{"id":77745,"date":"2020-06-05T13:40:20","date_gmt":"2020-06-05T13:40:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=77745"},"modified":"2022-06-19T22:13:15","modified_gmt":"2022-06-19T22:13:15","slug":"i-segnali-di-allarme-di-una-moglie-assillante","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/i-segnali-di-allarme-di-una-moglie-assillante\/","title":{"rendered":"9 segnali di allarme di una moglie assillante (e come smettere di esserlo)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Una delle definizioni pi\u00f9 comuni di assillo \u00e8 “persistently annoying or finding fault with someone”<\/em>Quindi una moglie assillante sarebbe una combinazione dei seguenti elementi:<\/p>\n

– How many times have I told you not to put your socks under the bed?<\/em><\/p>\n

– Out of all the things on the grocery list, you forgot to buy the most important one!<\/em><\/p>\n

– Why am I always the one who has to take care and think of everything?<\/em><\/p>\n

– You’re not doing it right!<\/em><\/p>\n

– You said you would wash the dishes!<\/em><\/p>\n

The list of popular nagging phrases goes on and on… Does this sound familiar to you? If you fit the definition of a nagging wife, then I bet it does.<\/p>\n

Or if your wife’s nagging has become one of your top problemi di matrimonio<\/a>, allora \u00e8 sicuramente cos\u00ec.<\/p>\n

Before diving deeper into the essence of married life and the signs of a nagging wife, first let’s look at why some people have the urge to nag. So, here’s a simple question with a not that simple answer:<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 (alcune) donne fanno il nag?<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

No, nagging is not an inborn trait and it’s not something women WANT to do. And yes, both women and men can be naggers, so it’s not something that only relates to women.<\/p>\n

Women don’t wake up in the morning and just decide that today they will play the role of an angry wife or a quarrelsome wife for the sake of driving their own husbands insane.<\/p>\n

They don’t want to deal with constant nagging and it’s not something they enjoy (and sometimes they’re not even aware they\u2019re doing it).<\/p>\n

Come i loro mariti, anche loro vogliono vivere un matrimonio felice, ma la mancanza delle due cose seguenti lo rende difficile:<\/p>\n

a) Mancanza di comunicazione aperta<\/strong><\/p>\n

b) Mancanza di una conversazione onesta.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ora, ho l'impulso di ridefinire la definizione di moglie assillante in questo modo: “persistently annoying or finding fault with someone due to a lack of open and honest conversation”.<\/em><\/p>\n

Healthy communication is the root of a healthy and happy marriage, and is something married couples forget about or don’t pay attention to.<\/p>\n

If you’re a husband to a nagging wife, you probably think the following: Mia moglie mi assilla perch\u00e9 vuole farmi sentire meno degno e incapace<\/em>.<\/p>\n

But, the truth is that your wife nags because she’s trying to tell you how she feels about certain things.<\/p>\n

Per esempio, questa frase: Perch\u00e9 sono sempre io a dovermi occupare e pensare a tutto?<\/em> sarebbe molto diverso se ve lo dicesse: I’m sorry, but I’m really tired of always being the one who has to think of everything. I wish you were more engaging and supportive.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Se solo cambiasse tono, la frase suonerebbe automaticamente pi\u00f9 piacevole e non giudicante.<\/p>\n

Un altro motivo per cui le donne tendono a diventare assillanti \u00e8 il loro bisogno di avere il controllo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Questo si spiega meglio con il concetto di relazione genitore-figlio. Quindi, una moglie assillante in questa situazione sarebbe il genitore e il marito sarebbe il figlio.<\/p>\n

Just compare it with your childhood and you’ll understand it better. How many times did your mother or father tell you to take out the trash or make your bed?<\/p>\n

E quando vi dimenticavate di farlo, ve lo ricordavano di nuovo, ma questa volta con un tono assillante e vi sentivate come costretti a soddisfare le loro aspettative.<\/p>\n

The same thing goes with a nagging wife \u2013 the only difference is the things she’s nagging about. Usually they are the little things like socks, dishes, and forgetfulness.<\/p>\n

Poi i mariti raccontano ai loro amici qualcosa del genere: Mia moglie continua ad assillarmi perch\u00e9 passo troppo tempo con te \/ bevo troppo \/ non la aiuto con le faccende domestiche.<\/em><\/p>\n

Un matrimonio basato sull'assillo spesso porta alla consulenza matrimoniale, alla ricerca di consigli matrimoniali da parte di professionisti o al divorzio.<\/p>\n

While there’s nothing wrong with seeking help from marriage counselors, a divorce is something you want to prevent if you still care about each other.<\/p>\n

To help you with that, here is a list of signs you\u2019re a nagging wife and how to stop being one!<\/p>\n

9 Signs You\u2019re A Nagging Wife And What You Can Do To Change<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Chiedere sempre qualcosa pi\u00f9 di una volta<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Uno dei maggiori segnali di una moglie assillante \u00e8 la necessit\u00e0 di ripetere le cose non una, non due, ma pi\u00f9 volte.<\/p>\n

When you ask your husband to do something and he doesn’t do it, you assume that he didn’t hear you the first time, so you repeat your request a few more times, just in case.<\/p>\n

Pi\u00f9 si ripete, pi\u00f9 si assilla. Tuo marito si confonde completamente sul vero motivo dei tuoi continui richiami.<\/p>\n

He starts to feel like you don’t care whether he’s able to do it, if he has time, or if something else is bothering him. He becomes convinced that he’s not good enough and he never will be.<\/p>\n

COSA FARE<\/h3>\n

Invece di ripetere le richieste, \u00e8 sempre pi\u00f9 saggio chiedere a vostro marito qual \u00e8 esattamente il problema (se c'\u00e8) e cercare un modo per risolverlo insieme.<\/p>\n

If you don’t do that, your husband will only be able to think about the two following things:<\/p>\n

Proverbi 21, 9 \u201cIt is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Proverbi 27:15 \u201cA quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

It’s important to pay attention to the real reason why your husband hasn’t done something yet or why he refuses to do it.<\/p>\n

Is it because he doesn’t have time or is it because he’s not sure how to do it? It could also be laziness or forgetfulness.<\/p>\n

Whatever it is, nagging won’t help. What will help is dealing with the problem and trying to find an adequate solution for it.<\/p>\n

2. Utilizzare affermazioni che scatenano biasimo e accuse<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Ricordate le famose dichiarazioni della moglie assillante di cui abbiamo parlato all'inizio? Ecco, quelli sono esempi perfetti di affermazioni che scatenano biasimo e accuse.<\/p>\n

Dichiarazioni come Non lavi mai i piatti! O lasci sempre i calzini sotto il letto!<\/em> sono pieni di accuse e la parola chiave \u00e8 VOI<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

When you begin your sentences with \u2019you\u2019, you are directly criticizing and attacking your husband. Why is that bad?<\/p>\n

Because if you do that, he won’t focus on the real problem of washing the dishes, but instead he\u2019ll think about attacking him. He will feel rejected and resentful.<\/p>\n

COSA FARE<\/h3>\n

Invece di usare dichiarazioni che attivano colpa<\/a> and accusation or deciding to take things into your own hands, it’s important to redefine your questions.<\/p>\n

Invece di accusarlo di non lavare mai i piatti, provate a dirglielo: I’d like you to wash the dishes.<\/em><\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 un modo educato e gentile di dire cosa vi aspettate da vostro marito.<\/p>\n

Dicendogli questo, gli fate capire che vorreste che facesse qualcosa, invece di criticarlo solo perch\u00e9 non lo fa.<\/p>\n

Uno degli errori pi\u00f9 grandi che molte donne commettono \u00e8 pensare che i loro mariti leggano tra le righe quando dicono loro cose come: Non lavi mai i piatti!<\/em><\/p>\n

Even though this is a wife’s subtle attempt to motivate him to wash the dishes, he will not see it the same way.<\/p>\n

He will see it as something offensive and not productive. That’s why it is important to rephrase questions and think about the type of message you want to send to him.<\/p>\n

3. Sensazione di impotenza<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

People often think that their criticizing or nagging is justified because they’re doing it primarily because they’re worried about their partner.<\/p>\n

Ad esempio, se vostro marito \u00e8 un fumatore attivo e vorreste che smettesse di fumare.<\/p>\n

So, you remind him of that every day even though it’s evident he’s not going to quit anytime soon. That is when you start feeling helpless and start nagging even more.<\/p>\n

E quando suo marito le chiede che cosa le d\u00e0 fastidio e perch\u00e9 si comporta in quel modo, lei risponde qualcosa del tipo: It doesn’t matter.<\/em><\/p>\n

COSA FARE<\/h3>\n

First and foremost, you need to understand that you can’t change someone who is not willing to change themselves.<\/p>\n

Dovete imparare ad accettare le cose che non potete cambiare, perch\u00e9 questa \u00e8 l'essenza della vita. la vera felicit\u00e0<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You could nag your husband for the rest of your life about something, but if he himself hasn’t decided to stop doing it or to improve things, there’s nothing you can do about it.<\/p>\n

You could continue nagging, but by doing that you’ll make things even worse.<\/p>\n

Whenever you’re feeling helpless about something you want to change (even though you know you can’t), always remind yourself that the only person who can do it is THEM (in this context \u2013 HIM).<\/p>\n

(E a volte andare avanti \u00e8 inevitabile).<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: 12 segni di una donna dispotica<\/a><\/p>\n

4. Avere un forte impulso a controllare tutto ci\u00f2 che ci circonda<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 simile al precedente.<\/p>\n

Many spouses turn into control freaks (both men and women) and observe their partner’s every move, write down their every flaw, lack of effort, motivation and so on.<\/p>\n

They get this strong urge to control everything around them because if they’re not in control, they feel helpless and like a passive character in marriage.<\/p>\n

COSA FARE<\/h3>\n

Realize that you can’t control everything around you \u2013 the only thing you can is yourself.<\/p>\n

In realt\u00e0, l'impulso al controllo nasce da un profondo desiderio di cambiare se stessi e non le cose o le persone che ci circondano.<\/p>\n

Whenever you’re nagging about something, ask yourself if it\u2019s really what bothers you or if it is something else; something that is deeply rooted within you.<\/p>\n

Perhaps you’re not satisfied with your career or your appearance, or maybe you’re having difficulties with your family.<\/p>\n

All those things can be triggers to nagging behaviour and that’s why you need to pay close attention to them.<\/p>\n

5. Sentirsi come un genitore per il proprio partner<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

L'uguaglianza \u00e8 un aspetto che spesso viene trascurato nel matrimonio e nelle relazioni e c'\u00e8 sempre un partner che domina di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n

In questo caso, la moglie assillante si adatta al ruolo di genitore del marito.<\/p>\n

Questo ruolo comprende il controllo, il dominio, l'assillo e il seguire ogni loro mossa.<\/p>\n

Un matrimonio o una relazione non possono funzionare in questo modo perch\u00e9 uno dei due partner si sentir\u00e0 sempre meno degno e meno capace dell'altro.<\/p>\n

COSA FARE<\/h3>\n

A nagging wife needs to absorb the fact that she’s not a parent to her partner and she’ll never be (and she’s not supposed to be).<\/p>\n

If you feel like a parent to your partner, then there’s something more going on here.<\/p>\n

Perhaps your personalities are completely different and you’re the one who is more grown-up and responsible, whereas your husband is less mature and therefore less dominant.<\/p>\n

It’s important to understand that some people need more time to mature and treating them like a child won’t help. It will only farli impazzire<\/a>.<\/p>\n

6. Far sentire il partner rifiutato o risentito<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

L'assillo costante pu\u00f2 far un partner si sente rifiutato<\/a> and resentful. It’s when they decide to withdraw to their man cave (in this particular case) and they no longer seem present.<\/p>\n

They withdraw because they can’t stand constantly being criticized for something and never praised.<\/p>\n

E quando si allontanano, le donne spesso continuano ad assillarli perch\u00e9 sono ignoranti e non sono disposti a collaborare e a lavorare su se stessi.<\/p>\n

COSA FARE<\/h3>\n

Prestate attenzione a quante volte in un giorno o in una settimana assillate il vostro partner. Lo fate letteralmente ogni cinque minuti o ogni qualche ora?<\/p>\n

Invece di concentrarvi solo sui vostri sentimenti, pensate a come questo assillo influenzer\u00e0 la vostra relazione nel lungo periodo. \u00c8 possibile vivere felicemente in un ambiente cos\u00ec tossico?<\/p>\n

Come potete vedere, si trattava di una domanda retorica.<\/p>\n

Chiedetevi come vi sentite a far sentire il vostro partner rifiutato e risentito.<\/p>\n

Is it something you want to improve and change? If yes, then it’s high time you replaced nagging with an open and honest conversation.<\/p>\n

7. Essere concentrati solo sul partner<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Being only focused on your partner results in constant bickering about trivial things, or worrying about whether he’s going to forget your anniversario di matrimonio<\/a> even though you\u2019ve mentioned it thousand times so far.<\/p>\n

Il tutto si traduce in un assillo finale.<\/p>\n

COSA FARE<\/h3>\n

When you’re only focused on your partner, you fail to see your own quirks and flaws.<\/p>\n

Lord knows, no one is perfect. Because of that, we shouldn’t demand the impossible from our partners; we shouldn’t nag if we’re not ready to receive the same treatment in return.<\/p>\n

Both partners should primarily focus on themselves so that they don’t get tempted into being the dominant one.<\/p>\n

When you’re focused on yourself instead of only on your partner, you will distract yourself from potential nagging.<\/p>\n

In altre parole, vi mancher\u00e0 il materiale assillante (il che \u00e8 un'ottima cosa, no?).<\/p>\n

8. Mancanza di intimit\u00e0<\/a><\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Nagging is a serious libido killer and if you can’t remember the last time you and your partner were truly intimate, then you know whom you should blame for it.<\/p>\n

Constantly reminding your partner that they’re not doing something right will result in discontent and a huge gap between the two of you.<\/p>\n

Non ci saranno pi\u00f9 abbracci e baci calorosi perch\u00e9 l'assillo ha letteralmente ucciso tutto questo.<\/p>\n

S\u00ec.<\/p>\n

COSA FARE<\/h3>\n

Well, stop nagging and you’ll improve your intimacy! I know that it’s easier said than done, but the first step is being willing to stop nagging (especially about trivial things).<\/p>\n

Cominciate con l'abbracciare e baciare il vostro partner quando vi svegliate al mattino, perch\u00e9 \u00e8 probabile che non troviate nulla di cui lamentarvi cos\u00ec presto.<\/p>\n

Joking aside, try to shower your husband with warmth and comforting words from time to time, so that he sees you care about him and your “nagging personality” is not the real you.<\/p>\n

The real you is the woman who loves and cares about her husband and who wants the best for him. Let him know that and you’ll significantly improve your intimacy.<\/p>\n

9. Mancanza di fiducia e di rispetto per il partner<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Has your husband done something bad to you or hurt you one way or another so that you don’t trust him anymore?<\/p>\n

Have you lost respect for him because he didn’t treat you the way you deserve?<\/p>\n

If yes, nagging won’t help you with that either. Constantly demanding to know your partner’s whereabouts or nagging him about other things will only show how insecure you are.<\/p>\n

A lungo andare, voi e il vostro partner diventerete ancora pi\u00f9 infelici.<\/p>\n

COSA FARE<\/h3>\n

If you have difficulties trusting your partner, then think about the reasons why. Focus on finding the root of your nagging and you’ll fix the problem.<\/p>\n

Ne parli con suo marito e gli dica come si sente. Se non c'\u00e8 una conversazione aperta e onesta, c'\u00e8 anche una mancanza di fiducia e di rispetto.<\/p>\n

Once you improve the way you communicate with each other, you’ll also improve your marriage!<\/p>\n

Pensieri finali<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Imparare a smettere di essere una moglie assillante non \u00e8 qualcosa che si pu\u00f2 padroneggiare da un giorno all'altro. \u00c8 un processo che richiede molta pazienza, comprensione e ancora pazienza.<\/p>\n

What’s important is that you’re aware of the problem and you’re willing to work on it. And remember: Per far funzionare un matrimonio bisogna essere in due.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Vedi anche: 17 segni di un matrimonio infelice (e come risolverlo)<\/a><\/p>\n

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