{"id":8662,"date":"2020-08-17T08:47:17","date_gmt":"2020-08-17T08:47:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=8662"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:59:01","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:59:01","slug":"troverete-la-forza-di-abbandonare-una-relazione-tossica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/troverete-la-forza-di-abbandonare-una-relazione-tossica\/","title":{"rendered":"Ecco come trovare la forza di allontanarsi da una relazione tossica"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dentro di te sapevi che non era amore. L'amore non doveva essere cos\u00ec. L'amore non doveva ferirti e sminuirti.<\/p>\n

L'amore non doveva farvi sentire meno degni. Ma il vostro amore lo ha fatto.<\/p>\n

Il tuo amore ti spezzava il cuore ogni mattina che ti svegliavi. Il tuo amore ti ha ferito con ogni messaggio che hai ricevuto. Il tuo amore ti ha distrutto con ogni parola dura che ha pronunciato.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t always like that. When you met him, he wanted to give you the world. He wanted you to feel safe and protected.<\/p>\n

He wanted to wrap you in his love and keep you safe in his arms\u2014away from bad people, away from the vicious world.<\/p>\n

Isn\u2019t that every girl\u2019s dream? Isn\u2019t that all you\u2019ve ever wanted? <\/i><\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec, avete accettato di seguirlo. Cos\u00ec, avete accettato di seguirlo ciecamente perch\u00e9 vedevate un raggio di sole alla fine del vostro tunnel buio e solitario.<\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Chi avrebbe mai pensato che avrebbe potuto trascinarvi ancora di pi\u00f9 nell'oscurit\u00e0 invece di mostrarvi la via d'uscita?<\/p>\n

He began to change, to show his hidden \u2018rotten\u2019 face one tiny step at a time. It first began with nagging: \u201cYou shouldn\u2019t have done this, you shouldn\u2019t have done that\u2026\u201d, but gradually it became worse.<\/p>\n

Ha iniziato a urlare contro di voi per ogni singola cosa che disapprovava o non gli piaceva. Voleva che ballaste la musica che suonava.<\/p>\n

He wanted you to become someone else, someone up his street\u2014a complete stranger to you. He wanted you to be perfect, his little work of art. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

And you became that. You couldn\u2019t recognize yourself anymore. You weren\u2019t the person you used to be.<\/a><\/p>\n

Un po' alla volta, una cosa alla volta, ha fatto in modo che ci\u00f2 accadesse. Ti correggeva in tutto ci\u00f2 che facevi.<\/p>\n

Even when you had your moments of complete soberness, when you weren\u2019t drugged with his words and deeds, when you knew that you weren\u2019t crazy and that you weren\u2019t guilty of things he accused you of, you couldn\u2019t fight back.<\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Vi disarmava proprio all'inizio della battaglia.<\/p>\n

Ti faceva credere cose non vere, inventava parole e dava loro vita, come se fossero uscite dalla tua bocca.<\/p>\n

Non c'era speranza e ci si sentiva persi, non avendo altro posto dove andare, se non quello di rimanere l\u00ec e aspettare che finisse.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, you were even apologizing for things that you never did, just so you could shut him up, just so he would leave you alone already. You couldn\u2019t listen to him and his screaming anymore.<\/p>\n

Ognuna delle sue parole fredde e senza cuore ti trafiggeva nel profondo del cuore, come fossero vecchie lame arrugginite ma affilate.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Those hurtful and degrading moments were the ones that led you to where you are today\u2014far away from him.<\/p>\n

Although you felt like you couldn\u2019t take any of it anymore, you weren\u2019t aware that every toxic move he made gave you more strength to allontanarsi da lui.<\/a> So che ora lo sapete.<\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Ogni volta che volevi andartene, lui ti tirava indietro.<\/i><\/b> . Ogni volta che lo affrontavi e gli dicevi che ti trattava da schifo, lui si scusava solo per farti stare zitta, ti trattava con gentilezza per qualche giorno e poi il cerchio continuava.<\/p>\n

Non appena vedeva che vi eravate calmati, tornava a fare lo stronzo.<\/p>\n

Hai continuato a pensare che sarebbe cambiato.<\/i><\/b> You knew you fell in love with him for some reason, but you couldn\u2019t remember why anymore.<\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec, hai continuato a pensare che sarebbe cambiato. Hai continuato a mentire a te stessa che si trattava solo di una fase e che ne sarebbe uscito. Ha persino cercato di aiutarlo a capire che non era una brava persona.<\/p>\n

All of that was in vain. These people can\u2019t change unless they want to. You can\u2019t do anything about it so it would be better if you\u2019 never even tried. You should have left a long time ago.<\/p>\n

But, it\u2019s okay because you left. Somehow you found the strength and one simple goodbye did it. Done. He is history now.<\/p>\n

Avete trovato la forza di accettare la vostra relazione per quello che era.<\/i><\/b> \u2014a pack of toxic lies. Lying and cheating became more than you could handle.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

You simply cracked. And he couldn\u2019t stop there. Not just that he lied to you, he abused you emotionally by making you believe in things that were not true.<\/p>\n

L'ha manipolata e illuminata a gas<\/a> a fare ci\u00f2 che voleva.<\/p>\n

Hai trovato la forza di mettere finalmente fine a tutto.<\/i><\/b> You decided you weren\u2019t going to hurt anymore. You decided that you weren\u2019t going to waste your life on that pathetic bastard who was sucking you dry.<\/p>\n

You decided you\u2019d had enough of him tearing you up inside.<\/p>\n

Hai trovato la forza di dire finalmente a te stesso che meritavi di meglio. <\/i><\/b> You know that life doesn\u2019t last forever and you finally realized that you might miss the right one by putting up with the wrong one.<\/p>\n

You knew it was time to change that, at any cost. The kind of love you were getting was not the love you deserved and the amount of love you were putting into your relationship wasn\u2019t paid back, not even a bit.<\/p>\n

Ha trovato la forza di accettare che lasciarlo l'avrebbe ferita.<\/i><\/b> . Of course, you\u2019re going to hurt. No matter what he did to you, you got used to being around that person.<\/p>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

He was a part of your life for a long time and now he\u2019s gone. Every change is scary, even one for the good. The scariest part is the one that comes right after breaking up.<\/p>\n

Stai soffrendo perch\u00e9 sei sola e per non parlare del fatto che lui si \u00e8 preoccupato che tu ti sentissi rifiutata e indegna.<\/p>\n

Avete trovato la forza di prendere il controllo della vostra vita.<\/i><\/b> Questa \u00e8 la cosa pi\u00f9 importante che avete dovuto capire. Avete finalmente capito che dovevate fare qualcosa.<\/p>\n

Avete capito che vi rifiutate di continuare a vivere in questo modo. Forse ora avete bisogno dell'aiuto dei vostri amici o della vostra famiglia, forse avete bisogno di un aiuto professionale.<\/p>\n

Whatever it is, don\u2019t hesitate to ask, to do something. That is only the first but most important step that awaits you in life. A life without abuse, a life without him.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let anyone define you and mold you like you\u2019re a lousy and faceless piece of clay. <\/i><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let anyone make you his own masterpiece because you are the only one who knows what you need, want and deserve. Never settle for anything else <\/i> .<\/p>\n

\"Ecco<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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