{"id":82965,"date":"2020-07-09T09:21:01","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T09:21:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=82965"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:36:06","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:36:06","slug":"problemi-nel-trovare-quello-giusto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/problemi-nel-trovare-quello-giusto\/","title":{"rendered":"5 problemi nel trovare \"quello giusto\" nel mondo moderno"},"content":{"rendered":"

For many, finding a soulmate in today\u2019s era seems like a dream which will never turn into reality. It\u2019s like we\u2019ve all accepted the fact that we\u2019re heading nowhere.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, we rarely question why. What are the problems of finding \u201cthe one\u201d in the modern world? Well, we\u2019ve got the answers.<\/p>\n

1. Amore uguale appiccicosit\u00e0<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

In the modern dating world, there is no such thing as love. At least, it doesn\u2019t exist in the form you\u2019re familiar with.<\/p>\n

On the contrary, you\u2019re automatically accused of being pathetic if you\u2019re looking for something which used to be a bare minimum.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re romantic, you\u2019re cheesy and if you want attention, you\u2019re needy.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you: comportamento eccessivamente appiccicoso<\/a> has never been attractive. However, you\u2019re not needy for expecting a good morning text or for wanting to see your boyfriend a few times a week.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not pathetic for telling him how much he means to you and you\u2019re not cheesy for asking him to listen to a love song that reminds you of him.<\/p>\n

However, the truth is that in modern dating, you\u2019re not allowed to do any of these things unless you want to be called old fashioned.<\/p>\n

Quindi, come si pu\u00f2 creare un legame con un uomo se tutte queste cose sono off-limits?<\/p>\n

2. L'infedelt\u00e0 si \u00e8 normalizzata<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Un altro enorme problema degli appuntamenti moderni, che impedisce di trovare la persona giusta, \u00e8 che purtroppo la fedelt\u00e0 non \u00e8 pi\u00f9 apprezzata come un tempo.<\/p>\n

In fact, the concept of cheating has changed so much that at the end of the day, you simply can\u2019t tell what is considered acceptable behavior.<\/p>\n

Il problema \u00e8 che le persone non etichettare le loro relazioni<\/a>. Nessuno ha pi\u00f9 l'esclusiva, il che gli d\u00e0 il diritto di vedere pi\u00f9 persone contemporaneamente.<\/p>\n

So, when you\u2019re not in a relationship and when you\u2019re just dating, you\u2019re allowed to date other people as well.<\/p>\n

You can be in touch with a guy for a while, but if he doesn\u2019t call you his girlfriend (which he probably won\u2019t) you can\u2019t accuse him of cheating if you catch him texting or even sleeping with someone else.<\/p>\n

Sounds like a real bummer, right? Well, technically, you\u2019re also allowed to keep on doing the same things, but in this kind of arrangement, is it even possible to find true love? I think not.<\/p>\n

3. Tutti hanno la fobia di impegnarsi<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I\u2019m here to ask a crucial question: have we all really become so scared of commitment or has fobia dell'impegno<\/a> diventare una cosa?<\/p>\n

Siamo davvero diventati tutti emotivamente indisponibili o le persone hanno paura di dire che sono alla ricerca di una vera storia d'amore perch\u00e9 si aspettano di essere percepite come ingenue per aver creduto in queste cose?<\/p>\n

Whatever the answer is, the bottom line is the same: everywhere you look, you\u2019ll bump into commitment phobes.<\/p>\n

People who don\u2019t have the desire to truly connect with someone or to build real relationships.<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, vivere il momento \u00e8 fantastico. Dopo tutto, non si pu\u00f2 mai sapere cosa ci riserver\u00e0 il domani, quindi \u00e8 meglio godersi ogni respiro come se fosse l'ultimo.<\/p>\n

However, when you\u2019re trapped in the middle of a culture that doesn\u2019t believe in giving your entire self to another being and that doesn\u2019t believe in building a future as a part of a couple, finding the one often seems like mission impossible.<\/p>\n

4. Le vostre aspettative sono diminuite<\/h2>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

Che vi piaccia o meno ammetterlo, nel mondo moderno degli appuntamenti le vostre aspettative si riducono costantemente.<\/p>\n

Even if you\u2019re not involved in a modern relationship, you can\u2019t help but be affected by what you see in other people\u2019s lives.<\/p>\n

In effetti, tutti vi accusano di essere troppo esigenti solo perch\u00e9 avete degli standard di base.<\/p>\n

People look at you like you\u2019re a lunatic if you expect certain things that used to be normal, such as fidelity, undivided attention, and most importantly unconditional love.<\/p>\n

After some time,, without even noticing it, you start to settle for less. You adapt to the rest of the world and you adopt \u201cthe new normal\u201d.<\/p>\n

5. La cultura degli incontri \u00e8 diventata un campo di gioco<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Last but not least, when you\u2019re in the piscina per incontri<\/a>, the main problem you\u2019ll encounter is the fact that dating culture has actually become similar to a children\u2019s playing field.<\/p>\n

Tutto ruota intorno ai giochi mentali immaturi che tutti fanno. In pratica, gli appuntamenti si sono trasformati in una competizione. La domanda principale \u00e8 chi inganner\u00e0 chi.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re expected to know the drill even though there\u2019s no manual on how you should behave properly.<\/p>\n

Quindi, per la maggior parte del tempo, invece di concentrarvi sulla costruzione di una potenziale relazione, dovete padroneggiare l'arte di giocare a questi giochi di appuntamenti, che vi piaccia o no.<\/p>\n

Instead of enjoying your love life, you\u2019re pressured into dissecting other people\u2019s words and actions.<\/p>\n

Dovete fare del vostro meglio per leggere attraverso i loro segnali contrastanti e andare a fondo delle loro intenzioni.<\/p>\n

To put things simply: the trick is to outsmart the other person. It\u2019s almost as if you are working against each other, instead of being united towards your common goal of eventually being happy.<\/p>\n

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For many, finding a soulmate in today\u2019s era seems like a dream which will never turn into reality. It\u2019s like we\u2019ve all accepted the fact that we\u2019re heading nowhere. Nevertheless, we rarely question why. What are the problems of finding \u201cthe one\u201d in the modern world? Well, we\u2019ve got the answers. 1. Love equals clinginess…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":82988,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29615],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-82965","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-soulmate-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29615,"label":"soulmate"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/5-Issues-With-Finding-\u201cThe-One\u201d-In-The-Modern-World.jpg",800,511,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29615,"name":"soulmate","slug":"soulmate-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29615,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Do you believe in twin flames - a person you're meant to have in your life no matter what? I do, and right here is where I share my thoughts on the topic.","parent":38,"count":95,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29615,"category_count":95,"category_description":"Do you believe in twin flames - a person you're meant to have in your life no matter what? I do, and right here is where I share my thoughts on the topic.","cat_name":"soulmate","category_nicename":"soulmate-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82965","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=82965"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82965\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/82988"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=82965"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=82965"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=82965"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}