{"id":77152,"date":"2020-06-05T13:34:28","date_gmt":"2020-06-05T13:34:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=77152"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:14:53","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:14:53","slug":"smettere-di-cercare-di-essere-perfetti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/smettere-di-cercare-di-essere-perfetti\/","title":{"rendered":"Smettere di cercare di essere perfette per uomini imperfetti"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Ovunque si guardi, si vedr\u00e0 pi\u00f9 o meno lo stesso messaggio.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll see magazine covers, TV shows \u2013 the entire media \u2013 telling you how to become more attractive to men, how to look better, how to behave in a relationship, and how to keep a guy.<\/p>\n<p>In pratica, <strong>dal momento in cui si diventa coscienti di s\u00e9, il mondo ci dice come essere fidanzata e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/e-una-donna-da-sposare-10-segnali-che-indicano-che-hai-trovato-quella-giusta\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">materiale per mogli<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Si potrebbe pensare che, nel corso del tempo, le cose siano cambiate e che il messaggio che riceviamo oggi sia diverso da quello promosso dai media qualche decennio fa\".<\/p>\n<p>However, if you dig a little deeper, you\u2019ll see that we haven\u2019t evolved as much as we think we have.<\/p>\n<p>The advice may have a different wrapping paper but it\u2019s actually almost the same as it was in the past.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ovunque si guardi, esiste un'incredibile pressione sulle donne.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>We have to be good wives, amazing mothers, have a career while maintaining an immaculate household, and be innovative in the bedroom so our partner doesn\u2019t get bored.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77155\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-in-gray-tank-top.jpg\" alt=\"donna in canottiera grigia sdraiata sul letto con la mano sulla fronte\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-in-gray-tank-top.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-in-gray-tank-top-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-in-gray-tank-top-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>We also have to be great cooks and keep on top of our finances \u2013 all while wearing high heels, flawless makeup, and a fabulous hairdo.<\/p>\n<p>Lo stesso vale quando si tratta di <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/se-vuoi-conquistare-il-ragazzo-esci-come-un-ragazzo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">incontri<\/a> and romantic relationships. In fact, this is where it\u2019s most expected of women.<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t be too available, right? Otherwise, men will only want to sleep with you and dump you afterwards.<\/p>\n<p>However, you can\u2019t turn them down too often either. After all, nobody likes an unapproachable girl.<\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re married or in a committed relationship, it\u2019s pretty much your duty to make things work. It\u2019s your job to save a broken marriage and to make sure your partner doesn\u2019t walk away from you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Despite only being a human being, it appears that you\u2019re not allowed to make mistakes. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Ogni vostra mossa viene messa sotto la lente d'ingrandimento e osservata attentamente da tutto il mondo.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Quindi,<strong> what the world is trying to tell you is that you have to be flawless \u2013 mentally, physically and emotionally<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77156\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-in-white-long-sleeves.jpg\" alt=\"donna in maniche lunghe bianche seduta su un divano\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-in-white-long-sleeves.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-in-white-long-sleeves-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-in-white-long-sleeves-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re not allowed to have a bad day, to feel lousy, or to have cellulite, split ends, or be carrying a few extra pounds.<\/p>\n<p>Se avete delle imperfezioni, dovreste fare del vostro meglio per nasconderle. Questo se volete essere viste, ascoltate e scelte da un ragazzo.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What about those men your world seems to revolve around, though? I don\u2019t see any of them trying to reach perfection, do I now?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Sembra che alle ragazze sia stato insegnato a essere perfette per uomini imperfetti fin dalla pi\u00f9 tenera et\u00e0.<\/strong> Dov'\u00e8 la giustizia in questo?<\/p>\n<p>Most importantly \u2013 what\u2019s the point?<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t get me wrong: <strong>non vi sto dicendo di non lavorare su voi stessi. Non vi sto sconsigliando di migliorare voi stessi.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>On the contrary, I\u2019m all for your individual empowerment. I\u2019m rooting for you to become the best possible version of yourself.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77159\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/stylish-young-woman-resting.jpg\" alt=\"Giovane donna elegante che riposa nell&#039;area di attesa di un aeroporto\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/stylish-young-woman-resting.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/stylish-young-woman-resting-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/stylish-young-woman-resting-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, <strong>there is a big difference between making yourself better mentally, emotionally, and physically because you\u2019re the one who wants it and making all of these modifications to be more likeable to the opposite sex.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>There is a huge difference between changing some things YOU don\u2019t like about yourself and doing it so you can fit in the box or fulfill society\u2019s unrealistic standards and expectations.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re doing all of this for yourself, good for you. Carry on with the good work!<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, anche se lo siete, <strong>I have to disappoint you and tell you that such a thing as perfection doesn\u2019t exist.<\/strong> You can work on yourself but you\u2019ll always have some flaws.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, <strong>it\u2019s much better to accept and love those imperfections. After all, they\u2019re all a part of the person you are.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if you\u2019re doing all of this for the sake of one particular imperfect man or to please the entire opposite sex, stop it right there.<\/p>\n<p>Vi svelo un segreto: un ragazzo che si concentra sui vostri difetti e vuole cambiarli non \u00e8 quello giusto per voi. Anzi, <strong>il <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/solo-luomo-giusto-sara-abbastanza-paziente-da-restituirvi-la-fede-nellamore\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">uomo giusto<\/a> per voi non vi chieder\u00e0 mai di essere perfetti.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You know what the best part is? He\u2019ll love you just the way you are and you two will be imperfectly perfect together!<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-77163\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Stop-Trying-To-Be-Perfect-For-Imperfect-Men-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Smettere di cercare di essere perfette per uomini imperfetti\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Stop-Trying-To-Be-Perfect-For-Imperfect-Men-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Stop-Trying-To-Be-Perfect-For-Imperfect-Men-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Stop-Trying-To-Be-Perfect-For-Imperfect-Men-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Stop-Trying-To-Be-Perfect-For-Imperfect-Men-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Wherever you look, you\u2019ll see pretty much the same message. You\u2019ll see magazine covers, TV shows \u2013 the entire media \u2013 telling you how to become more attractive to men, how to look better, how to behave in a relationship, and how to keep a guy. Basically, from the moment you become self-conscious, the world&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":77164,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29648],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-77152","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-tips"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29648,"label":"dating tips"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Stop-Trying-To-Be-Perfect-For-Imperfect-Men.jpg",800,547,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29648,"name":"dating tips","slug":"dating-tips","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29648,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. 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