{"id":86111,"date":"2020-08-13T13:43:41","date_gmt":"2020-08-13T13:43:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=86111"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:49:48","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:49:48","slug":"sopravvissuto-ad-un-abuso-narcisistico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/sopravvissuto-ad-un-abuso-narcisistico\/","title":{"rendered":"Una sopravvissuta a un abuso narcisistico scrive un messaggio che tutti dovrebbero leggere"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vi racconter\u00f2 la mia storia, ma vi prego di non limitarvi a leggerla, giudicarmi e dimenticarla subito dopo. <\/span><\/p>\n

I really can\u2019t take it anymore. I don\u2019t want to be judged for my past actions anymore.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

I don’t want to say mistakes because I still don’t think this was my mistake. Actually, I know it wasn’t. I fell insanely in love and <\/span>l'altra persona ha usato questo.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Loving someone can’t be a mistake.<\/i><\/b> Love makes you weak and that’s a fact but even though, love is still not a mistake.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sono orgogliosa di ammettere che ero innamorata di quell'uomo, anche se quell'amore mi \u00e8 quasi costato la vita. Non ho mai fatto del male a nessuno, tranne che a me stessa.<\/span><\/p>\n

I don’t feel guilty or bad about anything I did. Yes, I stayed with my abuser for too long, even though I should’ve walked away the first time he did something bad to me.<\/span><\/p>\n

The first time he raised his voice or tried to manipulate me or threaten me with something, I should have left him. But, I didn’t.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sono rimasta finch\u00e9 non ho capito che le cose non sarebbero mai migliorate. Che non sarebbe mai cambiato, per quanto lo amassi e glielo dimostrassi.<\/span><\/p>\n

Vedete, <\/span>Ho imparato a mie spese che l'amore non \u00e8 mai una ragione sufficiente per far cambiare questo tipo di persone.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

They just can’t understand that they have to change or that they’re doing something wrong. Also, they’re so good at pretending and acting.<\/span><\/p>\n

So often, their victims don’t even realize that they are being abused or mistreated.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Fanno finta di fare tutto questo perch\u00e9 vi amano e vogliono il meglio per voi. E la cosa peggiore \u00e8 che fanno in modo che anche voi ci crediate. Quindi sono davvero dei bravi manipolatori.<\/span><\/p>\n

So many people told me that I shouldn’t put up with his behavior or the way he treated me.<\/span><\/p>\n

La mia famiglia, i miei amici e persino alcuni dei miei colleghi si sono resi conto di ci\u00f2 che stava accadendo e <\/span>mi hanno consigliato di farla finita prima che la situazione peggiorasse ulteriormente.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Narcissists truly have that ability to make you believe how all the people close to you are wrong and that they’re the only one who honestly cares about you. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c8 stata la prima cosa che mi ha fatto, isolandomi da tutte le persone che mi erano vicine.<\/b><\/p>\n

Blame-shifting, emotional blackmail, gaslighting, lying, verbal and physical abuse\u2026 Those were just some of his techniques he used to manipulate me and to get what he wanted.<\/span><\/p>\n

I said that I’m not sorry for loving someone and I’m never going to apologize for that. There is nothing wrong with that. However, I did make a mistake, one terrible mistake.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lo amavo e ho fatto di tutto per farglielo credere. In questo processo estenuante, ho perso me stessa. I <\/span>ho perso la mia identit\u00e0.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Ho dimenticato l'amore e la cura di s\u00e9. Ho dimenticato che anche i miei sentimenti sono importanti. In un certo senso, <\/span>Gli ho permesso di prendere il controllo della mia vita.<\/i><\/b> Tutto ci\u00f2 ha reso le cose pi\u00f9 facili per lui.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mi ha umiliato tante volte, ha cercato di mettermi in difficolt\u00e0 davanti agli altri. <\/span>Ha fatto tutte quelle cose che non avevano nulla a che fare con l'amore e s\u00ec, sono rimasta comunque con lui. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t strong enough to leave the man who abused me, the man whom I loved more than anything else. I couldn\u2019t save myself from my own hell.<\/span><\/p>\n

Finch\u00e9 non ho visto che avevo davvero toccato il fondo. Pu\u00f2 sembrare strano, ma ho dovuto salvarmi dal mio stesso amore e dall'uomo che amavo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ho messo da parte i miei sentimenti e ho finalmente trovato il coraggio di chiudergli la bocca. <\/b><\/p>\n

I still don\u2019t know how I gathered the courage but I did. I <\/span>non ha avuto contatti<\/span> <\/a>e sono sparita dalla sua vita. Ho chiuso tutte le porte che gli permettevano di arrivare a me.<\/span><\/p>\n

It was the best decision I ever made even though I didn\u2019t realize it until I started to heal. The peace that came after all the tears and sleepless nights was priceless.<\/span><\/p>\n

Finalmente mi liberai dalle sue catene e sentii di poter respirare di nuovo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mi sentivo davvero come una fenice risorta dalle ceneri.  <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\"donna  <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

This letter isn’t only about me.<\/i><\/b> I wish it was but unfortunately, it’s not. There are so many stories similar to mine.<\/span><\/p>\n

There are so many women who are still victims of narcissistic abuse and who don\u2019t know how to put an end to it because of so many reasons.  <\/span><\/p>\n

There are so many people who are afraid of their abuser and they can\u2019t tell anyone about the hell they suffered or are still suffering.<\/span><\/p>\n

Spero che la mia storia possa motivare tutti coloro che hanno subito o subiscono tuttora qualche tipo di abuso, ma soprattutto coloro che hanno subito un abuso narcisistico.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know you’re hurt. I know it’s hard<\/span>. I know it seems like you’re falling apart.<\/i><\/b> I know how it seems like you’ll never be able to continue with your life but you will.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll get through it. <\/span>Verranno giorni migliori.<\/i><\/b> I promise that one day you’ll be able to talk about it without crying or your voice shaking, just as I’m able to do now.<\/span><\/p>\n

One day, you’ll even thank God for those difficult times he put you through because it only made you stronger. You’ll use it as <\/span>la tua pi\u00f9 grande lezione<\/span><\/a>. <\/span>La vostra lezione che cambia la vita<\/i><\/b>.<\/b>  <\/span><\/p>\n

Hang in there and believe in yourself as I truly do. You are stronger than you think and you\u2019ll come out of those bad times even stronger. <\/span><\/p>\n

Vi mando un abbraccio virtuale di sostegno.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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