{"id":91622,"date":"2021-02-01T11:11:52","date_gmt":"2021-02-01T11:11:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=91622"},"modified":"2021-08-30T13:49:43","modified_gmt":"2021-08-30T13:49:43","slug":"smettere-di-romanzare-queste-relazioni","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/smettere-di-romanzare-queste-relazioni\/","title":{"rendered":"Smettete di romanzare questi 5 modelli di relazione"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Non so esattamente come sia successo, ma la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che la nostra cultura romanticizza alcune cose sull'amore che non sono affatto belle.<\/p>\n<p>Ci sono alcune convinzioni fuorvianti sulle relazioni che molti giovani credono vere, ma che in realt\u00e0 sono piuttosto tossiche.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">I cattivi ragazzi diventano buoni<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-125713\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/bad-boy-arguing.jpg\" alt=\"ragazzo cattivo che litiga con la fidanzata con un concetto di rottura all&#039;aperto\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/bad-boy-arguing.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/bad-boy-arguing-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/bad-boy-arguing-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/bad-boy-arguing-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/bad-boy-arguing-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/bad-boy-arguing-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/bad-boy-arguing-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/bad-boy-arguing-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The next thing you need to stop romanticizing ASAP is bad boys. I\u2019m sure you\u2019re familiar with the concept of beauty and the beast.<\/p>\n<p>Eccoti qui, una ragazza ben educata e di buona famiglia, con tutti voti alti da sempre.<\/p>\n<p>Siete sempre stati protetti e curati.<\/p>\n<p>And then there\u2019s him, a rebellious, adventurous young guy who\u2019s always on the edge of the law.<\/p>\n<p>Lui \u00e8 un problema e voi lo sapete. In pratica, voi due non avete nulla in comune, tranne questa passione travolgente che vi attira l'uno verso l'altra.<\/p>\n<p>Sembra un clich\u00e9? Vero?<\/p>\n<p>Beh, succede continuamente ed \u00e8 molto romanzato nella cultura popolare.<\/p>\n<p>However, instead of turning your bad boy into a nice guy, it\u2019s more likely that you\u2019ll end with an abuser, drug addict, or at the very least an immature boy who forever refuses to grow up.<\/p>\n<p>Non c'\u00e8 niente di romantico in questo, vero?<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">La gelosia \u00e8 qualcosa di positivo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-125714\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/jealous-boyfriend-asking.jpg\" alt=\"Fidanzato geloso che chiede il telefono alla sua ragazza mentre messaggia e siede accanto a lui sul divano\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/jealous-boyfriend-asking.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/jealous-boyfriend-asking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/jealous-boyfriend-asking-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/jealous-boyfriend-asking-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/jealous-boyfriend-asking-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/jealous-boyfriend-asking-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/jealous-boyfriend-asking-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/jealous-boyfriend-asking-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quando vedete che un ragazzo \u00e8 geloso del vostro ex o del vostro <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/true-love\/bff\/ragioni-del-migliore-amico-maschio\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">amici maschi<\/a>, you think to yourself: \u201cWow, this guy must be so into me.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>A dire il vero, ti lusinga il fatto che abbia cos\u00ec tanta paura di perderti.<\/p>\n<p>He wants you entirely for himself and doesn\u2019t want to share your attention with anyone.<\/p>\n<p>Deve amarti cos\u00ec tanto, giusto? Sbagliato!<\/p>\n<p>La gelosia pu\u00f2 essere potenzialmente pericolosa e non ha nulla di romantico.<\/p>\n<p>Before you know it, you\u2019ll be trapped in a toxic relationship with a control freak.<\/p>\n<p>You might enjoy spending all of your time with this guy now, but trust me, as soon as the butterflies are gone, you\u2019ll want out as well.<\/p>\n<p>Aspettate che inizi a vietarvi di uscire, di vestirvi come volete e di uscire con i vostri amici.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of being flattered, you\u2019ll feel suffocated and tied down.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">I ragazzi sono per natura emotivamente non disponibili<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-125715\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/unhappy-indian-woman.jpg\" alt=\"donna indiana infelice e sovrappensiero in un&#039;immagine ravvicinata\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/unhappy-indian-woman.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/unhappy-indian-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/unhappy-indian-woman-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/unhappy-indian-woman-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/unhappy-indian-woman-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/unhappy-indian-woman-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/unhappy-indian-woman-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/unhappy-indian-woman-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Odio essere io a rompere la tua bolla di sapone, ma questo va detto: Il tuo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/il-vostro-amore-non-puo-cambiare-un-uomo-finche-non-decide-di-farlo-lui-stesso\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">love can\u2019t change a man<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, invece di romanticizzare gli uomini emotivamente non disponibili, scappate a gambe levate non appena ne avvistate uno.<\/p>\n<p>In effetti, la maggior parte degli uomini che si giustificano con la storia dell'indisponibilit\u00e0 emotiva sono in realt\u00e0 dei veri e propri stronzi.<\/p>\n<p>They are jerks who don\u2019t want to commit and consciously refuse to attach to another person.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, i vostri sforzi per aprire i loro cuori all'amore sono praticamente vani.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll just end up hurting yourself and they\u2019ll keep on preying on their next victim.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Non rispettare i confini<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-125722\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/resentful-woman-sitting.jpg\" alt=\"Donna risentita seduta accanto a un uomo dopo una discussione\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/resentful-woman-sitting.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/resentful-woman-sitting-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/resentful-woman-sitting-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/resentful-woman-sitting-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/resentful-woman-sitting-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/resentful-woman-sitting-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/resentful-woman-sitting-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/resentful-woman-sitting-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You know how in the movies, a girl likes a boy, but she herself isn\u2019t aware of her emotions and she especially doesn\u2019t plan on admitting them to him.<\/p>\n<p>Cos\u00ec, lei continua a rifiutarlo. Tuttavia, lui \u00e8 abbastanza ostinato da continuare a inseguirla.<\/p>\n<p>Well, things in real life don\u2019t work out like that. In fact, \u201cno\u201d always means \u201cno.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You know what is romantic? Respecting boundaries and other people\u2019s wishes.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">L'amore \u00e8 sufficiente<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-125719\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/pensive-woman-reading-book.jpg\" alt=\"Donna pensierosa che legge un libro all&#039;interno di una casa moderna in una stagione estiva\/autunnale\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/pensive-woman-reading-book.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/pensive-woman-reading-book-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/pensive-woman-reading-book-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/pensive-woman-reading-book-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/pensive-woman-reading-book-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/pensive-woman-reading-book-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/pensive-woman-reading-book-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/pensive-woman-reading-book-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>While you\u2019re young and restless, you assume that <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/true-love\/coupled-up\/a-volte-lamore-non-basta\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">l'amore \u00e8 sufficiente<\/a>. Pu\u00f2 conquistare tutto e non pu\u00f2 essere conquistato da nulla.<\/p>\n<p>At least, that\u2019s what the fairytales, love novels, and romantic comedies have taught you, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 l'unica cosa che cerchi in un uomo: il fatto che lo ami e che lui ti ricambi.<\/p>\n<p>In base a ci\u00f2, nient'altro conta.<\/p>\n<p>Your differences, the fact that you don\u2019t want the same things, and even your incompatibility are all defeated in front of this all-mighty force.<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 diversa.<\/p>\n<p>La verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che ci sono altre cose, come il rispetto, una comunicazione sana, il compromesso, visioni del mondo simili e altre cose necessarie per una relazione di successo.<\/p>\n<p>Si potrebbe pensare che le cose siano sempre facili quando c'\u00e8 amore.<\/p>\n<p>All pieces of the puzzle magically fall together and if they don\u2019t, it means that you two don\u2019t care for each other enough.<\/p>\n<p>Ebbene, lasciate che vi dica che anche quando c'\u00e8 il vero amore, \u00e8 necessario un duro lavoro. \u00c8 necessario costruire una relazione se si vuole che sia sana.<\/p>\n<p>L'amore \u00e8 solo una base.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I don\u2019t know exactly how it happened, but the truth is that our culture romanticizes some things about love that are not so great at all. There are some misleading beliefs about relationships many young people believe to be true but are actually quite toxic. Bad boys turn good The next thing you need to&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":125720,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-91622","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/Stop-Romanticizing-These-5-Relationship-Patterns-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29625,"name":"toxic relationship","slug":"toxic-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29625,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? 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