{"id":86523,"date":"2020-07-09T11:07:03","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T11:07:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=86523"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:13:23","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:13:23","slug":"essere-quello-di-cui-avevi-bisogno-quando-eri-piu-giovane","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/essere-quello-di-cui-avevi-bisogno-quando-eri-piu-giovane\/","title":{"rendered":"Perch\u00e9 \u00e8 importante essere chi si aveva bisogno quando si era pi\u00f9 giovani"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>If there was one sentence that could change the entire world and make it a better place, it would be this: &#8220;Be who you needed when you were younger.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Questa potente citazione \u00e8 molto pi\u00f9 che parole convincenti. Riassume l'intero concetto di umanit\u00e0, empatia e lavoro di squadra.<\/p>\n<p>It is true that we all came into this world alone, but we weren&#8217;t meant to stay that way. We all have a purpose and are here for a reason, but we often forget that.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 anche vero che viviamo in un mondo moderno e frenetico. Lavoriamo sodo, paghiamo le bollette, non vediamo l'ora di trascorrere il nostro tempo libero con gli amici e la famiglia.<\/p>\n<p>We&#8217;re in a constant race against time, thinking that we&#8217;re living our life to the fullest, meanwhile, we&#8217;re actually playing a game called surviving.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Non sibi soli homo vivit.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Questo \u00e8 uno dei miei detti preferiti. Significa che un uomo non vive solo per se stesso.<\/p>\n<p>It took me some time to fully absorb these powerful, inspiring words and over the years they\u2019ve become ever louder and stronger.<\/p>\n<p>Queste parole erano come una melodia che suonava in uno scomparto nascosto del mio cervello, in attesa che il testo avesse un senso.<\/p>\n<p>Indeed, we all came into this world alone, but we weren&#8217;t meant to isolate ourselves from human warmth, kind words, meaningful relationships, and compassion.<\/p>\n<h2>We\u2019re meant to be the person we needed when we were younger!<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86526\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/silhouette-of-woman-leaning.jpg\" alt=\"sagoma di donna appoggiata alla ringhiera di fronte allo specchio d&#039;acqua\" width=\"800\" height=\"512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/silhouette-of-woman-leaning.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/silhouette-of-woman-leaning-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/silhouette-of-woman-leaning-768x492.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ora tornate indietro nel tempo e pensate a quando eravate adolescenti. Come vi sentivate allora? Probabilmente confusi, smarriti, sotto pressione, sfiduciati, incompresi?<\/p>\n<p>So per certo che odiavo l'autorit\u00e0 e che litigavo continuamente con i miei genitori, sentendo che nessuno mi avrebbe mai capito.<\/p>\n<p>Ora pensate al vostro primo giorno di scuola superiore o di universit\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>Can you recall the levels of severe anxiety before entering the classroom and then realizing that you didn&#8217;t know anyone and you were completely on your own.<\/p>\n<p>How many times did you want to give an answer to a professor&#8217;s question but didn&#8217;t for fear of appearing too geeky among your peers or <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/friendship\/9-cose-che-i-migliori-amici-fanno-e-che-nessun-altro-fara\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">migliori amici<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p>How many times did you feel uncomfortable in a group of random friends or peers because they ignored you in a conversation as if you didn&#8217;t exist?<\/p>\n<p>And how often did you cry because you were convinced that no one wanted to hang out with you and you\u2019d be forever a legit &#8220;misfit.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Vi ricordate di tutte quelle volte in cui la cosa pi\u00f9 bella alla fine della giornata era il fatto che la giornata fosse finalmente finita?<\/p>\n<p>Or when you\u2019d upload the most badass pictures of yourself on social media in the hopes that someone would notice you and initiate contact, because that would mean the world to you?<\/p>\n<p>Quante volte qualcuno ha detto qualcosa alle vostre spalle che ha ferito i vostri sentimenti e ha infranto la vostra fiducia?<\/p>\n<p>Vi ricordate come ci si sente a piangere il proprio cuore perch\u00e9 qualcuno vi ha tradito o <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-cose-che-potete-fare-quando-inizia-a-darvi-per-scontati\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">ti ha dato per scontato<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ebbene, proprio come voi, ricordo fin troppo bene quei momenti.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ricordo quando la gente rideva di me che indossavo i tacchi perch\u00e9 ero troppo magra, quindi per loro ero ridicola con i tacchi alti.<\/p>\n<p>Ricordo quando nessuno voleva uscire con me perch\u00e9 ero un bambino molto introverso, avevo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/10-segnali-di-allarme-che-il-vostro-partner-sta-rovinando-la-vostra-salute-mentale\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">salute mentale<\/a> problemi e ha trovato difficile stabilire un contatto con gli altri bambini.<\/p>\n<p>Il mio unico amico era un orso che ho chiamato Tedo (e lo ho ancora oggi, anche se ora ho anche amici veri!).<\/p>\n<p>All'epoca avevo bisogno di qualcuno con cui condividere le cose, con cui dire come mi sentivo su certe cose senza essere giudicata per questo.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86528\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-thinking-standing.jpg\" alt=\"donna che pensa in piedi all&#039;aperto su un tramonto\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-thinking-standing.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-thinking-standing-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-thinking-standing-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Cos\u00ec decisi di condividere tutto questo con il mio orso. Non mi ha mai detto nulla in cambio, ma \u00e8 stato un buon ascoltatore.<\/p>\n<p>He would silently absorb all of my words, making me feel less lonely in a world that has difficulties accepting introverted kids as &#8220;regular&#8221; ones.<\/p>\n<p>Quando guardo indietro a me stesso da giovane, mi rendo conto che le cose di cui avevo pi\u00f9 bisogno erano <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/romantic-love\/love-advice\/costruire-la-fiducia-di-base-nella-vita-di-successo-incontri\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">autostima<\/a>, il calore, l'accettazione, gli amici e qualche parola gentile.<\/p>\n<p>When I look at myself now, I realize that I still need all those things \u2013 just like you and every other single human being on earth.<\/p>\n<p>Non importa quanto siate sicuri di voi stessi al momento, c'\u00e8 sempre spazio per migliorare la vostra autostima.<\/p>\n<p>Non importa quanti amici si abbiano, non ci si pu\u00f2 mai stancare del calore, della gentilezza e dell'accettazione.<\/p>\n<p>But, we often forget that because we&#8217;re focused on other things that are &#8220;more important&#8221; to us at that moment.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Dimentichiamo che un solo sorriso pu\u00f2 significare il mondo per qualcuno che sta passando una brutta giornata.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Giudichiamo gli altri prima ancora di cercare di capirli.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>We&#8217;re focused only on ourselves because we don&#8217;t have time to help others.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>We don&#8217;t notice all the little things because we&#8217;re only preoccupied with the big ones.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Viviamo come se fossimo robot privi di emozioni e simpatia.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>We forget that life is a process and that, by only focusing on goals, we neglect the entire process in the hopes that one day we&#8217;ll wake up to a world that will somehow magically be a better place.<\/p>\n<h2>But, the truth is: Change starts within you! Be who you needed when you were younger and you&#8217;ll start changing the world around you.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86530\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pensive-looking-woman.jpg\" alt=\"donna dall&#039;aria pensierosa seduta su una panchina nel parco\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pensive-looking-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pensive-looking-woman-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pensive-looking-woman-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Se ognuno di noi ha pensato a tutte le volte che \u00e8 stato trattato male, ignorato e sottovalutato.<\/p>\n<p>We\u2019d never intentionally do the same thing to others or turn our backs on someone who\u2019s feeling the same way.<\/p>\n<p>In effetti, un singolo essere umano ha la capacit\u00e0 di cambiare il mondo intero, perch\u00e9 pi\u00f9 amore e calore diffondiamo, pi\u00f9 si moltiplica.<\/p>\n<p>Mostrando compassione e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/una-lettera-aperta-alla-ragazza-che-ama-incondizionatamente\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">amare incondizionatamente<\/a>Stiamo evolvendo come persona e stiamo aiutando gli altri a evolversi.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of acting bossy and competitive toward others (especially those who are younger than us), think about how they\u2019d feel if we were friendly and approachable.<\/p>\n<p>Or think of how you\u2019d feel if someone older had to treat you as their friend who fully understands you. We could be someone who encourages others to never give up, no matter what.<\/p>\n<p>Potremmo dare loro alcuni dei migliori consigli di sempre e cambiare la loro prospettiva sulle cose.<\/p>\n<p>Una semplice conversazione pu\u00f2 ispirare qualcuno a vedere il quadro generale e a rendersi conto che \u00e8 esattamente dove deve essere in questo momento.<\/p>\n<p>Imagine you&#8217;re a stranger in a new city where you have no friends and no family.<\/p>\n<p>You have only yourself and you&#8217;re dying to make new friends \u2013 or at least have someone to go for a walk or out for a drink with.<\/p>\n<p>Ora immaginate che tutti i vostri interlocutori siano scontrosi e poco interessati a fare amicizia con voi.<\/p>\n<p>Vi sentireste delusi e alienati? Vorreste essere la persona di cui avevate bisogno quando eravate pi\u00f9 giovani e delusi? Scommetto che lo fareste sicuramente.<\/p>\n<p>Ogni volta che incontrate un estraneo, ricordate che anche voi siete stati estranei in un certo momento o potreste esserlo in futuro.<\/p>\n<p>Shower them with warmth, offer them a productive conversation, and ask them if they need something \u2013 because one day you&#8217;ll need the same treatment from others.<\/p>\n<p>Did you have teachers in your school who didn&#8217;t believe that you were capable of achieving things?<\/p>\n<p>Were you encircled by people who didn&#8217;t believe you have the capacity to do whatever you want only if you set your mind to it?<\/p>\n<p>There are plenty of people feeling that way every single second, every single day. Don&#8217;t just pass them thinking that it&#8217;s none of your business and someone else will comfort or help them.<\/p>\n<h2>We, human beings, have wasted lots of time thinking that someone or something is none of our business and it&#8217;s high time we change that!<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86983\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/focus-image-of-woman-looking.jpg\" alt=\"immagine a fuoco di donna che guarda pensierosa con il viso appoggiato alla mano\" width=\"800\" height=\"502\"><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s high time we start noticing things and people around us and acting accordingly, because that&#8217;s what we ought to do.<\/p>\n<p>We\u2019re born to nourish teamwork, to help those in need, and to give a part of ourselves to humanity and the world we live in.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>It&#8217;s time to tell those who are feeling sad that it will pass.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;ve probably gone through all kinds of emotions, from uplifting to draining ones, and you know that they are not meaningless.<\/p>\n<p>Sapete che tutto accade per una ragione e che non importa quanto vi sentiate male oggi, domani, tra qualche giorno, settimana o mese, tutto avr\u00e0 un senso per voi.<\/p>\n<p>But, someone who is in pain at the moment doesn&#8217;t know that. They <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/romantic-love\/being-single\/6-consigli-per-stare-da-soli-senza-sentirsi-soli\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">sentirsi soli<\/a>, broken, and are gradually losing hope and trust in people. And that&#8217;s why you&#8217;re here to tell them that they are wrong!<\/p>\n<p>You, just like me, are here to restore faith in humanity and to help others climb the same stairs we once climbed before. And that&#8217;s the real beauty of being who you needed when you were younger.<\/p>\n<p>Not every single one of us has been lucky enough to feel unconditional parents&#8217; love.<\/p>\n<p>Lack of love can make children feel abandoned and unwanted, and turn them into future perfectionists thinking they are not worthy of love if they don&#8217;t earn it.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019ve been fortunate to experience unconditional love by your parents, then you know the amount of blessings you\u2019ve had.<\/p>\n<p>If you weren&#8217;t so lucky, then you know how hard it was for you to go through life feeling unloved and without support.<\/p>\n<p>In entrambi i casi, avrete l'opportunit\u00e0 di mettere in pratica le lezioni nella vostra vita quotidiana e nel vostro futuro.<\/p>\n<p>You have a chance to give unconditional love to others because you know how much it would\u2019ve meant to you.<\/p>\n<p>Be who you needed when you were younger and you&#8217;ll never need to question whether you&#8217;re on the right track.<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;ll live a life guided by your heart instead of blindly following the crowd.<\/p>\n<p><em>&#8220;You have the power to make the world a better place by being kind to someone today.&#8221;<\/em> \u2013 Joyce Meyer<\/p>\n<p>Vedi anche: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/che-cose-la-vera-felicita\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Cos'\u00e8 la vera felicit\u00e0 (e i segreti per raggiungerla)<\/a><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86987\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Why-Its-Important-To-Be-Who-You-Needed-When-You-Were-Younger-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Perch\u00e9 \u00e8 importante essere chi si aveva bisogno quando si era pi\u00f9 giovani\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\"><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If there was one sentence that could change the entire world and make it a better place, it would be this: &#8220;Be who you needed when you were younger.&#8221; This powerful quote is so much more than compelling words. It summarizes the whole concept of humanity, empathy, and teamwork. 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