{"id":87986,"date":"2020-08-14T06:33:22","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T06:33:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=87986"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:32:18","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:32:18","slug":"come-superare-la-paura-di-perdere-qualcuno-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-superare-la-paura-di-perdere-qualcuno-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Come superare la paura di perdere qualcuno che si ama in 7 passi"},"content":{"rendered":"

Il <\/span>paura di perdere<\/span> qualcuno a cui si vuole bene \u00e8 perfettamente normale.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even though people don’t talk about it frequently, the <\/span>paura della perdita<\/span> di un <\/span>membro della famiglia<\/span>, a <\/span>anima gemella<\/span> o un <\/span>migliore amico<\/span> \u00e8 un <\/span>paura comune<\/span> e tutti noi lo affrontiamo prima o poi. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, this doesn’t mean that you should allow these fears to take over your life. It doesn’t mean that you should allow them to control you and prevent you from living your life to the fullest. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se questo \u00e8 un problema che vi riguarda, potreste avere un problema che, fortunatamente, pu\u00f2 essere risolto. Ecco una guida passo dopo passo che vi aiuter\u00e0 ad affrontare il problema. <\/span>paura di <\/span>perdere<\/span> qualcuno<\/span><\/a> che amate e per farvi <\/span>sentirsi meglio<\/span> in poco tempo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Accettare la perdita come parte della vita<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s face it; we would all be happiest to have all of our <\/span>persone care<\/span> near us forever. It would be amazing if we didn\u2019t have to face things such as departures, break-ups, and, finally, death.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che tutto questo \u00e8 una <\/b>parte della vita<\/b>, whether you like to admit it or not. As much as you try, you can\u2019t always avoid losing someone you love.<\/b><\/p>\n

Basically, the harsh reality is that this is something you\u2019ll have to learn how to deal with, sooner or later. So instead of running away from reality, you better accept it in time.<\/span><\/p>\n

Vedete, <\/span>reprimere le emozioni<\/span><\/a> and pretending that your fears are nonexistent won\u2019t chase them away. This approach won\u2019t magically erase what you\u2019re feeling.<\/span><\/p>\n

Invece, quando si cerca di seppellire le cose, queste diventano sempre pi\u00f9 grandi e spaventose. <\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me; you\u2019re not alone on this one. In fact, every person alive has at least once dealt with the <\/span>paura di perdere una persona cara<\/span>, seguito dalla paura di <\/span>crepacuore<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

We\u2019ve all been in a situation where we simply had to accept loss as a <\/b>parte della vita<\/b>anche se preferiremmo evitare di viverla. <\/b><\/p>\n

You won\u2019t only lose people you love and care about; you\u2019ll also lose opportunities, things, feelings and so on.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, all of this is a part of this difficult process called growing up. Sadly, you can\u2019t always have what you want and you can\u2019t always keep around those you would like to have by your side. <\/span><\/p>\n

Alcune persone vi abbandoneranno perch\u00e9 lo vogliono, altre se ne andranno grazie alle circostanze della vita e altre ancora se ne andranno per sempre. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nella maggior parte dei casi, non si pu\u00f2 fare assolutamente nulla al riguardo, invece di sopportare e affrontare la situazione nel modo migliore possibile. <\/span><\/p>\n

Affrontare le proprie paure<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Il passo successivo per superare un <\/span>paura di perdere<\/span> qualcuno che si ama sta nell'affrontare le proprie paure.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all, you can\u2019t chase your demons until you prove them that you\u2019re strong enough to look them directly in the eye and show them your bravery. <\/span><\/p>\n

When I say this, I\u2019m not only talking about accepting your fear, since this should already be a given up until this point.<\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, I\u2019m talking about getting to the bottom of them. You see, every fear has a root and a reason, which in most cases is not seen at a first glance.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, you have to dig deeper under the layers to figure out what you\u2019re really afraid of. <\/span><\/p>\n

Prima di capire le vostre paure, dovete fare un'approfondita autoanalisi e un'analisi dettagliata del rapporto che avete con l'altra persona. <\/b><\/p>\n

This might be a hard pill to swallow but when you\u2019re afraid of losing a person you love, in most situations, you\u2019re being <\/span>egoista<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

You see, you\u2019re actually scared of having to live without them by your side and you\u2019re terrified of the fact that you\u2019ll have to get along without them next to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re scared of losing the support or the comfort they\u2019ve been giving you. <\/b>Paura di dover andare avanti senza che loro ti spingano in avanti o ti salvino ogni volta che combini un guaio. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes you\u2019re afraid of losing the sense of control the other person is giving you or the ego boost they\u2019ve been providing you. Afraid of losing the sensation you have when you\u2019re with them.<\/span><\/p>\n

No, this doesn\u2019t have to necessarily mean that you don\u2019t love the person we\u2019re talking about. However, you love whatever they\u2019re giving you even more and that is the core of selfishness. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, the first question you\u2019ll have to ask yourself is what you\u2019re actually afraid of losing. What is the thing about this person you feel so addicted to?<\/b><\/p>\n

Accept that you can\u2019t always be in control<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

They say that destiny deals you the cards but you\u2019re the one who has to play them the best way possible. If you look at life like this, you\u2019re in no way abolished of all responsibility for whatever happens in it.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re a human being. It means that God gave you a reason and free will, which includes judgment-making skills. <\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, it\u2019s never good to go through your own life like it\u2019s happening to someone else. It\u2019s never okay to only go with the flow and see where destiny takes you, as if you have no part in it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, anche andare troppo nella direzione opposta non \u00e8 mai positivo. Essere un <\/span>maniaco del controllo<\/span><\/a> vi porter\u00e0 in realt\u00e0 molti pi\u00f9 problemi di quanto possiate pensare. <\/span><\/p>\n

Si \u00e8 gi\u00e0 detto che la perdita \u00e8 un <\/span>parte della vita<\/span> e non c'\u00e8 assolutamente nulla che possiate fare al riguardo e questo \u00e8 particolarmente vero quando si tratta della morte del vostro <\/span>persone care<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ec, potete fare del vostro meglio per fornire loro una buona assistenza medica, potete prendervi cura di loro per il <\/span>poco tempo<\/span> they have left but eventually, if someone is meant to die, you can\u2019t change their future.<\/span><\/p>\n

So che \u00e8 difficile da accettare, ma ci sono molte cose nella vostra esistenza terrena che sono al di l\u00e0 della vostra portata,<\/b> things you can\u2019t control as much you try to. <\/span><\/p>\n

This includes different life circumstances and other people\u2019s behavior. Sometimes, you can do everything by the book but despite that, unexpected events will happen and all you can do is accept them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, sapete cosa potete controllare? Il modo in cui reagite a questi eventi. <\/b><\/p>\n

Potete sprecare il vostro tempo prezioso e le vostre energie per combattere contro i mulini a vento e passare il resto della vostra vita come Sisifo, oppure potete reindirizzare tutte le vostre forze per affrontare le cose brutte della vostra vita, comprese le perdite. <\/span><\/p>\n

Realize that you don\u2019t actually need anyone<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

This one might sound harsh or even egocentric but the only truth is that, at the end of the day, you don\u2019t actually need anyone to survive this adventure called life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, as a human, you\u2019re a social being, which means that you are happier when you\u2019re surrounded by the people you love and the ones who love you back.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, that doesn\u2019t mean that you need any of these people to survive. It doesn’t mean it’s okay to be emotionally <\/span>codipendente<\/span> sul vostro <\/span>anima gemella<\/span>, <\/span>migliori amici<\/span> o <\/span>membri della famiglia<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

As much as it seems that you would die if you happened to lose someone you care for, trust me, you won\u2019t. <\/b>In realt\u00e0 si tratta di un problema di <\/span>autostima<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t believe in your own capacities and you think you need someone to guide you through life. Well, let me tell you something\u2014you’re the <\/span>solo persona<\/span> \u00e8 davvero necessario. <\/span><\/p>\n

Despite what you might think now, the truth is that you can make it without anyone. You\u2019re capable of going through life without anyone having your back or holding your hand.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong; I\u2019m not saying that losing a <\/span>amata<\/span> won\u2019t leave consequences on you. In fact, in some cases, these consequences might even be permanent.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, <\/span>ogni volta che si verificano queste <\/b>tempi difficili<\/b>sopravviverete. Le ferite si trasformeranno in cicatrici, ma nonostante ci\u00f2 andrete avanti.<\/b><\/p>\n

Sapendo questo, siete perfettamente consapevoli che non c'\u00e8 bisogno di sentire una cosa del genere come un <\/span>paura dell'abbandono<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Remember\u2014whoever has the privilege to be a part of your life is there because you let them. You gave them the gift of your presence and you chose them to be next to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, if they want out, you shouldn\u2019t be the one holding them back. Instead, let them go and remind yourself that your world won\u2019t stop without them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Godetevi il momento presente<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re dealing with a <\/span>paura di perdere<\/span> qualcuno, non si riesce a pensare ad altro. Il panico vi paralizza e, prima che ve ne rendiate conto, diventa l'unica sensazione che provate. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re terrified of having to go on without your <\/span>amata<\/span> al punto che le vostre paure vi consumano completamente e vi impediscono persino di funzionare correttamente.<\/span><\/p>\n

So che \u00e8 molto pi\u00f9 facile a dirsi che a farsi, ma che cosa vi aspettate di ottenere con questo? La vostra paura cambier\u00e0 l'esito delle cose?<\/span><\/p>\n

Salver\u00e0 i vostri malati terminali <\/span>amata<\/span>\u2019s life? Will it keep your romantic partner next to you? Will your <\/span>paura dell'abbandono<\/span> impedisce davvero alle persone di allontanarsi da voi?<\/span><\/p>\n

You and I both know that the answers to all of these questions is the same\u2014it\u2019s a big, fat no. So, what\u2019s the point?<\/span><\/p>\n

Al contrario,<\/span> when you\u2019re overwhelmed with your fears, you become so obsessed with the potential future that you miss out on the present.<\/b><\/p>\n

Siete ossessionati da ci\u00f2 che potrebbe accadere domani, al punto che l'oggi vi passa davanti.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, if you\u2019re looking for effective ways to get rid of your fears, <\/span>godersi il <\/span>momento presente<\/span><\/a> \u00e8 una delle prime cose da imparare a fare. <\/span><\/p>\n

For example, when you have a terminally ill patient next to you, wouldn\u2019t it be better to cherish the <\/span>poco tempo<\/span> avete la possibilit\u00e0 di passare del tempo con loro invece di giocare a diversi scenari nella vostra testa? <\/span><\/p>\n

What is inevitable will happen and there is no way you can impact that. In fact, you\u2019ll have plenty of time to grieve your loss once or if it happens. <\/b><\/p>\n

So, what\u2019s the point of thinking about it in advance? Trust me when I tell you that you\u2019ll be sorry for wasting so much time on your fears before they even became a reality. <\/span><\/p>\n

Credere in se stessi<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

In fin dei conti, avere fiducia in se stessi e lavorare sul proprio <\/span>autostima<\/span> is the number one thing. Trust me when I tell you that you\u2019re way stronger than you ever pictured yourself being.<\/span><\/p>\n

You see, life gives you exactly what you can take and handle. You get the challenges you have the ability to overcome, even if sometimes you\u2019re not aware of your capacities. <\/b><\/p>\n

So, I\u2019m begging you, have a little more optimism. Please, <\/span>credere in se stessi<\/span><\/a> e nel vostro potere interiore.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t consider yourself too weak, despite being emotional. Don\u2019t consider yourself a coward, despite having such a big heart. <\/span><\/p>\n

Chiedere una consulenza professionale<\/h2>\n

\"terapeuta<\/p>\n

La paura di perdere qualcuno che si ama<\/span> is perfectly normal to some extent. We all face these fears on a daily basis and sadly, they\u2019re a part of everyone\u2019s thoughts. <\/span><\/p>\n

A <\/span>paura comune<\/span> \u00e8 <\/span>tanatofobia<\/span>\u2014a <\/span>paura della morte<\/span>. In pratica, non c'\u00e8 quasi nessuna persona al mondo che riesca ad accettare la propria mortalit\u00e0. Tuttavia, <\/span>tanatofobia<\/span> doesn’t only mean you’re afraid of dying.<\/span><\/p>\n

Infatti, include anche un <\/span>paura della morte<\/span> del vostro <\/span>persone care<\/span>,<\/span> che spesso equivale a un <\/span>paura della perdita<\/span> di coloro di cui ci si prende cura.  <\/span><\/p>\n

However, if these fears are impacting your life to the point where it has become impossible to live it properly, maybe it\u2019s time to ask for help.<\/b> <\/span><\/p>\n

Per cominciare, parlate con il vostro <\/span>migliori amici<\/span>partner romantico o una persona vicina <\/span>membro della famiglia<\/span>. Describe whatever you\u2019re feeling and ask them whether they\u2019re going through the same.<\/span><\/p>\n

Try comparing the intensity of your emotions to theirs and see whether you\u2019re experiencing something similar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Inoltre, <\/span>it is possible that you\u2019re dealing with some deeper <\/b>mentale <\/b>salute<\/b><\/a> questioni<\/b> che provocano queste paure.<\/b> <\/span><\/p>\n

In questo caso, <\/span>agire<\/span>, concentrarsi su alcuni <\/span>cura di s\u00e9<\/span> e parlare con un <\/span>professionista della salute mentale<\/span> che vi aiuter\u00e0 <\/span>sentirsi meglio<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

No, avere un'esperienza mentale <\/span>problemi di salute<\/span> doesn\u2019t make you crazy; it just means that you\u2019re a human being made out of flesh and blood and that you need a hand coping with something. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fiducia in questo <\/span>professionista della salute mentale<\/span> and talk to them about everything that\u2019s bothering you, otherwise they won\u2019t be able to assist you in the right way. <\/span><\/p>\n

Lo stesso vale per le persone pi\u00f9 care con cui volete confidarvi. Assicuratevi che sia davvero il vostro <\/span>migliore amico<\/span> you\u2019re talking to.<\/span><\/p>\n

It should be someone who won\u2019t violate your trust, despite not being able to give you <\/span>consulenza professionale<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

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The fear of losing someone you care for is perfectly normal. Even though people don’t talk about it frequently, the fear of loss of a family member, a soulmate or a best friend is a common fear and we all face it at some point.  However, this doesn’t mean that you should allow these fears…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":87994,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-87986","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/How-To-Overcome-The-Fear-Of-Losing-Someone-You-Love-In-7-Steps.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","parent":38,"count":426,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29614,"category_count":426,"category_description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"love talks","category_nicename":"love-talks","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/87986","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=87986"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/87986\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/87994"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=87986"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=87986"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=87986"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}