{"id":84348,"date":"2020-07-09T08:45:17","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T08:45:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=84348"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:41:01","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:41:01","slug":"incertezza-nelle-relazioni","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/incertezza-nelle-relazioni\/","title":{"rendered":"L'incertezza nelle relazioni: Che cos'\u00e8 e come affrontarla"},"content":{"rendered":"

It’s normal to feel uncertain and have some trust issues if you’ve just started dating someone. You don’t know your partner well yet, and those <\/span>sentimenti di incertezza<\/span> sono giustificati. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, if you’re in a <\/span>relazione a lungo termine<\/span> and you’re still dealing with uncertainty in the relationship, that might be a huge problem. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ogni <\/i><\/b>relazione romantica<\/i><\/b> deve essere costruita sull'apertura emotiva e sulla fiducia.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

This means that if you’re with the <\/span>persona giusta,<\/span> dovreste essere in grado di <\/span>aprire<\/span> to them and they should trust you no matter what \u2013 and vice versa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Incertezza delle relazioni<\/i><\/b><\/a> isn’t healthy or beneficial in any way. <\/i><\/b>Also, it’s the main reason why couples decide to end their relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

Non c'\u00e8 bisogno di farsi prendere dal panico. La buona notizia \u00e8 che se volete far funzionare la vostra relazione, con un po' di impegno, potete superare questi problemi. <\/span><\/p>\n

On the other hand, if giving your best to save your relationship of uncertainty still doesn’t help, it means you have to let it go because it’s just not meant to be. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quali sono le cause dell'incertezza relazionale?<\/span><\/h2>\n

Come gi\u00e0 accennato, sperimentare alcune incertezze in una <\/span>nuova relazione<\/span> \u00e8 perfettamente normale. Ci passiamo tutti. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can’t avoid those <\/span>sentimenti di incertezza<\/span> nella fase iniziale di una relazione. Avete bisogno di tempo per conoscere il vostro nuovo partner. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, if you’re in a <\/span>relazione impegnata<\/span>, there\u2019s no place for any kind of insecurities.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se decidete di impegnarvi per il vostro <\/span>altro significativo<\/span>deve essere perch\u00e9 li amate, vi fidate di loro con tutto il cuore e vi sentite a vostro agio con loro. <\/span>aprire<\/span> con loro su tutto.<\/span><\/p>\n

However sometimes, no matter how much you love someone, those uncertainties are just bigger than you. It seems like they’re impossible to overcome. <\/span><\/p>\n

Prima di iniziare a gestire questi sentimenti, <\/span>si dovrebbe innanzitutto cercare di capire quale sia la causa principale del problema.<\/i><\/b> Ecco alcune possibili cause di <\/span>relazioni incerte<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Problemi relazionali passati<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Forse il vostro precedente partner vi ha tradito. Forse qualcuno vi ha fatto cos\u00ec male da lasciarvi con la paura costante di <\/span>crepacuore<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

I understand and I’m so sorry. You didn’t deserve it. But your partner also doesn’t deserve to be punished for what someone else did to you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Dovete prendervi un po' di tempo da soli e pensare al vostro <\/span>relazione passata<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t have to forgive your ex for what they did to you, but <\/span>\u00e8 necessario <\/i><\/b>lasciarlo nel passato<\/i><\/b><\/a> se si vuole rendere il proprio <\/i><\/b>nuova relazione<\/i><\/b> lavoro. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

You have to understand that your new partner isn’t your ex and they won’t hurt you. Even if they do, it won’t be your fault. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ci sono ancora persone buone a questo mondo. Persone che vogliono amare qualcuno per un motivo diverso dall'amore. Bisogna solo crederci. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Bassa autostima<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Se si ha un basso livello di <\/span>autostima<\/span>, that will for sure make you doubt your partner. You don’t appreciate or love yourself enough and it’s hard for you to believe that your partner does. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you don’t have a healthy self-relationship,you can\u2019t expect to have one with your <\/span>altro significativo<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

The relationship you have with yourself is a foundation for every other relationship in your life. If you don’t work on yourself and your <\/span>autostima<\/span>, you won’t be able to create a <\/span>relazione sana<\/span> con l'altra met\u00e0. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Pressione dei social media<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Al giorno d'oggi c'\u00e8 molta pressione sulle coppie da parte di <\/span>social media<\/span>. Si sente sempre dire che qualcuno ha tradito il proprio partner online. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can find some inaccurate and misleading articles on the Internet about how your partner lies to you or doesn’t love you if they do some of the things they wrote. <\/span><\/p>\n

Non bisogna credere a tutto ci\u00f2 che si legge o si vede. Oggi in Internet circolano molte informazioni false. <\/span><\/p>\n

You shouldn’t use <\/span>social media<\/span> to spy on your partner. If someone likes their photo or leaves a comment underneath it, don’t be jealous. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t make a fuss about it. Don’t create unnecessary drama. Actually, don’t do anything until you\u2019ve asked your partner about it. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Paura di fidarsi delle persone<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Alcune persone sono state ferite gravemente in passato e, purtroppo, questo lascia delle conseguenze su di loro. <\/span><\/p>\n

They have a fear of trusting people. They are unable to trust their partner no matter what they do to prove them wrong because they’re afraid that the same thing will happen to them again. <\/span><\/p>\n

They can’t relax and feel comfortable about their partner because they’re constantly thinking about how they’ll end up being heart broken once again. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Aspettative irrealistiche<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Se si avvia un <\/span>nuova relazione<\/span> con aspettative molto alte<\/span><\/a>, you\u2019ll be disappointed for sure. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t set the bar too high. Actually, you should expect nothing from them until you get to know them well. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Paura dell'ignoto<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Don’t worry about the future too much. What’s meant to be will always find its way. You shouldn’t worry about things you can’t affect and this is one of them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes you think that by pulling away you’ll save yourself from future <\/span>crepacuore<\/span>. Tuttavia, potreste perdere alcune grandi cose proprio a causa della paura dell'ignoto. <\/span><\/p>\n

If they leave you or betray you, that’s not your problem. It’s their loss, not yours. Move on, keep your head and standards high and let it go. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ask yourself… <\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c8 davvero vero amore? <\/h2>\n

Amate davvero il vostro partner? Lo vedete come la parte principale della vostra vita e del vostro futuro? Vi sentite appagati nella vostra relazione? Il vostro partner \u00e8 tutto ci\u00f2 che avete sempre desiderato? <\/span><\/p>\n

If your answer is negative to any of these questions, it means that it’s not true love and that sooner or later you’ll have to let go of the relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

Il vostro partner tiene a voi quanto voi tenete a lui?<\/h2>\n

I vostri sentimenti sono ricambiati? Il vostro partner vi ama e si prende cura di voi quanto voi di lui?<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe that’s the reason for your uncertainties. You give your all to the relationship, but you never get anything in return. <\/span><\/p>\n

Vale la pena lottare per questo?<\/h2>\n

Amate il vostro partner pi\u00f9 di chiunque altro? \u00c8 l'unica persona con cui riuscite a immaginare la vostra vita? Voglio dire, <\/span>vale davvero la pena di lottare per questo?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

You have to be very careful with this one. Think about it before you decide on an answer. Yet, If it’s true love, you won’t have to think about it because you’ll know immediately. <\/span> <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Vi vedete in futuro con il vostro attuale partner?<\/h2>\n

Are you sure that is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? Are you 100% sure? Are you sure that you’ll be able to overcome the issues you have because you can’t have doubts in your forever partner? <\/span><\/p>\n

Avete la stessa prospettiva di vita?<\/h2>\n

Volete le stesse cose? Avete mai parlato del futuro con il vostro partner? Cosa volete dal vostro futuro? <\/span><\/p>\n

Dovete volere cose simili in futuro o essere pronti a scendere a compromessi se volete che la vostra relazione funzioni. <\/span><\/p>\n

Siete felici?<\/h2>\n

Nothing is worth it if you aren’t happy. You may think that you love your partner or maybe you do, but it’s not strong enough to help you overcome your insecurities. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you truly love someone you should be happy in that relationship most of the time. If your partner truly loves you, they’ll do whatever they can to make you happy all the time. <\/span><\/p>\n

Come affrontare l'incertezza in un rapporto di coppia<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Amate il vostro <\/span>altro significativo<\/span> ma avete ancora qualche incertezza sulla vostra relazione. Questo pu\u00f2 essere un vero <\/span>montagne russe<\/span> di emozioni. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have mixed feelings and don’t know what to do. Even though your love is stronger than that, you still can’t forget about those <\/span>sentimenti di incertezza<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Guarda questo <\/span>consigli sulle relazioni<\/span> da esperti su come superare <\/span>incertezza della relazione<\/span> nel modo pi\u00f9 sano possibile. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Apritevi al vostro partner<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

La comunicazione \u00e8 tutto in un <\/span>relazione sana<\/span>. Bisogna fidarsi del proprio partner ed essere capaci di <\/span>aprire<\/span> con loro di tutte le cose che vi preoccupano. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s important to tell them how you feel. If there is something that makes you doubt them, they have the right to know and to tell their side of the story. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you tell your partner how you honestly feel about your relationship, I’m sure they’ll show understanding and give you time to overcome those issues. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. It’s important how both you and your partner feel<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

You have to ask them how they feel about you and your relationship, too. It’s important to know how your <\/span>il partner si sente<\/span> e di lavorare insieme sui vostri problemi. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t bottle up your emotions <\/i><\/b>because you think they’ll harm your relationship in some way. <\/span>Prima o poi queste emozioni si riverseranno su di noi<\/i><\/b> e questo sar\u00e0 un problema maggiore per entrambi. <\/span><\/p>\n

Also, if you see some changes in your partner’s behavior, if you realize that something is bothering them, you have to ask them what’s happening.<\/span><\/p>\n

They must know that you’re there for them and that they can talk to you about everything. <\/span><\/p>\n

Again, communication. It’s really the healthiest way to solve any kind of issues you might be experiencing. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. I controlli frequenti sono importanti<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Inviate un messaggio al vostro partner a met\u00e0 giornata. Chiedetegli della loro giornata o scrivetegli semplicemente quanto vi manca. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t wait for a problem to happen to talk with your partner about their feelings and thoughts. It might be too late then. <\/span><\/p>\n

Inoltre, <\/i><\/b>check-in<\/i><\/b> con se stessi sono importanti.<\/i><\/b> Ask yourself how you feel about your job, your love life, and your life in general. Talk with yourself and do it every day. It’s vital for your own <\/span>benessere<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Don’t allow others to interfere in your relationship<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Sono d'accordo sul fatto che ci possano essere persone che si sono trovate in una situazione simile e che tu debba ascoltarle. <\/span>But don’t follow advice from other people blindly. <\/b><\/p>\n

I vostri partner sono diversi e questo rende diverse anche le vostre relazioni. Nessuno pu\u00f2 darvi il consiglio giusto su cosa dovreste fare. <\/span><\/p>\n

You should only listen to yourself and do what you think is the best thing to do. Even if you make a mistake, it’ll be your mistake and you won’t be able to blame anyone else for it. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Scegliere la fiducia<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

If your partner hasn\u2019t given you any reason to doubt him, then don’t make up some reasons. If you love someone, choose trust over those insecurities. <\/span><\/p>\n

Scegliete di fidarvi del vostro <\/span>altro significativo<\/span> and give them the chance to prove to you that they deserve it. In time, you’ll overcome those uncertainties together. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Compromesso pi\u00f9 spesso<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Just because your partner doesn’t agree on something with you or they have different opinions about certain things, it shouldn’t make you doubt them. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s normal that you’ll sometimes have a different approach, opinion, or perspective and you’ll have to meet in the middle with your partner. Always be ready to compromise.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. Abbracciare le differenze<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

So what if you have some different ways of thinking or if your plans for the future aren’t exactly the same? <\/span>Queste differenze sono ci\u00f2 che mantiene viva la scintilla nella vostra relazione.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Embrace those differences, don’t try to resolve them. If you try to change some of those things, you’ll also change your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

E ricordate che queste piccole differenze non sono mai il motivo di incertezza in una relazione. <\/span><\/p>\n

8. Sia voi che il vostro partner commetterete degli errori; dovete essere pronti a perdonarli.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

We’re all human beings and we make mistakes. That’s a fact. Your partner will make some mistakes and you’ll do it also, for sure. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, it shouldn’t make you doubt your partner’s feelings. You have to <\/span>essere disposti a perdonare<\/span><\/a> e dimenticarsene. <\/span><\/p>\n

9. Essere aperti al cambiamento<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Both you and your partner have to be open to change. If something bothers one of you too much, it’ll have a negative effect on your relationship and you should be willing to change it.   <\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, you should never change who you are for someone else, no matter how much you love them. But, there are certain things you’ll have to give up on to make your relationship work. <\/span><\/p>\n

Gli effetti dell'incertezza relazionale<\/h2>\n

Non solo questi <\/span>sentimenti di incertezza<\/span> have many negative effects on your relationship, they also affect yours and your partner’s <\/span>benessere<\/span> in tanti modi. <\/span><\/p>\n

Colpisce soprattutto il vostro <\/span>salute mentale<\/span>. <\/span>Vi rende ansiosi<\/span><\/a> or depressed because you think that your feelings aren’t reciprocated. <\/span><\/p>\n

L'ansia influisce sulla <\/span>sistema nervoso<\/span> e si possono verificare alcuni attacchi di panico che fanno reagire in modo inappropriato ad alcune situazioni specifiche. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, this doesn’t mean that you should <\/span>uscire<\/span> of a relationship if you’re experiencing a few uncertainties. <\/span>Vale la pena di lottare per l'amore<\/i><\/b>e con un po' di impegno potete rimettere in sesto la vostra relazione. <\/span><\/p>\n

Experiencing uncertainty in a relationship is exhausting for both partners but if you manage to deal with it, it’ll only make your connection stronger.<\/span><\/p>\n

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