{"id":87501,"date":"2020-09-08T06:44:53","date_gmt":"2020-09-08T06:44:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=87501"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:09:33","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:09:33","slug":"non-lasciategli-contare-i-vostri-difetti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/non-lasciategli-contare-i-vostri-difetti\/","title":{"rendered":"Non lasciategli contare i vostri difetti mentre voi trascurate i suoi"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Le donne innamorate sono un'altra cosa.<\/strong> Siamo cos\u00ec infatuati e ciechi che la realt\u00e0 oggettiva smette di avere senso.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, part of that is not seeing the person we\u2019re in love with as they truly are. We\u2019re quick to forgive or even ignore things that are not to be ignored.<\/p>\n<p><strong>No matter how much we like or love someone, we shouldn\u2019t let them mistreat us.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Tutto inizia con semplici suggerimenti e osservazioni, poi diventa pi\u00f9 frequente e infine si trasforma in un incubo.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>There are many ways of subtle abuse; for example, constant criticizing and spotting other people\u2019s faults without ever seeing ours.<\/p>\n<p><strong>What\u2019s even worse, sometimes you start to believe what\u2019s being said and start to question yourself about every little thing you do.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You start overthinking what you\u2019re going to say and do. Your life slowly turns into trying <em>per non fare la cosa sbagliata<\/em> even if you\u2019re not even doing so.<\/p>\n<p>If we\u2019re being heavily criticized on a regular basis, especially for things that don\u2019t matter, it\u2019s going to mess with our self-esteem.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-87535\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/concern-woman-sitting.jpg\" alt=\"preoccupazione di una donna seduta sul bordo del letto e di un uomo seduto vicino alla testata del letto.\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\"><\/p>\n<p><strong>A person who loves us shouldn\u2019t count our flaws. Instead, they should help us overcome them and that can be done tactfully.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>There are so many gentle ways to tell a person what\u2019s bothering you and criticism is not one of them. It\u2019s probably the least effective way to change a person\u2019s behavior.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Per non parlare di quanto sia problematico avere una persona sempre insoddisfatta mentre l'altra rimane in silenzio.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You shouldn\u2019t be afraid to call someone out on their bad behavior. In fact, you have to do that or the relationship otherwise doesn\u2019t make sense.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If partners don\u2019t call out each other on their bad behavior, no progress can\u2019t be made. The problem is when it\u2019s one-sided and one person spots only the flaws of the other and forgets theirs.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Una relazione ha bisogno di pazienza, comprensione, amore, apprezzamento e sostegno.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>All those things need two people for it to work out. If you don\u2019t have those things, you should reconsider your choices. I\u2019m not saying you have to break up with someone but something has to change.<\/p>\n<p>The first step is to react when you\u2019re being criticized. Stop and ask the right questions.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-87538\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-talking-to-a-man.jpg\" alt=\"donna che parla con un uomo all&#039;aperto con un top grigio\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\"><\/p>\n<p><strong>We\u2019re human and we make mistakes but we also have reason and emotions that let us improve existing situations.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Almost everything in life can be solved with good conversation and having empathy and an open mind\u2014at least for your partner.<\/p>\n<p>Se non funziona nient'altro e vi sentite costantemente messi da parte e sottovalutati, lasciate la relazione.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You\u2019re not here to be liked by other people.<\/strong> You\u2019re enough as you are and if someone can\u2019t see it, you can\u2019t make them.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s important to be aware of your own value, of your self-worth. Knowing your self-worth is vital for your happiness. Happiness is the ultimate goal of life.<\/p>\n<p>Quando si conosce la propria autostima, non ci si pu\u00f2 mai infatuare a tal punto da dimenticarla a causa di un uomo.<\/p>\n<p>A relationship is a big part of any life but it makes sense only if we\u2019re happy in it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Cosa significa essere felici?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Significa avere una persona su cui poter sempre contare, qualcuno che ti solleva e ti aiuta a essere una persona migliore.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-87543\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-helping-his-girlfriend.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che aiuta la sua ragazza a rialzarsi da terra indossando un abbigliamento sportivo\" width=\"800\" height=\"516\"><\/p>\n<p><strong>Significa essere realistici su se stessi, sul partner e sulla vita, essere ottimisti e solidali.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Constant criticism is how we lose faith in ourselves and in life. It\u2019s a vicious circle that\u2019s hard to escape once your mind gets stuck on it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>That\u2019s why you have to set boundaries and learn to say enough when it\u2019s enough.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Non solo, ma dovete anche guarire da qualsiasi abuso verbale.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Don\u2019t let the other person get away with their wrongdoings because you are too insecure with yourself and don\u2019t feel like you should speak up.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Dovete sempre alzare la voce quando qualcuno vi tratta meno di quanto meritate. Dovete sempre sapere che l'abuso verbale non va mai bene.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Don\u2019t let him count your flaws while you\u2019re overlooking his because otherwise, you\u2019re disrespecting yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t let him convince you that you\u2019re something you\u2019re not.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You\u2019re a person capable of great things if only you let yourself be.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-98117\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Dont-Let-Him-Count-Your-Flaws-While-Youre-Overlooking-His-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Non lasciategli contare i vostri difetti mentre voi trascurate i suoi\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Dont-Let-Him-Count-Your-Flaws-While-Youre-Overlooking-His-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Dont-Let-Him-Count-Your-Flaws-While-Youre-Overlooking-His-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Dont-Let-Him-Count-Your-Flaws-While-Youre-Overlooking-His-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Dont-Let-Him-Count-Your-Flaws-While-Youre-Overlooking-His-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Dont-Let-Him-Count-Your-Flaws-While-Youre-Overlooking-His-Pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Women in love are something else. We get so infatuated and blind that objective reality stops making sense. Unfortunately, part of that is not seeing the person we\u2019re in love with as they truly are. We\u2019re quick to forgive or even ignore things that are not to be ignored. No matter how much we like&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":98113,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29648],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-87501","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-tips"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29648,"label":"dating tips"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Dont-Let-Him-Count-Your-Flaws-While-Youre-Overlooking-His.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29648,"name":"dating tips","slug":"dating-tips","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29648,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. 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