{"id":80936,"date":"2020-06-11T08:27:11","date_gmt":"2020-06-11T08:27:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=80936"},"modified":"2021-11-15T15:46:41","modified_gmt":"2021-11-15T15:46:41","slug":"aumentare-lamore-per-se-stessi-e-smettere-di-sentirsi-indesiderati","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/aumentare-lamore-per-se-stessi-e-smettere-di-sentirsi-indesiderati\/","title":{"rendered":"Modi potenti per aumentare l'amore per se stessi e smettere di sentirsi indesiderati"},"content":{"rendered":"

Tutti noi abbiamo a che fare con il rifiuto. Pu\u00f2 accadere nella prima infanzia, al parco giochi, a scuola, o molto pi\u00f9 tardi nella vita, nelle relazioni sentimentali.<\/p>\n

Feeling unwanted follows some people wherever they go. There’s nothing as hard as having to deal with the feeling of not being good enough, worthy of love, or at all important in this world.<\/p>\n

Questo articolo affronta la lotta per sentirsi indesiderati, guidandovi attraverso il processo di reinvenzione di voi stessi in questi termini e trovando una nuova felicit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

La lotta quotidiana per sentirsi non desiderati<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Why am I not enough? Why don’t I matter?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

These painful questions are racing through your mind. You feel your chest tighten and your body ache and it’s like all you need to do to release all this sorrow is cry, but you can’t.<\/p>\n

In your mind, there’s only one sad answer to those questions. NON NE VALE LA PENA<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I know the heartache of constantly feeling unwanted and unloved. I’ve been there.<\/p>\n

Il dolore che provate minaccia di farvi a pezzi. La rabbia e il disgusto che provate offuscano il vostro giudizio, lasciandovi ciechi di fronte a tutto ci\u00f2 che di buono e bello vi circonda.<\/p>\n

Feeling like you aren’t worth it, feeling like you’re a second-best, will mess with your head, I mean it.<\/p>\n

These are the worst feelings a human being can have, thinking you aren’t worth choosing, you don’t matter, you’re unimportant.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Having felt like that myself, I’ve moved through many different emotional states. I was depressed, indifferent, angry, and finally I found myself at rock bottom \u2013 feeling nothing for myself but pity.<\/p>\n

You can’t go anywhere from there but up, and that’s exactly what I did. I decided I needed to become stronger, I needed to learn to love myself and help my self-esteem.<\/p>\n

There’s a time for everything in life, and this was my time to finally put ME first.<\/p>\n

Feeling lonely and unloved has a lot to do with how other people treat you. Other people’s mistreatment of you is usually the trigger to this kind of feeling.<\/p>\n

We all know that, but there’s something new I’ve learned. Being unloved by some people and feeling unlovable in general don’t have to be connected.<\/p>\n

Possiamo tutti imparare a liberarsi dalla tossicit\u00e0 che certe relazioni portano nella nostra vita.<\/a><\/p>\n

I’m not here to tell you what to do, I’m here to help you reach your own conclusion by guiding you through the process of aumentare l'autostima<\/a> e finalmente sentirsi amabili e importanti.<\/p>\n

Quindi, come affrontare la sensazione di essere indesiderati? La prima cosa da fare \u00e8 andare alla radice del modo in cui ci si sente.<\/p>\n

Domande che dovreste porvi prima di iniziare ad affrontare la sensazione di essere indesiderati:<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

– What is it I want to be acknowledged for in order to finally feel accepted?<\/p>\n

-Perch\u00e9 \u00e8 importante per me, cosa significa per me?<\/p>\n

-In che modo voglio essere riconosciuto?<\/p>\n

-Quali sono i modi in cui posso riconoscere e apprezzare me stesso?<\/p>\n

-How does my life change if I get the recognition I’m seeking?<\/p>\n

-In che modo questo riconoscimento cambia le mie relazioni?<\/p>\n

These questions will help you dig deeper into your own mind and soul and reach that place where you’re hiding your true emotions.<\/p>\n

Riflettete attentamente su ognuna di queste domande e cercate di darvi delle risposte.<\/p>\n

The answers you get will be a starting point to going through this difficult time and finding the peace, appreciation, and love you seek and deserve. It’s time for you to guarire se stessi<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Cose importanti da capire sul sentirsi indesiderati:<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

1. Un numero enorme di persone si sente esattamente come voi<\/h2>\n

\"gruppo<\/p>\n

The society we live in, the social media boom, everything that’s happening in our everyday lives, are all causing the number of people who genuinely like and appreciate themselves to decrease.<\/p>\n

Il modo in cui ci trattiamo l'un l'altro si aggiunge a questa diminuzione e ogni giorno ci sono sempre pi\u00f9 persone che si sentono indesiderate e non amate.<\/p>\n

Pensate a questo. Il modo in cui le persone si comportano \u00e8 la manifestazione diretta di come si sentono dentro.<\/p>\n

Quando le persone si sentono sole, ferite e non amate, si comportano in modo diverso da come farebbero se sentissero di ricevere tutto l'amore e le cure di cui hanno bisogno.<\/p>\n

Le persone sono come i fiori: quando sono nutrite e amate, sbocciano e rendono tutto ci\u00f2 che le circonda pi\u00f9 bello, colorato e stimolante.<\/p>\n

When they aren’t getting love, which is their water and air, they dry and rot, like humans whose hearts and souls die slowly each day.<\/p>\n

Understanding that your environment works this way will help you realize two things. First, you’ll learn to be more empathetic towards others and understand better where they are coming from.<\/p>\n

Second, you’ll realize that you’re not the only one feeling unwanted. There are so many people around you who feel the exact same way.<\/p>\n

2. Just because things happened to you, it doesn’t mean you have to pity yourself<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Bad things happen to good people. Bad things happen to bad people too. Just because something happened to you doesn’t mean it’s your fault.<\/p>\n

Also, it doesn’t mean you should pity yourself for the rest of your life for being dealt those cards.<\/p>\n

Ci sono molte circostanze diverse nella nostra vita che ci portano al punto in cui siamo e determinano il corso della nostra vita.<\/p>\n

If you dwell on the things that happen to you and take them as the only variables in the equation of who you are as a person, you’ll get completely the wrong answer.<\/p>\n

Staying focused on the things that happen to you will mess with your mental health and draw you into the vicious cycle of feeling unloved, thinking you’re unworthy and attracting people who’ll push you even deeper into this hole.<\/p>\n

It’s you who has to learn to work with what you get. Make lemonade \u2013 you can do it. There isn’t anyone in this world who hasn\u2019t had something truly devastating happen to them.<\/p>\n

Some people were traumatized in their childhood, some were in nasty relationships with narcissists or psychopaths… no matter what happened to you that’s feeding your thoughts of being unworthy \u2013 it’s up to you to learn to deal with it.<\/p>\n

Your self-worth shouldn’t have anything to do with circumstantial experiences you’ve had. Pity yourself less, lpi\u00f9 di te stesso<\/a>.<\/p>\n

3. Potete e dovete riempire il vuoto che avete dentro di voi.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Unconsciously we all believe we need other people to make us feel happy and fulfilled. Children need others to satisfy their needs, adults don’t.<\/p>\n

Molte persone credono che l'unico modo per sentirsi completi sia trovare uno o pi\u00f9 esseri umani che li aiutino.<\/p>\n

I nostri cari possono certamente aiutarci a sentirci pi\u00f9 apprezzati, curati, amati e importanti.<\/p>\n

The truth is, though, this will only go so far, and sooner or later you’ll become aware that the emptiness inside you still exists.<\/p>\n

No amount of acknowledgment from others will make up for what you’re missing inside.<\/p>\n

You have the tools to fill the void inside you. Actually, you’re the only one who has those tools and it’s time you learned how to use them.<\/p>\n

9 modi potenti per aiutarsi a sentirsi pi\u00f9 desiderati e amati:<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Esaminare le proprie convinzioni sull'amore e sul mondo<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Tutti noi abbiamo delle idee sbagliate su come funziona il mondo.<\/p>\n

Nessuno conosce la verit\u00e0 completa, quindi non possiamo dire che la sua concezione sia sbagliata, ma si sforzi di riflettere a fondo sul perch\u00e9 crede che certe cose siano vere.<\/p>\n

Spesso sono i nostri traumi e le esperienze negative a plasmarci in modo pi\u00f9 aggressivo delle cose belle che viviamo.<\/p>\n

Ci\u00f2 significa che la nostra percezione del mondo \u00e8 l'immagine che ne abbiamo dopo che \u00e8 passata attraverso il prisma di tutta la negativit\u00e0 che abbiamo vissuto.<\/p>\n

Non tutti possono essere ottimisti, ma per ora \u00e8 sufficiente essere realisti. Pensate al mondo in modi diversi, dategli un contesto diverso e vedete dove vi porta la vostra mente.<\/p>\n

There’s a good chance you’ll find that the way you thought about the world around you was false and needs some updating to do.<\/p>\n

Your perception of the world is the source of your emotions, that’s why it’s so important.<\/p>\n

2. L'amore pu\u00f2 assumere forme diverse, pensate a questo<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

There’s a certain idea every human being has about love.<\/p>\n

A person’s image of love is shaped by their early childhood, their teen and adolescent years, the experiences they’ve had, the movies they’ve seen, the books they’ve read…<\/p>\n

There’s a whole lot that goes into this equation.<\/p>\n

We’re all seeking this ultimate, unconditional love that only the perfect person can give us. The truth is, love can be very different to how we imagined.<\/p>\n

Adapt your ideas to what you see to be true. Trust your instincts and let true love approach you even when it doesn’t match your idealized image of love.<\/p>\n

3. Cercare di dare amore quando altrimenti si giudicherebbe<\/h2>\n

\"amici<\/p>\n

Look below the surface. Give people a chance. Of course, you shouldn’t go against your instincts and get with people who are dangerous for you.<\/p>\n

Cercate di evitare che il primo giudizio stereotipato si frapponga tra voi e un vero legame umano.<\/p>\n

Be understanding and compassionate towards others and that’s what you can expect in return.<\/p>\n

Questo aiuter\u00e0 le vostre relazioni con le persone in generale, con i membri della vostra famiglia e con i vostri amici, non solo le vostre relazioni sentimentali.<\/p>\n

Offer kindness to others, be there for them when they’re going through something bad instead of being the first to judge them and write them off.<\/p>\n

4. Riconoscere e valorizzare le persone per quello che sono.<\/h2>\n

\"famiglia<\/p>\n

Recognize the people who are already in your life. In your search for someone else, someone to fill your void, you’re probably ignoring every amazing human being you already have in your life.<\/p>\n

You might be thinking that your potential romantic interest is more important than your friends or family but that’s completely false.<\/p>\n

La vostra famiglia e i vostri amici sono una parte enorme di ci\u00f2 che siete. Pensate a tutto ci\u00f2 che ricevete da loro e a tutti i modi in cui vi fanno sentire amati senza che ve ne rendiate conto.<\/p>\n

Value those people, show your appreciation. This is one of the steps you need to take in order to rediscover love. Once you do, you’ll spread love everywhere you go.<\/p>\n

5. Think about everything you could but don\u2019t do for your loved ones<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Ci offendiamo quando i nostri cari non riescono a renderci felici facendo qualcosa che avrebbero dovuto o potuto fare.<\/p>\n

Raramente ci fermiamo a pensare a cosa siamo o, meglio, a cosa non stiamo facendo per loro.<\/p>\n

You have the power to bring more love, care, and nourishment into your life, and if you think your only way to get that is for someone to give to you, you’re very wrong.<\/p>\n

Dedicare del tempo a pensare a cosa si potrebbe fare per le persone che si amano \u00e8 molto importante.<\/p>\n

Pensare alla loro vita e valutare le loro esigenze in base a ci\u00f2 che potete fare per loro \u00e8 salutare per voi e necessario per una relazione di successo.<\/p>\n

Forse anche intorno a voi ci sono persone che non si sentono amate?<\/p>\n

6. Essere veramente presenti nella propria vita<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Imparate ad apprezzare la vostra vita facendole dono della vostra assoluta presenza.<\/p>\n

Don’t dwell in your past and don’t fret about your future. Stay in the present. Think about what’s happening to you. Learn to enjoy moments in this world.<\/p>\n

Remind yourself of the beauty of nature, of God’s love, of every little precious thing that you can enjoy every single moment of your time, even when you feel unworthy.<\/p>\n

You’re worth being here, don’t waste it.<\/p>\n

7. Utilizzare conversazioni significative per entrare in contatto con le persone<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Per entrare in sintonia con il mondo che vi circonda, iniziate a conversare con le persone.<\/p>\n

Not just any kind of conversations though \u2013 meaningful conversations that leave you both feeling like you’ve learned something new, important, and motivating.<\/p>\n

Cercate di entrare in contatto con le persone a un livello pi\u00f9 intimo. Avvicinatevi agli altri con amore e senza giudicare.<\/p>\n

Capire gli altri ci aiuta a capire meglio anche noi stessi.<\/p>\n

8. Pensate ai vostri veri bisogni e desideri<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You can’t get what you want if you don’t know what you want.<\/p>\n

Many people think they are aiming for a certain goal while in reality, they are self-sabotaging because they\u2019ve never really thought about what their true desires are.<\/p>\n

Datevi il tempo di pensare a ci\u00f2 che volete veramente. Che cosa vi fa sorridere?<\/p>\n

Even if your true desires don’t seem convenient, trust them and move in that direction because that’s the only way to feel fulfilled, worthy, and important.<\/p>\n

9. Imparare ad amare se stessi<\/h2>\n

\"gruppo<\/p>\n

Pensate a VOI. Amatela (o amatelo). Lei\/lui se lo merita. Ci sono molte cose che potete fare per amarvi meglio, per amarvi di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n

Prendetevi del tempo per fare cose che vi piacciono. Provate qualcosa di nuovo, iscrivetevi a un club del libro, trovate un gruppo di sostegno adatto alle vostre esigenze. Prendetevi cura di voi stessi.<\/p>\n

Challenge yourself, show yourself what you’re capable of. Give yourself some credit. Praise yourself for your accomplishments.<\/p>\n

Liberate il vostro bambino interiore, ma trovate un modo per insegnargli nuove cose: fiducia, amore e accettazione. Stop blaming yourself because someone didn’t know to love you<\/a>, it doesn’t mean you’re unlovable.<\/p>\n

\"Modi<\/p>\n

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