{"id":88884,"date":"2020-08-14T08:07:08","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T08:07:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=88884"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:41:15","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:41:15","slug":"costruire-una-relazione-con-qualcuno-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/costruire-una-relazione-con-qualcuno-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Non potete costruire una relazione con qualcuno se siete voi a fare tutto il lavoro"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve already heard someone tell you that <strong>Ogni relazione \u00e8 una strada a doppio senso.<\/strong> Posso assicurarvi che non si tratta solo di una frase vuota.<\/p>\n<p>Se volete una relazione sana, non c'\u00e8 altro modo che condividere tutto. Dovete avere pari diritti, responsabilit\u00e0 e doveri.<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, la cosa pi\u00f9 importante \u00e8 che <strong>entrambi dovete investire un <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/ti-daro-la-stessa-quantita-di-impegno-che-tu-dai-a-me-2\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">uguale quantit\u00e0 di sforzo<\/a> se volete che la vostra storia d'amore funzioni<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t build anything if you\u2019re the only one trying and the only one pushing it forward.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, this is exactly what\u2019s going on in your relationship. You\u2019re doing all the hard work while your boyfriend lies back and expects to get everything served on a silver platter.<\/p>\n<p>At first glance, it seems that everything is working out just fine between you two. You have a seemingly average relationship without many unresolvable issues. But let\u2019s be real.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ask yourself whether all of this would be possible if you weren\u2019t the one taking on all the burdens? <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Sareste rimasti insieme cos\u00ec a lungo se vi foste impegnati quanto lui?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88887\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/thoughtful-woman-wearing-white-top.jpg\" alt=\"donna pensierosa che indossa un top bianco vicino a pareti bianche con la mano vicino al viso\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>The painful truth is your boyfriend isn\u2019t ready to do anything for the sake of your relationship. He acts completely indifferent toward you and behaves like he doesn\u2019t give a damn about your future together.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re the one who initiates all contact, the one who makes all the compromises yourself and the one who makes all the adjustments.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re the one who tries hard to make the peace after every fight and the one who keeps your relationship from breaking apart.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, things shouldn\u2019t be like this. You two are a couple and should act as a team.<\/p>\n<p>Be honest and ask yourself why you\u2019re actually keeping this man by your side. Would he turn around if you let him go?<\/p>\n<p>Ma soprattutto: <strong>Farebbe di tutto per trattenervi se voi voleste abbandonarlo? Si accorgerebbe mai della tua assenza?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>He doesn\u2019t mind your presence but would he be in any way impacted by your absence?<\/strong> O la sua vita rimarrebbe la stessa con o senza di voi?<\/p>\n<p>Cosa accadrebbe alla vostra relazione se vi comportaste come il vostro ragazzo? Cosa succederebbe se lei si arrendesse? Cambierebbe il suo comportamento?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88888\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/pensive-asian-woman.jpg\" alt=\"donna asiatica pensierosa in piedi tra vecchie porte semi aperte\" width=\"800\" height=\"510\"><\/p>\n<p>Quest'uomo ha paura di perderla o la sta dando per scontata?<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ll give you the answers to all of these questions. <strong>He doesn\u2019t care for you enough and you\u2019re only convenient for him.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>He likes the fact that you take care of him and of your relationship. He enjoys how you\u2019re carrying all the weight and as long as you\u2019re acting like this, he\u2019ll never change.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The harsh truth is that you\u2019re in a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/5-dolorosi-segnali-di-una-relazione-unilaterale\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">relazione unilaterale<\/a>che lo si voglia ammettere o meno.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re the only one making sacrifices, the only one investing herself, the only one fighting, the only one trying to prevent things from going downhill and the only one doing the damage repair.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Having all of this in mind, the brutal reality is that at the end of the day, you\u2019re the only one in this story who loves.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I know that this is a hard pill to swallow but deep down, you\u2019re also aware that you\u2019re not wanted here.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re aware that you\u2019re actually alone and that you don\u2019t have this man to stand by you when you need him.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88889\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-leaning-over-railings.jpg\" alt=\"donna appoggiata alla ringhiera e pensierosa con i colori dell&#039;arcobaleno che risplendono nell&#039;immagine\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\"><\/p>\n<p>Non \u00e8 l\u00ec a tenervi la mano nei momenti difficili, non \u00e8 l\u00ec a spingervi avanti quando avete bisogno di incoraggiamento e non \u00e8 l\u00ec a darvi la sua attenzione o il suo sostegno.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, you\u2019re not fighting for your relationship. <strong>You\u2019re fighting against your boyfriend and that is in no way a recipe for success. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>You\u2019re struggling against his indifference and <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/una-lettera-al-mio-ex-lo-sforzo-non-uccide\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">mancanza di impegno<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Well, what you seem to be forgetting is that someone\u2019s effort mirrors their interest in you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The bottom line is that it\u2019s about time for you to see that you deserve and need more.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t deserve an immature boyfriend who acts like he doesn\u2019t know that healthy relationships require hard work and devotion.<\/p>\n<p><strong>So please, stop wasting any more of your precious time. You\u2019re throwing away all of your energy on someone who will never give you anything in return.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re giving your entire self for this man\u2019s half-hearted love. You\u2019re moving mountains for someone who isn\u2019t ready to lift a finger for your sake.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-88892\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/You-Can\u2019t-Build-A-Relationship-With-Someone-If-You\u2019re-Doing-All-The-Work-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Non potete costruire una relazione con qualcuno se siete voi a fare tutto il lavoro\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\"><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve already heard someone tell you that every relationship is a two-way street. Well, I can assure you that this is more than an empty phrase. If you want a healthy relationship, there is no other way but to share everything. You should have equal rights, responsibilities and duties. However, what is most&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-88884","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":false,"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? 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