{"id":88443,"date":"2020-08-14T07:02:50","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T07:02:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=88443"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:27:39","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:27:39","slug":"al-mio-migliore-amico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/al-mio-migliore-amico\/","title":{"rendered":"Al mio migliore amico: Tu puoi averlo perdonato, ma io non lo far\u00f2 mai"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"L'ho perdonato per la mia pace, non per alleviare la sua coscienza\".<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Queste sono state le tue esatte parole quando mi hai detto che l'avevi perdonato, e sai cosa? Forse tu l'hai fatto, ma io non lo far\u00f2 mai e poi mai, per quanto possa sembrare stupido.<\/span><\/p>\n

Non lo perdoner\u00f2 mai per tutte le lacrime che hai pianto e per tutte le notti insonni che ha causato. Anzi, non lo perdoner\u00f2 mai <\/span>perdonare<\/span><\/a> lui una sola lacrima, per non parlare di quei fiumi che avete versato a causa sua.<\/span><\/p>\n

Avrebbe dovuto sapere che non era il caso di farti sentire cos\u00ec vulnerabile e indegna. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ricordo quanto eri felice quando l'hai incontrato, ma ricordo ancora meglio come quella felicit\u00e0 evaporava ogni giorno che stavi con lui.<\/i><\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

I won’t forgive him for destroying the child inside you, for making that pure little girl grow up in such a cruel way that you forgot that she had ever even been there.<\/span><\/p>\n

My dear friend, I look at you now and admire you for your strength to forgive him. I admire you, because you are doing something that I can’t even imagine doing.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Ogni parte di me urla di dolore quando ricordo quella notte in cui sei venuta da me, disperata per l'ennesimo strazio che ti stava facendo passare. <\/span><\/p>\n

You were so fragile, so gentle. I wish I had been able to stop your pain, but I couldn’t.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sono ancora cos\u00ec furiosa, cos\u00ec arrabbiata con lui, e tutto ci\u00f2 che riesco a vedere quando lo incontro \u00e8 te che piangi sul pavimento del mio bagno nel bel mezzo della notte.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

You didn\u2019t deserve that kind of treatment \u2013 no one does.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Non lo perdono per averti trasformato in una persona silenziosa che ha paura di esprimere la sua opinione e che ora \u00e8 cos\u00ec a disagio con se stessa. <\/span><\/p>\n

He didn’t just break your heart, he shattered it in a way that will always leave a mark.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mi ricordo di te prima di lui.<\/span><\/p>\n

I remember the joyful girl who loved life, believed in herself, and wouldn’t let anyone tell her what to do.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9, ricordo, non lo perdoner\u00f2 mai per aver creato la <\/i><\/b>insicuro<\/i><\/b><\/a> girl who chose her words carefully so they didn\u2019t sound wrong to him.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Non ti ha mai apprezzato come avrebbe dovuto. Stare con lui ti ha trasformato in una persona insicura che vedeva solo i suoi difetti e mai le sue virt\u00f9. Beh, in realt\u00e0, i difetti che lui ti diceva di avere.<\/span><\/p>\n

I will never forgive him for making you think you didn’t <\/span>meritano di meglio<\/span><\/a> back then, and carving that opinion so deep into your mind that you still don’t.<\/span><\/p>\n

The only truth is HE DIDN’T DESERVE YOU. Or any other good-hearted, sincere girl.<\/span><\/p>\n

I always knew you were too good for him, and he knew that as well. To this day I\u2019m certain that he did all those things to you just to make you feel as miserable as he was.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\u00c8 insicuro, ha una bassa opinione di s\u00e9 e voleva che tu provassi lo stesso sentimento e ti portasse gi\u00f9 con lui.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Maybe he thought that it would make him feel better, and maybe it even did, but I will never forgive him for that. He shouldn’t have used you to boost his ego.<\/span><\/p>\n

Doveva essere il tuo posto sicuro, qualcuno da cui correre, non qualcuno da cui scappare. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Ti ho visto diventare sempre pi\u00f9 piccolo ogni singolo giorno, per anni.<\/span><\/p>\n

I hate myself for not being able to get you out of that painful cycle of destruction, and I can’t forgive him for making you think you didn’t need or deserve help. <\/span><\/p>\n

He wasn\u2019t a good person, he still isn’t. I know you are \u2013 too good actually \u2013 and that’s why you have forgiven him. I can’t. Not now, not ever. Maybe that makes me a bad person, but I\u2019m fine with that.<\/span><\/p>\n

People say that we forgive because we need it, in order to move on. That might be true, but I also know my truth. And yours. The truth that hurts so bad, the pain so sharp, that it\u2019s unforgivable. <\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019m grateful for you being able to forgive, that was your healing path to recovery.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Still, I\u2019ll always be here to make sure you never let anyone else break you.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Al<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cI forgave him for the sake of my own peace, not to ease his conscience .\u201d Those were your exact words when you told me that you had forgiven him, and you know what, you may have, but I never, EVER will, no matter how silly that seems. I will never forgive him for all…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":88445,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-88443","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/To-My-Best-Friend-You-May-Have-Forgiven-Him-But-I-Never-Will.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","parent":29651,"count":207,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29653,"category_count":207,"category_description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","cat_name":"letters","category_nicename":"letters","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/88443","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/41"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=88443"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/88443\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/88445"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=88443"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=88443"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=88443"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}