{"id":79672,"date":"2020-06-11T07:55:28","date_gmt":"2020-06-11T07:55:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=79672"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:19:12","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:19:12","slug":"prima-di-te-la-mia-piu-grande-paura-era-quella-di-rimanere-solo-dopo-di-te-e-lambientamento","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/prima-di-te-la-mia-piu-grande-paura-era-quella-di-rimanere-solo-dopo-di-te-e-lambientamento\/","title":{"rendered":"Prima di te, la mia pi\u00f9 grande paura era quella di rimanere solo; dopo di te, la mia pi\u00f9 grande paura \u00e8 quella di accontentarmi"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Prima di incontrarti, pensavo che essere single fosse la cosa peggiore che potesse capitare a una ragazza. Credevo che essere soli significasse essere soli.<\/p>\n<p>Solo dopo essermi sentita pi\u00f9 sola con te di quanto mi sia mai sentita in vita mia, mi sono resa conto dell'errore che ho commesso.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Being with the wrong person, a person who doesn\u2019t know how to love you and whom you can\u2019t love the best possible way makes you the loneliest girl in the universe.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Hai risvegliato qualcosa dentro di me che non sapevo nemmeno esistesse. Pensavo di poter amare chiunque avesse deciso di farmi sua.<\/p>\n<p>Mi hai fatto capire che l'amore non ha nulla a che fare con la scelta o l'essere scelti. Almeno non all'inizio.<\/p>\n<p>True love chooses the person for you. You can\u2019t make any estimates and there\u2019s no time to think too hard about how that person fits into your life.<\/p>\n<p>Devi solo stare con loro, a prescindere da tutto. Voglio questo tipo di amore.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79680\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-in-black-knit-cap-and-black-jacket.jpg\" alt=\"donna con berretto a maglia nero e giacca nera in piedi in un luogo pubblico con luci lungo le strade\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-in-black-knit-cap-and-black-jacket.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-in-black-knit-cap-and-black-jacket-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-in-black-knit-cap-and-black-jacket-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>More than anything, more than being single, I\u2019m afraid of settling for anything less.<\/p>\n<p>Per un po' ho pensato che io e te saremmo cresciuti amandoci nel modo giusto. Invece le cose si sono complicate.<\/p>\n<p>Non ho mai avuto la possibilit\u00e0 di amarti nel modo migliore possibile, perch\u00e9 non hai mai risvegliato questo in me e non l'hai mai meritato.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Seeing that you couldn\u2019t care less about losing me made me drown. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I wasn\u2019t devastated because I loved you THAT MUCH, I was devastated because I realized how much precious time I had spent trying to make things work with you.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>I started resenting myself for allowing this to happen, for allowing myself to go through so many months with someone who absolutely didn\u2019t deserve my love, even when what I\u2019d been giving him was only half of my love.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>The only thought that came to my mind was that right in those moments, I was wasting on trying to write a \u2018takes your breath away\u2019 kind of romantic story with you. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79676\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/shallow-focus-photo-of-woman.jpg\" alt=\"foto con messa a fuoco ridotta di una donna con un tubo in piedi in un campo aperto\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>The one who\u2019s supposed to be the main character in that story would pass me by.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Fin dall'inizio della nostra relazione, ho avuto la sensazione che qualcosa non andasse. Non mi sono mai sentita completamente appagata, indipendentemente da come funzionavano le cose tra noi.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Non c'era scintilla, non c'era connessione, non c'era intimit\u00e0 emotiva cruda e onesta.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Guardavo altre coppie che sembravano non avere preoccupazioni al mondo se non l'un l'altro e il loro amore e le invidiavo per averlo trovato.<\/p>\n<p>Ho pensato tante volte di andarmene, ma sono sempre rimasta perch\u00e9 avevo paura di rimanere sola.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Ora so che essere single \u00e8 sempre meglio che avere una relazione sbagliata. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>It\u2019s so much better to live on your own and hope for true love to find you than to settle and know right there and then you\u2019re never getting anything more than what you settled for.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79677\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-walking-in-the-rice-.jpg\" alt=\"donna che cammina nel campo di riso durante il giorno\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m now absolutely certain that there\u2019s no happiness in trying to make things work with the one who will never be able to see your worth, to value your efforts, to love you the way you need to be loved.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t need anyone who cares more about correcting my flaws than loving my qualities. I want the one who will not only appreciate my virtues but adore my imperfections as well.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Trovare la felicit\u00e0 nell'essere onesti con me stessi \u00e8 la mia nuova priorit\u00e0 assoluta.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Everyone is seeking that \u2018once in a lifetime\u2019 kind of love. I honestly believe anyone can find it if they give themselves a chance by not settling for a mediocre \u2018many in a lifetime\u2019 relationship.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I want the one my heart will want so desperately that it won\u2019t be able to beat without him. I won\u2019t ever again choose the one who knows nothing about me, who doesn\u2019t see me.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Voglio un uomo la cui anima rifletta perfettamente la mia. Voglio un uomo che mi ami e che lotti per me, con ogni fibra del suo essere.<\/p>\n<p><em>Until I find that kind of man, or until he finds me, I\u2019ll stay single, because that\u2019s so much better than settling.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79682\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Before-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Was-Being-Alone-After-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Is-Settling-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Prima di te, la mia pi\u00f9 grande paura era quella di rimanere solo; dopo di te, la mia pi\u00f9 grande paura \u00e8 quella di accontentarmi\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Before-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Was-Being-Alone-After-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Is-Settling-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Before-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Was-Being-Alone-After-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Is-Settling-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Before-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Was-Being-Alone-After-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Is-Settling-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Before-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Was-Being-Alone-After-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Is-Settling-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Before I met you, I thought that being single was the worst possible thing that could happen to a girl. I believed that being alone meant being lonely. Only after feeling lonelier with you than I have felt ever in my life did I realize what a mistake that was on my end. Being with&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-79672","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":false,"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. 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