cno\u201d because it\u2019s the only way to prevent the consequences of him complaining.<\/span><\/p>\n

And before you know it, you\u2019ll lose all of your contacts and be stuck with only him. <\/span><\/p>\n

12. Si preoccupa delle vostre finanze<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Quando <\/span>siete sposati<\/span><\/a> or living together with your boyfriend, it\u2019s natural that you share expenses. You split the rent and bills, and agree on other bills. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, even in that case scenario, you should have some money for yourself. After all, you shouldn\u2019t be in a situation where you ask your husband for pocket money, like you are a little child.<\/span><\/p>\n

Questo vale soprattutto se avete una vostra fonte di reddito.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, even if you\u2019re a stay-at-home wife or mum, you\u2019re doing your part of the job by taking care of the household, so you deserve to have some money as well.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, you\u2019re in neither of these situations. We\u2019re talking about your partner here.<\/span><\/p>\n

It means that you two probably don\u2019t live together or share a wallet. You earn your own money and he does the same. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don\u2019t go around asking him to feed you or to buy you things. You don\u2019t expect him to financially support you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, despite all of this, your boyfriend nags about your finances. He is upset when you spend money on something he wouldn\u2019t, when you don\u2019t save enough, or when you buy something he thinks you don\u2019t need. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s one thing if you\u2019re financially irresponsible and he is just giving you advice. After all, he is supposed to share his life with you and he doesn\u2019t want to do it with a woman who doesn\u2019t know how to handle money.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, these are not your boyfriend\u2019s motives. The truth is this guy can\u2019t stand the fact that you\u2019re financially independent and self-sufficient, and don\u2019t need his help when it comes to money. <\/span><\/p>\n

Besides, he would be delighted if you stopped working. No, he is not telling you to quit your job once you\u2019re married because he wants to take care of you and spare you the hard work.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lo fa perch\u00e9 sarebbe un altro modo per controllarvi. Dopo tutto, se non avete soldi, avete meno possibilit\u00e0 di lamentarvi.<\/span><\/p>\n

Non avete un posto dove andare se scegliete di <\/span>rottura<\/span> with him. You can\u2019t move an inch without him knowing it. And just like that, he has full control over all aspects of your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

13. Si d\u00e0 la colpa<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Come si \u00e8 gi\u00e0 detto, una delle <\/span>I primi segnali di allarme di un fidanzato dispotico<\/span> \u00e8 il fatto che gioca con la vostra coscienza. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quest'uomo ti conosce troppo bene. Sa come giocare con i tuoi <\/span>salute mentale<\/span>che da solo \u00e8 un segno sufficiente di un <\/span>relazione malsana<\/span> e non <\/span>amore vero<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

According to him, he\u2019s never to blame for anything bad in your relationship. Even when he makes a mistake and admits it, somehow he manages to turn the tables. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quindi, alla fine sei tu che l'hai provocato per trattarti male, oppure lui ti stava solo ripagando per qualcosa che hai fatto secoli fa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Basically, whenever something goes wrong or downhill, it\u2019s always your fault. There\u2019s no scenario in which this <\/span>ragazzo che controlla<\/span><\/a> si assume la sua parte di responsabilit\u00e0 e voi ricevete l'amnistia dalla colpa. <\/span><\/p>\n

At the end of the day, no matter what happens, you\u2019re always the one who apologizes, begs for his forgiveness, and can\u2019t sleep peacefully because of her mistakes. <\/span><\/p>\n

14. Vi perseguita<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

We already concluded that your boyfriend is insanely jealous. However, things don\u2019t end there. The fact is, this <\/span>ragazzo che controlla<\/span> Anche in questo modo vi perseguita. <\/span><\/p>\n

It all started with your social media profiles. For as long as you can remember, he\u2019s been so obsessed with your activity there and wondering who you’ve been <\/span>sms<\/span> o con cui chiacchierare.<\/span><\/p>\n

He always questions your likes, the details of your direct messages, your followers and friends on social media. Whenever you post something, he wonders if it\u2019s actually a subliminal message to some other man. <\/span><\/p>\n

Controlla costantemente il vostro stato online e se leggete le sue <\/span>messaggi di testo<\/span> or not. If you don\u2019t reply to him in seconds, chaos ensues. <\/span><\/p>\n

He uses different techniques to try and get to the bottom of all of your online activity. You\u2019ve caught him <\/span>snooping<\/span> sul telefono e sul portatile, alla ricerca di <\/span>messaggi di testo<\/span> e la cronologia delle ricerche pi\u00f9 di una volta. <\/span><\/p>\n

Il vostro ragazzo sarebbe la persona pi\u00f9 felice del mondo se condivideste con lui tutte le vostre password. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, that\u2019s not something you want to agree upon, which he finds extremely suspicious and sees as a <\/span>bandiera rossa<\/span> che lei deve nascondere qualcosa.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, his stalking practices don\u2019t end with social media only. In fact, he follows you around in real life as well.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not just that he knows your habits by heart. He also demands that you text him every time you change location and regularly inform him of your whereabouts.<\/span><\/p>\n

No, he\u2019s not doing it because he worries about your well-being. He\u2019s not doing it because he is attentive or scared for your safety.<\/span><\/p>\n

He does it so he can use that information against you \u2013 so he can stalk you with more ease. <\/span><\/p>\n

Whenever you go out without him, he \u201caccidentally\u201d shows up at the place he knows you\u2019re at. When you go shopping with your girlfriends, he just so happened to be \u201cpassing through\u201d that mall you\u2019re in. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you\u2019re on your lunch break, he makes sure you don\u2019t spend it with your male coworkers.<\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, that\u2019s \u201ccoincidentally\u201d the exact time in which he can take some time off from work, so he\u2019d be more than happy to keep you company. <\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, whenever you confront your boyfriend about this behavior, he tries to convince you that you\u2019re imagining things. It\u2019s just mere coincidence and you\u2019re blowing it all out of proportion. <\/span><\/p>\n

Forse non volete ammetterlo, ma questo tipo di comportamento \u00e8 malato e potenzialmente pericoloso. Questo ragazzo sta saltando fuori dal cespuglio e si comporta come un sociopatico. <\/span><\/p>\n

15. Pensa di avere sempre ragione<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

A <\/span>uomo di controllo<\/span> doesn\u2019t only want to control your actions, body, and life. The worst part is that he will do his best to control your emotions, thoughts, heart, and mind as well.<\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, according to him, you always have to agree with everything he says or does. He is always right and you\u2019re always wrong \u2013 end of discussion. <\/span><\/p>\n

He is trying to brainwash you into thinking that he is the most intelligent person in this world. No matter what, he always knows what he\u2019s doing and your function in life is to nod your head to everything he says.<\/span><\/p>\n

Basically, this man doesn\u2019t let you have an opinion of your own. You have to think with his brain, adopt his attitudes, and follow his moral values. <\/span><\/p>\n

16. Non vi concede alcuna privacy<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re in a relationship, you and your boyfriend become one. You\u2019re united and if you plan something serious, you go through life hand in hand as <\/span>migliori amici<\/span>, confidenti e partner nel crimine.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, that doesn\u2019t mean you lose your right to privacy the moment you become someone\u2019s girlfriend or still don’t have your <\/span>la propria vita<\/span>.  <\/span><\/p>\n

You can spend your entire life beside this man, yet you\u2019re still two separate individuals and no romantic relationship can erase that. <\/span><\/p>\n

The problem with your partner is that he doesn\u2019t give you any privacy or <\/span>tempo libero<\/span> \u2013 and that is one of the <\/span>segni di una BF controllante<\/span>. Vuole conoscere ogni minimo dettaglio della vostra vita, compreso il vostro passato. <\/span><\/p>\n

Infatti, si arrabbia quando gli nascondete dei segreti che non riguardano voi ma altre persone. Si aspetta che gli parliate di tutto ci\u00f2 che vi riguarda. <\/span>migliori amici<\/span> e <\/span>membri della famiglia<\/span> dirvi. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t do anything without having to inform him first. You have no right to personal time and space. <\/span><\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t get that sometimes you have the need to be alone with yourself, that you don\u2019t have the urge to spend every second of your life with him, and that it doesn\u2019t mean your need for personal time and space is a <\/span>bandiera rossa<\/span> that you don\u2019t love him anymore. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re monitored 24\/7 and all that\u2019s left is for this man to physically enter your brain and inhabit your thoughts as well \u2013 something he would definitely do if he had the chance to. <\/span><\/p>\n

17. Vuole cambiare tutto di te<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Quando un <\/span>l'uomo ti ama davvero<\/span><\/a>, he accepts you with all of your imperfections. Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not saying that this man will enjoy your mood swings, nervousness, and other unflattering parts of your personality.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, he will love them because they make you, you. You wouldn\u2019t be the same if it weren\u2019t for these parts too.<\/span><\/p>\n

Most importantly, when a man really loves you, he won\u2019t try to change you. He will be your inspiration to be a <\/span>persona migliore,<\/span> ma non modificher\u00e0 mai l'essenza della vostra personalit\u00e0.<\/span><\/p>\n

Un uomo che ama non cercher\u00e0 mai di rimodellarvi per adattarsi ai suoi standard. Non cercher\u00e0 mai di spezzare il vostro spirito o di uccidere la persona che eravate prima di incontrarlo.<\/span><\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t see you as a project but as a human being made of flesh and blood. He is not in love with your potential and the woman he could make out of you, but with exactly who you are. <\/span><\/p>\n

Al contrario, il tuo ragazzo sta facendo tutto il possibile per cambiarti, e questo \u00e8 un <\/span>allarme precoce<\/span> di un <\/span>relazione malsana<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

He obviously can\u2019t come to terms with the fact that there are some parts of your personality he has no impact on and, most importantly, can\u2019t control. <\/span><\/p>\n

18. \u00c8 abusivo<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Controllo delle relazioni<\/span> sono anche spesso <\/span>relazioni abusive<\/span><\/a>. However, when people hear the words \u201c<\/span>partner violento<\/span>,\u201d they automatically think about <\/span>abuso fisico<\/span>: pugni, schiaffi, colpi, e <\/span>violenza domestica<\/span> in generale. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, oltre all'abuso fisico, esistono molte altre forme di abuso, tra cui quello psicologico e <\/span>abuso emotivo<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

What I\u2019m trying to tell you is that your boyfriend doesn\u2019t have to physically hurt you in order to be classified as an <\/span>partner violento<\/span>anche se uno dei pi\u00f9 importanti <\/span>segni comuni di un fidanzato dispotico<\/span> \u00e8 anche violenza. <\/span><\/p>\n

You see, when a weak guy like him doesn\u2019t get what he wants, he resorts to abusive practices. He can\u2019t accept that he hasn\u2019t managed to control you fully, so he loses his nerve and flips out completely. <\/span><\/p>\n

A man like this doesn\u2019t have the necessary strength to argue with you in a mature way. He doesn\u2019t have the capacity to fight against his own urges. <\/span><\/p>\n

Il tuo <\/span>partner di controllo<\/span> non \u00e8 un essere umano razionale. \u00c8 un <\/span>manipolatore<\/span> and an animal who will become dangerous in the future \u2013 if that hasn\u2019t happened already.<\/span><\/p>\n

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