{"id":79518,"date":"2020-06-10T13:38:25","date_gmt":"2020-06-10T13:38:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=79518"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:28:04","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:28:04","slug":"bisogna-essere-all-in-o-essere-all-out","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/bisogna-essere-all-in-o-essere-all-out\/","title":{"rendered":"O si \u00e8 tutti dentro o si \u00e8 tutti fuori: non ci sono mezze misure in amore"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b>L'amore non \u00e8 solo belle giornate. L'amore non \u00e8 solo anniversari e regali. L'amore \u00e8 tutto ci\u00f2 che sta nel mezzo.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whoever imagines a flawless, laughter-filled relationship with cutesy couple stuff, they\u2019re about to be disappointed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m not saying that relationships are disappointing. I\u2019m saying that people often have high expectations and weak effort.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tutto \u00e8 pi\u00f9 facile quando si immaginano situazioni e scenari nella propria testa. Tuttavia, <\/span><b>la realt\u00e0 \u00e8 un'altra.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Strong love requires strong foundations and it isn\u2019t found \u2013 it\u2019s made. Love like that doesn\u2019t childishly ignore problems, but says <\/b><b><i>let\u2019s fix this<\/i><\/b><b>.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I want to fix what\u2019s broken over and over again and glue it with gold. A struggle means a better foundation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Voglio commettere un errore e poi non commetterlo pi\u00f9 perch\u00e9 so che \u00e8 meglio cos\u00ec. Voglio fregarmene.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-79529 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-near-wall.jpg\" alt=\"donna con top floreale giallo in piedi vicino a un muro bianco\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-near-wall.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-near-wall-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-near-wall-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quante volte avete sgranato gli occhi per qualcosa che il vostro interlocutore ha detto o fatto a causa di cose oggettivamente insignificanti?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Start with that and then slowly progress towards more complex problems, because that\u2019s what relationships of any kind have \u2013 problems.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, what I want for myself isn\u2019t a relationship without problems, but one with endurance and character. A relationship that doesn\u2019t depend on anyone else but the two of us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I don\u2019t want to doubt my partner; I want to trust him completely.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Voglio essere in uno di quei matrimoni in cui sono sposati da 20 anni e sono ancora cos\u00ec innamorati l'uno dell'altro, si prendono cura l'uno dell'altro e si sollevano a vicenda.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I want the father of my children to be my best friend and someone I can count on \u2013 one who\u2019s going to constantly invest in our relationship and have the same goals as me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-79530 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/couple-sitting-on-dock.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna seduti su un pontile di legno e abbracciati\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/couple-sitting-on-dock.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/couple-sitting-on-dock-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/couple-sitting-on-dock-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I want to be immersed in my partner completely \u2013 and that includes through good times and the bad \u2013 the times when we\u2019re full of love and happiness, and the days when I feel broken and mad.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>I want to fight for love and not give up when it comes to the first little obstacle. I want passion and romance, 3 AM conversations, and feeling the love at all times \u2013 even when we fight.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I know I have the capacity to love BIG and I don\u2019t want to pretend like that\u2019s not something to be proud of.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019m a ride or die, and that\u2019s why I need to know you\u2019re the one before I give all of myself to you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>I\u2019m tired of almost relationships, fake relationships, and immature men \u2013 people who don\u2019t understand me, who misunderstand my words, and who blame me for things I never did.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I need to know you\u2019re not afraid to be vulnerable. They say men shouldn\u2019t be vulnerable, but I disagree. A man who can address his feelings is a man who\u2019s always in control of himself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-79531 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/couple-standing-in-forest.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna in piedi nella foresta e abbracciati\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/couple-standing-in-forest.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/couple-standing-in-forest-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/couple-standing-in-forest-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b>I need to see your actions speak louder than words. I don\u2019t want to beg for things or constantly have to explain myself.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I need you to be proud of me and accept me as I am. A man who won\u2019t wave his hand at me when I bring up things that interest me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I need to know that you have the capacity to love as big as me, because that\u2019s what I love about myself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mi piace essere innamorata dell'amore e desiderare che le cose funzionino e siano le migliori possibili.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I don\u2019t want halfway love. I want it whole, because I\u2019m deserving of a whole, real love.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">My work and effort deserve to be recognized. It\u2019s crazy I ever believed I was anything less than good enough just because other people didn\u2019t care as much as me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>I am good enough and the love I\u2019m giving is always more than good enough. My love is refusing to give up on you, no matter what.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-81441 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/You-Have-To-Be-All-In-Or-Get-All-Out-\u2013-There\u2019s-No-Halfway-In-Love-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"O si \u00e8 tutti dentro o si \u00e8 tutti fuori: non ci sono mezze misure in amore\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/You-Have-To-Be-All-In-Or-Get-All-Out-\u2013-There\u2019s-No-Halfway-In-Love-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/You-Have-To-Be-All-In-Or-Get-All-Out-\u2013-There\u2019s-No-Halfway-In-Love-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/You-Have-To-Be-All-In-Or-Get-All-Out-\u2013-There\u2019s-No-Halfway-In-Love-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/You-Have-To-Be-All-In-Or-Get-All-Out-\u2013-There\u2019s-No-Halfway-In-Love-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Love isn\u2019t just good days. Love isn\u2019t just anniversaries and gifts. Love is everything in between. Whoever imagines a flawless, laughter-filled relationship with cutesy couple stuff, they\u2019re about to be disappointed. I\u2019m not saying that relationships are disappointing. I\u2019m saying that people often have high expectations and weak effort. Everything is way easier when you&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":79524,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29621],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-79518","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-healthy-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29621,"label":"healthy relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/You-Have-To-Be-All-In-Or-Get-All-Out-\u2013-There\u2019s-No-Halfway-In-Love.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29621,"name":"healthy relationship","slug":"healthy-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29621,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","parent":29620,"count":254,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29621,"category_count":254,"category_description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","cat_name":"healthy relationship","category_nicename":"healthy-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79518","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=79518"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79518\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/79524"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=79518"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=79518"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=79518"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}