{"id":84417,"date":"2020-07-09T08:46:10","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T08:46:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=84417"},"modified":"2021-11-15T15:48:05","modified_gmt":"2021-11-15T15:48:05","slug":"scegliere-di-vivere-per-se-stessi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/scegliere-di-vivere-per-se-stessi\/","title":{"rendered":"Scegliete di vivere per voi stessi: Scopri come in questi 11 passi"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\"L'atto pi\u00f9 coraggioso \u00e8 ancora quello di pensare con la propria testa. Ad alta voce\" - Coco Chanel&nbsp;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pensare per se stessi e vivere per se stessi dovrebbero essere le decisioni e gli obiettivi finali della vita.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not only are they the most courageous acts but they\u2019re probably two of the most difficult, soul-searching things you will decide to do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Perch\u00e9 sono cos\u00ec importanti?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gli esseri umani<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> hanno bisogni sociali, che li spingono ad adattarsi il pi\u00f9 possibile alla loro comunit\u00e0, in modo da ottenere in cambio il pi\u00f9 prezioso senso di appartenenza a un gruppo.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Interestingly enough, ultimately it&#8217;s not other people&#8217;s beliefs, restrictions or expectations that stop us from living the life we would like to live.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Per adattarsi alla societ\u00e0, di solito formiamo molti dei nostri <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">se stessi<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">-credenze limitanti, quelle che ci impediscono di lasciare la nostra <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">zona di comfort<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> (anche in questo caso, creato dalla nostra idea di come adattarci al meglio allo stampo che la famiglia, gli amici o la societ\u00e0 ci hanno detto di adottare).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Non esplorare mai di pi\u00f9 significa non raggiungere mai veramente il nostro <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">vero s\u00e9<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Ci sono quattro cose fondamentali che tutti cerchiamo: <\/b><b><i>approvazione, convalida, accettazione, fiducia<\/i><\/b><b>.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Per molte persone, per <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">iniziare a vivere<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> per se stessi significa vivere una vita completamente <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nuova vita<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. \u00c8 davvero possibile farlo? Lo \u00e8.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tutto ci\u00f2 che dovete fare \u00e8 rimodellare il vostro modo di pensare e spingervi verso la consapevolezza che tutte queste quattro cose sono necessarie a voi stessi, non agli altri.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s time for you to take responsibility for your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">la propria felicit\u00e0<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. If you want to rock your world, reach new highs and break the shackles that you put yourself in, it&#8217;s time you ask yourself these questions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\"><em><strong>Domande da porsi prima di iniziare il processo di cambiamento:<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h2>Quali sono i dettagli specifici della mia personalit\u00e0?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84420 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-surrounded-with-bars.jpg\" alt=\"donna con giacca di jeans in piedi circondata da sbarre\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-surrounded-with-bars.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-surrounded-with-bars-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-surrounded-with-bars-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cIt takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.\u201d\u2015E.E. Cummings<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quanto spesso pensate a voi stessi? Ora, cominciate dall'inizio. Da dove venite? Com'erano i vostri genitori?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Did you have a happy childhood or not? How did that shape you? You see where I&#8217;m going with this.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pretend that you&#8217;re in a therapy session with yourself. Maybe do a couple of online personality tests and analyze your results and see if you agree.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quali sono le opinioni generali su di voi? Pensate alle vostre maggiori virt\u00f9 e ai vostri difetti. Quali sono i vostri punti di forza?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quali parti della vostra personalit\u00e0 pensate che piacciano di pi\u00f9 agli altri? Sono reali o vi modellate per piacere agli altri?&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s important to reach your own opinions about your own personality. Dare to think about everything, the things you like and the things you don&#8217;t.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>Cos'\u00e8 che mi rende felice?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84421 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta su una panchina che guarda la montagna\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cThe essence of philosophy is that a man should so live that his happiness shall depend as little as possible on external things.\u201d\u2015Epictetus&nbsp;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This one may seem simple but it usually isn&#8217;t. What are some things that really make you smile or feel content and happy to be alive? I&#8217;m not talking about one-time events, rather some things we all do on a <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">base giornaliera<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Certo, potete pensare ad alcune grandi cose che vi hanno fatto sentire felici, ma la felicit\u00e0 \u00e8 un lavoro interiore e qualcosa che dovreste provare ogni giorno per almeno qualche momento.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quali sono le piccole cose nel vostro <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">vita quotidiana<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> che la entusiasmano? Che cosa non vedete l'ora di fare?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is there a part of you that&#8217;s only happy if someone says you did well and validates your choices? <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Se c'\u00e8, siete disposti a cambiarlo?<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>Quali sono i miei standard?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84422 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-boat-1.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta su una barca rossa durante il giorno\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-boat-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-boat-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-boat-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cIt takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends.\u201d\u2015J.K. Rowling<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Oltre a ci\u00f2 che vi hanno insegnato i vostri genitori, la religione, la scuola e la societ\u00e0, quali sono i vostri standard personali? Quali sono le cose che credete davvero debbano essere fatte per riempire la vostra vita di positivit\u00e0 e felicit\u00e0?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Credete nella gentilezza, nel fare <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">buone azioni<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">essere ricchi o <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">qualcos'altro<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quali sono i vostri obiettivi nella vita e su quali convinzioni e standard si basano? Si tratta di convinzioni proprie o di cose che vi siete fatti credere solo per potervi adattare e rendere felici gli altri?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Se gli altri approvano le vostre scelte, anche voi le approvate.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I know that seems to bring you happiness because it helps you avoid the confrontation you believe unnecessary and negative but the road to living a life that&#8217;s fully yours is bumpy and confrontation is necessary.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ogni volta che una persona decide di vivere la propria vita nel modo che desidera, deve pagare dei piccoli sacrifici.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>Quali sono le cose che penso di poter rimpiangere di non aver fatto?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84423 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-cushion-.jpg\" alt=\"donna bionda seduta su un cuscino bianco che guarda attraverso la finestra\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-cushion-.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-cushion--300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-cushion--768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cI&#8217;m the one that&#8217;s got to die when it&#8217;s time for me to die, so let me live my life the way I want to.\u201d\u2015Jimi Hendrix<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They say that a person who is about to die hardly ever regrets something they did and usually regrets the things they didn&#8217;t do.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are there things in your life you avoid doing so you won\u2019t upset someone? Do you see yourself regretting on your deathbed not doing those things? If yes, they are probably worth trying. What is it that you&#8217;re scared of?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A volte, non abbiamo assolutamente nulla a che fare con il modo in cui gli altri ci vedono.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you decide to skip doing something you yearn to do then you&#8217;re compromising yourself for the sake of maintaining the image of you in other people&#8217;s eyes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does it really matter what they think of you? One day, when all of this is gone, will you truly regret changing someone&#8217;s opinion of you or will you regret not being brave enough to live your life the way you want to?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Prendetevi tutto il tempo necessario per rispondere a queste domande. Quanto pi\u00f9 approfondite saranno le indagini, tanto maggiori saranno le possibilit\u00e0 di orientarsi verso una vita che vi soddisfi.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Una volta che vi sentite pronti a cambiare, investite le vostre energie per seguire i nostri consigli su come farlo davvero.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\"><em><strong>11 consigli preziosi su come vivere finalmente per se stessi<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h2>1. Smettete di respingere le vostre emozioni, i vostri desideri e le vostre intuizioni.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84426 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-concrete-2.jpg\" alt=\"donna con maglione grigio seduta sul cemento vicino all&#039;acqua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-concrete-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-concrete-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-concrete-2-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To live your life according to your emotions is not the best possible option. Why? Because they aren&#8217;t direct reactions to what happens to you. Your emotions are responses to how you perceive what happens to you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tuttavia, sono strumenti incredibili per conoscere meglio se stessi. Con se stessi, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/7-difficolta-che-ogni-donna-che-parla-apertamente-delle-proprie-emozioni-deve-affrontare\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">essere aperti sulle proprie emozioni.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cosa vi fa arrabbiare? Cosa vi fa piacere? Ci sono ragioni per entrambi. Accettare le proprie emozioni e comprenderle meglio porta a conoscere se stessi.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Anche i vostri desideri devono essere esplorati. Se scegliete di <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">vivere la vita<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> your way, you can&#8217;t continue hiding your true wishes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When I say hiding, I don&#8217;t even mean from other people, I actually mean from yourself. Be honest about what it is that you want.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I know it&#8217;s scary to follow your hunch on something when you think it will lead you so far away out of your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">zona di comfort<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ma se decidete di <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">iniziare a vivere<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> the life that&#8217;s yours, those fears should be conquered.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quale modo migliore per farlo se non quello di realizzare effettivamente ci\u00f2 che si vuole e come lo si vuole ottenere?<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>2. Decidere di prendersi cura prima di tutto di se stessi<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84427 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-hammock.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta su un&#039;amaca che guarda l&#039;acqua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-hammock.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-hammock-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-hammock-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/semplici-modi-per-rendere-se-stessi-una-priorita\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Rendete voi stessi una priorit\u00e0.<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> A questo punto, dovreste essere consapevoli della vostra <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">esigenze proprie<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Decidete di prendervi cura di loro per primi. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nessun altro<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> dovrebbe venire prima di voi.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Il tuo <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">benessere<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00e8 nelle vostre mani. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nessun altro<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> will take care of you, it&#8217;s on you to do that. This absolutely doesn&#8217;t mean you shouldn&#8217;t take care of other people as well but it does mean that you should come first.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There&#8217;s nothing you can do to improve your life if your needs aren&#8217;t being met and ignoring them yourself is one of the most unhealthy things you can do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tell yourself that you&#8217;re important and even better, show yourself just how important you are.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>3. Sforzarsi costantemente di conoscersi meglio<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84428 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-near-water-6.jpg\" alt=\"donna con occhiali da vista rotondi in piedi vicino all&#039;acqua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-near-water-6.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-near-water-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-near-water-6-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There are always things that we don&#8217;t know or don&#8217;t fully understand, no matter how hard we work on realizing who we actually are. Always go a step further into the depth of your own mind and your own personality.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La radice del perch\u00e9 noi, come <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">esseri umani<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, choose to follow other people&#8217;s expectations of us rather than our own beliefs and desires usually lies deep within.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Esplorare la propria psiche, le proprie risposte emotive, le proprie scelte e abitudini \u00e8 molto importante. Per capire se stessi, bisogna prima conoscere se stessi.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Understanding leads to acceptance and that&#8217;s what you need; you need to accept you.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>4. Don&#8217;t make it your job to please other people<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84430 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-armchair-1.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta su una poltrona marrone vicino alla finestra\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-armchair-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-armchair-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-armchair-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Spendere <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">meno tempo<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> trying to please others; that\u2019s not your job. Your job is to please yourself and everybody else&#8217;s job is this too. That way everyone gets to live the way they need to and not blame others for their unhappiness.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Of course, you shouldn&#8217;t offend or disrespect people for the sake of it but if your beliefs and decisions don&#8217;t match theirs, there&#8217;s no reason why you shouldn&#8217;t openly state them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Hearing someone else\u2019s opinion shouldn\u2019t be offensive to anyone.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have a right to be yourself as much as anybody else does. No one is more important or more worthy than others. You shouldn&#8217;t shape your views of the world according to what the people around you think.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Siete voi a vivere con voi stessi, quindi scegliete di vivere per voi stessi.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si pu\u00f2 trovare soddisfazione nell'aiutare gli altri a sentirsi meglio essendo gentili, attenti o disponibili, ma cambiare il proprio stile di vita per adattarsi agli altri \u00e8 inutile e in definitiva sbagliato.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>5. La crescita pu\u00f2 essere dolorosa, quindi accettate questo fatto prima di prendere decisioni importanti.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84431 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-dock-3.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta sul molo durante il tramonto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-dock-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-dock-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-dock-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As I said earlier, sacrifices will be made. To learn to live for yourself means to grow out of your skin that was pre-shaped; it&#8217;s going to hurt to stretch it out to fit your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nuova vita<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Challenging predefined patterns of behavior won&#8217;t be easy. That&#8217;s something you should be aware of and need to accept before you fully commit to this process.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Perch\u00e9? <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/ecco-perche-il-cambiamento-e-necessario-per-lo-sviluppo-e-la-crescita-personale\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Il cambiamento \u00e8 necessario per la crescita.<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Se decidete di cambiare, potete scoraggiarvi per il dolore che alcune situazioni possono provocarvi.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most people in your surroundings won&#8217;t just take the new you and be perfectly fine that you decided to live your life according to your own rules.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Iniziate cambiando piccole cose nella vostra <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">vita quotidiana<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Ad esempio, smettetela di fare gli spocchiosi (se lo siete). Esprimete le vostre opinioni su dove volete andare a prendere un caff\u00e8, invece di andare dove vogliono gli altri.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These are small steps that may seem irrelevant for the process but they\u2019re not. This\u2019ll help you explore the feeling you get by doing what you really want to do.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>6. Accettare che a volte siamo ci\u00f2 che siamo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84433 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-between-trees-1.jpg\" alt=\"donna sorridente con zaino in spalla seduta tra gli alberi\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-between-trees-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-between-trees-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-between-trees-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being true to yourself doesn&#8217;t only mean exploring your positive side, as many things you&#8217;ll hate about yourself will be revealed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/aumentare-lamore-per-se-stessi-e-smettere-di-sentirsi-indesiderati\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">L'amore per se stessi<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> significa accettare tutto ci\u00f2 che si \u00e8. Ci sono cose di noi che seppelliamo nel profondo, nascondendole a noi stessi e al mondo intero.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Questo processo richiede che impariate ad accettare queste cose senza avere <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">pensieri negativi<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> o sentimenti negativi, come la vergogna, a causa di essi.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes, you are who you are. There are things that can&#8217;t be changed and should be learned to deal with better rather than being hidden somewhere in your mind.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>7. Essere sempre se stessi<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84435 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-holding-sunglasses.jpg\" alt=\"donna con occhiali da sole in piedi vicino al muro giallo\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-holding-sunglasses.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-holding-sunglasses-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-holding-sunglasses-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cercate di esprimere voi stessi in tutto ci\u00f2 che fate. Cercate di incorporare un pezzetto della vostra personalit\u00e0 anche nelle pi\u00f9 semplici attivit\u00e0 quotidiane.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Living life for yourself isn&#8217;t just about doing what you like, it&#8217;s also about making everything you do yours by putting yourself into it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/imparare-ad-amare-se-stessi-2\/\">Scegliere di essere se stessi<\/a> in every possible sense. There&#8217;s <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nessun altro<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> you can be, after all. You&#8217;re unique and special. The world needs every kind of person to explore what&#8217;s been given to them as their personality.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La creativit\u00e0, le scoperte e la crescita iniziano con un pensiero diverso, con un approccio alla vita fuori dagli schemi e con la volont\u00e0 di percorrere le strade non battute.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This world hardly benefits from those who choose to follow a given path. Dare to be you, there&#8217;s a reason you&#8217;re the way you are.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>8. Aiutare la fiducia in se stessi<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84436 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-outdoor-7.jpg\" alt=\"donna con rossetto viola in piedi all&#039;aperto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-outdoor-7.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-outdoor-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-outdoor-7-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lavorare sul vostro <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/romantic-love\/love-advice\/costruire-la-fiducia-di-base-nella-vita-di-successo-incontri\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fiducia<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00e8 una parte importante del vivere il proprio tipo di vita. Se volete essere pronti ad affrontare le difficolt\u00e0 della scelta della vostra strada, dovete essere sicuri di voi stessi.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I know that you&#8217;ll question yourself constantly, thinking that you lack confidence because even you aren&#8217;t certain that your choices are right.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is where you have to think back to why you started all this. Stop considering what others will think is right and choose what&#8217;s right for you at the moment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pensate solo a ci\u00f2 che ha senso per il vostro <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">la propria vita<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, don&#8217;t compare it to anyone else.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ci sono molte cose che si possono fare per migliorare la fiducia in se stessi, quindi provate tutto ci\u00f2 che pensate possa funzionare per voi.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>9. Smettere di preoccuparsi di ci\u00f2 che gli altri pensano di voi<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84438 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-near-plants-1.jpg\" alt=\"donna bionda con blazer rosa in piedi vicino alle piante\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-near-plants-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-near-plants-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-near-plants-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stavo pensando a come <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">social media<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> has made us all slaves of other people&#8217;s opinions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pi\u00f9 andavo indietro nella storia, pi\u00f9 mi rendevo conto che <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">social media<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> non ha fatto altro che enfatizzare i problemi che, come societ\u00e0, abbiamo sempre avuto.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s completely natural to seek approval from other people, that&#8217;s not even the issue. I like to think of this as the biggest misunderstanding in civilization ever.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let&#8217;s explore it. I worry about what you think of me, for example. The thing I worry about is hardly ever what you actually think about me. It&#8217;s what I think you think about me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We all spend our life worrying about satisfying someone else&#8217;s criteria while everyone actually focuses on how others think of them and has little time to think about others.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many lives get ruined because of this and it&#8217;s actually ridiculous how one misconception can impact so many lives.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>10. Trova la tua passione<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84439 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-painting.jpg\" alt=\"donna con camicetta marrone che dipinge seduta al tavolo\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-painting.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-painting-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-painting-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you don\u2019t know how to answer my question about your personal needs, wants and desires, it&#8217;s time to explore that further.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not everyone knows immediately what their passion in life is. Your passion can be in a certain field of work, art, raising a family or helping others&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Whatever it is, make sure it&#8217;s your own. The main thing in your life should always be what you do to satisfy that little voice inside you that pushes you to do just that because you desperately want to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s not a given that you have to know what your passion is from the moment you start planning your life, so try different things.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>11. In definitiva, prendersi cura di se stessi non \u00e8 egoistico.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84441 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-rock-11.jpg\" alt=\"donna con cappello seduta su una roccia che guarda il lago\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-rock-11.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-rock-11-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-rock-11-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Making sure you&#8217;re okay is not selfish. Minding your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">attivit\u00e0 in proprio<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> non \u00e8 egoista. Decidere di vivere per se stessi e vivere effettivamente una vita che si adatti alle proprie idee non \u00e8 egoismo.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&#8217;t let anyone guilt-trip you into thinking otherwise.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Essere un pensatore originale, un esploratore e, in ultima analisi, se stessi \u00e8 un vostro dovere, non una cosa di cui qualcuno possa incolparvi. Siate orgogliosi del vostro coraggio.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>You have one life, don&#8217;t waste it filling someone else&#8217;s shoes. Explore the world within and outside of yourself in any way you see fit.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Tutti hanno rimpianti, quindi cercate di averne il meno possibile.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-84974 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Make-A-Choice-To-Live-For-Yourself-Learn-How-In-These-11-Steps-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Scegliete di vivere per voi stessi: Scopri come in questi 11 passi\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\"><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cThe most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.\u201d\u2015Coco Chanel&nbsp; To think for yourself and live for yourself should be your ultimate life decisions and life goals. Not only are they the most courageous acts but they\u2019re probably two of the most difficult, soul-searching things you will decide to do. Why are they&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":84419,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29644],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-84417","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29644,"label":"self-love"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Make-A-Choice-To-Live-For-Yourself-Learn-How-In-These-11-Steps.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29644,"name":"self-love","slug":"self-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29644,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. 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