{"id":89576,"date":"2020-08-14T08:11:09","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T08:11:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=89576"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:39:00","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:39:00","slug":"ho-imparato-che-nessun-uomo-vale-la-mia-sanita-mentale","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ho-imparato-che-nessun-uomo-vale-la-mia-sanita-mentale\/","title":{"rendered":"Dopo troppe relazioni sbagliate, ho imparato che nessun uomo vale la mia sanit\u00e0 mentale"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Ero solito pensare che <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/5-modi-per-smuovere-una-relazione-tossica\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">relazioni tossiche<\/a> sono solo relazioni passionali.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Back then I didn\u2019t know what a toxic relationship was, but I assumed that obsession, worry, fights, and over-the-top expressions of love are what make a passionate relationship.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Mi sbagliavo. Non solo mi sbagliavo, ma mi \u00e8 costato il mio tempo, la mia salute e tutto ci\u00f2 che avevo investito in quelle relazioni.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In some of them, I even questioned my sanity. After being blamed for things I didn\u2019t do, criticized for my choices, and lied to regularly, it\u2019s safe to say I started feeling like I was going crazy.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Per fortuna ho deciso di fare una sosta completa.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Quando ho capito quanto mi stavo trattando male, ho deciso di cambiare le cose.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Nessun uomo vale la mia sanit\u00e0 mentale.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Questo mi ha fatto decidere di scrivere il mio personale elenco di cose che metter\u00f2 in pratica nella mia vita d'ora in poi:<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Mi godr\u00f2 la vita appieno.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-89636\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-carrying-balloons.jpg\" alt=\"donna che trasporta palloncini di diversi colori saltando con felicit\u00e0 nei campi\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\"><\/p>\n<p>Life\u2019s too short for unnecessary drama. I want to enjoy the beautiful things in life.<\/p>\n<p>A bad relationship consumes your life. You don\u2019t see anything else besides your partner and your relationship. The rest of the world ceases to exist and that\u2019s just sad because life is beautiful.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s exactly why I remind myself to focus on all the good things in my life.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Rimarr\u00f2 senza drammi.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-89595\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/a-woman-laughing.jpg\" alt=\"una donna che ride indossando un trench marrone \" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Sometimes I just can\u2019t believe that some random guy clouded my vision so much. The whole drama I was involved in seems so stupid right now.<\/p>\n<p>I lost so much of my energy trying to fix what couldn\u2019t be fixed, I\u2019ve had enough.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">I won\u2019t try to help people who don\u2019t want to be helped.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-89597\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/rear-view-of-a-woman.jpg\" alt=\"vista posteriore di una donna rivolta verso l&#039;arcobaleno sulla citt\u00e0 che indossa un abito rosso\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\"><\/p>\n<p>The truth is you can\u2019t change anyone who doesn\u2019t want the same. The only thing that will do is drive <em>voi<\/em> pazzesco.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t stress over things you can\u2019t control. That includes other people.<\/p>\n<p>If someone genuinely wants to be with you, they won\u2019t play games. They\u2019ll be straight to the point.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">I won\u2019t tolerate someone else\u2019s immaturity.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-89598\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-in-the-shore-1.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta in riva al mare con jeans denim e top bianco\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\"><\/p>\n<p>Avete presente la situazione in cui lui fa di proposito cose per farvi perdere la calma o semplicemente vi manca palesemente di rispetto?<\/p>\n<p>I can\u2019t even recall how many times I was left hanging while he went around having fun and acting like nothing happened.<\/p>\n<p>Il che mi porta alla mia prossima decisione:<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">I won\u2019t let anyone make me feel crazy again.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-89600\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-arguing-to-the-woman.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che discute con la donna che tace appoggiata al muro\" width=\"800\" height=\"528\"><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re still not aware of this, hear me out. It\u2019s not normal to constantly fight with someone. It\u2019s not passion \u2013 it\u2019s just stupid and hurtful. That\u2019s not a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not normal to tolerate things you wouldn\u2019t tolerate from your friends.<\/p>\n<p>Oh, and friends! They\u2019ve heard so much of my BS instead of just enjoying my company and having a good time, that\u2019s why I\u2019ve decided:<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Far\u00f2 tesoro dei miei amici e godr\u00f2 appieno della nostra relazione.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-89601\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/four-happy-women.jpg\" alt=\"quattro donne felici sedute all&#039;aperto che sorridono e ridono\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Men come and go, but true friends are for life. Until you\u2019re sure that you\u2019ve met the one, make sure to care for your friends who\u2019ve been there for you through the tough times.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">I won\u2019t lose my energy on unimportant things.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-89602\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/curly-haired-woman-with-a-hat.jpg\" alt=\"donna dai capelli ricci con un cappello che sorride e sta in piedi vicino a uno specchio d&#039;acqua nei pressi della citt\u00e0\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\"><\/p>\n<p>Preoccuparmi e stressarmi per la relazione mi \u00e8 costato molto. Ha distrutto il mio <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/10-segnali-di-allarme-che-il-vostro-partner-sta-rovinando-la-vostra-salute-mentale\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">salute mentale<\/a> e ho dovuto percorrere un lungo cammino per guarire.<\/p>\n<p>I lost so much energy on unnecessary drama and feelings of anger and hurt when I could\u2019ve just removed myself from the whole situation.<\/p>\n<p>Le relazioni sbagliate mi hanno causato tanto dolore, ma alla fine mi hanno fatto apprezzare di pi\u00f9 le cose belle della vita.<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s important is to always keep moving forward and not lose hope that better things are coming.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Impariamo sbagliando. E imparando si cresce.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-89617\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/After-Too-Many-Bad-Relationships-Ive-Learned-No-Man-Is-Worth-My-Sanity-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Dopo troppe relazioni sbagliate, ho imparato che nessun uomo vale la mia sanit\u00e0 mentale\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\"><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I used to think that toxic relationships are just passionate relationships. Back then I didn\u2019t know what a toxic relationship was, but I assumed that obsession, worry, fights, and over-the-top expressions of love are what make a passionate relationship. Boy was I wrong. Not only was I wrong but it cost me my time, my&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29644],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-89576","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-self-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29644,"label":"self-love"}]},"featured_image_src_large":false,"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29644,"name":"self-love","slug":"self-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29644,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. 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